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Overcast this morning but still pretty. It is fairly dry around here so in a day or so --- hope we get rain in enough amts. to help us out a bit. Dh mowed last night and covered my car with dust. I went out and dusted it just before dark. He told me it was going to rain ( it didn't ) but we never know if it will be a little or lot --- and a little would really leave my car in a mess.
Poppy, plans can change easily can't they. Glad though that you got your entertainment car system repaired. Great to do it while still in warranty for sure. There are parts of a car that need to operate really well. I don't think I could do ( at least not long at all ) w/o the a/c. Not only do I not like hot wind coming in the window, though it is preferable to none at all, but I don't roll the windows down often around here for the dust and dirt. Dh laughs at me, but even when his truck ( it's old, a 95' ) is clean as a whistle it doesn't seem like it. I think it is the "dust" smell from his having left the windows down so often. Permeated the truck so long it never goes away. So good for you.
I'm back to my regularly scheduled program pretty much today. Searching the house for whatever needs to find a new home. Mainly books and I will have some kitchen items to go to Good Will. We have a new store opening up here ( not sure if Good Will or one of the others ) out at the shopping center so I'm thinking I will take the items there. These stores seem to do well around here -- lots of folks can use items in good shape at a good price, and otherwise might have trouble getting them. I'm thinking mainly kitchen goods. Dh has purchased a couple of things that I just don't actually use and while his heart was in the right place he should have asked me first.
Hope you will all have a great Tuesday.
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Sandy, that's terrible news. I just don't know what's wrong with people.
MJ
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~IllinoisLady~
A/C here as well. I don't think I have ever opened my car windows - house either. H won't allow it because of his allergies.
I often say during the warm months (April - October) that I go from my air conditioned house to my air conditioned car to an air conditioned store.
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Poppy, I think that's the only way you can survive in Texas. Aren't you glad we didn't live in 1800 when none of this was available and we had to wear high necks, long sleeves and multiple petticoats? I don't know how women survived back then.
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The smallest actual good is better than the most magnificent promises of impossibilities. -Thomas B. Macauley0 -
I think that is why life moved so slowly in the south. MIL grew up a sharecropper's daughter. She had no indoor plumbing or electricity until the 1940s. She often told me they picked cotton before sunrise and finished late in the afternoon into dark when it was a bit cooler. But she said the humidity was still really bad. H says there was no A/C in their house until he was in high school in the early 70s. It was too expensive for central air and window units. They had no A/C in school at all - just open windows and ceiling fans.
He gets up at 4:30 am & goes outdoors at sunrise to get yard and garden work done. By 10 am he is inside for the day. His job for the light company worked the same. They did as much work on the outside of units as possible before noon and spent the remainder of the shift doing inside maintenance. Sometimes they had to be outside during the hot part of the day and it was rough. The heat and hard labor made an old man of him.
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It is not true that nice guys finish last.
Nice guys are winners before the game ever starts.
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Good morning -- it rained overnight here, but while it is cloudy, I don't think we will get more right now. Friday looks better for more rain. It is humid outside. No breeze which isn't too good either -- just makes it more feelable. That is okay though. If it stays cloudy we will do all right. Didn't bring things out of the trees this time and I'm very happy about that. I think I'm just over the major cleaning we had to do before.
Otherwise it is going to be a good day. Hope the mugginess doesn't toy with my energy levels. Hope all of you have a wonderful day as well.
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Hot again today. There is a breeze, but it just makes the air feel hotter to me. We need rain so bad! There are cracks in the yard and the pecan trees are dropping the immature pods. H says he thinks we have lost about 100 pounds so far. The weather is good for the cotton,though. Just the right amount of rain at the right time and now the heat has made for a really good crop. Some of the fields may even get a double picking this year.
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Poured late yesterday afternoon when I went for my mani, though it was still pretty warm. The Lyft driver on the trip home (I foolishly didn’t drive because I’d expected parking in Lincoln (no)Park would be nonexistent at rush hour) picked me up on the wrong side of a busy arterial, which I had to cross in the middle of the block. To add insult to injury, his A/C didn’t work so the windows were down. I protested that wind makes my hair tangle, and when it tangles it breaks. So he only grudgingly rolled the windows up most of the way, and only once we got to Lake Shore Drive—it was hot & muggy. Bob surprised me by getting home in time for dinner. Because of the weather, and because I’m drinking less than 1/2 glass of wine when I do drink at dinner, we drove rather than walked.
