Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Welcome Blondie, glad you found us. It is a great group.
Quiet day today, stayed home and did house chores. DH went to the Broom Shop. He is kind of under the weather with allergies or a head cold. If it is not better by Monday I will make an Apt.
Hope all have had a good day. Hope Sandra is doing ok.
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Welcome back, Rita! We missed you.
I figure if anybody is peeking through my windows, they deserve to get a good shock!
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Hi Blondie,
Another welcome! Looks like you have had a long journey, maybe the chemo champ! I was wondering , recognize most of your chemos, as my daughter had all except the Havalen, when she was on her fight. Is that a new one. Good luck with it. Hopefully you will tolerate it well.
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Welcome Blondie -
Right now I'm still mulling over the radio update our state representative to the legislature about laws protecting the elderly. He made a point to say elderly defined as age 65 and over. I wasn't particularly feeling ELDERLY until just then. Hump!
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Mimi, Yeah, what's he thinking. Old is 80+.
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Welcome Blondie. To me you are young.
Today I was thinking about my previous perceptions of 70. This year is certainly not following my mental image.
Carole, congrats on your golf game today.
mommarch, I hope your husband's cold/allergy attack passes quickly.
Rita, I have been worried about you ... I knew about your back problem but not about your blood clot. Was traveling home difficult?
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Mimi, I agree with Wrenn ... elderly is 80+ ... is your state legislator young like under 60. Of course, there are days that this 70 year old body feels 80.
Well, it's 11:30 so I think I will try to go to sleep again. My husband's recent hospitalization (he's recovering well at home now) and a cold have played havoc with my usual sleep pattern.
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Cami and Chevy, are you two okay? Chevy, did I read that you and your daughter have been watching some classic movies? Heidi? ... sounded like fun.
Cami, how did Joey's play go?
I may be mixing up threads. I find that "mixing up" is easily done these days.
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Sally I'm on a couple of threads and sometimes I go on and on and that person isn't even on it. Everyone understands tho/
Joey is the show must go on kind of guy he didn't tell us he was really sick til it was all over and he did well. So tomorrow Leslie takes him to the clinic-I knew he wasn't right but he's a trooper. I was like forget the play stay home with me and my DD gets like stop it.Mom--brat DD.
Oh I have to go to sleep damn, I don't like this anymore.
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Morning gals! Yes..... I am 150! Ha, ha! I just HAVE to be the oldest one on here, but that makes me proud! And I don't think "old" is maybe 90! My neighbors are over 90, and still doing good.... at least SHE is!
It's funny, because the closer you get to a certain age, makes you shiver! But when you GET there, you are thinkin', well THIS isn't so bad, then you go outdoors and rake the lawn. It's all in your head....
Rita, do you wear compression stockings? What did your blood-clot feel like? How did you know you had a blood-clot? See, I wear compression stockings, mostly for my left leg, because the ankle swells so bad once in awhile. And a spot "hurt" sometimes.... The stockings really HELP all that! Sometimes I wear them over-night, and the next day....
I bought a "contraption" thing, that helps me get them on... I was just worried about a "blood-clot".... but wearing the stockings really helps!
Oh Cammers! I'm so sorry about our little Joey! Is he okay? Tell him I asked how he was! If he was here, I would snuggle him up in the recliner, cover him all up, and fix him a snack-tray, with everything he likes...and let him watch anything he wants on TV. I used to do that with "my boys"..... The youngest one STILL likes me to do this, when he comes here, even though he is 26....Ha!
Sally, yes! DD has this series with Shirley Temple! So this time we watched Heidi! And the last time, (I forget) DANG! But little Shirley kept saying "Oh, my goodness!" It was soooooo cute! It's a Mother/Daughter thing for us....Ha! I fixed a "picnic" with deviled egg sandwiches, and macaroni and cheese.... just like I did when they came home from school, for lunch!
Welcome here Blondie! Yes, you are YOUNG.... I mean comparatively speaking.... like compared to ME...Ha!
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It was Curley Top! So cute..... And all of her movies have a happy ending!
We watched it in "color."
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Count your blessings. Once you realize
how valuable you are and how much you have going for you,
the smiles will return, the sun will break out,
the music will play, and you will finally
be able to move forward the life that God intended
for you with grace, strength, courage, and confidence.
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Good morning. It is going to be cooler here today, but still a nice enough day. I'm always thankful, even if I grumble just a little from not seeing as much sun as I think I need. It so improves my disposition.
