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My mother died last week....

cmayes71
cmayes71 Member Posts: 3
edited June 2014 in May Their Memory Live On

My mother, Rose, died last week from stage IV breast cancer.  She died at home in the arms of my Dad.  Please pray for my family, especially my Dad during this time of grief.  I feel so depressed right now.  Mom was my best friend.  Also, if you don't mind, please take a moment to sign her guestbook.  I will add pictures of her soon.  It helps me deal with her loss by commemorating her.  My Dad's in financial ruin now due to all the medical bills.  I'm sure some encouraging words will help him.  Here is a link:   http://www.legacy.com/knoxnews/GB/GuestbookView.aspx?PersonId=106910767 

Thank you,  Cindy

Comments

  • NaughtybyNature
    NaughtybyNature Member Posts: 190
    edited April 2008

    Cindy: I am truly sorry for your loss.  My love to you and your family.(((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))

    We shall keep on fighting for your Mom, our Angels, and for us and future generations to come.

  • flyrzfan
    flyrzfan Member Posts: 199
    edited April 2008

    Cindy ~ I am so sorry for what you are going through. My prayers are with you...

  • dhettish
    dhettish Member Posts: 96
    edited April 2008

    Cindy,

    I am so sorry for your loss. Moms are so special to us. It is hard to lose our mom. My prayers are with you and your family.

    Debbie 

  • LUVmy2girlZ
    LUVmy2girlZ Member Posts: 880
    edited April 2008

    Cindy ~

     I am sorry for your tremendous loss.  I will pray you and your family and may she always watch over you and be Peacefully with the Lord.

    I tried to link on the website...it said "expired"  ??? You may want to double check that

  • celia088
    celia088 Member Posts: 975
    edited April 2008

    Cindy, i am so sorry to hear of the loss of your mother from this horrible disease.  I send my condolences to you and your father, and to the family and friends of your Mom.

    Your Mom's name has been added to the List of Angels in Commemorating Loved Ones.

    celia 

  • snowyday
    snowyday Member Posts: 121
    edited April 2008

    I'm so sorry Cindy for you and your family, I really hope that you can find some comfort in anyway.  It's terrible that your father is in such financial difficulties, I'm from Canada and it can still cost us alot here but not nearly like US citizens. I will pray that your family gets all the help they need.

  • Hattie
    Hattie Member Posts: 12
    edited April 2008

    i am so sorry for your loss. to die with your loved ones holding you in their hearts and arms--so difficult, and yet what a gift. your mom was lucky in her family.

    take care,

    --hattie

  • RIV54
    RIV54 Member Posts: 2
    edited April 2008

    Cindy, I am so very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Best wishes.

  • JewelTXakaLinda
    JewelTXakaLinda Member Posts: 27
    edited April 2008

    So sorry for your loss.  You and your father are in all of our prayers. 

    JewelTX 

  • angie27
    angie27 Member Posts: 179
    edited April 2008

    Cindy I am so sorry about your mom, I will pray for you and your family to give you strengh, I know how it feels to loose a love one, I lost my son at the age of 17 that was 16 years ago, and still feels like just today.

    God bless you

  • faithandfifty
    faithandfifty Member Posts: 4,424
    edited April 2008

    I add my support to you and your family in this agonizing time of loss. Our hearts break with the reality of the 'cost' of this disease -- in terms of families torn apart, hopes dashed, friendships ended and 'happily-ever-afters' that are tarnished forever.

    What a gift for your father to hold onto, as these days turn into weeks and months.... he was there holding his dearest in her time of transition -- out of his loving arms and into heaven's healing restoration and wholeness. Savor that treasure.

    My prayer is that you can turn your loss into action, to heal your depression from the senselessness of suffering, into action against this beast. We are here praying for your healing and want to support you as you move to considering being an advocate for others -- to irradicate this disease and condemn it to history books.

    We are all in this together with you. May you find comfort in being here with others who have some sense of your loss.

  • spar2
    spar2 Member Posts: 3,631
    edited April 2008

    So very sorry for your loss, will keep you and your dad in my prayers.

  • omo
    omo Member Posts: 72
    edited June 2008

    May God grant you peace I know she will ever live on in your hearts

  • badbabe56
    badbabe56 Member Posts: 6
    edited July 2008

    I have never felt as lost and lonely as I do right now. My mum passed away in New Zealand last week and I am in USA. A family member of my step dad relayed her death to me as if I were just an acquaitance, using my mums name rather than saying your mother or mum passed away, I felt like I was in midspace somewhere and he was talking about someone I didn't really know. It wasn't till I spoke with my sis that reality drove home. Mum didn't have bc, however as most of you know I did some 18 years ago and it was then that I experienced, no matter how old you are, when something like cancer comes into your life, how much I still needed and wanted my mum to be with me. I was so blessed to have mum for 51 years, and she lived a very healthy active life till of recent year, mum was 91 years of age when she passed away. Thankyou for letting me share my grief with my special friends. Love bad (kathy)

  • windygail
    windygail Member Posts: 3
    edited July 2008

    Prayers and thoughts are with you and your family xxx

  • celia088
    celia088 Member Posts: 975
    edited July 2008

    badbabe,

    I am so sorry to hear of your Mum's passing. I can't imagine how difficult it must be to be far away from your family at this time.  My condolences to you and your family.  I have added your Mum to the relatives and friends part of the List of Angels in Commemorating Loved Ones.

    celia 

  • g94u67
    g94u67 Member Posts: 91
    edited July 2008

    My deepest condolences to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss.

    She is with you, watching over you in heaven.

     Peace and Prayers to comfort you.

