Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Instead of edit my computer glitches above, I'll just say God protect us all from computer rashes.
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"Our attitudes control our lives. Attitudes are a secret power working
twenty-four hours a day, for good or bad. It is of paramount importance that we
know how to harness and control this great force." Tom Blandi0 -
Today's quote is right on target. Attitude counts for a lot in reaching goals.
Hope everyone is having a good day.
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Cam -- purrrfect if I am saying so for you. I love it .
Jackie
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Every human has four endowments- self awareness, conscience,
independent will and creative imagination.
These give us the ultimate human freedom...
The power to choose, to respond, to change.
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Cami, that is really cute! Gave me a big smile!
Today's rain chance was 60 per cent but we've mainly had the 40 per cent of no rain so far. I did drive under a heavy shower on the way home this afternoon from day 2 of a golf tournament. I'm pretty sure I had the worse score. And lunch was just ok. A salad bar and baked potato bar. Dessert, though, was fantastic. A chocolate mousse topped with a couple of fat blueberries and slices of fresh strawberry. Glad the serving was small because I would have eaten it all!
Sure hope the forecast is accurate about some drier, cooler air moving in. It's only May and I'm tired of perspiring. Thank goodness for air conditioning.
Hi to everyone.
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We are back in light jackets here. Had rain all night and most of the day now. Getting pretty tiresome. I'm not much of a rain fan, and having our temps drop by 30 or 35 degrees was not so much fun. The drop would have been ok save for the rain and dampness which makes cooler air give you a chilled sensation. Not fun.
I feel so for Chevy and parts of Colorado getting snow. I doubt it is un-heard of, but definitely would irritate me. I was so ready or winter to be gone.
Otherwise I'm enjoying my class. Been using the machines in the gym room and wow does that make a difference. I'm sure I will have to figure something else for after the class....the memberships can be a bit on the pricey side. Does sound like that I definitely have needed the resistance work to get going with re-starting some wt. loss, but truly getting into "better" overall shape. I just couldn't get disciplined -- needed the class to jump-start I guess.
Hope you all have had a good day.
Blessings
Jackie
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Jackie
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Hi gals! Been so cold and snowy here, for the last week! I'm covering up my tomatoes for one more night, and then it is supposed to get warmer! At least I didn't lose anything, when it got down to the 20's!
Our Daughter's.... Both of mine are different... the one in Orlando has probably forgotten..(just kidding) that I even had breast cancer! But actually, I haven't had any problems like you guys.... didn't go through chemo, just radiation for a week, so other than me losing my hearing from the Tamoxifen, I haven't had any problems! So we don't even talk about breast cancer anymore.... except I am always on them to get their Mammograms...
My broken him was ANOTHER problem! But it's been 3 months today that they "fixed" it, and I'm just now walking without a cane! My Daughter that is here, is so watchful, and protective when we go out... she holds my arm, and helps any way she can.... She's the one that is coming over tomorrow for our "play date" and another Shirley Temple movie.... Ha!
DD in Orlando pretends she is MY Mom.... Ha! So I had better behave, agree, eat right, and NOT go to the Emergency for any old thing... "Because that's what's wrong with our whole medical system".... blah blah! And she keeps threatening me with another dog.... I can't take it right now.... Still hurts too much from losing Lacee... But she thinks she knows best... I told her she would be taking "dog" back home with her, because we just CAN'T..... And I told her ..."Pretend that I AM THE MOM!"
Also, I know some Daughter's are not even in their Mom's lives! I don't know all the stories, but maybe things happen, or are said, or I think things just happen, and we can lose that closeness maybe? I mean I haven't, but my child-hood friend, has not talked to her Daughter for maybe 25 years! And I don't even ask anymore, "don't you have any idea of what happened?" Because she says she doesn't...
And another friend, only sees her 2 grown Daughter's and one Granddaughter, on Birthday's! Usually not even Holiday's! I guess it's just the way they are...
