Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Anne, you definitely will be in the prayer list. It sure does sound like your life is full of struggles, either yours personally, or your family's. I hope you can get through your house sale without issues. We get our house Ins. though U.S.A.A. and seems to me it is roughly $1,000.00 per yr. --- or less than a $100.00 per month. My BIL when he moved to his house in town had U.S.A.A., but switched to Liberty Mutual saying it was cheaper. We haven't ever gotten a quote from them as we feel confidence in U.S.A.A. and that they would pay claims quickly -- although we haven't had a claim. We are happy with their chgs. as well with were much lower than The Hartford which is what we previously had. We heard a number of stories about The Hartford not paying claims well at all and we didn't want to face that if and when we ever did ( praying we never do ) have to file.
We have car insurance with U.S.A.A. and as well, their rates are much lower and better coverage than what we previously had with Hartford. We originally got Hartford through AARP, and had it for a number of yrs. Since we basically never had any reason to file a claim --- it was only later when we started hearing they didn't seem to like to pay claims that we decided to switch. I'm sure there much be many insurers out there. I think many people went to Geico yrs. ago as they would insure people who has issues ( too many claims, too many tickets, etc. ) and I would think in the interim prices and rules have likely changed a fair amt.
Here's hoping that you will get some good resolutions to the Ins. problem, and your grandson and that everything else smooths out better while your dealing with the larger items.
Jackie
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Anne, you are definitely deserving of sainthood putting up with all the demands from your children. I think they take advantage of you. I know you enjoy the family relationships but you deserve a life, too.
I wish we didn't have to pay so much for auto and house insurance. Louisiana is a bad home state when it comes to insurance.
Today started out as a nasty rainy day but cleared up. DH took the boat to be shrink wrapped. After he returned I went back to town for a 12:30 hair apptment. I have a nice short cut that should last me 5 weeks.
When I got back here to the camper, dh was rearranging furniture in the living area. Now the sofa is where the two recliners were positioned and the recliners are where the sofa was! It's nice to have a change.
Greetings to everyone. Hope you had a good 1st day of fall.
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Good morning, all. It's not a pretty morning, rather gloomy but should clear up later. We have the little electric heater humming in the living room/kitchen of the camper to take the chill off. This morning we plan to go to the gym and then have breakfast.
Happy Thursday (?) to all.
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Mornin' all
Just a quickie to let you know I will be on the move again today. On my way to SC to spend some face-to-face time instead of FaceTime with Lucia, and help celebrate her Daddy's birthday. Will be back Tues for Dr appts Wed, Thurs and Fri, and more the following week.
It was 2years ago today that I was Dx.
Anne
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When you commit yourself to living love,
you feel at peace with yourself because
you are at harmony with the flow of life.
Viewing life from the highest perspective,
you feel confident and secure. You
realize that no matter how things may
appear, you are loved and protected.
You know you are one with God, and
you bring your peace with you wherever
you go. You’re not looking for love,
but for opportunities to love.Susan L. Taylor
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Good morning,
I will be back later --- a very busy morning for me today, but did want to say congratulations Anne and may all get to use that word for all the yrs. to come.
Blessings
Jackie
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Congrats Anne!!
Paula
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Well, I'm finally back to expand just a bit on where things are. I'm back at work for now at my friend's ---- the one who had the attic fire almost two months ago now. We are beginning to re-wash and put all the kitchen things back in that room. Mickie probably won't be able to do a whole lot. She I think, often is struggling with energy issues. She also has diabetes Type 2 and has had two bouts of cancer ( no breast cancer ). She also has lots of arthritis. I don't mind that so much --- I will go back when I take her home in the next coming days ---- wash and dry etc. then stack and she can put it all away. I am a bit selfish I guess, but I don't want to drag things out longer than need be. So, I don't mind that she goes back to the motel --- but I need to soldier on and get done what I can so am not tied up too long for my job and caring for things at my house.
Otherwise -- my car has been back in the shop for a fuel pump this time. I'm starting to fret but so far just mildly. I hope to get the car later today -- hopefully before I go to work at 5:30 p.m. Since Mickie has to be at her house twice a day --- Dh, if my car isn't available will be taking me to work, going after Mickie, then staying with her until she gets her night time chores handled --- then maybe coming back to where I work and picking me up. We just have to do what we have to, to make it all work out right.
