Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Hmm, we don't lock our doors either. Have lived in this house 11 or 12 yrs. and ( knock on wood ) not once has the door been locked. It is one of the reasons I don't want to move to town. In summer time especially....you almost don't know the three houses on our lane are back here.
I don't have yard sales or big parties or anything that might tip off a large group of people where I REALLY am. When people ask....I just say I live at the lake in some woods....which is true. I love the total freedom of coming and going with little thought of people messing with our house or belongings.....they'd have to find it first....and you get it down a tiny lane ( though somewhat long ) and you have to drive out the same way you drove in because it is a dead end at the last house on the lane.
Some things work out fine.
Blessings,
Jackie
p.s. we should all go to the movies with GG -- her treat, of course. I'll eat before we go and settle for the free popcorn. Such a deal, huh !!!!!
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Okay miss cammiwhocan'trememberchit! ...................
"Everyone sounds pretty good , well better cuz vacations have started and Jackie is keeping everyoned as usual. Jackie I know some people are harder to balance than others (no names mentioned--car)"
So "the car" has responded.... I waited and waited.... they DID ask if I wanted my "car" balanced or something else.... I said just wait, she will be here.....
Mommarch, I'm so sorry! I'll bet you really were afraid! I know you don't normally lock everything, but I think I would start doing that! We didn't used to either, when we were younger.... in this same neighborhood..... but we do NOW!
I haven't heard of those theatres LittleGardens! They sound fun! I love the 3D movies....!
We walked up to my neighbors early this morning.... just to see her.... But we walked in, calling her the whole time! She was in bed, and could hardly move! She had taken a Meclizine at about 6, but this was 8:30..... , and she was dizzy again! I called the Pharmacy.... She had already called her Son.... He would call her back at 9 she said... So the Pharmacy said don't take another pill, they would make her too tired.... So I advised her to just relax.... Finally I got her up to go sit down at her kitchen table.... !
We talked to her for awhile, and then she started coming out of it! After about 15 minutes, she was laughing with us! Telling us how excited she is getting to be moving next to Eddie! 2 doors down at that same Assisted Living Center! I said, "Oh fine.... suppose you'll start having sex with him again!" And she nearly fell off the bed! So we stayed, until about 10 after 9...
You know, I think she is just so stressed! Her mind and body are trying to stabilize, after this past month of Eddie having to move to Assisted Living, and her trying to figure out what is going on, and running herself ragged, I think it's maybe possible that stress is contributing to her dizziness? I know it did me once....
So I'll call her a little later! I don't know WHAT a Doctor could do for her at this point!
Carole..... I know how you feel.... You are thinking about your Mom.... and yes, I feel sorry for her too.... I went through this with my own Grandma.... And sometimes I would leave the "Home" and just cry all the way to work.... wondering what was "happening" to her! She was just mentally going downhill so FAST! After her heart-attack, she also went into Dementia of some sort.... Couldn't remember ANYthing.... but it was okay.... We couldn't do anything, except take care of her.... Me and the Home....
So I'll be around for Theresa... I know things will happen in time, and that they will move her.... and then I think she will really be happy! She was kind of happy, saying "I'll get to eat with Eddie!" So no more TV dinners!
I said, "Just leave that guy alone.... There isn't room for the both of you in that bed.... You'll be falling off the bed, and break something! " So as long as she laughs, I'm happy.
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Chevy u are truly kind. BUT about the quote that u seem to always go back too, it could have been nascar, not that there is one on here but might be on another thread u know it all.BWAHAHAHA
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Thanks for the smiles today....hope everyone has a good Thursday.
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The posts tonight range from hysterical humor to tender caring for neighbors. I knew I could vent about the jerky guy who had cancer theories and you all would make me laugh about it. Darn right I'm still mad, but next time I will be ready with quotes from Chevy and Cami. Mommarch what an exciting evening with helicopters and all. I'm just glad you were seeing the guys leave instead of arrive. From what you said it sounds as ic they didn't hurt anything. I, too, would have worried about the "what if" problems. You did the right thing for sure. I wasn't locking my doors until a month ago. Then a usually quiet neighbor got angry because my dog was barking at him (for good reason). He came storming into my house yelling and didn't seem to respond when I calmly told him I would do my best to keep her quiet. I had to repeat myself more firmly and he finally raged out. I haven't had any interaction with him since then. But since it was so unlike him I am cautious because of the unpredictability.
