Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Happy Birthday Blondie!
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Happy Birthday Minus Two!
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Puffin, I don't post often but I have to say that I wholeheartedly agree with every word Jackie has said. I can tell from your post that you will accept your grandchild without reservation no matter the gender. How sad that the way the world is now, there are children and grandchildren out there who think about suicide because they fear that they cannot be accepted or loved for who they really are - most especially by their families. You and your family are in my thoughts. You are a good person and I'm sure, a wonderful grandmother.
Sandra, good to hear from you that you and Mike are doing so well together. I agree with Jackie that the way you have handled Mike's illness is inspirational. May he continue to do well (in spite of himself-:).
Blondie, Happy, Happy Birthday!!!! Hope your vacation in FL was absolutely wonderful. You deserve it!!
Minus Two - a huge Happy Birthday to you too!!
Paula
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Happy Birthday Blondie
Enjoy this special day however you like. I hope it is wonderfully happy.
Blessings,
Jackie
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Minus Two -- Birthday wishes to you.
Have a great one and many more.
Blessings
Jackie
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Those cakes look SO good. I'll have a slim slice of both please...and a nice cup of hot tea would be nice too. I found a photo that reminds me of Blondie and Minus. Happy Birthday, sweet friends.
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Happy Birthdays.
Sad my trip to Ft. Collins CO had to be cancelled but thrilled the friend I was going to visit sold her house in a day (not the year the realtor told them) and got the asking price and she will be here the 19th. It will be wonderful to be able to have lunch and visit often.
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Happy Birthday to Blondie and Minus! I hope you have enjoyed your day!
Nice to see a post from you MomMom. Come back more often! :-) Also glad that you checked in Sandra. It's always good to get an update from you and I love the pic of Blondie and Minus that you posted! :-)
I got through the hosting of my Bunco today and the rest of the week is more leisurely than what I have been experiencing. I have to admit that it seems nice not to have to do anything tomorrow morning.
I'm going to make a cup of hot tea, grab a good book and throw these old legs up for awhile before I head to bed.
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Thanks for the B-day wishes ladies but it's not until 8/25. I guess I can just celebrate every day until then? Or at least I can celebrate twice. I;ll save your good wishes.
Puffin - So glad that you appear to take the grandchild's upcoming change with equanimity. It will be difficult but glad to know you're sending love. I agree w/Jackie - I don't think there is a choice. My favorite brother was gay and he was never a different person & still my favorite brother. Because I didn't reject him as my other brother did (this was in the late 80's early 90's), I was privileged that he still included me in his life.
Sandra - MEN!! Not much else to say is there. But glad DH is finally at least trying to work on the depression. Hope the stubborn gene can be modified next. (LOL) Glad to know that you're both doing OK. Are you still planning a trip to FL? I want to be under that table w/the teacups, but I'd prefer something a little stronger in the cup. I keep telling myself I need to get over & take you to lunch (3-1/2 hours for those of you not used to Texas distances) but I'm having lots of company this summer. Then in October I'm going on up to Boston with my BFF and we're taking a "leaf cruise" up the East coast. It will be a year since her DH died and she really doesn't need to be sitting home alone.
Saw a great stage production of Driving Miss Daisy on Sunday afternoon with my domino ladies. Then all 6 of us went to eat sushi & tempura & lo mein & yaktori & fried rice, etc. Nice to be inside with our 101 degree weather. Hi to everyone I missed.
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Thanks 4 u r well wishes. Willtell u about the trip later..it is 110am. Luv u guys
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Happy Birthday Blondie / Sandy! You are a miracle lady and I am so glad to be celebrating this year with you. Here's to the next!
Sandra, why are men so proud? Grrrr! The dental issue is a serious one and I hope your DH will now give health care providers the history. It is a good sign that he wants to exercise....but easy does it!
Sorry to hear about the accident. I hope your son is OK.Puffin, there is little you can do or say when we don't understand or know how to help someone. I have always felt that love is powerful enough to get us through anything. Your grandchild needs your love.
The first summer my youngest son came home from college, he told us he had a male partner I never imagined how easy it would be for us to embrace him and his now life-long partner...we have so much fun with them and travel with them and stay in their home in CA. It's all about love....Teacher, I'm glad your friend will be heading your way soon.
Anne, I am happy you had a good time with your son this summer.
Jackie, your quote about the difficult, even seemingly evil things we encounter can be turned to good in our lives if we accept it...is really relevant to a lot of what we all go through. My job situation got so stressful that I was dreading going back. Things seem unfair and colleagues seem inconsiderate. But today on my long drive to MA, I passed a spot on the road where one of my coworkers lost a brother in an accident. Then I thought of my department chair who is in remission from a rare leukemia. And another whose wife's brain tumor is growing again...I realize that our differences are so much smaller than our commonalities. We are all human...and we all need and want the same basic things for ourselves and our families.