I have not heard of Havalan either, but then I'm a ways out now and have not kept up with treatments too well. It is always good to hear of new things.....or even older things finding reasons for favor again. We are all and have been so blessed for the many, many women who got into trials not only for their own possible health benefits but to help discover chemo's that really work and what combinations might enhance each other.
Heidi....that was a favorite storybook of mine as a kid. I'm sure I read it over and over. Not sure but I think I often identified with both of the major characters from one time to the next. I think Heidi had a ??cousin??? who would come and visit Heidi and her Grandpa's cottage on the slopes of the Alps where the cousin would recover and get well -- from whatever was ailing her. I think if I recall...my impression was that the cousin was very frail but terribly sweet. Those were the days when I could be anyone I wanted, and quite easily. What a struggle we often have learning how to be ourselves.
Sally...we all mix up things. Just have to be cautious to keep the doggie kibbles away from the people kibbles jars. I recall one time when my kids were little. Their Grandmother ( dad's side ) bought them Animal Crackers ( in those really cute little circus wagon boxes ) and gave them to them in the car. From the backseat she heard the kids complain about how hard the crackers were. So she took one and bit into it.................hmmmm, they were VERY hard to eat. She looked at the box and discovered.....they were actually for dogs. We are really ok, Sally.
Mimi....forget that guy. WE are way ahead of that guy. WE know it is only numbers. It is not the definition of who we are. I'm going to be 69 on my birthday but if things keep going as they have.......I won't feel much over 50. In truth....I think it is much like Chevy said.....these milestones we are reaching are not easy to imagine. Sounds imposing and just a bit on the doddery type side.....but doesn't seem to be that way when we actually arrive at the dreaded station. I think it just serves in the main to help remind me to be a bit more careful and less flamboyant than I once was ---- that and having fallen a couple of times when I didn't bounce one ounce but just went down with the THUD of the century.
Hope you all have a great Saturday............Hugs to Joey. Hope your feeling better.
Blessings
Jackie
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Cami, I hope Joey feels better soon. I'll bet his teacher really appreciates that he kept the show intact.
Jackie, great animal cracker story.
Chevy, I used to make a "special" bed on the couch when my kids were sick. One day I found my son taking care of one of his kids who was sick ... he had made a "special" bed for him on his couch. I loved it when he commented that I used to do it for him.
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Hi Ladies,
Welcome Blondie. This is a great bunch of ladies.
Sandra, I am praying that your surgery went well and you doing okay.
Carole, congrats on your golf game t
Mommarch, great pictures and article. I hope your husband is feeling better.
Rita, welcome home, glad you had safe trip home.
Cammi, I hope Joey is feeling better.
I just turned 65 this month and do not feel that age most of the time but there are days when I feel a lot older.
I should be spring cleaning today but just not in the mood to do much of anything. I did dust and sweep the floors and did some laundry but that is about all that will most likely get done today unless I get more energy.The weather is chilly but not cold today. I took our dog out to comb him since he is shedding so much and ended up playing ball with him. Hopefully, spring is on its way quickly. DH is not feeling so great today. says he is just tired. Hopefully, that is all it is.
Hope everyone has a great weekend.
Emma
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Maybe the legislator needs to go to advancedstyle.blogspot.com and see what 'elderly' really looks like. I think the oldest woman photographed is 102. They look like they're having fun. One woman said she always loved playing dress up and is still doing it.
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Thanks all
Cammie how is Joey....
I might not be as old as all of you but I am still old...not sure when it happened tho..
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Yes Termite - I sure hope we hear from Sandra soon.
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Hi ladies,
Welcome to our thread, Blondie. I have posted on several different threads and must admit that this is my favorite. All the gals are so genuine and upbeat! You have chosen a good place to hang out.
I also hope that we get some news about Sandra soon! My thoughts and prayers have been with her.
Carole, there have been a few people out on our Illinois golf courses but it's still to wet and soggy for me. I like it to be a little warmer, too.....and I prefer green grass to brown grass! I just want it all, don't I?
My blood clot appeared 4 days after my back issue in Florida. I ended up in prompt care as my leg swelled up and was red and hot to the touch. They did an ultrasound there to rule out deep vein thrombosis and told me that it was a superficial blood clot that would disappear in time by using aspirin and hot compresses. They thought that I had damaged the walls of one of my protruding veins when I passed out and hit the floor. Like I said, the clot is still there. It feels like a hard rope but does not hurt anymore and is smaller than it was. I haven't tried compression stockings for it. Do you think I should, Chevy? It seems that there is always something that needs attention or "fixing" anymore! :-)
Mommarch...I enjoyed your pictures. I have always been interested in your broom making business. Thanks for sharing them.