Chevy we all hope to have neighbors like you. Kind and funny, what more does one need.
Grandsons and I went to a local care center to make balloon sculptures yesterday. The six year old helped me and the two year old went around providing hugs with encouragement from his mom. Two gentlemen were particularly pleased to chat it up with the little boys. One of the men was wearing shorts sitting in a wheel chair with only one leg. The two year old crawled up onto his knee and never noticed there was only one knee to perch on. The warm reception made me glad we were there.
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Mimi how sweet that story is, kids look at life so simply, it's so comforting to help those that u can cheer up.
Excuse me, he walked right in. Holy chit I would have freaked out, I wouldn't care how long he was my neighbor and don't talk to him at all, obviously he sounds like a rage can happen easily.
It's getting light out here and my lamp just blew a bulb so today is buy bulb day--I celebrate everything. why not.
OK I'll Be around thruout the day, hope my calls are few.
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Oh Mimimininime! Okay say THAT one! Ha! That story reminds me of years ago, when I was working in a store, handing out samples of Pepsi.... My Daughters were about 5 & 7....
I walked past this little girl sitting on a bench, waiting for her Mom at the Pharmacy counter, and she only had one leg....
It just hit me! I started crying, and I couldn't stop! I guess I was thinking about how AWful, but how fortunate that I was, because my little girls were okay! And wouldn't it be beautiful, if we ALL could only see that being different didn't change that person! Little kids are just so forgiving the things that don't matter to them! He saw nothing "different" about that man.... Thank you for that story.....
Oh me and the Cam are going to come after that neighbor of yours.... only WE won't be so nice and forgiving! I'll be waiting with that skillet, and Cammi will be waving those IRS papers at him, probably scaring him half to death! She'll bring Joey! He will back us up!
These people that have such a MOUTH on them, don't deserve our time, or yours! Okay.... load up that paint-ball gun, and let him have it, next time you see him! Doesn't matter if he is in his own yard.... travel with that paint-ball gun... It's your safety net.
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Oh wait! You mentioned Nascar? Cammi, you don't know a Nascar race from a Gerbil race! Here ya go actin like you were saying something different than what you really said in the first place. You inFERRED that I am that "car" thing.... See, WE know !
When you sometimes try and back-track, and figure out what you even said, you get tangled up in so much of something that even I don't know.... like NOW for instance!
Can you gals figure out what we just said? Ha! cause I can't.
Carole, this must be driving you nuts! Here we go using the English Language in ways it has never been used before! I was an English major in High-School.... wouldn't know it from the LOOKS of things.... Where-as Cammi was one of those little cheer-leaders.... wearing next to nothing.... and smoking with all the boys!
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Hey I was never a HS cheerleader, I was in 8th grade and a priest organized us for our basketball games--Of course he was a pedophile but we didn't care actually, we got to go out on Friday night with a priest supervision so we could get home whenever we liked. We just said no. and always stuck together. But one time he walked in our bathroom while we were changing and he said it was all right cuz he was a priest. He's drive us to the games and home again, but I always stayed at my GF's house when we had a game and we were the last 2 to get dropped off, and he'd SUGGEST things and when we got home we'd laugh like crazy. I think we were so close that it just never bothered us cuz we could share it and laugh about it, but we never thought of telling anyone else. So there.
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Goodness is the only investment that never fails. Henry DavidThoreau
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Mimi....gosh, I think I would have been truly upset if ANYONE came into my house un-invited. Who knows for sure....maybe he had a bad headache or was trying to talk on the phone and the bark for some reason was a major distraction.