The weather is just super really. Just mildly cloudy which really suits us. It is too hot either, even with the sun out full so is my cup of tea for sure. Sort of slow for a Friday but I don't mind. Up-side of working today ---- I'll be off ( though working at Mickie's ) until Tues. but that means tomorrow I won't have to cut Saturday short for getting more work done at Mick's. Without my car as yet, and not knowing if today would be my work day --- I didn't stay at Mick's as long as I would have. So, tomorrow should go well.
Anyway, I'll be looking back in later as I always do. See you all then.
Jackie
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Congrats, Anne. May you have many more.
Jackie, the weather is beautiful. I think your weather gets here about 36 hours later. This is my favorite time of year.
Had a good MO checkup and scheduled another mammo for January.,,,,,I'm not complaining!!!
I don't comment often, but I do keep reading your posts. Best to all!
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We tend to forget that happiness doesn't
come as a result of getting something we don't have,
but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.
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Good morning,
Starting out cloudy here and that is ok with me. We likely will hold onto our slightly cooler temps. which won't bother me. Some rain may reach us coming more from an easterly direction ( it is more often from the west ) but we may be far enough up not to get it. Will just have to wait and see.
Back today to my friend's. Hoping to make some real progress even if I do it after I've taken my friend back to her motel. I just don't want to be too slow with all of this. Need to carve out some time for 'my' projects too. I think her furniture ( cleaned and stored by Serv-Pro ) will start arriving back at her house on Wednesday. I think too that is the limit of the time she had left in the motel. I think it has been a long two months for her. Anyway --- thinking to try and get this kitchen project done with and move on.
Linda and Mags -- how are things with you ladies. Hope you can pop in and let us know.
Carole, it's close ( I think you mentioned tomorrow ) to your return to La. I sure hope all goes well. At least it sounds like most of the weather along you way shouldn't be too bad. Maybe you will have good fortune and weather will be good when you do arrive back home. I still think it is really hard to tell a lot of the times ( climate changes ) just what we will have. Our summer seemed fairly un-predictable here --- and actually wasn't near as bad as I thought it might be. We have had summers where the high humidity made you start to drip almost the minute you stepped outside. So --- in that way we had it pretty good this yr.
Fall continues ( so far not too fast ) to progress and soon we will have to start clearing the driveway every day I think. That will lead into all of that work that has to be done with the falling leaves and nuts in the yard. We have a lawn sweeper but Dh doesn't like using it. It gets too heavy with all the nuts and so it has to be emptied often. Well, to me, I'd do it anyway. I've told him to pick out a few places near the ravines and just park all that stuff at the edge and then we could take blowers and blow it in from there. He may still see it as too tedious.
Well, thank goodness my car is back on the road. Wow !!!!! That was difficult trying to do all I do from a truck --- food bags and cans stuck behind the seat as two people are using the seats so no room the and none on the floor either. I have been fortunate that my car/truck ( it's a Blazer that sits on a truck chassis ) has run so well. It is a 2004 and has to date only had batteries and oil changes. Just recently I had to have an alternator and now the fuel pump. Hope that is it for awhile. I'm just tickled to be able to come and go as needed and sure makes it easier for work and ferrying my friend back and forth to her house while my BIL is gone to Iowa.
Hope you are all going to have a great Saturday. I'll be back later to check in again.
Blessings
Jackie
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Happy Belated Birthday, Jackie!
I thought I had lost all of you or been banned from this thread for some strange reason. I have not been able to pull it up from the menu and finally saw where Jackie had posted under Active topics and clicked on it. That did the trick. I just added it to my favorites.....or learned how to do that, being the wonderful technology person that I am not!!!!...so I think I'll be good to go now.
Puffin, I would have loved your Audubon trip as I'm a big nature geek. We always went over to the Mississippi River town every year to see the Eagles. There are several lovely birds in Florida and I'm trying to learn their names and a bit about them.
Well the golf season is winding down and this past week we had our closing dinners for the leagues. My schedule will clear considerably now and I have mixed reactions to that. I love the golf gals and the game but will enjoy having a few more days free to explore other options. We are now bowling on Tuesday mornings. Life is good.
