Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Ah man Carole.... Reminds me of my neighbor we used to have next door... Such a hard time with the whole family! Her DD selling drugs out of her bedroom window, and my neighbor kicking her out, but keeping her little girl... So Grandma Tracey was raising her... DD's husband was in jail, for I don't know why or how long... Then Tracey lost her Son to an "accidental" overdose... nearly killed her...
Little Tracey was like our Grand-daughter... We loved that little kid... I know I used to talk about her a lot on here... She would come over to play with us... Her hair all washed and smelling so sweet.... and she would play on my computer, and help me in the garden, and we would give her pop sickles and just talk to her on the swing. Then send her home with bags of cookies and candy... She was just precious! She had a little brother.... "Walker", who lived with the G. Grandmother...... and she would show him how to help me in the garden....
I went to lunch one day and DH called me.... Guess Grandma Tracey went to a motel after she dropped the kids off at her Mothers'.... and took all of her pills.... I just sat there and cried.
These little kids were just left all alone again! This was about 12 years ago.... don't ever know what happened to those kids.... I just hope that someday when little Tracey can drive, she will come over her to see us again.... she was so special to us....
I just can't understand how people think only of themselves... They have kids, but go on living their life filled with drugs and partying, and who ever is around to take care of the kids..... fine!
Love the pictures Anne! Just do little fun things every day, or when you can.... My Uncle always told me "Go out of your house everyday, if even for a little walk.... or go to a shopping center, and be around other people"...... and it helps.
Jackie, we don't have a big tree either! Just little ones.... and then Janie brought me over a "live" tree with ornaments and lights.... So that is in our front window!..... And we just do Christmas Brunch with her.... Not a lot of gifts... because we buy anything we want all year long...But she will bring presents over for us, and we'll open them all before we eat that special Brunch!
But no big Christmas's anymore.... We are going over to our other "Daughter from another Mother's" house next Sunday.... Prime Rib... with Janie!
It's been snowing out all morning.... and gray and cold.... and not pretty.... Ha! All I want for Christmas is to get over this cough.... Ha!
AND my "new" car.....
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Anne -- I agree with Carole. To get more energy you need to expend more. Also you might think of checking in with a Nutritionist for a list of foods that would help with energy production. As well, hope you won't misunderstand, but maybe you are going through some mild feelings of depression that could be helped with a short run of medication. I'm thinking so mild that it is not evident to you or anyone else, but enough to present challenges that don't seem to have a fix.
I do think it is very possible to be in an in-between state where it is difficult to "join" up successfully with 'how' it used to be and it may take a few try's of different things and or different combinations for you to get more into the SWING of a 'normal' state again.
Sure hoping for you and everyone that finds themselves facing a hurdle - there will be an answer -- it just has to be discovered.
Sun tried so hard just now to come out --- but at 4 p.m. It will be dark in an hour so what little tiny bit we saw petered out pretty darn quick. Rain is expected for tomorrow so I do know what color I'll see them. Sigh !!!! Well, I know it will be back -- obviously patience isn't my middle name.
Jackie
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I just ran across this and I thought you should have it Chevy -- would have been fun to have found it before you got your new car....but better late than never.
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Jackie, Great poem/song!
Here's a pic for you and the cat lovers here
Anne, love your pics!
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By having a reverence for life,
we enter into a spiritual relation with the world.
By practicing reverence for life we become good, deep, and alive.
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Joan,
That is so it -- with the felines in the household. Of course, they are equal opportunity. Anything that looks like something you could climb will be. I guess it shouldn't have come as a BIG surprise to us the first time it happened. That first yr. of no tree was it seemed my best decorating year EVER. Murphy's law I guess. I was enchanted by my own tree when usually I'm a tiny bit more ho-hum in that regard. Well, before too long -- over the tree went. I did my best to "restore" it, but it wasn't quite there, then it went over again. Well now --- there is almost no way to re-apply tinsel that is now securely wrapped around some of the tree branches---and even if you are fortunate enough to hang the ornaments about as/where they were --- the disrupt, raggedy look can no longer be erased. We took fishing line and hooked the tree to the ceiling.
I think cats have an eye for REAL beauty. After it was attached securely to the ceiling -- no one wanted to climb the raggedy thing my once beautiful tree had morphed into. So, on an after Christmas sale --- I bought a big wreath -- and ever after that has become our tree. There are some things it is easier to give up when you are a "rescue the furies" type. I have to say I've been able to avoid a whole lot of work in the years since I have not put up a Christmas tree.
Chevy ,
I also hope little Tracy drives up to your house one day to let you know she remembers what your love and care felt like and what it did for her. I imagine someone who could reach young adulthood and be able to find the strength to go the right way because she had a person ( you ) in her life who gave her stability and acceptance when their was turmoil all around her. I'm sort of a 'dreamer' I guess, but it is what gives you something to reach for and sometimes obtain. I'm dreaming that your dream comes true.
