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I agree that you look fantastic as a brunette Carol. I love your hair now. Mine was a lot curler eve three months ago. It is coming back in like my old hair now, but the curl on the ends remains. When it first came in after chemo, it was black with a little gray in it. I am 51, and had naturally light brown hair. The black hair with no shine and looking like a dead animal pelt was a shock! I colored it with a box color at 12 weeks PFC. It took quite a while before I began to like my hair again, but I was very happy to have hair.
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Thanks for posting all the pictures Carol. It is really helpful. You had nice even growth. I have some "baldish" receding areas in the front. I hope they fill in.
I would post pictures but I think that kind of technical skill is beyond me.0 -
Carol I love your hair! Looks awesome!!! So pretty!
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Carrol2- your hair looks fabulous, and I like the brunette on you. It brings out your eyes
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Carrol and Rocket!!!! You ladies give me HOPE!!! You both look fabulous!!! Thank you for sharing your pictures.
What happened with your color? Did it go back to pre-chemo color by 1 yr out? Or did they grey and blackish color stay?
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FLwarriror I am not sure what color my hair really was pre chemo because i hilighted it so much like from the time I was about 36 until 45 when I was diagnosed. I knew there was some grey just not sure how much. It seemed a little grey at first and got darker as it got longer and fuller.0
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you look gorgeous, carrol; i have to say, the brunette looks wonderful with your skin/eyes.. you give me some hope, although im WAY older than most of you "girls" i think this hair thinning was beginning before, but it may never had been so obvious except for the two sided "insult " of chemo and then thyroid... keep on truckin, gals........3jays0
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Carrol, I agress that you look great as a brunette and I to wasn't really sure what my haircolor really was. Was dark brown most of the time, but the son always bleached out my hair. Really light in the summer and almost red in the winter. Now it's coal black.
So my 1 1/4" hair is starting to stick up in the back and sides. Mild curl right now, but I don't know what to do with it. Starting to look like helmet head. How long from this stage til you can really do something with it?
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Hey Carrol you look awesome. I'm liking both colors on you although I always prefered brunettes
3jaysmom I do believe your hair thinning is a combination of thyriod issues and possible the AIs (I'm assuming you're on them). I had receding on the sides a few years before all this started. Chemo actually got most of it to grow back although I am using Minoxodil & Biotin to keep it going (was using that before too). So far the AIs don't seem to be having an effect on me. Hopefully they can get your thyriod under control.
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Don't mean to be the fun-sucker, but I've been thinking about my hair for the last couple months. It's been growing back since Mid-May and I had it trimmed and colored 3 weeks ago.
My hair was my favorite thing about me. I loved my hair. My hair defined me. Now it is not mine and I am not me. I hate it and can't even look in the miror. I don't wash it for days at a time so it is less fuzzy. People tell me it looks "cute" which makes me cringe.
I keep most of it covered with a buff and I wear lots of garish eye makeup so people notice my garish eyes and not my ugly self.
That's all. My best wishes to all of you, from my heart. Glad you are recovering.
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ahh sofieKatz so sorry you are down and out about your hair. I never took care of my hair and always just wore it up in a ponytail about a year before chemo I went and got a new cut, went every 5 weeks like clockwork, got it trimmed and colored. I LOVED it! I took such good care of it and I was so happy with it, then boom, here comes chemo and it is gone ;(
It will grow back,and mine is kinda fuzzy too, but I use gel on it, and anti frizz shampoo.
Hugs to you (((hug)))
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The last few days my hair resembles the top of "Cyndi Lou Hoo". Any suggestions as to what to use to tame it a little?
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Thank you for all the compliments. it's been a difficult time but I am getting used to it now. I love that it only takes 5 mins to blow dry it. Funny how people like me in my natrual color better than all the money I was dumping into hilights lol. But pre chemo my hair was super thin and flat and the hilights gave it body. So perhaps I wont need that now.
sofiekatz I know exactly how you feel. as you can see from my before pics I looked very different and for better or worse I still yearn for the old me. I have not had as good a time with my reconstruction as I am with my hair. I am learning to go with the flow as best I can. I try to be patient by telling myself it is all temporary. I still plan to grow my hair down to my shoulders again though.
