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  • survivor11
    survivor11 Posts: 430
    edited November 2011

    breccasgm-working on pics. Most in phone and having trouble getting them converted, but still trying.

    ksmatthews-yeah on the scan.

    Racy-what sweating med? I need it. Extensions sound reasonable, what's the systems name

  • cdairth
    cdairth Posts: 63
    edited November 2011

    Beccasgm,



    Love, love, he colour you picked. Oh, I can hardly wait for hair!



    Cath

  • dragonfly1
    dragonfly1 Posts: 516
    edited November 2011
    Denise Sorry I wasn't on here all day to answer you-I bought my Clio personal trimmer at Target (it was in the area near razors/shaving cream, etc) but I believe they have them at Walgreens as well...cost was about $8
  • marthah
    marthah Posts: 195
    edited November 2011

    Re: Hair coloring

    I don't think there are any hard and fast rules, either. I also chose demi-perm/temp coloring mostly because I have zero experience in this area. I opted to color it before I started going topless because my hair was all growing in white and I couldn't quite tell for sure how much was there! 

    It seems to be growing pretty fast right now, but maybe it just *seems* that way b/c it's so short. I'm glad I'm getting in the growth I am now b/c I start tamox next month and I hear 'round these here parts that it can slow the growth. 

    I think I'm due for an update on my coloring tonight, too. 

  • marthah
    marthah Posts: 195
    edited November 2011

    ks,

    I'm fortunate in that I work in a small community whose culture is predominantly determined by the University. Rather than staring or asking stupid questions, I just appear to be trendy, avante guard and artsy to the unknowing eye. Kiss

    You too can be trendy, artsy and avante guard! Work it girl....werk it!

  • LuvRVing
    LuvRVing Posts: 2,409
    edited November 2011

    Trendy, artsy and avante guard, I love it!!! 

  • ksmatthews
    ksmatthews Posts: 743
    edited November 2011

    martha you make me laugh!  love your spirit

  • marthah
    marthah Posts: 195
    edited November 2011

    Hey ladies, you all bring me a lot of joy...just paying it forward a little. Cool

    I'm also at a point where I'm ready to start mentally, emotionally and spiritually processing this journey. I'm starting to ask myself,

    "alright, what are the positive messages here? what are the lessons I am learning/can learn?"

    That's my quasi-buddhist take on all of this, and I'm sticking to it!  Innocent

  • racy
    racy Posts: 976
    edited November 2011

    Good luck with finding answers to your questions, marthah. Personally, I don't want to be in the position of learning anything from bc. If there are things I need to learn, and there are, I should and could be able to learn them without bc. But that's just me! ;-)



    Survivor11, I am starting Efexor tomorrow and hope it will be the cure for my sweating. I will report back on how it goes. I am in Australia and the extensions that I am getting are an Australian system - beverlymay.com.au. But there must be similar options in US.

  • survivor11
    survivor11 Posts: 430
    edited November 2011

    Racy-thanks for the info. Actually I'm already on Effexor. Just had does increased to 150mg a day, so we can compare notes on the sweating issue.

  • LuvRVing
    LuvRVing Posts: 2,409
    edited November 2011

    I'm not looking for much of a message in all this, either.  I have learned, though, that I am WAY tougher than I ever thought I was.  If I can get through this, I can get through most anything. 

  • MamaV
    MamaV Posts: 373
    edited November 2011

    I'm not sure of the message in all of this either, but I am 100% convinced that God let this happen to me so He could use me to help others get through it.  I am embracing that as a gift!

  • Teklya
    Teklya Posts: 362
    edited November 2011

    There are a thousand messages for sure.  However, I have been forever changed by this experience in every area of my life. Not a bad thing, either. And I would never have been on this site and "met" these amazing ladies who have gone thru this and are still pleasant and funny and helpful and caring - truly amazing.

  • mccrimmon324
    mccrimmon324 Posts: 794
    edited November 2011

    Yay!!  KS

  • mccrimmon324
    mccrimmon324 Posts: 794
    edited November 2011

    KS as you said "

    Thanks  to all you girls, when nobody else understands you all sure do"  I have to say that I'm a bit disappointed in my DH and my BF, I love them both dearly and I know they love me and have been nothing but supportive, but they keep telling me that I'm obsessing over my hair.  I try to tell them, that for me, it's not just the hair, its looking at myself and seeing the constant reminder of my situation.  Honestly, I think I'm doing darn well considering, just getting tired of hearing, its just hair, it will grow back. God forbid and I hope to heck they never, never, never have to walk in my shoes.  As Luv RVing said, I'm a heck of a lot stronger than I would have ever thought and its just nice to chat with ladies that understand. 