Welcome to mags and lindab and anyone else I missed giving a welcome I am ehind on my reading here and need to get caught up again.
Just wanted to give another try at finding this thread again and wanted to say Hi to everyone. We are leaving in about an hour to go to Clinton, Illinois to their Apple and Pork Festival.....lots of craft booths and wonderful food. I enjoy the Fall festivals and always seem to find some new exciting ideas.
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Good morning, all. Congrats to Anne and anyone else with positive news. Hi to Rita. We stayed at an rv park in Clinton years ago and ate at a Mexican restaurant there. I bought two mugs that were only $1 apiece and we use them at home.
Today is another mild day, amazing weather for the last weekend in Sept. Looking at the weather channel, we may be headed to rain when we arrive home.
I would have finished up and headed home today, but dh wanted to stay until tomorrow morning. I have most of my packing up done. In addition to doing that yesterday, I got down on hands and knees and cleaned an area of carpet in the main room of the camper. We had decided not to rent a carpet cleaner until next spring. The cleaned area looks good. Today I plan to clean the refrigerator and eliminate anything we won't be packing into the cooler.
Jackie, you're a very good friend. I can empathize with your wanting to get your friend back into her house so you can get on with your projects.
Happy Saturday .
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Travel safely, Carole!!!
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Illinois Lady - thanks so much.
Surgery was a success and lymph nodes are clear. Thank G-d.
May I ask how long you guys stayed off work? I don't have a lot of paid time, but I'm concerned about going back too soon. Filled out the FMLA forms, but can't afford not to get paid.
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I came back to share 2 things that I am very sad and upset about.
I belong to a synagogue and my surgery was in the middle of the Jewish High Holidays. I've started a caring bridge site so people can read what's going on. I sent my rabbi an email when the surgery was scheduled and got a 1 word answer "Good luck".
In Judaism, it is taught to visit the sick, feed the hungry, clothe the naked, help the widow and orphan. My rabbi did NOT call me at all, nor did anyone at my synagogue. Since I feel this is the rabbi's job (no matter what time of year it is), I'm really upset and have decided that I'm not going back there anymore. She's been with us 3-4 years and there are many things about her that I don't like and haven't from the beginning. But the "community" loves her and she's "building community" and getting awards and new members. I think she's phony and a gossip. I don't like the way she runs high holiday services by substituting prayers while the ones in the book are fine, in my opinion. I've been thinking of leaving for a while, many years now, but this synagogue is the closest; 10 minutes from my house. I only go there to pray now, I used to volunteer for everything about 10 years ago and got burnt out.
I work FT and have an online jewelry business and I don't have time for volunteering anyway, nor do I have the money to donate for things they need.
But, it hurts and angers me that she didn't call to see how I was doing. I went for a couple hours on Yom Kippur and she said "I was going to call you 6 times", but the fact is she didn't. And it hurts.
My 2nd hurt is that I share a booth at shows with a pillow maker and crochet friend. I couldn't do Sept shows because of my diagnosis and told her I couldn't do an October one either, since I can't lift anything. She's the wife of a friend of mine and we really haven't "bonded", but we share the booths and she always make more $ than I do. Jewelry is very common at shows, and it's very competitive.
In any case, I told her I couldn't make the Oct show and said I wasn't sure about Nov. yet. She sent me an email telling me she found another jewelry designer to share the Oct. show with and said if I let he know early, she would take over the Nov. show too. I understand that we both make more sharing the booth, but her hubby told me last weekend she made $400 on Sun. It hurts me that she found another jewelry designer to cover both shows. Maybe I should just give it up because it's a lot of work and I may be going thru radiation then.
But, it hurts, not only did she find another partner, but did it have to be jewelry? I think I have to turn these hurts and disappointments over to G-d because it's not good for me to have resentments. I need guidance on the best thing to do for me.
If you've read this far, thank you. Please pray for my health, physical, mental and emotional.
Linda
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Keep
me away from the wisdom
which does not cry, the
philosophy which does not laugh,
and the greatness which does
not bow down before children.
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Good morning everyone,
I hope you are having a really good Sunday morning.
