Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Because they were all so good today......
As we work to create light for others,
we naturally light our own way.
- Mary Anne Radmacher
The unselfish effort to bring cheer to others
will be the beginning of a happier life for ourselves.
- Helen Keller
Good works are links that form a chain of love.
- Mother Teresa
Every charitable act is a stepping stone toward heaven.
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Brrrr and good morning to all. Wow !!!! Into the 40's last night. Not quite yet but soon we will have to get out the electric water dishes for use. We did turn on the heat in the outdoor dog and cat houses. I checked and apparently there was lots of appreciation going on. Dh off today and some cycles to get through before class at 1 p.m. I'm still recovering from Monday. Still sore, but I knew I would be and it will be there yet for a couple weeks. If temps stay down as much as it seems they could I will be putting aside money for the carwash. I prefer to do it myself -- by now I have it down pat and can do the washing and polishing fairly quick. Sigh !!! Isn't that the way -- just as you get your system completely refined -- it goes on hold for several months -- then the re-incorporation has to start again in late Spring.
Hope you are all going to have a super day.
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ChiSandy, for packing a bulky coat try a space saver bag. I have squished down a king size comforter to fit in one side of a suitcase and still had extra room. Here is a picture of a dog bed we squished. The wrinkles pop right out in minutes when unpacked.
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You don't get old from living a particular number of years: you get old because you have deserted your ideals. Years wrinkle your skin, renouncing your ideals wrinkles your soul. Worry, doubt, fear, and despair are the enemies which slowly bring us down to the ground and turn us to dust before we die. -Douglas MacArthur
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Good mornin all
Cautiously optimistic that the inside of the house will be back to normal by this weekend. All the furniture is pretty much back in place. They are putting my closet in as I write this. We have to clean everything, put our area rugs and ( I need your help with spelling Sandy) tchotchkes back in place, switch the TV and all will be good, I hope. There are some tiles in two of the bedrooms and family room that are not level with the tiles that surround them. They are saying the bedrooms can be fixed, but the family room has been down too long and they would have to pull up a whole section to correct three tiles. My problem with that is that we told them about he problems the day after they laid them- as soon as we could walk on them.
We have a roofer ready to go once he permit is obtained, the window and door guy has already filed for the permit and they should be ready in 3-4 weeks. The last major issue is getting a cement slab to put a new shed on. Called someone yesterday who said he would be by last night to give us an estimate, but he never showed.
My PCP made me get a chest X-ray this week. I get so mad at myself because I didn't ask why, but, as all of you can imagine, I was really scared. Her office called this morning to let me know everything is clear and good. What a relief!
Hope all is well with everything and welcome Susie.
Anne
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Welcome to all the new ladies,
Happy Birthday to all the ladies that I have missed wishing that to .
I haven't been on for a while but I have been reading most of the posts to keep up.
We had our 10th grandchild in August (but it is our 11th grandchild with our sons girl friends daughter included) so I was in Illinois when going to come home the week of Irma so I got an extra two weeks to hold and spoil the baby. Our youngest son had his first baby. A 9 lb. baby boy and so cuddly. I loved every minute of it.
We didn't have any damage from the hurricane. We were lucky and are very blessed. We moved my mil up here by us in April and found her a very nice assisted living place. It is a 10 minute drive from our house which beats the hour drive each way before each week to see her. She is 90 and doing well. We have finally met most of the people on our street(everyone moved in last year) so it is very nice. The only problem is every thing you do here seems to have food involved. Now I'm trying to loose the pounds that I have somehow put on.
Hope everyone is having a great week
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My dishwasher is down. I noticed water steadily dripping from the right side of the door Monday night. I turned it off & hand-washed the dishes. I showed it to S & he got down on the floor to look closer and told me the face boards on either side of the dishwasher were warped (like they had gotten wet) but were dry. I told H about the leak the next morning. We had a repair man out Wednesday. He saw the face board damage & said that it had been there awhile. He pulled the dishwasher out; checked other connections; said they were fine. The floor under the dishwasher was dry, but slightly warped. He guesses it has been leaking a little bit every time it is run since it was installed during the remodel 2 years ago. When he looked under the sink he said the drain hose to the sink wasn't installed properly. He fixed that. He thought he fixed the problem with the drain hose re-install. He told me to run it normally & if it leaks call him. I started it up at around 9 last night; 30 minutes later I went to check on it...water was POURING out of the left side of the door. It took me three hours to mop up the mess & hand-wash the dishes, and it was a big load. I called the repair guy and he's ordering a new gasket. Might be Monday or later before he can get back out here. If it isn't the gasket, I give up and will buy a new washer.
