Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Hi gals
Well I have to tell u--of course he watches TV and commercials and there was a commercial on with ladies mud wrestling and he looked at me and asked why do women degrade themselves like that, I don't understand it. So I said say that when u get older cuz most men love it. And he said I hope I never love it cuz women should respect themselves and men should always respect women. We'll see. LOL
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Rita thank u for the recipe, I was trying to think of something to bring tomorrow (different) and everything is all homemade including the wine--so I was WTF, then I remembered this recipe and sounds great so I'll make it and bring that. Whew that problem is solved.
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Hi everyone
I was getting really jealous of you all talking about your 7-9 year old grandchildren - then I remembered I will be seeing mine in 18 days, and felt a lot better. My problem with overnights is that my DD insists they both stay the same night. Not that I don't enjoy them always, but the whole idea of sleepovers for me is having that one-on- one time with each. The younger one is 5 now, and I think old enough to understand that he stays one night, his sister another.
I also had no special plans for this weekend, but my son just called from SC and we are going to meet him half-way for dinner near a beautiful park, so I will get some much needed time with my ten month old grandaughter. His wife is a very strict vegan, which greatly limits our restaurant choices. My DD#1, who will be driving me, is not thrilled that we are driving 1 1/2 hrs to eat a a Mellow Mushroom. I could care less where we eat - I will be with 2 of my children and 3 of my grandchilden. I'd be happy with a hot dog from a vendor.
I hope you all have a great Mothers Day.
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Anne, how wonderful that you'll have a lunch get-together with kids and grands for Mother's Day! Hope you enjoy the occasion.
Cami, I was amazed and impressed with Joey's remarks about women.
Mommarch, isn't it great to have a handyman dh? I have one, too.
Hope Jackie had a restful night last night.
Hello to everyone else not mentioned by name. Happy Mother's Day to you moms.
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One who gains strength by overcoming obstacles
possesses the only strength which can overcome adversity.
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Hi all,
I'm back among the critters here at home. Hadt a quiet night at work. Slept well ( huge bed sitting high off the floor ) and stairs for the Yorkies so they could come up and sleep. They are quiet sleepers so all was fine. There really is no place like home though and I'm glad to be back. We all know now that this can work if the need arises again.
Came home with a message on my machine and will do a little cat-sitting for a friend ( my last patient's daughter ) when she goes to Florida a week from tomorrow. Just a few days, and it is mainly feeding her cats and keeping the boxes clean. I don't spend much time there......just mainly tending to the cats once a day.
MomMom -- so glad to see you back. Glad you will have the chemo. It is hard for the TN people as so many of the rest of us do have more tx options. Making darn sure that all the "cells" are wiped out will give the best change for a clean slate that stays that way.
As I'm about ready to sink in my chair.....sending lots of love and Mother's Day wishes to all. Probably the finest part of my life -- motherhood.
Love & Best Wishes and
Blessings,
Jackie
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Jackie, where do find those cute items for the holidays.. I love the bears with Happy Mothers Day.. Would like to send something like that to my DILJust got back from shopping for baby shower gift. So many different things since we had our kids. Found the stroller they registered for on sale for half price but the store was out. Clerk said he could order for us online but the price online was the original price. No thanks!!!
Hope everyone is enjoying this great day and Happy Mother's Day to all.
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Good morning everyone and again.....a wonderful Happy Mother's Day to each and everyone. If your yourself are not a mother....that's ok. You had a mother and that means I have a friend due to her.
Blessings,
Jackie
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Termite,
I get most of the things I use by going to my Internet home page.......that happens to be MSN right now since Microsoft fixed me and my computer woes a short while ago.
Up along the top of the white square where you type in what you want to 'see', are some words. One of them is IMAGES. Just click on that......you may see a little jump or not???? I don't look anymore because I know that will get me into the store of images.
Then in the white bar that is still there type in what " images" you might be hoping for. For the bears I just typed in something like sparkly mothers day pics. For the one I put in today I asked for animated sparkly mothers day graphics.
You can look through all of them, find what you want......then copy and paste the picture/graphic wherever you want it.
On my windows 7 copying and pasting is very easy. I just hit the pic and a little screen comes up. Has a number of options on it.....I just hit copy.
To copy something is your CTRL key and the C on your key board.