Not sure the reason ( on his side ) matters so much since he did a very un-civil action in trying to manage the issue. You handled it well I think from your end.....but I would indeed be locking the door after that. No one should feel it is ok to barge right into your home -- even my friends and family wait a polite space of time -- and then come on in.
Kids really are neat little souls and humans. They just make things all-right because they see the real YOU in others, not the individual parts and pieces. They have the freedom to experience without all the conditions that start getting layered on later. That is truly a shame, but I freely admit....without that, there would be a lot of negative events.
Joan....glad to see you. Hugs, and hope the 'personal' sunshine is not far away. "Blondie", you too.
Off to start my day. I'll be back later on.....sometime after work.
Blessings
Jackie
p.s. Chevy and Cammie.....well, just too funny.....and I don't know half the time exactly just what it is that I'm smiling for....but still nice to smile.
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Oh for God's sakes.... a PRIEST! Man that doesn't surprise me in the least! Good thing you were always with someone else! I almost choked when I first read your post... I thought you were KIDDING!
I remember laughing one time, when my girl-friend want walking down a street close to our houses after we got off of work at Elitch's.... And this MAN came out from beside the building we walked past, and he has his wee-willie-winkie out for all to see, or to scare the livin' day-lights out of us, which he DID.... But we took off running & screaming, and my friends Mom called the Police, but we could NOT identify him.... Not his face! Not from the pictures! All we could see was that THING! Now if they would have shown us pictures of THOSE, well maybe.... but we weren't exactly looking at his damn face!
So when it was all over, we just doubled-up laughing! What a jerk! We didn't walk that way again.... NOT at night!
Well Cam, I'm glad you spilled the beans.... kind of gets it off your chest.... Just stay away from those h0 little r'-small n & Y old Priests.... Of all the nerve!
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Mimi, I would keep my door locked, too, after your neighbor's invasion of your private space. Kind of scary.
Cammi, it's interesting that you and your girlfriends never considered telling your parents about the priest's inappropriate behavior. You apparently didn't feel threatened.
DH and I have been lazy this morning. I didn't get up until 8:30. Then we drank coffee and watched the women's British Open golf on tv. It's 65 degrees here at 11 am. So I'm wearing long pants and a long-sleeved shirt. This afternoon we're playing golf at a really nice golf course that has cheaper rates after 3:30 pm.
Chevy, I must admit I never suspected you were an English major!!
Rita hasn't checked in for quite a while. I hope she's playing golf and enjoying the summer.
DH just went outside to clean the windows on the camper which badly need cleaning. So I'll get the slow cooker going with some chicken and barbecue sauce so that dinner will be ready when we home from golf.
Happy Thursday to all. Hugs to those who need a hug.
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I KNOW Carole, Ha! But now that I am older, I love to just mess around with you guys, and talk silly to Cammi, even though it doesn't mean anything~!
I remember Mrs. Lytle, one of my English teachers said I was her little "creative writer!" Ha, ha!
I never had anyone to really be silly with, but now with you gals, it's more fun to maybe make you smile once in awhile....
I actually WAS intelligent once....! It lasted for about a minute.... I can't remember when it was though....
It is just more fun to take things a little less serious....
It drives me NUTS though when people, say a word the wrong way! I try and refrain from correcting him.... meaning my DH.....
With Cammi, we just don't know the difference..... Well we DO, but it's more tun just being "us."
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Hi everyone
Wow, I had a lot to catch up on.
Mimi- what a jerk that neighbor is- hasn't he heard of the telephone!?
Chevy - your PITA neighbor- it sounds like her husband only moved to the care facility recently. Could she be afraid living alone? I have never lived alone in my life and don't feel the need to experience that particular lifestyle. And I am extremely blessed that I can choose not to do that. Many people prefer living alone, or don't have any other choice. But maybe, like me, she is scared and her "issues" are more psychological than physical. Maybe the move to the center is the best thing for her.
Joan- I agree that we all go to that dark place sometime. It is only a problem when we can't get back. I have been on depression meds for a long time, but still have bouts of it, long before BC was part of my life. You can't really appreciate anything good until you have experienced the darkness. Be easy on yourself. And always remember, we are hear to listen, support and give hugs when needed.
