Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?

Purple tomatoes OMH they're probably all bruised.

Dian Sorry if u took our banting back and forth wrong, it's usually my fault cuz everything I look at in my life I tend to make fun of it. So I too apologize for any thing I've said that might have offended you.

Cammi honey..... NOTHING is your fault....  Some people just mis-understand, and think we are serious, and  they do not like when either Religion or Politics are talked about.   If we have to THINK about everything we have said, and try and go back, and think "What did I SAY?"  ..... then  we shouldn't post anything.

Besides it was not you, it was ME....   I commented on your man of the church as being a  "initials only" and  at least I THINK that's what it was!   But I don't want to be chastized for it  again!  Ha!   Oh no wait....  I went back and tried to find out how I ruffled feathers...  I said that about the guy with a family....  THIS is what  I had said....

"Oh for God's sakes.... a PRIEST! Man that doesn't surprise me in the least! Good thing you were always with someone else! I almost choked when I first read your post... I thought you were KIDDING! "

I thought and thought, and thought I said something REALLY bad!   So I won't worry now....  I just think that once in awhile, we can probably offend someone without even THINKING about it....  Like I told Jackie, I sometimes read other threads, but would NOT comment on them, if I didn't like what they were talking about...   It is THEIR business if they want to talk Politics OR Religion,  and if I don't like what they are saying, just don't READ there, or block their thread.

And no!  Purple Tomatoes are great!   They are NOT "bruised!"   You have probably never even SEEN one, much less tasted one!  

 I also love Black Krim!  Those of us in the know, KNOW tomatoes from TOMATOES....   They are usually sweeter, and don't taste like plastic like store-bought tomatoes do!   THAT'S what you should do....  Get a big pot, fill it with potting mix, and go to a nursery of some sort, and buy a couple heirloom tomato plants!    You will be happy!  And keep it in the sun all day, and water it all the time!   Boy, what kind of farmer ARE you?  Don't know nothin'!  

For, after all, put it as we may to ourselves, we are all of us from birth
to death guests at a table which we did not spread.  The sun, the earth,
love, friends, our very breath are parts of the banquet. . . . Shall we think
of the day as a chance to come nearer to our host, and to find out something of
him who has fed us so long?

Rebecca Harding Davis

Good Morning--Jackie u did bring back the time we used to do that and always used salt too. and they were so so good. And my mom (who never went in the garden) would always have me bring the strainer out and pic rasberries, well not many came in the house and I used to say not a lot out there and she believed me, there was always enough for the family, but there would have been more-Why would she trust me, when that was one of my favorites. And u'r right nothing was washed, my mom would wash like a madwoman yet most of us just ate anything from the garden, Well maybe not peppers and zucchini but fruits were there for the taking.

Oh Chevy I didn't want u to feel bad so I popped in, cuz I know this doesn't sound right but I didn't feel bad, we all enjoy our memories good or bad and we do mke fun of them every so often, why not they are ours and we shared them with each other--so they are open game for everyone and beside I was so blessed with having a great childhood which I didn't know at the time and I still have my insanities and quirks- so really it's a strange world how we all react to our world. And these threads have brought me lots of hardaches and lots of laughs--which is life in balance.

Loved the "Older Ladies" song. It reminded me of Menopause, the Musical. Friends and I saw it a couple of years ago. Funny.

Hi everyone

Cami- did you ever think that maybe your mom sent you out to pick the raspberries because they were your favorite? Just her way of giving you a treat? I know I would do things like that with my kids, different things for each,but a way to give them a little "extra" treat without the others claiming I was unfair. Just a thought.

Chevy- I, too, had to look way back to see what you had said. I try not to stereotype people, but sometimes facts are facts. It is a very sad fact, but there was way too much of that going on when we were kids. That doesn't mean there weren't hundreds or thousands of good, Godly preists that lived exemplary lives, but in the same sense, their goodness doesn't negate the evil of the sick ones- or vice-versa. I am sure someone said(probably Jackie) judging is not our jobs. And I know you didn't mean to hurt anyone with your remarks.