I am slowly getting caught up on the posts that I have missed. I must say that you gals have been pretty busy during my absence! Hugs to all of you!
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Hello All,
I'm new to this board, in fact, I've used this site more this past week than since joining it last August.
I live in Wake Forest, NC, arrived here from sunny San Diego, CA last July. Had been caring for my mom for the past 10 years. I am 66 years old, was diagnosed and last April and had single MX on May 29. I live in my DH, DD and 14 yr old grandson. This coming Wednesday, March 26, I'm going to have reconstruction and a reduction. Am a bit nervous, which I think is natural. At this age I've had a number of ops in a lifetime.
I have been exercising 4-5 times a week at the local Y, altho I'm overwt I think I'm in pretty good health otherwise.
Nice to meet you.
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Welcome, globalgal. I look forward to getting to know you. At some point we'll all worry when you don't check in.
Jackie, I loved the story about Heidi, too. I read it numerous times.
Actually my golf game wasn't good enough for congratulations! But I did enjoy getting out. Rita, our golf courses aren't at their best yet but the grass is turning green nicely. We've had so much rain this winter. Too much of anything in regard to the weather is usually not good.
Cami, that's sweet that Joey was conscientious about doing his part in the play. It's a good character trait to be dependable. I think you're a little bit fond of that boy!
I had a pleasant day. Accomplished a few chores but not enough to brag.
Hugs.
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Welcome GlobalGal, were glad you found our meeting place. You sound like you came through ok with your diagnosis and hopefully are doing ok with your Femara. I sometimes think anything we have to do after a while, and especially after a cancer diagnosis becomes really off-putting. No one much is happy about having operations. I do think though that getting this done and likely with that reduction at the same time will give you a great look and I always thought for those just needing a mx --- you'd feel a bit lop-sided.
The fact that you have been working out should be of help ( lots of muscles built up ) as I don't think they let you lay around too long after surgery now. We will all be wishing you well that 's for sure. I hope you decide to come often. The door is always open and the teapot ready to go.
Blessings
Jackie
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Good evening, Well we had a day of spring today, then back to winter this coming week. Oh well, at least our mountain of snow is pretty well melted.
Welcome to you Global gal. Hoping all goes well for your recon.
It does give you a doubletake when you hear an elderly woman , 60! I know at 71, I don't feel elderly either! My aunt used to tell me " I look in the mirror and wonder who the old grey haired woman is. Then I realize it's me! Thats why I keep doing my hair, maybe I won't get "old"!
Went to our Home show today and had a really good gourmet dinner at Perkins. Saw a lot of Robins and geese, plus our usual deer, today.
Hugs, Jean
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Hope you guys don't mind my dropping by. I am 64 and was DX 3 years ago this past January with Stage II, Grade 1 IDC. I had a lumpectomy followed by 33 RADS treatments and currently on Tamoxifen because of my osteoporosis. I started out with Arimidex but my Oncologist switched me to Tamoxifen because Arimidex attacks the bones and obviously I couldn't afford for that to happen. I live in Collierville, Tennessee, have 5 children and 8 grandchildren. My youngest son/child is 24 and the one I am the closest too. He just graduated from college last year. We don't have the inclement weather some of you have - there are good things about living in the south and I am thankful for that. I don't do well in cold weather. Its nice to have a forum where we are all about the same age. I never feel that old but apparently society has decided I am. I don't think about it much until a store clerk gives me that discount for 60 and over...yikes. I also have 4 siblings. I lost 2 brothers and my parents but I am blessed to still have brothers and a sister still living. My husband is one of 5 children; all of his sibs are still living as are his parents except that his mother has Alzheimer's and has for the past 5 years. It is very sad. Hello to everyone....diane
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Welcome globalgal. Keep us posted on your surgery as we will be thinking of you. San Diego to Wake Forest was quite a move. Had you always wanted to live in Wake Forest? If I am being too nosy, please forgive me and ignore my question.
Hi Diane and welcome. Please come by often.
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Ladies - Sandra is home in her recliner. She posted details on the Exchange thread and I'm sure she'll get over here after a nap or three.
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Thanks for the warm welcome and hello edwards750. I was taking care of my mom in San Diego - she passed last February at age 90. I'd moved back from Kuala Lumpur in 2003 when she was DX with breast cancer. She had a lumpectomy and RAD. Wish I had known more then to ask what kind of BC she had. Little did I know.