Speaking of fishing, Dh and I went out on our boat Saturday and caught lots of undersized fluke which get thrown back. Three of them swallowed the hook, and Dh had to cut the line. I became so upset with the scenario - I swore I would be a vegetarian...and never fish again. We'll see....
Time to try to get sleep so I can get up with the granddaughters in the morning.
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Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.
Lao Tzu
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Hmmm, Lao, we don't seem to lack problems either, but like you Joan I try to look beyond and see the gift. That depending is not always easy. We do live in a really negative world a lot of time. Me, well I think it was all designed that way --- so that we can grow in beneficial ways. Still, this is something each person has to find and define for themselves. Sadly I do think some give up from the start almost, and some get mired for a long time. I think there is a quote and I'm likely not saying it right but it says " I didn't say it would be easy, I said it would be worth it ". So what is growing and overcoming and finding the gift worth. A whole lot I hope to everyone. You have to take the rain if you want to enjoy the rainbow.
Pretty sunny day here. I'm dreading fall, because it is just so much work and I will miss the summer. Will be awhile before it comes. Always interesting to me how I can almost see the trees getting tired and the leaves losing their vitality and luster and nearly sagging -- a lot like us after a hard day's work. I'm working some extra this week and hope much of it is done completely by then --- and then I can re-concentrate my efforts here at home. I never quite get where I want to be -- but I'm getting there slowly one way or the other. Re-did the kitchen yesterday afternoon. Much more what I was hoping for. Needed to de-clutter my counters. Too many appliances on them -- they are now on a movable island that is against one wall and are pretty much out of sight and out of the way. Yeah, I really have counters now.
Always thinking of you all and delighted when I put my mail in for the morning and your name is there. I know I'm going to get to visit with some really good friends. See you all after work.
Blessings,
Jackie
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Puffin
Sometimes all we can do is hang in there. All she really needs from you is the same unconditional love she has always had. I remember telling my oldest grandson who was about 13 at the time how much I loved him and that would never change , no matter what. He asked, "even if I did something really bad?" And he was serious. I told him even if he murdered someone, I would be disappointed and sad, but I would still love him just as much. Maybe that's all Krysta needs to hear from you.
I have to admit I have mixed feelings about this issue. I find Bruce/Cait Jenner to be an awful spokesperson and model for transgendered people. To me, he wears womens clothing, make up and hair, but still comes off very much as a man to me. There is another reality show on TLC though, where they are following a "girl" just about to enter high school. I put girl in quotes, because she was born a boy. But from the minute she could express herself, she dressed in her older sister's clothes, followed her, rather than her twin brothers around, and always played with girl toys. When she asked her mom at three what she was, a girl or a boy, her mom asked back, what do you think? And Jazz answered " I think I'm a boy on the outside, but a girl on the inside". So her parents chose at that time to let her be a girl. They have even gone so far as to have her take hormone suppressers to stop her from developing as a male. She will soon start female hormones. I think those parents are very brave because they do not know medically what the long term results of playing around with hormones might be,but they have a happy, healthy teenager. I think it's a heartbreaking decision to make, but I have much more compassion for people like Jazz and your granddaughter that are doing it for their happiness and not because it is a way of garnering public attention and notoriety.
Enough of my opinions. Time to get my day started. I am trying to change my daily pattern. Right now, I go to bed between 8:30-9:00, and watch TV till11-12. Then I sleep till 10:30am or later. By the time I get up, wake up, check my email, etc, it is often 1:00 or later before I actually move. Yesterday I went for a manicure and to the grocery store. It was almost four when I got home, and that's too late to start any kind of task. So I tried moving my meds up by 45 min last night, turned the TV off at 11, and was still awake at 3am. I finally took an extra half an Ambien and again, slept till 10. Will try again tonight. Hope I can get myself to getting up between even 8:30 or 9 would be a good start.
Minus two- sorry I got the date wrong. But it gives us a second chance to send you good wishes.
Anne
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OK Teka - what is it? Being a city girl, I can only guess some kind of pig from the snout.
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Yup, Little piglet!
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Cute as a bug's ear too......
Jackie
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Practice being gentle, respectful and loving toward the life force
in all things. Remind yourself that your efforts do make a difference,
even if you think they are miniscule in comparison
to the magnitude of the problem.Wayne Dyer
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Beautiful and nicely cool morning here. It will get warmer but for now we have the door open. It's cooler outside than in -- but since my computer is a desk-top I can't go outside to do this. Will be working a while this morning which is ok with me. Hopefully then --- back home to do lots of things that need doing here. Had to do a massive clean-up job on my computer last night --- late, after I was done with other computer projects. That's ok.....but I would have liked to have been in bed a bit earlier. If I don't go to bed when I "feel" like its time, I struggle a bit to go to sleep. I think if I pass 'that' time, I tend to get a little more hyped up afterwards. Have been told though --- working on a computer late can sort of do that to you as well. Must be some truth there.
Wonder if it is cool right now in Minnesota where Carole is and if she is bundled up on her deck with her coffee. I think I would find that so pleasant. I'm a bit foggy but seem to recall that Colorado was getting some bad stuff -- Denver area -- so hope Chevy is doing fine.