Then go to where you want to use the graphic and once you are there.....just hit CTRL and the V on your keyboard for paste.
I have to admit.....from having different computers ( they can work a bit differently ) I think it took me about five yrs. to learn all of this by myself. I was always in such envy of people who could use that part of their computer. Now, I don't even think about it much, but am always grateful that most of the time I can copy and paste not only pictures and other graphics, but items that I want to share with others.....sometimes articles from the Internet etc. I'm very self taught on my computer. Never wanted one......thought they would be either too expensive or complicated for our household.......but about 18 yrs. ago, Dh bought an old nearly filled up one. This was when it was a lot harder to open things up --- still not sure how I managed to do that, and when we moved back home here.....I got a bit more serious about using the thing. For the first four yrs. or so.....I actually worried that I would blow it up somehow and end up with a slightly charred useless machine. Isn't it great when our worst fears really don't happen????
Hope you all have a really wonderful day.
Blessings
Jackie
ETA: If those things above don't work.....you can take anything that I, or anyone have posted and copy it from the post....like the bears above. Just do the CTRL and C --- Dh always laughs and I hit the C several times and when you drop it into the spot where you want it to be....us the CTRL and hold it down while you hit the V on your keyboard.
Enjoy.
ETA.....I had to change the P into a V in these instructions for View......as you are copying and pasting on my machine ( windows 7 ) when you do CTRL and C . You may have to "play" for awhile to see how it may work on yours Termite.
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Take time to be
quiet. This is something that we don't do enough in this busy world of
ours. We rush, rush, rush, and we are constantly listening to noise all
around us. The human heart was meant for times of quiet, to peer deep
within. It is when we do this that our hearts are set free to soar and
take flight on the wings of our own dreams! Schedule some quiet
"dream time" this week. No other people. No cell
phone. No computer. Just you, a pad, a pen, and your thoughts.
Jim
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Jackie, I have been meditating recently. I am amazed at the ideas and thoughts that appear in the silence.
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Happy Mother's Day to all
Love all the cute graphics everyone has posted. I had a great time with kids and grandkids yesterday. There was an Art Festival one street over, then we walked the Riverwalk a bit. I was so tired, I slept till noon today. Now DSIL is cooking dinner for us- he is doing London Broil on the grill. He is the best cook on the grill I have ever known.
Enjoy your day- and for those that are not moms, celebrate your own Moms!
Anne
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Welcome MomMom, Happy Mothers day to all. I am 65 today. I got to use my Medicare and Supplement when I saw the ONC last Monday. Hurray. They told me I only owe $281 on my 20% of my chemo, etc.
I have been paying it off at $50 a month for 3 years.
DH is fine, he got it done, much harder for him now. Yes Carol it is great to have a handy man.
They got the vintage 83 toyota MH fixed and we are making covers and covering the floor, etc. We will leave on Wed. after my Family Dr. apt. and drive to Mason, TX about 6 hours away and stay at the county park, it costs $10 and is very nice. Then we will drive on into College Station on Thurs about another 5 hours. I think we will leave there for Pensacola on Monday and stay over somewhere in LA and go on in on Tuesday.
If I can get the picture on here I want to share what showed up in our yard here in the mountains this afternoon. They are domestic, I suppose someone lost them
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Hmmm...I had a wonderful Mother's day with DD and her kids and husband. But I'm not sure what to think of this. A neighbor at our vacation house asked her how I was. "Oh, fine. Busy." Well says the neighbor "I mean about the breast cancer." DD says "I guess I forgot about that. I just checked it off the list when she was done." BTW, the neighbor had a mastectomy 10 years ago. On the one hand it says to me I didn't overburden the family with my problems, but it feels a little hurtful. Thoughts anyone? She is a busy mom with a anxiety producing job.
You can tell she related the story herself to me.
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Mommarch---Happy Birthday. Hope you had a great dayJackie----Thanks
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Happy Birthday mommarch and lots and lots more. Hope it was special just like you.
Blessings
Jackie
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Mimi I think it depends on how we act toward our kids while we going thru a lot of stuff. And since our kids are older usually with kids it's like we present it like no big deal it's over and I'm fine. I never wanted my kids to come to the Dr. with me, or tests--still don't-- or any chemo cuz then they would see more and I didn't want any of that. So sometimes our kids seem to think Oh it must not be that worrysome, o when chemo and rads are done they think it's all done even emotionally--that's how I would take it, especially with what u'r doing it sounds like u are enjoying every day and doing what u love. If that's what u were talking about.