I didn't have a garden growing up in the city, but I did have the pleasure of fresh tomatoes with salt during the summer. What a treat!

Anne

Chevy - I basically quit gardening in 2011 when I first got BC - other than to have someone plop my frangapani (plumarias) in the ground each spring.  So my secret has been "bribing" my lawn man to bring me tomatoes.  I pay for a number of anonymous plants of his choice and he buys & adds them to his garden.  In return I get lots of different kinds of tomatoes to taste test & report.  No worries about the birds or the worms or the food or the water, etc.  He's been happy to do it because he loves gardening and after his lung cancer treatments the tomatoes have never tasted good to him again.

Minus, it is getting harder for me to garden also....  But I found out instead of planting the plants directly in the ground, I plant the tomatoes in big pots!  Then I tie that wide burlap "ribbon?" that I get at Walmart, around the tops, tie it, and add silk flowers in the "bow!"  

So the black posts I found in the alley, look pretty nice!  They are about 36" round, so will hold several big tomato plants with cages. 

Darn!  I can't post pictures here now from my new fangled computer!   I was going to post a picture of those big pots.... oh well.......

Thanks Carole...and Anne.....Yes, we've "known" each other for a long time.... just makes me feel bad when someone "new" comes on, and calls me out for something I didn't even know I did....

Carole, you make me yearn for a TRULY cool night, and not an air conditioned cool night.  Oh, I know they will come, but there is something about snuggling in a blanket when it is chilly in the room.  I love that feeling -- of course, I'm all for trying to sneak every little ounce of experience ( especially the ones that were special from early childhood ) and continue to gain that unqualified just totally all over coziness that just happened.  I really believe when things happen ( and they do to almost all young people ) and they make a good, lasting impression on you.....that you receive that very same quality of special feeling --- like the Universe just CHOSE you, and now you can feel all the positive things again --- and have all that harmony of feeling return.  It just makes me feel that I'm in tune with everything from the stars on down. 

Minus...I think I want to come and vacation at your house about time for the tomatoes to be ripe.  What a wonderful man --- who just wants to grow something whether he can eat it or not.  He has a gorgeous soul and I think should have some pretty good karma stored up.

Cammie, I just have to ask you this.....why wouldn't your mom go in the garden.????

Ok....I've taken a break and now I have to get back to work. 

Blessings

Jackie

Chevy, I loved the musical interlude for older ladies so much I posted it on my Facebook page. I have a number of friends who are "old broads" too who will enjoy it.

Teacher, thanks for reminding me about Menopause, the Musical. I saw it about 10 years ago and even bought the t-shirt they were selling in the lobby.

Di, can you believe our Alaska cruise is almost here? I booked it after my diagnosis a year ago and now it's just around the corner. We get to meet each other at last! Of course we may not be able to tell what we look like if your glasses don't get here and my double vision comes back! LOL.

I admire those of you who can grow tomatoes. I've tried so many times but failed.

Welcome to the newcomers. Do we really have too Wrens now?

We might not have the answer to your questions, but we can sure entertain you with our silly banter until someone smart comes along who knows more than we do. I am happy to say I avoided chemo as well so I'm no help. There are several threads that deal with it so I hope you can get help there. 

Jackie, love the kitty cat picture. A group hug feels so good, doesn't it.

Finally, a cartoon to make you smile. If men had to get "man-o-grams" you KNOW they would have come up with a better idea real quick.

The truth is that our finest moments are most likely
to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy,
or unfulfilled.  For it is only in such moments, propelled
by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts
and start searching for different ways or truer answers.

M. Scott Peck

Good Morning,

Trying to get laundry hung up and put away.  Yesterday we had a horrific storm, when DH and I came home we were not sure if we were going to make it thourgh.  Dry Creeks filled to the brim.  We made it.  He went in to shop this morning and said now that water was down not to bad.  We have a 30 & 40% chance of rain for the next 3 days.  Loving it., this is the most rain we have had in three years.  The Davis Mt's look like you are in Ireland.  