There was actually minute sun when I first got up this morning. Guess that is why I woke up when I did which was actually a little late. Wasn't long before the sun disappeared and rain started falling. It has backed off now, but I think will be with us all day. Sigh !!!! Tomorrow will be better. At least I saw the sun and know their still is one, eh !!!
Hope Monday is good to everyone......
Blessings
Jackie
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Chevy, I'm sure Tracy remembers you with gratitude. I know someone who wasn't allowed in her house during the day. She remembers the neighbor who gave her lunch and let her nap, making it possible to get through the day.
Only our first cat climbed the tree. Fortunately we had a huge stand that held water and was heavy enough to keep it from going over. We have silk balls for the bottom of the tree after losing many to batting.
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Thanks gals.... Thank you Jackie.... yes I get chills thinking Tracey will someday just come by.... Every Halloween I hope a couple of those kids will be Tracey and her little Brother.... but not yet....
Wren.... Some little kids just go through life, not knowing any different.... Her Dad was in Prison, & her Mom was in and out of jail... But it was her Grandma that gave her a "home"..... until even she gave it all up..... I didn't even ask her her last name... Didn't know if her Parents were married...
Maybe "someday"......
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Chevy, You'll probably never know how much of an impact you had on Tracy's life. But I can guarantee you and your kindness will always be a part of her. What a blessing you are for each other.
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Hi everybody.
Wow I missed a lot---Chevy a chld never forgets the good things in life but they try to block the bad, so I'm sure she remembers her times with you. And the LAST 9 HOLES waaaaaaaa
OK I anyone is sick just take action for u'rself some cold flu stuf is going around like crazy, so pay attention and stay in.
Loved the pics, I always do, it's so nice to see and yes Anne like we always say we're all dierent and everything does take longer than we think to feel better.
Carole as soon as a kid could read I'd always buy books as a present, I don't think they wanted that but I always thought they really need that==I remember when Joey was 4 He had his own books and he's still adding and loves to readbut now he explains things to me, but in my defence I probably knew all these things, jst forgot them. (shut up Chevy)
Jackie it's glumpy and rainy here too, but I like this weather, I'm not a sun person at all. But I know u love it. But its warmer tho so I hope it stays like that for a while anyway.
Oh the party was marvelous but didn't go to sleep tilafter 4am Sunday--so u know I'm still screwed up, talk about 9 holes. we were laughing so much I was hurting. And super homemade food--It was great, but I'm still knocked out, but I'm working in a daze. I put red and green chalk stuf in my hair--so that was my Christmas look, I'm sure I'll do it again.
OK just trying to Ketchup and stick my nose in.
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Went to DGD christmas concert tonight, it was great. Band did a great job. Of course the Pre K through
5th grade were adorable.Her GM from Alpine and Dad came also, was nice.
When DGD was about 4 or 5 I was reading her a poem My Grandfather wrote about his four grandaughters. At the end it said Santa was Gay. She looked at me and said how can santa be gay, what about Mrs. Clause. It was so cute. We had to explain when he wrote it that ment that Santa was happy.
DD had first Chemo today. It started at 1:00 and was 3 hours. I just pray that things will go well. She also is diabetic and has PKD. I guess if their is one good thing, she does not have to fight with her DD through all this.
Went into the desert this morning and gathered yucca stalks, as always so peaceful.
Chevy, I know what you are saying about that little girl. The foster parents that DGD lived with have a baby that was a crack baby and they have had him for a year, plus his brother and sister. They will be moving to NM in July, I don't know how you get through if you have to give them up. It would break my heart.
Hope all are well
Oh finally did get up a tree and some decorations, DGD did most of it. Seems better now. Hope to do some baking next week. We have 2 mormon missionaries that I want to bake some cookies for. They are great young men, have helped out alot of people in our small town.
Hugs
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The roots of love sink down and deep and strike out far, and they are arteries that feed our lives, so we must see that they get the water and sun they need so they can nourish us. And when you put something good into the world, something good comes back to you.
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Not much time as I have to go to work but wanted to say mommarch that I got a kick out of GAY Santa. Amazing that your little one knew at that age that there are people who are the gay which hasn't to do with happy. Someone did a good job with her. It is often so much easier for the young who so seldom even THINK of making judgments and in fact, though we later have some opinions -- we shouldn't really be making too many judgments as there but for the grace of God.
In my studies ( and it sounded very right to me ) it would seem that when we go into our eternity with full mental faculties as well as very enhanced understanding restored, -- we actually "judge" ourselves. That sounded so right to me -- even now we tend to be far harder on ourselves so often than anyone else even thinks of being. That means I think that I may be hanging my head a whole lot. The only thing that helps with that is that most of what we do here is a learning and therefore growing process -- so I think I can get through my "judgment" period.
Sounds almost restful to get into the dessert now and then. I'm sure I would enjoy it. Got to run now, but will be back later.
Blessings
Jackie
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- I will be glad when this winter is over. I think my DIL leaving my son was worse for me than BC. It was so unexpected for him. It happened on New Years Day. They have split custody now. Planning the holidays is hard. He and the kids will come over one day and have presents from GM and GP. They are young. He talked to them about doing something different since they will have a traditional Christmas at mom's. They decided to spend a couple days going snowboarding. He will get them one nice present. They will get more from my family so that is enough. They don't live far so I see them often. Making new traditions is hard. Moving on is hard. Time will help.