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Carrol - LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your hair and color! Brunette definitely suits you! I think you look younger now!
SofieKatz - I am in your fun sucker club. I have 1 1/4 inch of hair - it looks fine, but like you said, it's not me. I used to have amazing hair, but not anymore! I am still wearing my wig b/c I just can't stand to look at it. For now the wig keeps me warm anyway, so I hope by Spring I will have a decent look. I even tried to take a picture to post and deleted every picture I took. I just cried and couldn't stand them.
Sorry to be a downer too ...
Vicky
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Sofie I had gorgeous silky just above the shoulder hair. I'm keeping it short for now because the texture is different and it doesn't shine like before. I also have bigger boobs now ( ended up a bit bigger than I planned.) So I too look different. I'm getting used to the new look. It takes a bit to get used to change. I do know that my old hair will be back in6-7 more months. By then I'll want this hair back. Hang in there. It just takes time
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Do any of you guys pass by a mirror, get a glimpse of yourself and don't recognize the person looking back at you. I do and I hate it, thinking of removing all the mirrors til my hair grows back, Lol.
I to hate it when someone tells me the super short hair looks cute on me. Who the hell wants to be cute at 40?
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SofieKatz and MamaV, please scoot-over and make room for me on the "fun sucker" bench. My hair is growing...just not fast enough!!!!!!!!!!! I have been looking at me without "MY" hair for 8 months now and it still very painful. I want to look like ME again! MamaV that is why I also still wear my wig...when I have my wig on and see my reflection staring back...it looks more like "me". The "me" that I miss! I am planing to wear my wig through winter as well and hope like you do that by spring I will have a decent style! Thanks for being there ladies!
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Caorl, the blonce color is fun but I do think the brunnette is beatiful! Your style looks great!
I'm in the slow growing group. 5 weeks pfc and I barely have stubble!
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Rocket-You even look cute bald! Love the hair also, so thick!
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I haven't visited this thread in months! I am a little over two years out from PFC. I was one of the slow growers. Before BC I had a chin length bob which I liked. My hair had body and swing etc. Like so many others, my hair came back grey and curly. Once I got used to it I had some fun with color and "punk" sassy looks. Then I decided it was time to get my bob back. After 6 months of growing it I gave up. My hair was nothing like my pre-chemo hair and did not look good; thin on top, lifeless. So a few weeks ago I went back to a super short spiky do and really really like it.
I'm am not trying to put a damper on those of trying to get your hair back to normal, but just to say, like everything else, perhaps there has to a new normal. Once I realised my hair was never going to be the old normal, I got to grips with the new normal and it's just fine.
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Get the kleenex for me...if I have to have "this" hair going forward... I will need a closet full of beautiful wigs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No doubt! I HOPE and PRAY to follow in the path of Carrol and Rocket, I can live with results like theirs. They are my HOPE in the hair department!
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I'm in the same situation I suppose. I'm not thrilled with the PFC hair either. The texture is weird and it's completely unmanageable. I'm about 6 months PFC and my hair isn't very long but is getting waves in it so I suppose it's going to curl. Like many have described, the front is taking its time growing so I have no bangs at all (although its deceiving because it seems to be curled up in a fuzzy mess). I have to wash my hair at night and sleep on it to flatten it and calm the frizz-nothing else works. If I wash it and go out (without sleeping on it) I look like a static ball. My best friend described my hair as being a little bit like a brillo pad (she's the only one who can be that honest with me and get away with it). So, I try to not look in the mirror much and keep hoping it will magically work itself out with more length!
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FLwarrior - there's plenty of room on the bench for you!
And yes, Survivor - that's EXACTLY how I feel! I hate mirrors now!
Oh isn't this all just a blast? Ha ha!
