Is it my fault?
Hey I am very newly diagnosed with triple negative IDC I think it's called and I just keep thinking what have I don't wrong? Is it my fault? I don't live the most healthy of life styles but I hardly drink don't do drugs don't smoke drink way to much fizzy drinks and eat to much but could I have done more. I'm only 37 and I am just sitting watching people much older than me and I can't help but think how am I so young and going through this silent battle that nobody knows about and I'm not saying because they are older they should have it because nobody should but I feel I should be having babies not this. I feel like it's robbed me of my youth I'm petrified I won't make it out alive and I'm just as petrified that I do make it out but I will never be the same person I was does anyone else feel like this?? Xx
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@willtash202537 You absolutely did not cause your cancer!!! Many of us here have done everything "right" and still wound up here, including myself. I led and still lead a healthy lifestyle and never fit any of the criteria they say causes breast cancer. Could be genetics or not, either way you still have a life to fight for. Yes this does change you but in many good ways too. You are going to find a super human strength that you never knew you had. You are going to appreciate the gift of life in a whole new way. Will it be easy..no but you will dig deep and take back your life and not allow this disease to define it! It is all so scary I know but as you go along in this process and get a treatment plan you will feel a little better.I wish you weren't dealing with this at a young age, it's just not fair! I was diagnosed at 50 and I also watched women 20 years older than me getting chemo and thought the same as you. There is a group to chat with younger women on this site. We are all here for you and will help you through this! Big hugs❤️
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Thank you. I am trying to remain positive but on the other hand I'm afraid to be positive because I need to be prepared for the worse. I lost both my parents to cancer so I have seen first hand what this awful thing does to you and I have never been the same since watching that let alone going through it. I can already feel myself appreciating more the simple things and I tell myself that I am thankful for that so there are positives through this if I learn to look at it differently. I am sorry that you to are going through this and yes 50 is young it's not nice at any age it really isn't I think I would just like to feel that I at least got a chance to live most my life. I am still in the waiting for test stage but as of Monday coming now that part will be over thank god it's been hell waiting i really believe like you said when I am having treatment I will feel a bit better more proactive like I'm actually fighting this thing instead of being a sitting duck diagnosing myself with every form of cancer under the sun. Thank you for your kind words and sharing some of your experience with me I am really grateful xx
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@willtash202537, In the UK once the initial testing is finished you should be able to access a Clinical Nurse Specialist (Macmillan Nurse) through the NHS who can answer questions and provide support through the treatment process. It's tough to deal with a new diagnosis but once a treatment plan is in place you just have to follow through. Having cancer is nobody's fault, it's just the luck of the draw. Life isn't fair but try to make the most of the hand you are dealt. All the best going forward.
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To "mirror-image" Shakespeare, the fault really is "in your stars." Not as in astrology, but as in the fickleness and unpredictable nature of the universe. In other words, "s**t happens." (Just as with my ocular melanoma, as my onco-ophthalmologist told me). Distressing, but in a way comforting that there was nothing you or anyone could have done to prevent or cause this. Hugs, and best of luck going forward.
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I was 34 when I was diagnosed with Stage 1 triple negative breast cancer. That was nearly 33 years ago. I had given birth less than a year before and I felt so incredibly young and helpless.
I did have a local recurrence after 19 years, but that was 14 years ago. I’ve lived a full life in the meantime and I wish the same for you.
You didn’t do anything to cause your cancer. It’s one of those “shit happens” things. You will feel better once up you’ve got a treatment plan in place.
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@joanquilts Congrats on continuing to thrive! This gives great hope to many TNBC sisters. Thanks for sharing.
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