    Jeannine

  • Unknown
    Unknown
    edited January 2009

    Badbabe -- I just saw this and I'm so sorry for your loss. 

  • faithandfifty
    faithandfifty Member Posts: 4,424
    edited July 2008

    my bestbadbabe to you on the passing of your mum and the circumstances that surrounded -- your being so far away, and feelings  by the way the news was handled. my heart goes out to you and I'm so glad that you had each other for such a good long time of togetherness and support.

    you were the one to hold me up at my dx, mybadbabe, and i will forever be grateful for your example and support..... felt like you were around the corner -- instead of on the other side of the country..... love has a way of feeling close-at-hand when we need it......

    i'm certain your mum knew how much you meant to each other.......

    xx00xx00xx00xx00xx00xx00xx

  • Bren-2007
    Bren-2007 Member Posts: 842
    edited July 2008

    Bumping

  • AimeeFaye
    AimeeFaye Member Posts: 3
    edited July 2008

    badbabe56: Just on line today and read your post.  My heart with blessings goes out to you.  A wize woman once told me that "Love remains beyond time and beyond space."  This sustains me when I miss loved ones.  Hugs to you.

  • AlaskaDeb
    AlaskaDeb Member Posts: 1,159
    edited July 2008

    bump

  • cmayes71
    cmayes71 Member Posts: 3
    edited July 2008

    Badbabe, I'm so sorry for your loss.  My heart breaks for you because I know what it feels like.  I know what you mean by the feeling of loneliness.  My mother was the only person I really talked to.   It's so difficult.  I'm sorry about the circumstances of how you found out about your mother's death and that she was so far away.  Email me anytime.  I'm sorry for the delay in responding to you.  We are remodeling and I have not been able to get online much. 

    To everyone: Thank you all for your kind thoughts.  It's been almost four months since her death.  I"m still having a hard time with it.  I can't help but think back about everything I did not do or did wrong.  It's still hard to believe she is gone.  There have been times that something has happened and my first thought was to call my mother.  My eyes tear up when I do that.  My Dad is still deeply depressed. 

    I also find myself fearful of getting breast cancer or my daughter getting it.  Not a day goes by that I don't think about breast cancer. 

    But anyway, I wish everyone the best.  It means a lot to me to know people care.  I appreciate the kind thoughts and prayers. 

    Love,

    Cindy 

  • MsTisha
    MsTisha Member Posts: 1
    edited April 2009

    Cindy,

     I am so very sorry for your loss. Unfortunately I feel your pain all to well.

    I have also recently lost my mother to stage IV breast cancer. She wasn't only my mom she was my best friend and the only one I reallytalked to.This was her second time getting it and after 12 years of fighting she passed a month ago tomorrow. I was on vacation with friends hiking in the national parks of needles and arches in Utah and didn't get the message she had passed until two days later when we came back into the town Moab, and got all the voice mails on our phone. I was so far away and it took me two days to get home from the moment I found out. It was the worst two days of my life. I am 28years old and she was 57. I am also so unbelievably depressed. I cry every day...I had no idea I was capable of making so many tears. There is this big fog just lingering over me and I have no idea when it will lift. I have two kids and a wonderful boyfriend to keep my mind occupied most of the time but my dad has nothing. My mom was literally his whole world. They were married for 33 years I don't know how he is going to make it without her.

    My prayers are with you and your dad.

    Tisha

  • cmayes71
    cmayes71 Member Posts: 3
    edited April 2009

    I'm so sorry, Tisha.  My heart breaks for you.  It's been just over a year but I still miss my mom so much.  It does get some easier.  I still think about her everyday though and wish so badly I could talk to her.  I will be praying for you and you can email me anytime.  Anyone going through this is welcome to contact me. 

    I hate that your going through this.  Cancer takes away so much.  Things will be hard for a while but I found its best to cry and let it out.  I know what you mean about the fog.  It will get better and eventually a lot of the sadness will lift and you will think more about the happy memories.  I will be praying for you and your family.  Just know things will get easier over time.  You will always miss her but the fog will lift.  The depression will go away.  From time to time I still get depressed, especially around holidays, but it's nothing like it was when she first died.  When she died I didn't think I would ever get over the depression.  I felt lost and empty.  I cried all the time.  I didn't have the desire to do anything.  Now I want to get out and do things.  I know she would want me to be happy. 

    I hope you and your dad can be there for eachother.  My Dad actually remarried April 4th.  I was not thrilled about it but I supported him.  He married someone he only knew for a couple of months.  I think he wanted to try and fill the emptiness.  

    I wish you the best.  Things will get better eventually. 

    Cindy 

       

  • celia088
    celia088 Member Posts: 975
    edited April 2009

    Tisha, i just now read your post about the passing of your sweet mother.  I am so sorry.  My condolences to you, your father, and your whole family.  I am heart-broken reading your post about how close you and your mother were.  Time will smooth the sharp edges of grief eventually.  This is just so sad.

    I have added your mother to the List of Angels in the reltives and friends section.

    celia 

  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Member Posts: 1
    edited October 2009
    I hate that your going prescription drugs through this. Cancer takes away so much. Things will be hard for a while but I found its best to cry and let it out. I know what you mean about the fog. It will get betterphentermine and eventually a lot of the sadness will lift and you will think more about the happy memories. I will be praying for you and your family. Just know things will get easier over time. You will always miss her but the fog will lift. The depression will go away. From time to time I still get depressed, especially around holidays, but it's nothing like it was when she first died. When she died I didn't think I would ever get over the depression. I felt lost and empty. I cried all the time.viagra I didn't have the desire to do anything. Now I want to get out and do things. I know she would want me to be happy.

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