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When we become expert at loving and caring for ourselves,
we feel healthy, centered, and strong. We don't need to
escape from our reality through shopping, eating, drinking,
drugging, or losing ourselves in abusive relationships.
We feel warm and safe within ourselves.
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There is a little rain out this am. but very moderate -- more of a mist that gets a bit heavier momentarily, and then goes right back to mist. Not too cold I don't think but won't feel good due to dampness. It will be a good day anyway. Just washing my My Pillow for the first time. The whole idea made me nervous but it was starting to seem a bit flatter than it should be.
I am the type that gets a case of nerves ( I'm sure something must have happened when I was much younger about not doing things I was told ) when I see anything that has those " Don't Remove " tags. Washing pillows just never seemed a thing you should do any more than removing those tags. I would finally take them off but not before looking over my should like someone from the tag gestapo was just waiting to hear that RIPPING sound. So, I put off washing this pillow. It is happily drying in the dryer and I checked -- it appears to be its fluffy self again.
Poppy -- that is so funny -- about the sign. Not sure but so many men seem to have to do this VERY indirect questioning of things that seems to be so devoid of common sense. How can such great intelligence go into such failure in mere seconds or less. Well, I'm familiar with it very much while knowing that I have my own issues, like tags.
We have been fortunate for leaks. When we got ours though -- it was the pipe under the kitchen sink that Dh turned ( trying to tighten up ) the wrong way and it just burst off. Fortunately the shut off was just off our deck -- but it still resulted in totally flooded kitchen. I sure hope the gasket is the total answer. I am really into our dishwasher even though it takes a couple of weeks for us to get enough dirty dishes for it. If I don't want to go that long it has a ' half load ' cycle and when I have dishes I want to use -- or too many plates start going in, I use that.
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Hi, Termite! Good to hear from you. Glad that your move to FL has worked out so well.
Anne, I know you're looking forward to having your house put back together and nicer than before.
Jackie, you make me feel so guilty about not keeping my car clean. It's such a nice little car and I love driving it. I miss it during the summer in MN.
DH got out the small power washer and hooked up the hose before he left to play golf. Wasn't that nice of him? :-} I spent several hours cleaning the porch and patio. I also power washed the clay planters. Both porch and patio are stamped concrete in a pattern that gets black with grime. It cleans fairly easily under the strong spray but every inch must be hit with the spray. It's not a quick clean.
Time for some lunch.
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Anne, your Yiddish spelling is fine (must be due to all those years in FL).
Jackie, when I was a little girl I actually thought it was illegal for anyone to remove those pillow & upholstery tags. You'd be surprised how many people don't know that the "penalty of law" is imposed on the mfrs., distributors & original merchants selling those goods--the tags exist to inform consumers of the materials & country of origin. It's no more illegal for you to remove them after purchase than it is to remove labels from your clothing.
What is it with men who've never lived alone (or even those who have) that turns them into Oscar Madison after they've been married for awhile? I grew up disorganized in a disorganized household (my mom would say "it's not neat but it's clean and I know where to find everything," and I never really believed that). Maybe that's why she insisted so strongly that my sis & I at least straighten our room, and most conflicts in our home were about that. We were always late for everything. When I got married (first time I ever lived away from my family) I vowed I would be as practical as possible--even though not to the point of being anal, I have learned to confirm that being reasonably organized (and familiar with how everything works) makes life so much more convenient & saves time. I always keep a master list and replenish my travel supplies as needed; and it takes me less than an hour to choose and pack a week's worth of clothes, and neatly at that.