OK Rita I made the peach Fluff and when I first had it done it was so sweet. but after sitting in fridge for a bunch of hrs. everyone thought it was great. I brought it and said I never tasted this before and never made it so if u don't like it don't worry about my feelings.--Well it was good--Actually it was so easy Joey made most of it and cleaned everything up and put it in the container. Easy Peasy
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Mimi - I think when your daughter sees you frequently and it appears that everything is fine, maybe it's easy to forget. At least she feels comfortable telling you about it & opening the discussion.
I'm single & my only son lives on the West Coast. He came for both surgeries in 2011. I quit talking about it once I was NED. Then with the recurrence in 2013 he came for port surgery w/the first chemo and again for the ALND surgery in the fall. I know it's no fun for 40 year olds to hear nothing but health issues. I can remember at that age bitching about my step-MIL who talked about nothing except who was sick & how & why & etc. So like you - I've tried very hard to talk about other things. Other than that he's never gone to a treatment & didn't even meet my MO or RO. But if I don't update him after the various steps, he emails to ask. Maybe makes sense since he's my only child & he knows I'm alone. He must worry some although he doesn't talk about it. He's so much more rational than I am and has been very helpful making lists of questions throughout the journey.
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Hmmm, I think like you Mimi, though understanding to an extent, I think I'd be feeling a little distressed too. I mean this is not exactly a bout of pneumonia that has gone on. Still, maybe your daughter is/was so relieved ( with her high stress job etc. ) that when things turned out without loads of odd complications or worse yet that things were bad with you from the very beginning, maybe she felt like there was no reason for her to "hover" and spend time worrying about "good results".
I feel like she sees you as very strong Mimi and she is your daughter and she feels that she too is having to hold up her own world. I think she doesn't think about this because it no longer exists for her. Her own problems need constant attention apparently so if YOU are fine, she does not have to find any more energy to use with you.
I sort of wonder if she realizes the significance of this disease. It never really goes away now. We all hope and pray we will go quietly and peacefully in old age and I certainly think I will, but it is a shadow that never goes completely away.
I think time will put a lot in perspective and mellow things down. We have all said things in certain ways and later down the road wished we hadn't . I recall telling my own Mom once that she was old fashioned. At the time, to me her being that way was actually comforting to me and gave me a certain sense of security. I thought when I said it, that I had a lot of love in my voice.
After she went home that day......she told my Dad when she got home how hurt she was. My dad came over and really gave me what for. He did not let me explain that I actually meant it in a complimentary way. So, maybe as daughters sometimes we come off as KNOWING exactly how we really MEAN something.....and might never know that it is not perceived that way at all. I had no idea that day that my mother apparently didn't hear the love and admiration that I thought was in my voice.
I am just going to assume most of the same thing in this instance.
Blessings
Jackie
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To honor and respect means to think of the land and water and plants and
animals who live here as having a right equal to our own to be here. We are not the supreme and all-knowing
beings, living at the top of the pinnacle of evolution, but in fact we are
members of the sacred hoop of life, along with the trees and rocks, the coyotes
and the eagles and fish and toads, that each fulfills its purpose. They each perform their given task in the
sacred hoop, and we have one, too.
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Good morning everyone,
Pretty here and already quite warm. I can't believe the snowfalls and cold in the Denver area. Chevy....wish I could send you some of what we have. We will likely have some rainstorms today....sometime. We might continue along with the same throughout the week. I am never sure no matter what the weatherman says....the global warming cycle seems to make it a bit harder to predict.
Hope you will all have a good Monday though.
Blessings
Jackie
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Hi everyone
I was just on the "Spring Rads" thread talking about the same kind of thing. My kids were all great thru the chemo and surgery, but now that I am getting rads, if I show them how red and angry looking it is, or say I am uncomfortable or tired, they're response is unanimous - "yeah Mom, but you're almost done". Like because I'm almost done, the physical and/or emotional stuff doesn't count. I am not, and never been a complainer, but I have always been very honest and open with my kids, so I didn't whine thru this process, but I did tell and show them what was happening. I think part of it is that they cannot handle the thought of me being seriously sick. And I think they just want their Mom back- the one that takes care of them, not the one who needs to be taken care of. I want that back too -I just don't know if I will ever be that exact same person. My left upper arm has been painful for more than a month. I went to my PC a few weeks ago, and she gave me muscle relaxers for 10 days and said if that doesn't help, to come back and we will look further- probably X-rays, etc. I am terrified that it will be cancer - my mind says the chance of that being the case are very slim, but my emotions don't quite accept that. But it keeps getting worse, so I am going to have to call her again.
