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anniealso- Hoping everything goes well with your BS appointment today and the nip issue is just a "bra smash" issue and nothing more!!!! You've been through enough!!! Sending you (((hugs))) and good thoughts!!!
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Gunner, Best wishes and will be thinking of you!
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Annie: I will be thinking of you and hoping it's nothing! You are always a ray of sunshine here and we will all be sending you love and light and hope today!
Gunner: May your surgery be pain free and easy. Glad your family will be there to support. I echo what all of the ladies have said above--be very gentle on yourself for at least a couple weeks, maybe more if they do pocket work.
MStar: Must go easy, girl! I am always over doing it, which is why I haven't been on here lately. Heal up fast!
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Gunner -- thinking of you and sending positive energy and prayers for an outcome that makes you HAPPY!! Your nightmare daughter will, hopefully, one day be a dream daughter. I have 2 grown kids and they are wonderful people, but there were times during their teen years when I wanted to give them away -- LOL. Best wishes to you...
Anniealso -- hoping it's just a bra-smash -- let us know when you can.
Today I see the PS to, most likely, have drain and bandages removed. Woke up very weepy this morning and can't shake it -- hate this! Hate cancer, hate all these surgeries, hate having lost my implant and today I especially hate my PS. Love all of you though!!! (sorry to share my bad mood).
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Bonnie: Gentle hugs! We are all the same way--sometimes this disease just floors me with the devestartion it causes and so much of it feels unnecessary. I am happy your drains will be removed today--that is always nice. Hang in there and change PS's when you have your redo in the future! Whippetmom should be able to recommend someone who is more compassionate.
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Thanks, MBJ. My PS can be compassionate, but he's way too busy and I've come to the conclusion he is not the right PS for me. At the hospital just before my surgery this week he practically blamed me for not telling them how serious my swelling was and it REALLY pissed me off. However, I'm not stupid enough to get angry outwardly at someone who is about to cut me open -- LOL! As you and others here know, I called his MA a week ago and told her very specifically about the swelling, bruising and bleeding. She said it sounded very normal, but she would run it past him and call me back if he needed to see me. No call. I got worse during the weekend and called/got in on Monday. I plan to remind him of this later this morning if it comes up again. I get the feeling that he is more interested in covering his own ass than in taking care of business and it just makes me furious. I'm just not putting up with it any more.
Sorry to be a downer, but thanks so much for "listening"!!!
I love your picture -- your hair is so cute!
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Bonnie, I think he is covering his own ass....and you tried, his office was not responsive at all. Those heads should roll, not yours.. be that as it may, I hope all goes well for you now! You are only venting, dear and that is what we are all her for! Love to you!!! (and a nice PS).
Gunner, thank god, we all mistook what you had written about you driving.....I am so glad your family is going with you. Your daughter is just scared, she will come around. Hey, it m ight do her some good to be there and supprt your hubby thru this. I am sure that it's a phase and she is lashing out, just not exactly helpful just now. Good luck in everything. Normal life and driving? About 6-8 weeks.
It was a boob squish. Very good upbeat appt. Thank you all my darling gals for your support. It would appear I need a little less of that on the right side!!
xoxox
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Annie -- Your positive words were just what I needed this morning! Thank you.
So happy it was just a boob squish and all is a-okay. --b
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Gunner, I was once that daughter . .. my mom had cancer. I was 16, FURIOUS at her for being sick, ANGRY at her for being sick, and most of all I was scared sh#%less that she was going to die.
I too had the attitude, I'll do what I want because you aren't going to be here so what does it matter. It was like me challenging her to tell me differently.
I felt like she was deserting me. Mine is a very long complicated story . .. one that I won't get into, but I can tell you that I loved my mom more than anyone in the world.
Yet at 16 you just don't know what to do with all this fear. Mom's are supposed to protect us, not make us sad. Not turn our world upside down. Obviously getting cancer was not her fault but as a teenager, you just don't see it that way. You just see the mom who you thought was strong, and was going to be around to protect you forever, become weak. And anger, fear, and rebellion was my reaction to what happened.