Linda, we are happy to hear that your surgery is done and no lymph node involvement. I am not a great person to ask about how long before you go back to work. I had a wonderful surgeon ( a lady ) from Southern Illinois University, and though a bit sore, not even so much that I needed to take any pain meds, including aspirin. My job ( receptionist ) was easy and only pt. time so I didn't miss any work at all. I live in a very small town and therefore had pretty understanding bosses throughout my dx. and txs. Hopefully others will chime in on that question. I do wonder though what your Dr. has advised ?
As to the other things --- that is why we are here. This dx. is often difficult. No one 'prepares' for it --- most of the time it just sort of turns up and while most of accept that we will have a number of harsh realities in life --- I just never dreamed this would be one of them. Totally shocked when it happened. Hard to take your lemons and make something good when the rug is our from under you in such a huge way.
As far as the other things --- I think it is sad and somewhat un-called for to have a church official/rabbi who only even barely acknowledges the fact of your health issues. I don't believe in luck good or bad so while I know many people use that expression, it seems rather curt and un-feeling to me. Since I don't really know your rabbi I may be a bit un-fair, but I want to be honest in my reactions. I know little about Judaism, but it sounds to me like the rabbi wanted to be highly enthusiastic about the position in the beginning and has never completely relaxed into her role of tending to the congregation. One could hope it happens soon if that is the case, but I understand that for some of us some things are never going to be a good fit. I commend you for seeing that and for also being willing to do what it takes to fix things. I don't know if it is all age or that and being a bit tired of having to be soooo flexible all the time, but many of us think certain things are best if they are still from " the old days ".
As to this lady you share a booth with --- you are I think right. Most people have a number of burdens and I recall having a fair amt. of turmoil going on emotionally as I went thru my dx. and txs. Adding other parts to that roller coaster is an awful lot to bear. I tend to take ( what seems to me anyway ) my worst problems and let my higher power sort through them and just move on to what I can easily take care of through my normal day. Maybe you might want to wait a month ( since that time seems covered already ) and see how you feel about your part time business then. I am probably too easy --- but thinking this person who also does jewelry, like you, may have mentioned to the lady you share the booth with, that she wished she could do something like that --- and your friend may have just called her --- knowing it would be a 'quick' solution to booth rental, etc.
I think once we give up a problem ( stop putting any energy, positive or negative into it ) the solution is much freer to come into our mind as to what we feel is right for us. So, hopefully, you can find a lot of things to give positive attention to ( healing and gaining energy ) and move forward in good directions that keep the best and let the rest drift far away. All anyone can really do is try and take the gift of each new day and add the best we can to it being grateful for life and the ability to try and improve ourselves in as many ways as possible.
Blessings,
Jackie
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I spent my last weekend at the Casting for Recovery Ohio retreat at Indian Bear Lodge and had an amazing time!! Worth it!
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Welcome to all the newcomers.
Carole, Glad the wheel of your truck is fixed. Safe travels home.
Anne, Congratulations
Ritajean, it is good to hear from you. I love the fall craft shows around us.
Teka, cute pictures. In the morning my hair looks like that.
Jackie, you really are a good friend to help Micki out like that.
I made my gd monster high doll birthday cake. It turned out pretty good and she liked it. This one was with a pink skirt instead of the blue that I had shown. Also put a skelton head with a pink bow(all made out of fondant) next to her on the cake board. Yellow cake mix did not rise as well as the chocolate one but just had to make an extra round cake.
We have had 5 showings on the house this past week. One family came back twice and asked questions about the school district and where the bus stop was in our neighborhood. But we have not heard anything.
We just heard last night thru the grapevine (one of our sons) that our other sons wife is moving out and renting an apartment with another lady. They have 3 children and my heart is broken. I love this dil as if she were my daughter. Our son does not want us to know yet. I am wondering when they will tell us. It is so hard because we can not say anything or ask if he needs help until they tell us. I just worry about the kids since the oldest is just going into his teens.
We will be heading for florida in a few weeks for our annual mini family reunion with my MIL and BIL and his family. Our other son will be staying at our house with our dog. We will be taking a few of the grandkids with us and then their dad and other brother will join us at the end for the last week. It should be fun.