I think all of my traveling is catching up with me- I am sleeping till 10, and have no energy to do anything. I am going to my primary tomorrow (well, one if his partners) because the extra skin the surgeon left on my chest for possible reconstruction has been swollen and uncomfortable all week. I wam thinking it is because I overworked it cleaning out the office/playroom last Sun., but I am afraid it might be lymphedema and want to get it checked. What a hassle - first off, I don't know which Dr to call- the surgeon in Ga? The Dr I saw Tues to arrange to have my infusions done in Fl? An LE therapist? I finally called the BS office in Ga and the cancer center here. The BS's office said to start with the primary down here. He doesn't have an opening until the 22nd, so I am seeing one of his partners tomorrow. The cancer center had not called me back. The BS's office said the primary will definitely will be able to tell if it is LE or if it is an infection or something else. Of course, now that I have made an appt, it isn't nearly as uncomfortable as it has been.
I will be seeing my grandchildren tomorrow for the first time since we got back from Ga last Sat. Can't wait!
Anne
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I know what you are saying Anne! I thought of all the stress she has had for this last month, with her Husband being sick, and having to move, and then maybe without her realizing it, she IS afraid! I think a lot of it IS stress.... She IS 90, and he is 92.... So their "parts" are just not working very well....
So far, she seems happy to think about moving.... I hope the family gets it going soon.....
Have fun with your Gkids!
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Anne, I think it's a given that your pain goes away when you make a doctor's appt just like your hair behaves as soon as you make the haircut appt. Here's hoping it's neither LE nor infection, just overdoing.
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Oh u'll be so happy to see u'r Gkids. just let them pamper u---well that's what I do.
Oh yea Chevy I'd kid about a pedophile, actually we were about 12 and didn't know that word or anything like that and the nuns would tell us a priest is the closest person to God so we always respect him. So when he walked in the dressing room and we were in our underwear and he said it's all right I'm a priest we all said Oh Okay. And my GF and I always slept by her house on the weekends anyway so we just didn't think about it. And I still remember the first time we were dropped off--I told him we were staying at my aunts house and he said OK, where does she live and I said Ohio, (we're in IL) and my GF and I LOLed so hard we thought we were so funny. And the same thing happened to my same GF and me walking home from school some man stopped his car we were like 11 and showed us what he had and we giggled and went right to the police station and didn't tell our parents. Except about 2 weeks later we both got a phone call late at nite to come down to identify him , they think they caught the man--he was apparently going all over. Our dads knew each other well cuz they worked together too and they were mad that we didn't tell them. Well there we were at the police station late at night with our dads ad we were giggling away and they were not happy and like u we weren't sure but this guy had 2 kids and a wife and later my GF and I said that it was him to each other, but we felt bad for his family???? we were just kids. That's why when I look back at my childhood I enjoyed it so much I had someone to share everything with and that was the maddest my dad ever really got with me and her dad too and both of our moms told our dads that they shouldn't be mad and then they weren't. But no one was ever afraid to walk around even then. It was a crazy time those days the fear of things just wasn't there.
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Got scheduled for cataract surgery in September. It will be wonderful to really see again!
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Good for you Teacher. I ( oh knock on wood ) have not had much for problems for cataracts. I do though know when my Dh had it done....he was totally amazed that he could actually see such detail again. Though a couple of months away, time moves fast. Good for you.
Blessings
Jackie
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Chevy and Cami, you girls are a very funny combo ... ever think of going on the road.
Hi Joan, are the deer leaving your flower boxes alone? I am afraid to say that the resident squirrel is confining his digging and chomping to one barrel planter for fear he will branch out again.
Mimi, you are a better woman than I. I probably would have cried at the jerky cancer theories which would have embarrassed myself and my friend. That insensitive man would probably have not even realized he had hurt me. And the neighbor who walked right in ... scary. I'd say you have had your quota of off the wall men.