We all react differently to our loved ones getting sick. But as a teenage girl, your daughter's world has been turned upside down. You are her rock and she's scared. Being a teenager is hard enough but toss into the mix an important family member who is sick, and they honestly don't know what to do with everything they are feeling.
The last person in the world I would have talked to this about was my mom. She had enough on her plate and didn't need to deal with my fears as well as hers . .. or that was how I felt at the time. So the anger and fear builds. Honestly, I wish my mom would have sat me down, told me the hard cold truth, and acknowledged my entire world was crashing in on me. But most importantly, I wish she would have told me how to deal with the sickening fear I going through. But that was over 40 years ago when the word cancer was whispered and children were kept in the dark because they needed to be protected.
Good luck with everything and may your surgery be an easy one!
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Mantra -- I think your post will be very helpful to gunner as she deals with her daughter. I'm so sorry you had to go through that very difficult time when you were so young.
I'm back from seeing the PS -- he took off the bandages, but the drain will stay until Monday. He is being very cautious because of what happened last time and I'm okay with that. We talked about last week's communication problems and he said the MA just told him that I was having some minor bleeding from the incision (not about the swelling and bruising or that the blood was soaking through several layers of bandages, my clothes, etc.) and he thought it sounded pretty normal so he didn't call back. I was not impressed and he has basically lost a patient as soon as this drain is removed and I start healing up.
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Mantra that was so sweet of you to relate to gunner right now I think she will find some peace in that.
Bonnie I hope this sad day will pass and you willbe in better spirits soon.
Lilah you always know what to say.
I am sipping my tea with honey and lemon hope everyone has a great day.
Rebecca
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Best wishes to Gunner with surgery!
((Annie))
Ditto to Lilah on always offering great support!
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Annie -- SO glad it was nothing -- SO GLAD! Yay!
Gunner -- equally glad to know I misunderstood and that there will be family there with you and taking you home. I think you can expect at least a week of being laid up and then it should get easier the second week. After that it is several weeks of taking it easy but more normal life stuff (like driving).
Mantra -- I am so sorry for your loss but thank you for your beautiful post. Though I do not have children and did not have to go through what you did at 16, I had my issue (child of divorce) and I could so relate to the anger and the feeling of loss and betrayal. You said it so well.
And thanks so much ladies for the nice words! You are the best!
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Gunner, my DD was a nightmare when she was a teenager. She's now 34 and has 2 beautiful kids and she's a great mom and a good friend now to me. It does get better. Good luck with your surgery. My prayers are with you!!
((((Bonnie)))))
Annie, Yea for bra squish!!!!
I was told by my first PS that I was not elevate my heart rate for the first couple weeks after surgery so those capillaries had time to heal. It wasn't so much lifting heavy things, altho I couldn't do that either. But primarily the heart rate needed to be kept down coz the capillaries are so small and will burst if not careful. I just slept a lot.
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Interesting Firni -- I have never heard that! Though I will say my heart rate still hasn't been elevated much LOL. Working up to a resumption of exercise post-treatment.
Bonnie -- so glad you are on the mend! Your PS gets an F for bedside manner if you ask me. Good plan to move on when it is feasible.
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Annie- So happy that everything is o.k.!!!!!0
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Girls.. I missed a lot.... my back went out...I am better........ and back online. This thread moves too wonderfully fast for me to catch up.
I hope you all have been good this past week, and your surgeries have went great.
IF anyone had a bad week.... or report... please...... someone PM me to tell me.
Bless you girls!
Laura
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Firni,
I'm in Kansas City and my surgeon said the very same thing about not elevating your heart rate for the first couple of weeks.
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My PS said "no restrictions" after implant removal 2 weeks ago and again today (except for no showers until drain is removed) after hematoma removal 2 days ago. I'm thankful for all of you and BCO or I'd be fumbling around in the dark all alone.
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That is the beautiful thing about BCO. None of us are ever alone.
Kansas, I wonder why other PS' don't talk about heart rate after surgery?