Maybe a little talk, over tea, or when you are alone, and could bring up things that kind of "hurt" you, and maybe explain that we will always be scared to death of getting cancer again, and to us, we are always "looking over out shoulder." So being "out of the woods" is just for now.... who knows what might happen next year, or in 5 years, or even tomorrow ? I mean I could even FALL again..... Ha! I was more laid up with THAT, than with my breast cancer!
So every morning when I wake up, I say to myself..... "Thank you Lord for another day! " And then I get up and see what mischief I can get into!
And every night, I thank God for another day.... even if things didn't go like I would have liked...
It's just so nice to know you are all here, and we can talk like we are "family!"
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So cute, Jackie! Love the cartoon! Glad you're working out. We older women really have to work at keeping up our strength. I hope to go with dh to the gym tomorrow morning. Don't look forward to it but always feel good when I'm leaving.
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Rain, rain, rain! We needed it, though, but it sure has messed up my golfing this week! :-) It's a wonder that everybody doesn't have pneumonia with the wicked temperature changes that we've had, but those temperature swings seem pretty mild when compared to that cold weather that hit Chevy's neck of the woods.
Cami.....glad that you like the peach fluff!
It sounds like everybody had a great Mother's Day. We headed up to the northern part of the state to put flowers on Mom's grave and then came back through Rock Island and ate at Jumer's. It was a nice day.
Mommarch...Happy Belated Birthday! I am so hoping that the judge will rule in your favor and you will soon have a "gal" living with you.
Welcome Mommom! This is a great thread filled with awesome women. Visit us often and we'll try to help you all we can. As Chevy said, "We are like family here."
Jackie...glad that you are enjoying your exercise class. Do any of you have access to Silver Sneakers program through your insurance? I am loving the Silver Sneaker classes and they are completely free. You also get access to everything else at a Silver Sneaker approved facility, like the machines, track and pool. They give you a card like a credit card and you just swipe in when you enter and walk right in. If you haven't heard of the program, you might call your insurance company and see if it's an option fo you. It's certainly worth it.
Well, I'm tired even though I didn't do that much today to make me tired. I think it's the dreary weather and the rain!
Everyone have a good Thursday!
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My RO was delighted to hear I started line dance lessons. Gotta have some fun!
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Correction it was the MO. She also laughed tons when I told her I had virus first night on Arimidex and thought my 102 fever was extreme hot flash. She sees the humor in life.
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Chevy u r so right..I don't tell my kids every thing dont want to worry them.. I am supposed to b the parent n the strong one n they have lives without getting all caught up in me. N it is just 1 that does any thing my son is in denial, my dd1 is about her n her problems most of the time n thr twins, well they pia most of the time, they help when they feel like it
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Morning gals.... Yes Blondie... I get it! We are supposed to feel like we are in charge of..... the world! But when these girls of ours grow up, into "us" they tend to feel like THEY are masters of the universe!
Some do, and some don't! I remember when telling my oldest about my BC.... right away she said "Take them off!" Honestly I was just crushed! And I stumbled along in that conversation, and finally said "That really hurt, you telling me to take them off!" And she said "Mom, it's because I would rather have YOU, without your breasts than not have you at all."
She was looking at the extremes, and I was just looking for a way out! SHE had seen her friends, and her friends Mother lose their life to BC... So she was coming from a different place. One of her young friends had a more aggressive type, so she opted for a double mastectomy... and is doing fine...
Sons and Daughter's are just different... we just go along with them.... but don't let things they say or do bother your way of thinking, or the path you are taking.... So no.. we don't tell them everything.... That's what we are for here...
For them, we try to put a different spin on things...because we know what they will come back at us with..... because after all, they are running the universe!
Geez, I sound like I am almost making sense...! Well, it CAN happen..... Ha!
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The truest help we can render afflicted people is not
to take their burdens from them, but to call out their
best energy, that they may be able to bear the burden.