Chevy, the situation with your PITA neighbor brings back memories of when my brother and I had to tell my parents that they needed to go into senior living. My parents live in Florida. We were lucky to find a continuing care complex that has independent living, assisted living, and nursing care. Dad has passed. Mom is currently recuperating from a short hospital stay in nursing care, but she will return to her assisted living apartment shortly. Mom and Dad started in independent living. If Mom runs out of money, she will not be ask to leave; they will care for her for life. I wish she were closer.
Hi Jackie.
Carole, how did you and DH decide Minnesota would be your summer home?
Anne, do/did you and the grands have an adventure planned or are/did you just hang out?
Hi Wrenn.
Teacher, I may be joining you for cataract surgery.
Have a good weekend everyone. I need to straighten up the garden.
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I've been told that post cataract surgery eyesight is miraculous. I'm looking forward to it. I have lots of sewing to do for my grandgirls and hope I will be able to see better at night.
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Good morning...I just love to read these funny posts...now, Cammi, you and your GF were clever to use the priest to get out of the house without a lot of questions. But seriously, the fact that you were strong enough to laugh off the inappropriate suggestions shows me that you were born strong. Girl power!
Chevy, LMAO over trying to identify the weenie monster
Well, this week has not been what I planned. I ended up having must-dos every day. But I changed my expectations and that worked wonders. I accomplished a lot of those nagging unpleasant tasks that had to be done. I have a few more today. I got my mammo appointment and changed my MO date...realized I'll be away with DH on business.
Today I'll mail a package to DD with things they left behind plus a few little gifts I forgot to give to them.
I have to get something notarized and do some online ordering for my job. That still leaves time for me...My grandson is going to Austria for a week today to attend a resident guitar seminar. I want to see him today but it's over an hour's drive. Friday traffic back home is terrible from NYC. Will check in with him...maybe just a phone chat will do.
Sally, my flower boxes are safe! They look so pretty and make me happy every day. I added a fountain and tiny solar lights to the deck. And bright cushions. I think I'll go have coffee outside now.
Carole, it sounds like you are enjoying the simple things...enjoy your time.
Jackie, thanks for starting the day with some guidance for being the best we can be today.
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Remember, we all stumble, every one of us.
That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand.
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Good morning and hey....nice day. It sounds like everyone is doing fairly well. That alone is enough for me to feel a boost....hearing about everyone else. I'm doing fine as well.
Teacher, my Dh really complained of his "night" driving episodes as well. Most light was distracting....and he struggled with that for a few months. He too only has limited vision in one eye so the eye Dr. wanted to wait as long as possible to do his " good " eye.
Going to go back to hot and humid here for a few days.....then a cool front will come. Oh, that will be a great relief. I really don't have much for issues if it is just heat.....but I hate the feeling of what feels like in my imagination, having to try and walk through a hot damp sponge. It just feels so cloying and no way for it to be better.....not like you can walk out of it at some point. But....we will get by like always. I mean, in reality.....we haven't had that many bad days -- in fact, some fairly pleasant ones, so we can do it.
Blessings
Jackie
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I am new to the boards and thought this might be a good place to start. I was diagnosed with IDC and had a lumpectomy in May and now am doing radiation. It was caught very early ... I didn't have to do any chemo (big sigh of relief. ). So for the most part I keep a smile on my face ... term it "a bump in the road" ... and life goes on. My husband and I have done some local outings instead of a planned trip this summer because of appointments etc .... disappointing because he retired and two days later I had my biopsy but not the end of the world. So far I've had 9 out of 20 treatments. This week I was weary by the end of my 12 hour work shift at the hospital. Now I've had some very draining shifts before I had Cancer so I don't want to wine. I guess I don't want to be "the patient" and have anyone fuss over me or have to pick up any slack for me. (I am a nurse and being on the other side of the fence is difficult) I think it would be nice to have a place to talk about it with people who have been there. So here I am.
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Let me be the first to say "Hi" Puffin. Welcome to a great group of friends. You will find us chatting about all kinds of things here. I finished Rads on May 28th and am working on finding a new "normal". Since finishing Rads, I have travelled from Ga to Fl three times- my first goal is to spend more than 10 days in the same bed.