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Annie: Sooooo glad everything is okay! Just so you know, I was out driving in traffic today and I thought about you and was sending you good thoughts! Yay for you!!!
Bonnie: Glad you set your PS straight on what happened! That is just so wrong. You heal up and rest.
Firni: Wow, I guess it's too late for me. My DH couldn't keep his hands off of me once I got the squishees in and well, I guess I am lucky nothing burst. LOL!
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Too funny MBJ. I'm glad nothing burst!!
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Be prepared for a bunch of posts all at once, because I can't remember everything I need to say....lol
Bonnie---so so so sorry you're having to go through yet another "fix". Praying this one sticks!! haha. Didn't mean that to rhyme!
cs7777--I was given a very strong antibacterial soap that was very thick that I used 1/2 the bottle to wash all around my chest, neck, underarms and abdomen the day before surgery, and then the morning of, I used the other 1/2 of the bottle to do the same thing. I can't remember the name. The nurse doing my pre-op gave it to me. But it was thick and took awhile to wash off. It's to help with infection/germs. Sounds like you're very prone to that sort of thing. Maybe this wash would help?
Rebecca so glad you're doing well. And that pic of you from Adnerb, is precious.
gunner--I hope your surgery goes well. Will be praying for you.
Ok. Have to read more.
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I had to use a soap with 2% chlorahexidin (sp??) for 5 days before surgery. I only used it on my chest area but I think I was supposed to use it on a lot wider area. The secretary told me she was positive that it was only to the used on the chest area yet a friend told me she used it on her stomach and higher (excluding her face). But regardless, Happymoms suggestion sounds like a good one.
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Alma!!!!! YAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYY!!!!! Was wondering about you and how things had gone. At least you can always have more fat grafting. How are you feeling?
gunner, so sorry you're having to deal with daughter issues as well as your health. I think like Annie. She might be scared and angry. Gotta love her through it. And nothing over 5 pounds! No driving for awhile, especially on drugs! haha
Annie, yuck for you!
I hope you're feeling better.Bonnie, glad everything went well. And there could be a lot worse than being on the computer with your fav sisters here!! haha So enjoy!
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Firni--too late for me, too!! But I guess the elevated heart rate didn't harm me. I'm with you, MBJ on this one, too!
Annie--glad, happy, yippee, it was just squished!
Mantra--how sweet and encouraging of you to open a piece of your life to help gunner out.
Rebecca--hope your cold is better.
Hope and prayers are with everyone going through surgery, pain and emotional stuff. Take care of yourselves and concentrate on getting better!
On a different note. Colonoscopy this past Wed morning. Clean as a whistle! Yay!!! Very thankful. Another one in 5 years. They've changed the protocol for every 5 years! Guess that's good.
Whew! Finally caught up!
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It's a new day and I am feeling much better, although wishing my little friend, Mr. J.P. Drain, wasn't spending the weekend with me. Made a decision to stop being mad at my PS and just get through whatever appointments are necessary and be done. If another reconstruction is in my future, I will ask Deborah to help me find a PS that suits me better. My current PS has amazing credentials and the reputation of being an excellent surgeon, but I'm a patient that has lots of reactions and problems and he's not much of a communicator so we're not a good match. I'm going to let all the anger go and get better so I can enjoy the holidays. Thanks to all of you who helped me get through a very rough patch recently.
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Bonnie, good for you! Get this behind you and start fresh, with a new doc that will be better suited to your personality. Besides, the emotional roller coaster, I hope, physically, you're feeling better. Sorry the DRAIN has to stay in. Guess it is better to be safe, than sorry! Feel better!
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Bonnie -- sounds like a great plan and attitude
Dee (Happymom) -- I had something similar with a similar task (two showers, one the night before and one the morning of). The stuff I had to use is called Hibaclens. It's a strong anti-bacterial solution.
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I couldn't use the Hibiclens this time because I was bleeding like a stuck pig, but have had to use it before past surgeries. My drain is leaking where it is connected to me and I think it might come out on its own -- if so, it won't be missed!! It has been producing VERY little and so I'm not too concerned.
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