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Hi, popping in. I was posting with another member. I thought sharing the below information may be helpful to you
.The link www.needymeds.org is to a web site started by a Social Worker and a doc. It is a tricky site to use. The first page leads to a several hundred resource pages. But I think this first page, does not project the wealth that lies beneath. Be patient when following the links within the site. There are sections that are disease and drug specific. The specific page then links to lists of organizations that provide monetary or other types of assistance.
Register first and do the request for assistances form. Reason: the request for assistance form is filed. If you apply to 1 or 20 organizations/companies, the forms don't need to be repeatedly filled out. The system is designed to pull the from the original form. There may be a few particulars that need to be added to a companies/organizations form.
All the pharmaceutical companies have patient assistance programs. All the drug manufactures are listed there
The other way to reach drug manufactures is 1. call the manufactuer patient assistance number(goolge keywords: drug name and manufacturer, then to webpage>>>patient assistance. Very time consuming.
There is so much more on www.needymeds.org. It took a bit of time to wander through the whole site. I've shared a telephone walk through with many friends and relatives. I even called healthcare facilities to tell them about this link.
For completeness, there are many ways to get financial assistance for whatever you need. There are organizations that will do things for you i.e volunteers that buy groceries, drive, install handrails, build wheelchair ramps.
How to find the info besides from the link above? FIND the SOCIAL WORKER(SW). It's there job to know these things
Talk to all of the following 1. cancer center SW, 2.hospital SW, 3. Insurance companies SW, 4. County SW. 5. church outreach leader.I requested from my insurance carrier a consult with a SW. That one appointment with the insurance carrier Social Worker, led to grants totaling $10,550. The meeting with the cancer centers SW, led to coverage of neulasta for $4000.00.
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I'm typing this while cycling at the gym! We don't have a Silver Sneakers option here but after my Illness 2 yrs ago I was ordered by the neurologist to physical therapy. So we checked out this gym.....Fitness Over 50. I balked big time as I didn't want to hang out with "old" people, lol. Well here I am working out 3-4 Times a week and love it! Most folks are around our age but there are some 80+ people who run rings around me!
My family has been very supportive of me through BC and GBS but they follow my lead on whether not we talk about any of it. Maybe that is how some of your kids are handling things, Mimi. Your DD sees how well you're moving on so she is doing the same?
Well after 40 min. Of this it's time to move on to the Ab machine....yuck! Have a great day everyone.
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Hi everyone--
Judy u'r a powerhouse being able to type and workout--I can't type right when that's all I'm doing. (Shut up Chevy)
Oh DD's what cn u do--when they're are adults with their own kids--they do turn motherly towards u-My oldest DD is the bossiest person u could ever meet and was always like that--she was hard to raise, so she does act like my mom but now she acts like my mom with spoiling me so we get along well. haahah Joey and I are going there Sat.--well my other DD and SIL too, but Joey and I stay overnight- and she makes me the best coffee in the morning and since we don't live together totally waits on me--I kinda like that. And she called today to see what I wanted to eat Sat. so I have to decide the food and dessert. Since this weekend is for me---and my DD that I live with well u all know Joey is my caretaker and they just come in when they want to take me to the ER-a lot-so we have that problem--but basically I raised my girls as a single parent so our relationship might be different so I don't know.
Rita it was kinda of funny cuz when I brought it I said I've never made this before or tasted it, so u'r not going to hurt my feeling at all--and everyone loved it and so easy to put together--That's going to be my go to dessert I will bring when I go someplace.And if there are lots of people I'll just double it.
Chevy it unreal that u still have had snow--but we had a hot weekend and now it's cold again--I felt so sick yesterday I thought I was coming down with something, but I think it was just my infection. Joey helped me out a lot. But I'm glad my GF cancelled out today for our nails we'll go tomorrow.
And Chevy u'r right it's like a family even tho we might never meet we tell our lives and feelings here. And it's a good thing.
U golfers u know who u r. It will be nice soon so u can get out there and play a lot. I know.