I had lived in Tarboro, NC in the early 90s before going off to teach English in China. I've lived in 9 states and 5 countries. I love traveling, don't mind being in airports or train stations altho I'm not crazy about bus stations. Guess my hobby is learning about other cultures.
As I had 2 tumors, one 5.0 and the other 5.3 it seemed to be a sure thing that I would be Stage 3 and need chemo. My family here in NC felt I should move back home now to have support for the chemo. My brother and wife, as well as San Diego friends, had been an extraordinary support team. However, my bro and wife were about to have their first grandchild and I wanted them to focus on the little one, not me, besides, it was really time to be back with my own family. I was lucky!
The cancer was only in 1 of the tumors and it was only 2.8 cms. No chemo or radiation needed. Meanwhile my DH, younger daughter and grandson bought this house in Wake Forest about 8 yrs ago. Missing San Diego for sure and doing my best to make new friends and settle in here. Have not found a support group here yet, but did join the LiveStrong program and the local YMCA in late Sept and have continued going 4-5 times per week.
I have been thru some "guilt" about not needing chemo or RAD. May sound odd that , but I've certainly felt that. I'm doing much better emotionally, at first I cried everyday for months. I experienced many challenges other than BC since Dec 2012, but thing seems to be much better now. I am SO PLEASED to have found a "support group". Again, thanks for the warm welcome.
Am learning so much from you experienced folks. Thank you.
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Add me to the welcome committee for Global and Edwards. And MinusTwo thanks for the news about Sandra. Naps are just so delicious. That legislator who defined elderly as age 65 must be at least that himself. I know he's trying to do a good thing, but it sure did feel like a smack coming straight out of my radio. I'm actually happier about myself these days than I was at 20. Although my birthday is a couple weeks away my kids and grandkids gathered to surprise me with brunch, gifts, an afternoon pedicure and then at home movie (Frozen) and popcorn with the kids. And the gifts show I'm not falling apart yet. Pedicure to look pretty, new walking shoes for my days on the treadmill or at the rec center, and a new GPS to guide me while I travel around the country going to clown conventions.
A young woman (20 something) who is the daughter of a dear friend is doing a vlog (video log) and a blog at this address http://www.thattimeihadcancer.com/. She has been diagnosed with cancer and her mom has been diagnosed three times. It's called That Time I Had Cancer and is interesting to see how frank, funny and informative she is. He dad was a successful author and playright as well as motivational speaker. He wrote the book/play Do Black Patent Leather Shoes Really Reflect UP? Her mom was in the first US production of My Fair Lady playing the littlest to the oldest as she matured. I actually helped him name the book.
He was a high school student of my husband's and called annually for 45 years on the anniversary of meeting my husband. Friends and family were so important to him and he always did encourage us all to live each day fully because you don't really know how you will be tomorrow. If you look at it, let me know if you like it, share if you enjoyed it.0 -
First a rousing welcome to Diane. I'm so glad you found us. I think we are all surprised to NOT actually feel we are quite as old as our birth dates imply. I have simply never been this age before and it doesn't seem old at all. I think growing up, the grandma "types" did seem much older. Those women though did not have the life expectancy we do now, and I do think some of the harsher aspects of their lives "aged" them more so.
The other thing is....I may have no idea of what I'm saying.....but in any case we are admitting to nothing here. You know, just give me my discount discreetly please and we will all be happy.
Globalgal -- it does not sound totally odd to me that you had some guilt over not needing chemo and rads. I'm just sorry it was so emotional for you. You know.....it is something like a trip......everyone sees something a little different. We are all different in our diagnosis as well. Some people have tumors that are not found as soon and maybe have a slightly longer and more involved road, but it is no different from people who have heart attacks with more damages, or strokes or whatever befalls. In the end.....you still had a frightening, scary disease where you had a lot of un-knowns to deal with. From what you said, you had a lot of different issues, and your cancer diagnosis was just a part of it. I'm glad things worked out as they have.
Sounds like in the meantime you were doing some wonderful things and really did hop all over the globe. How fantastic.
Just got home from work and it is almost 10 p.m. so I'm going to fun along.....but did way to say hi and glad that both of you "youngsters" found us here.
See you all in the morning with a quote.
Blessings
Jackie
ETA: Mimi....you are a treasure of a clown. I will be looking at the sight which sounds so very interesting and wonderful.
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