    I think the one lesson I will take from BC, is to live everyday, and to enjoy what you have and not what you want. 

  • deniseday
    deniseday Posts: 75
    edited November 2011

    KS----- YAY!!!! for the clean scans.  I'm just wondering, I too have clean scans and I'm finding it hard to believe.  I keep wondering if they have missed something.  If there is not some other tests they can do to be sure.  I know it's just that we have been fighting such a scary disease that I'm afraid to let my "guard" down.  Do you ever feel this way too??

    I'm 81/2 weeks PFC and 2 1/2 weeks post surgery.  BMX with immediate reconstruction no TE's.

    denise

    p.s.  Thanks dragonfly,  I don't have a Target, but I'll head to Walgreens today.  This fuzz is driving me crazy.

  • ksmatthews
    ksmatthews Posts: 743
    edited November 2011

    deniseday yes I feel like that too!  It is just so scary!

  • survivor11
    survivor11 Posts: 430
    edited November 2011

    I think the problem is, that when we all here the dreaded, "You have cancer", we all think, "shit, I'm going to die", then when we don't we feel like somehow we got off easy. In sooooooo many ways we did, but we had to fight like hell for it. It's a bit of survivor guilt I think. We hear and see so many of our sisters lose this fight that we wonder how and why we survived. Unlike alot of people, thankfully, we live everyday with our mortality staring us right in the face. Guess it's just another thing we now have to learn to live with.

    As far as lessons go, I will never say that I'm glad I got BC, but it has taught me things and taken me to a place in life that I don't know that I ever would have gotten to on my own. Take today for example, I smacked into the rearend of a car on the rain slick roads, No damage, but crazy girl I hit went to hospital cause "my back and neck hurt", whatever. Was obvious nouthing was wrong and she's looking for a payday, cop even said so, hell I was only going 5 mile an hour. Anyway, before BC this would have totally pissed me off and made me anxious as hell, but now it didn't bother me in the least. Things just don't bother me the way they use to, and I find that I take time now to enjoy the hear and now and not spend so much time wondering about the future. Also because of BC I finally opened my eyes the true love of my life, and that he was right infront of me the whole time-can never be grateful enough for that.

  • beccasgm
    beccasgm Posts: 41
    edited November 2011

    Dawn-

    well said...I thank god every day that I have another day to look around and enjoy the beauty he has given us.

    That I have another day to be with my husband and children and how I am truly blessed!

  • beccasgm
    beccasgm Posts: 41
    edited November 2011

    MamaV-I totally understand where you are coming from. I will never ever want to go through this again but it has been one of the positive things I have ever been through. The support and prayers have been a godsend.

  • racy
    racy Posts: 976
    edited November 2011

    survivor11, that's a nice story that you have found your true love. I'm happy for you.

  • survivor11
    survivor11 Posts: 430
    edited November 2011

    Racy-thanks. No measure of time would be long enough to have with him now, but I cherish everyday God gives me with him and my little men.

  • christine47
    christine47 Posts: 846
    edited November 2011

    Hello to all the great hair girls! 

    you all look amazing!  I am further out than many of you (6 months) and still very short hair, I have had a few trims, maybe now just 1 1/2 inches, but I love it.  My boys tell me I look "edgy" and "artsy", not bad for a 40+ mom. 

  • marthah
    marthah Posts: 195
    edited November 2011

    I think I've been spending too much time on this board lately. Last night I dreamt about updating my bio on here! Oy eeeeeesh!!!

  • christine47
    christine47 Posts: 846
    edited November 2011

    marthah,  I was so addicted to looking at the hair boards during chemo, they gave me hope.  BTW you look fantastic!!!

  • Terry71
    Terry71 Posts: 108
    edited November 2011

    I had a dream I had bangs, Just bangs though nothing else hahahahaha, and my son had a dream that I had a huge pony tail, and just a pnoy tail NO other hair LOL 

  • i2willsurvive
    i2willsurvive Posts: 12
    edited November 2011

    I did it - went without the wig yesterday and got lots of compliments from the women at work.  The men didn't say anything - I think they are not sure what to say.

  • Terry71
    Terry71 Posts: 108
    edited November 2011
    Way to go girl, So proud of you Smile
  • marthah
    marthah Posts: 195
    edited November 2011

    i2,

    Yay sistah! Way to go!!! Feels great, doesn't it???

  • marthah
    marthah Posts: 195
    edited November 2011

    christine,

    thanks hon! i found the hair board most addicting when my eyebrows disappeared! the whole community has been very supportive in my topless journey, too. Kiss

    survivor11

    what a fantastic and beautiful story! i am so happy for you.  Laughing