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Sas....a thousand thanks. You put so much work into helping people here and I want you to know it is so very much appreciated. I think you are one of those people who have just made it your mission to care. If everyone just spent a little time caring....how much better this world would be. You have my vote for woman of the year. Good karma to you.
Blessings,
Jackie
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Judy,
So glad you popped in again. I'm impressed that you go to the gym all the time for work-outs. I don't know about the Silver Sneakers program. Gives me something to look into but as for our Ins., all we have is the V. A. and Medicare. I may be able ( using some of Sass's info ) to figure out some way to actually get something worked out. Hard to say for sure.
Starting to think I may want to get a book, copy instructions and or web-sites and just keep the whole thing handy. I'm always wishing I knew where to find something. Duh !!!! Note to self: its called good organization if you put it all in a book and keep it there instead of trying to remember the name of good web-sites or other tid-bits of information you think you'll easily recall. I always, but always think it will just pop right into my head.......that there will be something to just trigger the "name" or "site" and almost always it does not happen that way. I'm in denial about my cranial abilities.
We are having some sun today, but sounds like we could get rain later, with the same thing taking place tomorrow. Then I think the rain will back off and warm temps come back. Our little I-heater worked for awhile yesterday. It then shut off and hasn't come back on. Handy little thing. Got most of the chill out of the house. Didn't super-heat though.
Hope you are all having a fantastic Thursday.
Blessings
Jackie
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Hi Ladies,
Been gone to my brothers in Birmingham since last Thursday. My niece got married Friday, small old fashioned wedding. Nice and creative in an old chapel at a state park , reception was in the old schoolhouse.
The flights were the trip from Hell! Got delayed going, mechanical problems. When they got a plane to Detroit for our leg to Bama, had to find a crew! Trip home was something else, made it from Birmingham to Detroit, after the tornado warning in Detroit. Took off, 20 minutes in the air the pilot tells us we are returning to Detroit, mechanical problems. After landing the flight is cancelled, we are rebooked on US Air for the next day. Rooms at a hotel are a premium, due to cancellations from the bad weather, so they give out a pillow and blanket and we spend the night in the terminal. No food, all the places are closed, no vouchers for the next day either! So we go to the other terminal, go to check in with my receipt from Delta in my hand, no record of a reservation! I finally find a supervisor who makes calls and gets us seats on an earlier flight, as the weather is going down hill later. He walks us to security , so we can get thru fast, 15 min til flight time. Well the fat detector/xray screams, so I get a pat down. Then the rather nasty TA lady tests my sneakers, they dont pass! Have to be xrayed! !0 minutes til flight time. Finally made it, no food or much sleep but got home. Cud have been worse, was an interesting trip! Rerouted to Philadelphia then Newburgh.
Loved the cartoons, I'm a cat lady. Also used to go to a senior gym, loved it, went 4-5 times a week, then the dr. who ran it closed , guess he didn't get enough new patients. Went to Planet Fitness til DH had open heart, Melanoma and I had BC! Really need to get going again!
Got Bible study tonight, so better get dinner going. Stay safe and dry. Jean
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bonnets, what a trooper you are. I am working on building stamina so that I can handle plane problems. I think I would have been in tears going through what you went through.
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Bonnets, what a nightmare! Glad you finally made it home.
Today was lovely, cool and low humidity. DH and I went to the gym and then I spent most of the rest of the day working on turning the guest room into an office. The living room is full of bags and boxes of books and items taken out of bookcases so they wouldn't be so heavy to move. The small guest room makes a pretty nice little office.
Now the former office is pretty much empty so my next project will be painting it. Then we'll buy a queen-sized bed to replace the double size mattresses that we gave away.
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Wow, bonnets, that was an exercise in keeping your cool and your wits. Sometimes I guess you just get in such a fix not of your own making, that all you can do at any moment, is the best you can and let the devil have the rest.
