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TNNurse Member Posts: 39

My coworker and friend Lois died last week.  She was as tough as any woman I have known.  She knew she had a very agressive cancer.  We are nurses and so we have had experience with many people who lost their struggle.  She was 47, she has a 13 yo son a grandchild and a wonderful husband.  They were only married a few years but he was so kind and supportive we all thought he was the best thing that had ever happened to her.

She worked in many places in the hospital and so many coworkers knew and loved her.  She had surgery, took chemo and radiation.  Once she understood that the pain she was having was metastasis to her pelvis and hips, she got mad.  At that point she looked for other treatment options.  Her husband helped her with any choice she made.

The next to last hospital visit, she had become jaundiced and once they figured the best pain control, she went home.  A few days later she was back.  She was confused and combative.  We knew a kind, soft spoken woman and it was awful to see her like that.

I will never forget when I told her about my diagnosis, she cried worse than I did.  

She was about 6 months ahead of me and she told me things that helped with her treatment.  She sent me encouraging emails all summer.

I started yoga lessons about a week before she died.  I wore my " I wear pink for Lois"  shirt.  I will now wear it to every yoga class, and hope it wil help me to remember her strength.


  • marywh
    marywh Member Posts: 1,433
    edited January 2013

    Im so sorry for the loss of your friend...

  • moderators
    moderators Posts: 7,636
    edited January 2013

    TNNurse, we're sad for your loss, and the loss to Lois's other friends and family.

    The Angels List from the Threads that celia088 so kindly maintains for the community includes a section to honor friends of members. Just post on the thread, and Lois's name and connection to you can be added.

  • TNNurse
    TNNurse Member Posts: 39
    edited January 2013

    Thank you.  When I get down about my illness, I think of how strong she was.