Stormed like crazy overnight & into the morning, so I got away with not watering my plants again. Tomatoes are ripening rapidly. I’m picking and Bob’s eating them as fast as we can. Back has been twinge-ing, but I’m not giving in and letting it lock up on me. Had a good workout today, courtesy of a morning Baclofen, intermittent use of heating pad, and a combo of roll-on lidocaine and Bio-Freeze. (A study found that OTC 3%-4% lidocaine patches with menthol relieved back & joint pain better than prescription 5% Lidoderm patches, since the menthol helps the lidocaine penetrate). The roll-on lidocaine is even cheaper than the OTC patches (which in turn are 1/4 the price of the Lidoderm ones). So, folks on this thread suffering joint pain from taking AIs, get some store-brand roll-on Lidocaine and some menthol roll on, ointment or gel (Bio-Freeze, Max-Freez, IcyHot, Blue Emu, etc.).
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We have shaped ourselves into new people, and we have done so by our decisions.There's no going back, of course, and I guess most of us wouldn't want to if we could, even though we're acutely conscious of mistakes we've made.We have to remember that each of us is new at this business of living and content ourselves with the fact that most of us have plenty of time to make good decisions in the future. -Earl Nightingale
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Today is ( gates to the park open at 3 p.m. ) first day of Balloon Fest here. We may go since Dh gets off at 3 p.m. from work. This because his boss needed to trade some time with him. It just works out this way -- no one was thinking Balloon Fest. So -- maybe that is a good omen. If I go ( and if there ) I will have to look for the pottery lady. Through the years ( though I hate to admit it ) some of the vendors are not so spectacular. The rule of thumb before was anything for sale needed ( as closely as possible ) to be home designed and made. Some buy t-shirts or sweat-shirts but dream up and make decals or decorations for them. I sort of became disenchanted a few yrs. back but almost always buy a piece of pottery from the pottery lady. If we go, I hope she is there.
Otherwise, though there is still some dampness out, it seems like it will be a dry day --- which means the balloons will go up this afternoon -- then will return to the park later to set up for the Balloon Glow tonight. After that, the first day fireworks. They are pretty spectacular actually. I have always looked forward to that segment of opening day/night. I found them far better than the 4th. fireworks displays.
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Centralia Balloon Fest. 707 likes. Annual Hot Air Balloon Festival held in Foundation Park the 3rd full week-end in August 35 hot air balloons, evening...
Hope you can get into this Balloon Fest information. One of the first Balloonists you will see is Kevin Heintzmann who owns The Drifting Dolphin He is the blonde-headed man in the basket taking off. Standing by the balloon basket before it takes off is his wife ( in blue tee ) Emily. They crewed for many yrs. before getting their own balloon. Crewing is hard work but those who do it seem to love it. I have heard that being up in the balloons in flight brings a very peaceful feeling to most people. I guess I will never know as I'm not fond of small places ( like a fairly sm. balloon basket ) and even airplanes make me nervous --- especially if they are going over water.
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Been to the Finger Lakes and Binghamton Balloon Fest, which were great, but filled a Bucket List when we went to Albuquerque Balloon fest! Breath taking. I have gone up once, in Binghamton. Wanted to at Albuquerque, but they just cost too much. Love the specialty balloons. We have a few in our area. Hd one land in a field next to us. Our dog at the time, alerted us when they did a burn, glad he did. Enjoy. Wish I were there!
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Decades ago when I was still an Asst. IL Atty. General, I had to fly to Albuquerque for a deposition. I arrived the day before, early enough, to watch a few balloons making trial ascents before the festival. Gorgeous!
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Some people confuse acceptance with apathy, but there's all the difference in the world. Apathy fails to distinguish what can and cannot be helped; acceptance makes the distinction. Apathy paralyzes the will-to-action; acceptance frees it by relieving it of impossible burdens. -Arthur Gordon
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I think N. Mexico is one of the only other places where it is allowable to go right up to the balloons and pilots. The balloons are enormous and I do think so very pretty. Some of the special shaped ones are not only pretty but somewhat fun as well. We didn't go last night ( Fri. ) as we both were just too tired. We may try again tonight though it won't be as fun. No fireworks -- that only happens the first night.
Woke up this a.m. to lots of thunder -- some very loud claps of which one woke me up. No rain though --- maybe some of the balloons lifted off, but I didn't go outside. Too interested in the morning news and coffee. I have a somewhat full day. Dog-sitting for little Muffin, my cousins pooch. He is a sweet, fun little guy so fun for me. They are headed north to Rantoul as daughter and hubby are selling their house and need to empty it. They will bring what they want home with them and the rest will be sold in huge house sale. Daughter and hubby have enough that they just bought everything new for the home they purchased in Fla. Love the everything goes way of doing things. Sure couldn't do something like that myself. The younger generation maybe aren't as attached to things as the older ones usually were and are.
Hope you are all going to have a great Saturday.