Last Friday I had jury duty, they were picking the grand jury for the next 6 months, well I was #1 and of course I am on the grand jury.  I think it will be interesting.

Need to get my rats killed

Have a good day

Cammie, I so enjoyed hearing about your home life and your interaction with your parents growing up.  No one had a perfect childhood, but it is wonderful to see it from adult eyes and perspectives. 
I know I truly changed my viewpoint...almost totally when I became older, and started to understand the unique personalities of my parents, and realize they had many, many struggles ( just like I did, but on a different scale ) through my growing up years.  My folks were quite hard-working  and my mother was especially stoic.  They made do -- which means we sure didn't have much, and things were not always right, but we had their determination and love to get me and my sister raised and on our own. 

Cammie, I think your parents were "perfect" for you.  Your growth depended on things happening just the way they did. 

That said....I think we are very OLD souls and when we discover that we need another Earth life to complement our soul's growth, we look for people who will have within them habits, morals, attributes and anything else that matches with our needs.  That is why, even with some of the "agonies" of growing up in my household, I look back and feel I had the perfect parents for ME and I am so grateful. 

There is a lot more I could say on that subject but I'll let it go. 

Mommarch...glad you had no REAL issues driving home after the torrential rains.  The Grand Jury duty does sound interesting.  You will go right to work on it, I think.  With regular jury duty, you just sit and see if you are picked for any of the trials being heard.  Something of a time waster in a way, though people do need to have their day in court.

See you all later.

Blessings,

Jackie

((((((Blondie))))))))

It was fun reading about you as a little girl!  You sound like you would accept anything, and it taught you to be so forgiving, and perfect.... just the way you are!   

Okay miss smarty-pants Cammi....  I only have a few tomatoes right now....  The little black/purple ones, and the Patio tomatoes....  The big Julia Childs are coming along, and the plants  look good too!  Hope the Tomatoes get as big as they HAVE been!  I saved the seed from last year... and just planted them in my "pot-pots" after they were a couple inches tall....

My little neighbor gave us their stereo system.... and all the CD's and Tapes their Son Danny had....  He was just the sweetest, cutest guy, and all of a sudden he had a heart-attack at the gym!  Finally had to have a heart transplant.... and he did OKAY with that....  Theresa took really good care of him, living next door!  

And then he met Nina.... on the Internet.... After they were married, he got cancer of the lymph nodes????  And the chemo nearly killed him.... well it did, because his transplanted heart just couldn't take it......  

He loved Dean Martin, Frank Sinatra, Perry Como..... and even Louis Prima!  So we now have all his Cd's and his tapes.....  I thought Theresa would cry, when I said, "Oh, here is Bobby Caldwell!"  One of his favorite singers.......  I don't know how Parents survive when they lose a child.... no-matter how old they are!  

Maybe that is why I feel so close to her, because we were close with them, going through this....    So now we have Danny's favorite music!  He loved his Camaro, and used to race it at Bandamere Race Track..... That's where his ashes are....  He wanted them on his race-track.

Nina, his wife, is the one with brain-cancer, but is helping Theresa with her packing.... etc!  

I'm making Potato, Broccoli cream soup, and going to take her some in the morning..... DH took her a couple Cinnamon rolls this morning....She seemed to be a little better!  It's as if she is having Panic Attacks!  But this morning was better for her......  

Okay gals....   Jackie, you are sooooooooo sweet!  You just live in my heart! xoxoxoxo

Jackie,  I am totally in sync with your philosophy that we are old souls and are here to learn important life lessons and evolve spiritually.  You are a highly evolved soul as evident by your uplifting postings and positivity,  I think we are all gaining from your insights.  Thank you!  

Chevy and Cami - love your postings too!

Paula