Anyway, I'll be back and checking in after work. See you all then.
Blessings
Jackie
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Carole is probably not bundled up on her deck with coffee this morning. It's 78 degrees here in the north country this morning with a predicted high of 93-95.
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Jackie, I have the same thing with sleep. If I don't go to bed when sleepy, I'll have a hard time going to sleep later. It's an actual medical thing. Of course, blue light from the computer doesn't help.
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Love that little piggy!!!!
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Hi ladies - haven't visited in awhile. Took two fishing trips with hubby, but got a little "board", as he was "onboard" and I was on land with zilch to do. So... he's off on another fishing trip, and I elected to stay home and get a little caught up with "stuff". Stuff, included BC.org, so here I am.
Glad to hear from you Sandra. Hopefully Mike's marrow work all shows good things.
We are planning a trip to Europe in the spring, and I'm soooo excited. Always wanted to go, so hopefully we don't spend too much (we will) and come back as happy about the trip after we return as I am about going. We're cruising from Ft. Lauderdale to Rome, so know for sure we'll be in Rome for a couple of days. I want to see the Vatican!! After that it's still a mystery trip at this point, but I think we might get a rail pass to slowly wend our way north - we've also considered a river cruise - so need to make our minds up... Hubby wants to be sure to get to Ireland, and I'm hoping we can stop in Iceland on the return trip.
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Puffin is right about the warm temperature here in MN. It was in the 80's today and we turned on the a/c about 5 pm. Tomorrow it's supposed to get up to 90 degrees. On Friday we're going farther north to Thunder Bay in Ontario. We'll be visiting a bc.org friend and her dh who have a wonderful house on Lake Superior. I met this friend who called herself Upcreek when I was first dx'ed in 2009. We had the same surgery and immediate reconstruction and talked every day online. I got together with her at Grand Marais in 2010 and we've managed to get together with her and her dh every year since then. A couple of winters they came to New Orleans.
And next week we're going to Fargo to meet up with Puffin and her dh. BC.org is a wonderful organization not only for support but for making good friends.
We had company for several days. Dh's sister and her dh from Decatur, IL, arrived on Sunday afternoon and left this morning. On Monday we took them to Itasca State Park so that they could wade into the headwaters of the Mississippi River. It was all they could manage to make the walk from the parking lot to the headwaters and it isn't very far. She has suffered heart damage from the amyloidosis disease and he has bad feet. Afterwards we drove to Bemidji and visited a quilt shop.
Then yesterday SIL and I went on our own and visited a couple of quilt shops and had lunch. I found old-fashioned embroidery transfers and bought some along with the embroidery thread. I plan to make some embroidered panels for placemats. Just call me the placemat maker!
Wishing everyone a good evening.
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There is no physician like cheerful thought for dissipating the ills of the body; there is no comforter to compare with good will for dispersing the shadows of grief and sorrow. To live continually in thoughts of ill will, cynicism, suspicion, and envy, is to be confined in a self-made prison hole. But to think well of all, to be cheerful with all, to patiently learn to find the good in all—such unselfish thoughts are the very portals of happiness; and to dwell day by day in thoughts of peace toward every creature will bring abounding peace to their possessor. -James Allen
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My grape juice production line from steaming to cooling to freezing, One frozen quart of juice is thawed and diluted to 3 qts of juice to drink, and some of the juice I use to make jelly.
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pictures of my flowers
I painted the gnome last year during chemo to help pass the time
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Puffin, your flowers are beautiful and I find the grape juice production amazing. Do you add sugar to the juice?
We had a thunder storm and quite a bit of rain last night. The thunder was a constant distant rumble. I don't remember ever hearing quite that same sound. DH and I went to bed and went to sleep. This morning we learned that one couple watched the weather channel during the night and saw the possibility of dangerous weather coming through here. They got dressed and sat for several hours.
I should be packing for our trip to Thunder Bay this weekend. We plan to leave early and drive up to International Falls and go that route. In the past we've driven through Duluth and up through the north shore.
Our weather has turned warm and humid. I have the a/c on this afternoon.
Hi to everyone. Hope things are going well for you whatever you're doing.
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Carole, I just freeze the juice the way it is, and when I dilute it for drinking it I add sugar to taste then.
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Hi ladies,
Happy Belated Birthday wishes Blondie. I hope you enjoyed your day.
Rita, glad to hear your Bunco night went okay. We use to play that often but have not played it for a while. I loved playing that game.
Puffin, the juice and jam sounds good. Your flowers are pretty. I believe Krysta just needs to know that you love her/him and will accept her/him no matter what. Hopefully, she will be much happier once the process is started and she feels secure in what ever decision she makes.
I made flowers for a cake that a lady at work is making. She says she will compensate me but I have not idea what to charge for something I am just learning but enjoy doing. I thought about just telling her to buy me a bag of the gum paste I use to make the flowers. Any ideas?
Hope everyone is having a good week!
Emma
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