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It's my dream to find a sale like that. When my folks died, the family took what they wanted and had an auction for the rest. The auctioneer said not to throw anything away because we'd be amazed at what people would take. I know I threw away 2 things that I regret, but at the time, I didn't know.
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When my MIL died, the brothers took what they wanted out of the house. Then they turned it over to an estates agent and she sold everything that was left. She even found a buyer for the house.
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I'm hoping I don't need her info any time soon, but I have contact info for a local estate agent. I've put it in our trust binder for my daughter. There's little here she would want. As someone already said, this younger generation is not as sentimental as we are and less inclined to gather stuff (which gathers dust!).
MJ
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I'm not too sentimental either. I have a few items that mean a lot to me from my grandmother & my mother. I do have my MIL's lace doilies. Most she made herself and I have a couple of tatted pieces from H's grandmother. Some of those pieces are almost 100 years old. The grandmother gave me a tatted christening cap she made for her first-born in 1920. He died at birth and she wouldn't use it for her other children (she told me it was meant for a first-born). She wanted us to have it because we were the only ones in the family to have a son to carry on the name.
S will get the house and everything in it. He knows I have some good jewelry that is to go to his daughter (if he has one). Other than that, he can do whatever he wants with the stuff. I remember the mess we had going through MIL's & my mother's things and I want to spare him that, so I have been very selective about what I have kept. Most of what I have saved has a family history or story attached to it.
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There is a definite trend these days to simplify & streamline one’s life and possessions. Millennials would rather spend money on experiences (food, wine, entertainment, travel) than on tangible things. They don’t want to “own” stuff, not even intangibles like music: streaming has now overtaken the purchase of downloads, and subscription services like Netflix are more popular than pay-to-own movies on satellite services. And as we get older and our nests empty out, downsizing our surroundings means downsizing our possessions.
I noticed this a few years ago, when it started getting harder and harder to sell CDs at concerts and festivals. Folk music fans (and folk radio DJs) tend increasingly to be the boomer-and-older demographic—they, especially the DJs, were resistant to purchasing downloads but instead wanted music to which they can listen in their cars and on home stereos, hold in their hands, and organize for easy retrieval in radio station record libraries. But today fewer and fewer people curate their own component sound systems, or buy even pre-matched sets of components or compact stereo systems; laptops and notebooks, in the interests of portability and the ubiquity of cloud storage, have jettisoned CD drives in order to become smaller and lighter.
Many if not most folk DJs now welcome submissions in the form of .mp3s, which don’t have to be ripped to station or personal computers for organization of virtual libraries or creation of playlists. Venues sneer at press kits of slick folders containing flyers, one-sheets, headshots, business cards and CDs: first they declared a preference for “EPKs” (electronic press kits) on disk and eventually USB drives; now they ask for a link to a website where they can audition your music; and if they like it and think you can “draw,” download contracts, stage plots, press releases, and even templates for newspaper ads or window posters for your upcoming shows.
But I think the biggest difference between when we were young middle-agers and now is that rather than acquire “stuff," we’re increasingly trying to sell, give away or even discard it.
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The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known
defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found
their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a
sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions,
gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.Elizabeth Kuebler-Ross
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Hmm, your so right Sandy. I sent ( a few yrs. back when my mom passed on ) my daughter a U-Haul covered trailer full of items I thought she would want. Mom had these items basically all of her life. I did keep some really special items --- but I figured -- as you, young people are very portable. She will either keep these things are do away with them. No need to force the issue ( in no hurry by the way ) after I've left on my final journey. She will have a lot less to do of what she most likely would do anyway. The highly special things will be enough decisions to make when the time comes.
It is a really pretty day here, but I think going to be hot. I believe we are going to go to my cousin's ( the one I watched Muffin for yesterday ) and help her husband put in her new dishwasher. She has had most of her appliances for at least 20 yrs. The guys from Sears put the big pieces ( double-oven stove and refrigerator ) in day before yesterday. Dh will help put in the dishwasher and range hood. She wanted stainless steel which was a big change from her all white kitchen. My kitchen is large enough for stainless steel -- but I have never managed to get over the stainless commercial restaurant type non-appeal that stainless holds for me. Don't know where that originates. I pride myself on my flexibility -- yet in that area even the thought bothers me of having stainless in my own personal kitchen. I actually like other people's kitchens that have it, but am repulsed at the idea of it here.
Going to take care of some other dogs on Monday. That always makes me happy. Today ( really only the first few hours ) is the wrap-up for our Balloon Fest. Dh and I kept talking about going --- but he worked and I had lots to do and we just let it slip by. So, in the 20 yrs. we have been home we have missed now about three of them. I think this one was better than several others because though the pilots didn't get to fly as much as in the earlier yrs. there was less rain and I think the humidity wasn't as bad as some yrs. so the attendance was great.