Sally- plans with the grandkids today is just hanging out. They are 5 & 8, and used to spend many days at my house, which hasn't happened since last summer. So we are all happy just being together - watching Spongebob and playing on iPads.
The Dr said she doesn't think my discomfort was lymphedema or an infection. Just overdid it last weekend. She is sending me for bloodwork just to make sure. As she was checking me out, she asked how I was doing with the diabetes. I said "what diabetes?" She showed me my chart where it says "Diabetes type II." I said I had been told my sugar levels had been a little elevated, but no one had ever said I have diabetes. One daughter thinks that when the office went to computer files instead of paper, they put my late husbands diagnosis on my chart. I have no idea but they will be checking that in the bloodwork as well.
Well I've had my turn on the ipad. Kayden's turn...
Anne
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Anne, I'm glad your PC dr. doesn't think you have LE.
Joan, how wonderful for your grandson to study guitar in Austria. Such an educational opportunity for him. Is he being accompanied by any family?
Puffin, welcome to our oldies group. I can imagine that it isn't easy for a medical professional to be a patient. I hope you can get back to "normal" as quickly as possible, even though it's a "new normal."
Sally, dh and I decided three years ago that it would be a nice change not to move about from place to place all summer when we left Louisiana to escape the three H's. Heat, humidity, hurricanes. We'd already taken the big rv trips we wanted to take: New England, Canadian maritime provinces, Alaska, national parks in the western states, Washington and Oregon coast. DH did some searching on the computer, looking for a place with bike paths, affordable golf courses, and cooler summer temperatures. He came up with this area, which is very popular with MN and ND folks who live in the twin cities or Fargo/Moorehead. There are many lakes and many "resorts" with cabins and campgrounds, but it's rather lowkey and not upscale. The people are friendly and there are lots of small-town festivals and free concerts to attend.
My main dissatisfaction is that we don't get out on the water more often. This year we don't have an excuse because the owner of Pine Hollow Resort has given us permission to use his two pontoon boats. We did him a big favor last summer when we painted the playground structure, which was a LOT of hours. We even bought the stain.
Today we finally took the smaller of the two pontoon boats out for a nice boat ride and also anchored and fished. I caught a sunfish, which we released. I'm hoping that we can get out fairly often for an hour or two. DH was a professional boat captain so he's well capable of operating a boat. He has never been enthusiastic about fishing while I am one of those people who can sit with a fishing pole and quite enjoy myself. I have learned to "cast" and it's a lot of fun.
It's not terribly hot today (high 70's to low 80's) but it is humid. When we came in from fishing, I turned on the a/c. The weekenders will love some warm weather and it's supposed to turn cooler next week.
Wishing everyone a good weekend.
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Puffin, we are so glad you found us:
We are a fun group and actually discuss cancer and tx. now and then. It is ( for most of us ) a journey like no other and we have found great comfort in the friendships that have been forged here. We discuss almost anything and everything and enjoy different viewpoints and feelings about different things.
So glad you did not have to take chemo. Some do get to by-pass it.....and I was going to be in that group but during my lumpectomy ( 2007 ) a while back now, lo and behold, along with the slow, very indolent papillary tumor ( most of which ended up in the biopsy needle ) a second IDC much larger and aggressive tumor was discovered and I ended up with 6 mos. of chemo and 7 full weeks of rads.
Have to say, ( though I have actually done some this yr. ) I'd be weary of 12 hour shifts doing anything, anywhere. It is difficult to be "on" for a long stretch but I think I have gotten a little lazy over time. My job is not hard --- I follow a 98 yr. old lady around, but I do sometimes spend from 7 a.m. to 9:30 at night ......so for me at 68....I'm pretty well done by the time I go home.
Anyway......we will be glad to keep the welcome sign blinking and hope you will come in any time and chat away. See you.
Blessings
Jackie
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Welcome, Puffin. I joined not to long ago and find this "forum" entertaining. It often makes me smile, so I can forget things that aren't going so well.
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