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I'm the strange one. I turned 49+1 2 weeks PFC. You can call me cute any day. :P
But I'm the strange one who keeps buzzing their hair short after chemo0 -
You're not strange! I gave myself a mohawk.
It started out as a fauxhawk (professionally cut), but I am trying to grow the top out. Hate the sides trying to grow in curly, so I shaved them off really short & left a big ridge.
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I have big, thick, curly hair down to my butt .........I am going to be devastated if/when I have to have chemo........my Mother was a beautician........so I grew up "all about hair".....people know be by my hair...I love my hair....:( My friend who has cut & colored my hair for the last 13 years has always refused to cut it short when I would go off on a crazy tangent wanting to "try something new" because she knew I would start balling the moment the hair fell to the floor........I am ever so grateful for that.......Now however...she promised to help me when the time comes...(bless her)....We are going to have a "hair day" cutting my hair into different styles and stuff...right before I start chemo....saving one long lock Today I even thought about maybe giving it to "Locks for Love" I would love to do that!!! You are all so amazing and inspiring.........I keep telling myself that it is only hair and that I will be thankful just to be alive 
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Thank you all for the compliments. For the record, when my hair began to grow back, I too hated the way that it looked. I felt ugly all the time!
Today I didn't blow dry it straight, but rather let it curl all over. I got a lot of compliments on that look too, so for now I'm really enjoying having a choice of straight or curly. I never thought I would ever say that in the first year PFC. It took that long before I startsd to like my hair again.
Try to be patient Ladies. I honestly do know how difficult that is. (((((((HUGS)))))))!0 -
lago: Really??? That sounds like a GREAT idea! I don't mind the idea of wearing a scarf or bandana at all.......and wonder what it would be like with my own hair underneath......!!! I will talk to my hair-friend and see if she has heard anything about it......Thank you
Is that a link?? OH!! I am gonna clicky!!! 
Druanne
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hi gals, no, lago, they gave up on the als for me. i was severely allergic (as with most drugs) but, going back, i saw in old pics that the sides WERE thinning, even bf bc... i wore my hair parted in the middle, and never noticed..! i so wish i knew about that little linky before i had chemo...
believe it, or not, im having a really hard time finding RED hair in a wig under 200.00; so, im saving my pennies.. Paula Young has some wonderful wigs, but not in bright red.. i dyed my hair with true red bf chemo... now, im trying to get used to light auburn. my DH Mur, likes it, but i miss the old me, ike everyone else says....
i have a few chepo wigs, nice from paula young. a girl from this site turmed me on to her.. and i have a really nice one, its a costume wig.. in copper. i have to get it styled, and i think it'll be a keeper then... i did wear a "halo" like your linky, from tlc cat. when i was bald... they also have the earpeices, that just show hair at your earline.. a look thats natural.
im starting ewith a new GP soon, the endo guy doesn't know wether i can tske biotin or not ,with the meds for hyoothyroid... im starting with minoxidol, as the middle (where your bangs start, looks to have some growth... thats the place it needs the most encouragement.. it IS different for us older gals, as our hair was ready to thin, anyway...
I have found a great beautician, the one who shaved my head (she cried, i didn't ) she gave me a trim, and layered what i have. it looks great.. gotta get a pic this wkend...(i dont have a webcam!)
she does wigs, also, so ill have her fix what i got here...
she said that round about mid fiftys our hair starts to thin, in exactly the patch that is slow growing for me. so, im still hopeful.. believe me, the haircut alone, made a big difference.. and, if it grows where its not been, i'll do cartwheels.. in my mind, tho i can't get this fat arse up anymore!!!
i sympathize with every one of you.. our hair IS important to us!!! even i ended up with a little here, not so much there.. i wish i had more money to spend, then i'd totally rock the wig look, at least in the summer, here...luckiluy, i believe for 999% of you, your hair will grow back, and it does 99% grows straighter, as time goes on...
Anyone try WEN? any better results??? im still looking to keep growing...hahaha 3jays
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