Which is why it drives me nuts when I vacation with my guys. They can't pack to save their lives--my housekeeper or I do it for them before a trip. Our suitcases are the kind that open flat like a book, with a full-zip mesh panel over each side so that if there's not enough room on the luggage rack to keep it opened flat I can keep it open in an "L" shape without anything falling out. But before checkout from hotels, my guys wait till the last minute, cram their clothes (dirty & clean) haphazardly (w/o rolling, folding or layering) into their suitcases and then don't understand why the interior zipper pulls keep breaking off. I refuse to take the extra time and effort to do that for them--I travel enough that I never pack anything I can't roll up, and when I take something off I roll it back up and put it back into the suitcase, which I keep on the luggage rack at all times. I call Housekeeping and request extras so that there's one for every suitcase. Yet my men keep their suitcases either on the floor and complain about their backs hurting, or on the bed (I know about the dangers of bedbugs, but they apparently don't care). Early checkout times when I travel solo don't faze me--I pack whatever I'm done with the night before. But they wait till the last minute.
My DH won't use the luggage rack because he says it's too small and his suitcase falls off it. I keep showing him how, but he keeps insisting on doing things the way he's used to--which is sloppily because at work he has nurses & office staff to do all the organization behind the scenes. Same with our son, who's always lived with us (he didn't live in the dorms at college). Both of them are too proud & stubborn to let me teach them how to do things more ergonomically, or to ask for help. DH couldn't find his toothbrush this morning, so instead of calling Housekeeping (they have stuff for free) he went to the in-house grocery to buy one. Rather than try to figure out how to nuke leftovers or make coffee, they'll get dressed and buy Starbucks and an overpriced sandwich or wrap to bring up to the room.
Thanks for letting me vent!
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Sandy, I loved reading that! When we go to see the grandkids in Oregon, DH takes at least 3 bags. This is for 2-3 nights. One time I saw a bag with 3 coats! We know the weather before we go, so this doesn't make any sense at all. I have a carry-on suitcase and a bag with a book, my traveling art kit, purse and water bottle. When we get home, he empties his suitcase into the dirty clothes hamper. I think he's beginning to get the picture. He commented that he didn't need everything in his toothbrush kit and perhaps he could reduce what's in it.
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When we went on our Mediterranean cruise in Dec. 2015, I wore a short unlined leather jkt. and packed a full-length down coat (stuffs into its own sack) which I slipped between the zippered halves of my suitcase. Upon retrieving my bag at O'Hare, I simply partly unzipped the case, reached in and pulled out the coat, shook it out and put it on. It was 14F upon our return. This time, it'll be about 40F, so I can handle just wearing the short jacket (did bring gloves, though). But Gordy refused to wear any kind of jacket--just a long-sleeved shirt over a plain white tee. Will buy him at least a hoodie before leaving Vegas in case we have a long line at the taxi stand at O'Hare.
Last year, when we went to NYC for Christmas (and I continued to DC for a few days), it was warm enough in both cities I didn't even need to zip up the light leather jacket!
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Sandy love it. You sound like you had military training in packing. In the service we rolled everything that went into out foot lockers which was most of what we owned. Undies, bras, socks, nylons. There was a standard folding recipe for each of these things and the rolls were expected to be good and tight. In the footlockers with everything in them there was still plenty of room. We were basic trainees -- do didn't have as much as we might have, but needed to know how to do these things because duffel bags are not THAT big --- so knowing how to roll tight was a must. I don't roll much of anything now, but I do have a way to do undies that is not standard to the way most people do it -- I have a couple of extra folds which makes them a small square. Men really don't get it at all.
A few months ago I showed Dh how much easier to make the bed with military corners. After having done it since my early service days nothing else makes sense. I guess he just forgot how.
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Well, Bob really screwed the pooch this time. We went to dinner at Spago after the concert, and apparently he left his new iPhone 8 either on the table (which was right next to the railing where any passerby could grab it after we left), in the Lyft on the way back here, or it fell out of his pocket in the public restroom at the Forum Shops. (Or, since he walked next door to Circus Circus after exiting the Lyft, he might even have had his pocket picked--Circus Circus is a low-rent old-school type of casino).
Spago is closed and there was no way to leave a phone message, so I hope they get my online message. The Lyft driver searched high & low, even tried calling the phone--no luck. And then he remembered that right after dropping us off, he picked up a fare at Circus Circus--a young guy about 20 yrs. old. It was a long ride (20 min) back to where the kid was staying. The kid might have seen the phone and just pocketed it. It's locked with a fingerprint or passcode (Bob didn't want to activate two-factor authentication, in case he forgets his passcode), so it can't be used by anyone else...but it could definitely be sold to someone who could "jailbreak" it with the right tools.