Carole, you have a bit of work cut out for you. Are you planning on some time away this summer? Just thinking you seem to be working hard to get things as you want them. Then again, may be that is how you have always done things. My Dh is something of a foot dragger on projects.....he means well and I do appreciate it when done, but getting there can be taxing at times. I like to have as much done as possible which then leaves me open for things I enjoy or un-expected things....whether here at home or a friend needing some assistance with something. I often feel "un-done" here but after almost 40 yrs. even though I still find it annoying at times....I've learned the art of deep sighing and then letting it go.
Blessings
Jackie
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Morning gals!
Bonnets, I'm so glad my DH can't possible find your post, and read it, Ha! I mean he stresses out just THINKing about flying! And that's with no problems! The worries start a month before trip... and of course I do all the packing, so he has nothing to worry about there... And I pack weeks before time to go.
Then the ride to the airport... (worry-worry) and then checking in.... (so many people!) Going through Security... (WORRY big time!) Pacemaker has security do things a little differently! Then baggage check-in... (let's worry some more)...... (sooooo many people)......... Tram to the Concourse ("Oh such a bother"!) Scope out the appropriate Gate! (let's worry even when we don't have to!) Then back to buy some breakfast! (Going to miss our plane).... Sprint down to appropriate Gate..... And sit and wait... 1 more hour to wait.... (somethings wrong with the plane, probably).... All THIS and we aren't even ON the dang plane!
So we go with our Daughter.... which makes it a little less tempting for ME to not smack him over the head with anything close. Uh-oh... Plane is taking off... (hopefully)
Uh-oh... HOLD ON, we are lifting! Yes, dear.... open your eyes, we are in the air! PLEASE let go of that guy next to you... or HE will smack you!
Kind of exaggerating there, but in my mind, it is worse! THEN we get to do it all over again, to get back home!
I start getting hot flashes even THINKING about September! That's when we are going to Orlando! So Orlando Daughter will run us ragged, from the time we land, until the time she drops us off! I keep meaning to TELL her we are NOT 40 years old, and do not WANT to hunt Alligators, and ride in a swamp-boat or whatever they are called! Nor do we like to stay up until mid-night watching movies!
I just want to reeee-laxxxxxxxxxx out by her pool, visit with them.... make an occasional run to Starbucks, and pretend I am older, and not have to climb to the top of Mount Everest whilst we are there! Or even ANY mountain... or hill. By this time I will be 77... and should get to do 77ish things.... and not be required to shop until I drop, or pretend I am 30!
So thanks for reminding me Bonnets....Ha! I'm going to have to start resting NOW, cause Lord knows, come September, there ain't no restin' comin' my way.
If I could just find a pill or 2 of Valium, for Hubby.
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Chevy, your post is SO funny!! You should be a stand-up comic!
Jackie, our plans are to go north to MN again this year for July, August, and Sept. And part of June. DH's sister and her dh are celebrating their 50th anniversary in the latter part of June so we'll leave here in time for that event. We've reserved our spot in the little campground where we stayed the past two summers.
I hope to finish up painting the old office/new guest room and have the transfer project finished by the time we leave. My dh is just the opposite of yours. He does not drag his feet when he takes on a project. Sometimes he goes a little too fast for me. I'm more deliberate and like to figure out the process in advance. I don't like a lot of upheaval.
This morning I'm off to play golf with my Friday group. From golf I'll drive to my mother's house and take her to her weekly hair apptment. It's hard on her physically but good for her spirits.
Wishing everyone a good day.
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Chevy,
I agree about daughters. Ill be 72 and SD wants me to go to Paris next year with her and the grands. Well, I went to Vienna several years ago with her and same as yours, walked/ran til I had blisters on my feet. I'd say, lets take a cab or the trolley. She'd say, "oh it's not far". So walk 8-10 blocks. See this museum, go to this Xmas market( went to 7 , as I remember!) I am will ing to pay for us, if we do a tour, have transport to attractions, and no hauling own luggage, resolving problems. Sooo, she 's debating it!
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