I hope you all have a super Sunday.
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It seems most of our kids are the same, when it comes to the family items that we value, They don't want them. I have some furniture and a number of needlepoint pieces that my grand mother made, she was quite an artist. I feel they are family history and shud be passed down, but do my ids want them, no! Even my brother , who has a much larger home than us has only accepted a few things. As we travel and discuss this with others, seems to be the story all around.
We have both gotten interested in Family history and geneology. Again it seems the younger generation, as a rule don't get interested til they are older. I made albums with pictures and paper work for my brother and all of my kids, a few years ago for Christmas. I was so excited when visiting my Texas grands, they actually brought the albums out and asked questions. Not keeping all your family on your phone and labeling pictures with names is important if you hope they won't get thrown in the trash, and your family history is preserved for future generations!
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Today is not getting off to a good start. We were awakened by a flicker hammering on our skylight. It sounded like someone with a hammer. This was followed by at least one helicopter circling over the neighborhood downtown area. I looked on the news and the neighborhood blog but never found out why.
My Mom made me a scrapbook of things I did before I married. She is gone now, but I have a problem getting rid of it because she put so much work into it. I don't care about these things at all. I blossomed when I started college and my good memories are from there. I hope if I'm reincarnated it won't include Jr High and High School.
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Air & Water Show wrapping up—could have seen the Blue Angels from my deck, but stuck here at my laptop waiting for my voice teacher to get online at 2, so I can only hear them. He finally logged on now and said he'd “spaced” (he’s been doing that increasingly) and could do 4 pm. So many of my days are like this, my life hanging in suspended animation waiting for people (deliveries I have to sign for, repairmen and especially this voice teacher, who I notice has been double-charging me but whose family is in dire straits—he has fewer students than before but has been keeping my voice in shape). Can't do what I need to do and go where I want to go when I want to. GRRR!
And the only times my trainer has available this week are tom’w at 10:30 and Wed. 11:30—and you all know I am NOT a morning person. But my trainer is so dependable you can set his watch by him.
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I have been interested in Genealogy for quite awhile. My mother & I started looking into the family history years ago and my sister did a lot as well. We have traced my mother's family back to the 15th century. My father's family has been harder. As per photographs; I have been scanning them into my computer and saving them (labeled) to an external drive and also to a spreadsheet. Right now my son isn't interested, but some day he may want to know who his northern family was.
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Freedom comes only to those who will set all others free. The first step to take is to declare the absolute freedom of all with whom we associate to think and act for themselves. Break down the barrier for others, and walk through the opening ourselves. Freedom means the individuals' right to live their own lives, coupled with a care to aid one's neighbors to live their own lives, without infringement upon the others' lives. -Cora Morse
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Quiet morning here with some sun, but is muted. It will be in the 90's so hotter than I like. Today I will go and baby sit my two friends ( Sasha and Sammie ) while the owners are away. Soon there is going to be a new addition. Little Bono passed on about a week ago. She was 17 yrs. old and was the companion of the daughter in the family. So --- Kimmy Jo, another Yorkie will come ( I think in about a week ) as all agree that for then, the best way to soothe loss is to find someone that needs to learn the devotion and closeness of love and caring through bonding.
Some are not eager to bring someone else in the household so soon, but for me --- I get over loss faster if I have someone to give the love I still feel to. I'm so looking forward to the new addition. It will be the daughters ( although she is 40 ) companion so the name may be changed at some point soon after arrival. Have to see.
All else is fine. I'm keeping my wt. down which always makes me happy. Generally seems to be because in the summer months for me it is apparently far easier to avoid something I sooo love which is bread. That and the fact that I've had such trouble finding the kind Dh and I enjoy so much. That is Brownberry Extra Grainy Flax and Sesame Seed. It is just the right size for us as well as making great toast. Sandwiches are fantastic as well. We like some of the Nature's Own breads but the Brownberry has us big time.
I'll be back later --- when I come home for a coffee break. See you then.
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I've been enjoying pictures on tv of the eclipse. It's cloudy here in northern MN and I don't have the safety glasses. So I wouldn't be watching the eclipse even if it clears up.
We awoke to gentle rain but it's not raining now. I decided to launder our comforter and bedding, which is easy thanks to a nice washer and dryer in the resort laundry room.
I talked to my mother this morning and she seemed to be feeling good as she looked forward to my sister bringing her a fried oyster sandwich for lunch. She loves her seafood.
Interesting views on the younger generation's attitude toward possessions. They do like their large upscale houses and "toys."
Happy Solar Eclipse day!
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