So who is at fault? Me, of course--because I told him not to wear his dress shirt for the third day in a row, so he wore a Cubs tee instead, which has no chest pocket. Therefore, carrying his phone in a pants pocket (like 90% of men do) is why it got lost or stolen...at least according to him.
I don't get it. Gordy goes through phones like they were toilet paper--loses them, drops them in puddles or even in toilets. Bob ran over his old flip phones twice in our garage, and dropped one in a puddle. I have never lost my phone. Little thing called a "purse." But neither of my guys would be caught dead carrying a "man-bag" in public. We have ONE day left in Vegas, and it's Gordy's birthday. But instead of enjoying a downtown Big Bus tour, we may have to kill all day hunting down Bob's phone and then getting him a new one at the Apple Store--and it will cost over $1000 because AppleCare+ doesn't cover loss, just damage. He cannot leave town incommunicado--the hospitals & patients have been calling him all the time, and he left his pager home. Nobody can get in touch with him. Until he has a phone again, either he & Gordy or he & I have to be joined at the hip in order to maintain contact--and you know how much I want to spend all day in smoky casinos (I neither smoke nor gamble).
I hate, hate, HATE this town!!! He'd have had much less opportunity to drink too much and get careless back home.
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In a noisy world, seek the silence in your heart. And through the power of silence, the energies of chaos will be brought back to harmony--not by you, but through you, as all miracles are. When we visit this silence regularly, particularly in the morning, then the days of our lives become lit from above. Darkness and fear are cast from our midst, slowly at first, one moment at a time. Ultimately, all darkness will be gone from every heart.
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Wow !!! About that phone and Vegas. I hope the phone turns up Sandy --- fast, so that you can salvage the rest of your day and make it good before departure. I do think carrying a man-bag would be fantastic --- then again, staying in GOOD charge of the bag is a commitment too. My BIL ( U.S. Diplomat for many many years ) carried one for a long time. He did as well carry laptop and briefcase/satchel so I think easily got use to having several items to keep in good control and together at all times. I always thought it seemed bulky and difficult to have so many things all the time but he made it look easy. Maybe this incident might change some thinking on doing the phone differently. Hope so for you.
Teka, love those pictures. I've never seen any that big in trees, but have seen them on buildings a couple of times. Scary to me. Late last yr. I was stung by a wasp for the first time in my life. After 71 yrs. of not getting stung, I did not become complacent -- but just quit thinking too much about seeing bees, wasps, and other insects. I allowed myself to assume I think I'd never be stung so live and let live. After the wasp sting ( very painful ) I now see things a lot differently.
Brrr here today and will stay that way with overnight frosts beginning. Winter to me is definitely starting its slow steady march to our woods.
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Teka, Our next door neighbor had one that size in the rhododendron beside his front walk and porch. Fortunately it was abandoned when a little kid attacked it with a baseball bat. Interesting to see the inside.
We have a small dogwood tree, very bushy and dense in our front yard. After the leaves fell, it looked like someone had thrown a sock and caught it in the tree. It turned out to be a bush tit next. They build community nests and the bird book describes the nest as looking like a dirty old sock.
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Good news on the phone--though Spago didn't have it, the Forum Shops' lost & found did. We went to the Apple Store and their greeter suggested we try that before buying a new one. Turns out Bob lost it at the loo next door to Cheesecake Factory and a janitor turned it in. So here's to honesty & the kindness of strangers. We're hoping Gordy's Galaxy S7's battery stays charged, or we can charge it on the fly in a restaurant, because when he turns the screen off to save power it freezes and takes 2 hrs to reboot. And the cheapest "man-bag" we could find at the Forum Shops was at Coach (Apple didn't carry any, and there were no accessory kiosks like at other malls)--a small crossbody pack for $375, less the Breast Cancer Month 20% discount. Uh, no thanks. Back to shirts with pockets.
Elton John was great, even though the sound system was iffy at first (and his diction wasn't as clear when he sang as when he spoke). But when he'd get up from the piano for water, you could tell his arthritis is pretty bad--he was bent over & shuffling. Could be his hips are going, or he has a bad back.
Seeing Carvey & Lovitz tonight, taking downtown tour first.
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Teka, that's a hornet nest. We had those this summer up in MN in some of the trees and destroyed them because hornets can be really nasty.
