Overwhelmed and heartbroken.
My wife has been diagnosed with breast cancer on 1/7/19, and we are completely overwhelmed and unsure of every decision that will have to be made in the very near future.
Her tumor is very solid and painful and has increased in pain over the last month or so. Her tumor is attached very solid to her ribcage along the left side of her left breast. They did imaging and her lymph nodes are "puffy" in her left armpit. They did a botched biopsy of the tumor (trying to avoid damaging her implants, tore her skin with the extraction tool, and needed three stitches), tumor came back being cancer. They did not biopsy the lymph nodes because they felt my wofe had gone through enough with the tumor biopsy. They are still doing more tests with the biopsy to find out the details of the cancer.
Since the biopsy, she has been experiencing PMS symptoms too early, very mild swelling on the left side of her body (arm, hand, foot), and feeling like she is having a chemical imbalance overall. I suspect, based on the exhausting research I have been doing since Monday, that she is having issues with the estrogen type cancer.
She has been training for a body building competition for March of 2019. We have been vegan for about 15 months. Up until she discovered the lump about a month ago, we were consuming soy products such as tofu and tempeh to help with attaining proper protein levels. We have ceased all soy intake.
She is 40, strong, beautiful, and my soulmate. On the exterior, she seems like she is trying to be strong, but I can see it in her eyes that she's scared...and I'm just falling apart.
The unknown. The looks the medical staff give each other. The conflicting data on the internet. The nauseous feeling when trying to scramble for the right medical center/doctor. Knowing she will have to go down a road the nobody should...is incredibly overwhelming for us.
We need to make the right choices soon, but we don't know.
She is scheduled for Xray and bone scan, and we are going to talk to a plastic surgeon tonight.
The docs confidence with treatment and recovery for my wife has me struggling to trust anything. What I see online vs the confidence of the doc, has me continuously sick to my stomach for the love of my life.
Looking for guidance in making my beautiful wife's recovery successful and her longevity in this life to be well into our 80's.