Linda, I was off after my lumpectomy for about 4 weeks until after my radiation. My mammosite was too close to a staple and I had to be careful how I moved. Since working with kids my radiation doctor and surgeon thought it best not to work during that time. I was glad though cuz I was really tired and needed the rest I could have gone back the last week but my employer told me she would not let me come back yet and to take one more week to be sure I was ready. At that time I worked for a privately owned preschool.
Hope everyone is having a great weekend!
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Linda, I understand your hurt that the Rabbi did not even call. And that no one from the congregation called or offered to visit. If there is another synagogue within a reasonable distance, I would visit to see if it fit me better. I attended the Episcopal church in college and one of my favorite things was that the prayers dated back to the beginning. It's a very soothing ritual. I understand it has been modernized since then.
I can't give any advice about returning to work. I was retired, so it didn't apply in my case. I don't know what kind of surgery you had, but a bmx takes more time than a umx and a lumpectomy even less time. I know a lot of women have worked thru radiation, but being tired is a major side effect. If you have any disability insurance (probably would be thru work) it can pick up some of the income you'll miss by staying home.
Sending healing thoughts and major hugs. It's really up and down for a while. Best wishes for a quick recovery.
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Looking good Beachbum ....good for you. Looks like a catfish to me, but I have to admit I'm not much of a fisherman --- and hate to admit I live by a lake where all I'd have to do is drop a line in.
Jackie
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Love the picture, Beachbum.
Linda, you are probably more susceptible to hurt feelings at this stressful time in your life. But I agree that both your rabbi and your booth partner were very inconsiderate and both let you down. I hope you can deal with your hurt in an honest and positive way. I would tell both people that they have not been supportive and then I would try to figure out how to move on to my advantage. You have enough to deal with and don't need negative emotions dragging you down. I do believe in luck and wish you a lot of good fortune. And please feel free to vent.
We're in Waterloo, Iowa tonight after a day of travel.
Greetings to everyone.
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Hope you get a chance to look at the Blood Moon tonight before you turn in Carole --- I'm waiting till around 9:30 p.m. or so as I've never seen a Blood Moon. I hope it is as fantastic as it sounds.
Jackie
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A beautiful face will age and a perfect body will change .but an awesome person will always be an awesome person.
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Good Morning,
Well, that ole' moon was quite pretty but I did cheat. It was still partly in eclipse when I chose to go to bed. While I don't feel bad, this yr's ragweed and fall pollens have caused my sinuses to drain through my throat. I am hoarse and barely talking. I just got tired from a full day of putting up with that. Sometimes I can be a real 'weanie' about things. I just felt I needed to be horizontal and as usual ---- it wasn't long before I was sleeping away. Hopefully some warm salt water gargles will get me back to where I was.
I do have a prescription left in place by the V.A. so if this doesn't start to clear I will have it sent to me. I've tried the past couple of yrs. to cut down on meds and thought I'd get by ---- and probably would. I just think this yr. may be a little harsher than most. Not much for rain so most of the bad stuff is just hanging in the air for long periods.
Will be checking in with all of you later. Saying a big hi and sending hugs.
Blessings
Jackie
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Morning ladies, looks like our last lovely sunny fall day, for a while!
We watched til the moon disappeared, then it clouded up so we never saw the red moon phase! Finally gave up and went to bed.
Have a great day where ever you are. Jean
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A 2nd day of safe travel. Traffic not bad except for St. Louis. We're in Blytheville, AR. Hope to make it home tomorrow. Will probably be driving in rain.
Jackie, I've been sneezing for a month.
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Jackie, Ive got the rotten sinus drip too. Hacking when I'm up or down! Also my eyes have been itching like crazy. Haven't had that since our kitty passed. Jean
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Sorry to hear you guys got this rotten stuff too. I have been fortunate ( up to now ) and early morning is lots of clearing of the throat and Kleen-X by the ton. Why it decided to go down my throat --- hmmmm.
I think we may get some rain too and hoping it settles down the allergens and maybe I can catch up --- oh how wonderful to just be using box after box of Kleen-X again. See you all tomorrow. Glad Carole that you seem to be making good time on your way back home. Bet everyone will be really glad to see you.
Jackie
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