I hate to pack for a trip. DH is much better at packing than I am. I agonize over what clothes to pack, what shoes will go with those clothes, etc. etc. I think good shopping for a wardrobe is the first step and I'm terrible at that. You hear about those women who have a wonderful basic suit and all the perfect accessories. That ain't me.
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Sandy, The guy who was head of maintenance at my clinic had his phone in the holster for garden shears. Or he could get an underarm holster and look dangerous as he stayed in touch.
I love the bushtits. They are little tiny birds and always in a flock. They just flit from branch to branch. We don't see them very often.
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Find out how much God has given you
and from it take what you need;
the remainder is needed by others.
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Teka
the poem says it so well.....0 -
Well said. And in some parts of the country with little snow, the drab brown goes on and on. Not so much here. When the fall rains begin, the grass greens back up. Most people let it go brown in summer to save water.
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I think for men ;keeping their phones in their shirt pocket is as bad as a woman keeping her phone in her bra, and a lot do it.......the least close to your body the better......call me goofy, but to me it makes perfect sense....
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When one bases one's life on principle,
99 percent of his or her decisions are already made.
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What a good Monday. There is a spot of rain outside, but quite thin and I just hope we don't get it much worse. Today is first day of my second week of class. We only go two days a week with the in-between day so we can read up and formulate any questions we might have.
I elected to wait for the lady who does my hair until December ( she had her chemo first then recently her lumpectomy ) when she will have hopefully recovered fully from her lumpectomy. I sure hope she really does well with all of this. Only saying that I have discovered that I think I have been ( not that I didn't like it ) having my hair cut too short most of the time. Left a little longer -- it looks and is much fuller and though I now have to set it --- the left over perm is just enough to have a really nice casual look. It stays in much better and longer after setting than I thought it ever could. Hmmm, I think I'll keep having perms, but put in much longer hair for awhile and see what I think after that.
I hope you are all going to have a good Monday. Still hoping that all who have issues ( storm work, lost phones, etc. ) find satisfactory answers.
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It rained, rained and rained yesterday! After we turned out the lights and went to bed, BOOM! half of a Bradford pear tree went down. Looked this morning , it hit the front corner of the roof, but doesn't appear to have damaged it. Got to find someone to take it down now, altogether. Still gloomy and windy here.
Spent another lovely night in the E for my tachycardia and palps. Have gone from daily , 2+ years ago to 4, since I decided to lay off caffeine. Didnt drink much, an Ice tea for lunch and dinner, but a big change. I have to be checked out when it does happen, since tachy was the only symptom, when I had a PE. Everything was clear. Sure wish we cud discover what sets me off. The heart decides to race and the BP then tries to catch it! Will see my cardio today. Fun.
Not much else going on since we got back from our cruise on the Hudson. This storm really did in a good share of our leaves.
I just had a perm and haircut. Been trying to find a lady who does my cuts the way I like them, since my long time lady retired and went south. At least if it gets cut too short, it grows out! Have a good day.
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I saw a woman yesterday at a coffee shop who had hair with the ends permed. She came in from sitting outside and ran her fingers thru the permed part from the bottom up, fluffing it up. When she was done, it looked great. I'm going to try that someday.
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I had the most perfect day today. Totally by myself all day! Phone only rang twice and I let the machine pick up.
H & S had a charity golf tournament today. It was rescheduled from September because of the flooding. They left the house at 5:20 am & didn't come back for 12 (wonderful) hours.
As soon as they left, I got up & dressed and drove to the gym. It was about 6:30 and packed with people getting their workouts done before going to work. I was able to go through my workout in just under 30 minutes (no treadmill because left leg still bothering me). Once home I lingered over my coffee while I planned my day. I ran the robot through the entire house, washed & dried three loads of laundry, emptied my closet of the summer clothes and put in the winter stuff (although we have to keep lighter weight handy because winters here can be warm). I also went through what I had for summer wear and took out pieces I had not worn. They will go to Goodwill. By 3:00 I was finished and ready to stop. I sat and read until the guys came home. Perfect day! I was productive and still got to relax and do what I enjoy most...reading.
I know I sound like I don't want my husband and son around, but that isn't the case. I get so little time to myself that when an opportunity like this comes along, I make the most of it.
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