Happy Birthday MomMarch - hope you had a great day.
Anne
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Anne, Get checked for lymphadema. It shows up in various ways and the sooner it's treated, the better.
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Ah, genetics! Took my 91 yr. old mother to her PC dr. for regular checkup today. Her numbers for cholesterol and triglycerides were great. She has never watched her fat consumption, has eaten fried foods all her life, has been considerably overweight for much of her life. She wasn't so lucky with genes when it came to osteo arthritis, though. That has caused her a lot of pain.
I must have inherited my father's genes pertaining to cholesterol but, thankfully, I haven't had any problems with arthritis.
I don't have much to say in the discussion about children/family/friends not taking our cancer seriously. Thanks to bc.org and having online friends with whom to share worries and complaints, I don't say much to friends or family about my bc. However, I was open about the surgery option I chose. And I was fortunate not to have to undergo chemo, thanks to a low oncotype number. No rads because of choosing bmx. So far, so good. I am aware that a bc survivor has a greater likelihood of developing other kinds of cancer than does a person who has not had cancer of any kind.
Glad to hear about all the Mother's Day celebrations that many of you enjoyed. Ours consisted mostly of a large noon dinner and some visiting among members of the family who were able to attend. My mother enjoyed the day a lot and that was the main objective.
Hope everyone has had/is having a good day.
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Well I think we all think about the same way, that's why we can come here and let loose---But I do know that when I die I would like to be in my 90's in bed with my lover and hes' so distraught but relieved he just turned 21 so he can drown his sorrows.
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Cami: what a hoot. I'd even accept a 40 year old. Too bad George Clooney seems to be taken now.
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I feel our children just seem to think once most of the treatment is done that we are ok.
My DDIL in PA ran the Susan Komen Cancer run in Philadelphia on Sunday morning. Her work sponsored the group that ran. On her card that was pinned on their backs it was reversible. On one side she ran in celebration of me and the other side said she ran in memory of her Aunt Pat (my sister that just passed away last July from cancer) They did not tell me she was running it until Sunday when they called for Mother's Day.
I either talked to or saw all my sons between Saturday evening and Sunday night. It is nice to hear them answer love you too when they were either leaving or hanging up the phone after I would say love you. It was a good day but a lazy day around our house on Sunday.
Carole--so happy for you that you still can celebrate with your mom. My mom was 91 when she passed away. Its funny cuz it was 5 years ago but I still catch myself reaching for the phone to call and tell her something exciting when it happens. My sisters say they do the same thing.
Nice day but just started raining on my way home from work. We are suppose to have some serious storms tonight. Hopefully, the weatherman is wrong
Have a great week
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My computer. Rashes again and I have to work on a very old iPad, so will need to be surprisingly brief.. apple will fix the computer still under warrenty..
But what a blessing to have friends my age with the same concerns and with wonderful insights they Re willing to share. Thank you all for the encouragement about DD. it is true we cannot appear to be strong and well, and then be hurt that the worry is not foremost in our children's thoughts. I know you are right,and I felt the same double sided emotions. But it helped to hear it from others. I'm in a funny place as far as real friends my age. Because I just retired all my work friends are younger than me even though we worked together twenty + years and became close friends. Even the retired ones are five to seven years younger than me because I was a stay at home mom for years. So you all are really the peers that understand.
Mommarch I'd send a cake, but the oven crashed. Hope your day was perfect.
First follow up with the MO went fine. No concerns about blood work which she orders just to be indirectly assured other organs are working as expected. All normal. No more appointments until Sept since August is vacation for me. She agreed it the worry never goes away, but felt first year is greatest concern and gets less and less as time goes on.
I feel so ego enteric tonight, but thanks for the help today. Carole you made me laugh, cut I'll take a forty year old too. My husband was 35 when we married and that was pretty good!
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