- I read this thread often and enjoy it.
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I'm back home now. Worked a bit extra today. My employer gave me a HUGH box of cookies, bread, mint fudge, and fudge covered pretzels --- each cookie and piece individually wrapped. Oh my -- she knew they would not eat them all. The logo on the wrapping says Cheryl's and I think the company may be from Arizona -- I really don't know much else. We will be having 'goodies' is for some time. I bet the box weighed about 30 lbs. and it was a little over half full.
SailingWind, I'm glad you read on our thread. We are pretty much varied here and almost everything is open to discussion. Not too big on politics or religion -- though I often talk about spiritual things. It is always sad when two people find they are not the 'great' match they seemed to be when they first got together. Hard for everyone and for grand parents -- it is also a broken bond for them. No one wants anyone to be truly un-happy, but we older folk have visions of the future and how it will work out -- and we get almost as much shock and surprise when those ideas of the future have to be seriously revised. I sure hope that smooth adjustments happen for the children -- it will likely help everyone if they do ok with it.
Just noticed that you are from Arizona SailingWind -- maybe you know this ???cookie store named Cheryl's. They are pretty tasty ( the ones I've tried so far ). My employer's daughter goes to college in AZ and I thought she mentioned once that this store was in one of the malls. Well, I don't even know where AZ State U. is located -- so who knows.
Tired today --- I think it is mainly due to the darker days we have been having lately. Today was no exception -- no sun. We could get some snow too. Yikes !!!! Am I ready -- not really. We have already had a couple of snows and to tell the truth....I'd rather have snow than rain. At least, we could actually get sun -- even with the snow coming.
Anyway, tomorrow I'll go back out and look for some new boots. I've put it off and I'm probably pushing my luck -- eventually we will get snow and though this time it is not likely to be much....I need to be ready.
See you all later.
Blessings
Jackie
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Hey there jack
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Don't know the store. Will have been in Phoenix two years in April.
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Gee Jackie! It sure sounds like your boss is pretty nice! Gosh, you won't have to do any holiday baking!
Salingwind....It sounds like you have had a trying year! Divorce affects the entire family and creates many changes. You are lucky that you are near your grandchildren and can see them often and it sounds as if everyone is trying hard to make it an easier transition for the kids. Hugs across the miles to you!
Well the scab on my face has flaked off and it's just very pink underneath. I think it will eventually lose some of the color and be o.k. Whew! I now need to pay more attention to what I am doing to avoid silly accidents like that!
My shopping is done but I still have a few things left to wrap. I have a feeling that the Suburban is going to be really loaded when we take off for my son's house in eastern Tennessee next week. I love the holidays!
Cammi and Carole....I really think you develop the love of reading in a child by giving them books and reading to them or with them. I have always loved to read and I've tried to pass on that passion to my grandsons. When I taught school, I always took about 15 minutes a day and read to my homeroom class. I tried to introduce them to a variety of authors and subjects in hope that a few of the kids would develop an interest.
Well, I still have things I need to do tonight and we missed The Voice last night and have it taped so we want to see how it ends.
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Yesterday I took Christmas outfits to my grandgirls and got to walk home from school with them. They chattered non-stop about all the kids, the upcoming holiday party, and things they are learning. It was fun and such a learning experience for me.
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Ritajean, Be sure to use sunscreen on it when you're outside.
Teka, Lovely. And I really like hot cider.
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We’re all assigned a piece of garden, a corner of the universe that is ours to transform. Our corner of the universe is our own life—our relationships, our homes, our work, our current circumstances—exactly as they are. Every situation we find ourselves in is an opportunity, perfectly planned by the Holy Spirit, to teach love instead of fear.
Marianne
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Teacher,
Don't you just love the viewpoint that youngsters have. It is generally all excitement and nothing too difficult for the exuberance of their age. We all had that once and like many, it is truly hard to hold onto -- we are discouraged from it as we aren't " adult " enough if we feel too much excitement and anticipation. We have to act our age. Anyway, you made me wish I was walking along not too far from you and the GK's.
Teka,
That would be funny except it isn't!!! I know what you are saying. I've gone through several periods when my balance was extraordinarily iffy. I worry about it even now, but have found if I am faithful in doing exercises and stay pretty up on using my walking pass at the Rec Center -- that it is better. In fact, it becomes far better. One of the gym trainers at the Center said that among Srs. falling ( and suffering some sort of injury ) one of the biggest helpful things is having some sort of exercise to keep muscles active and strong so that the weight of the body gets full support. Not being able to do that lends to easily losing one's balance. Never gave that one much credit until I got old enough for it to actually happen to me.
Oh gosh -- hoping for some sun today but don't know if it will come. I'm singing my sad no sun song loudly. Speaking of which -- having I enough s words there. Singing, sad, sun, song.
I hope you are ( you too, Blondie ) all going to have a really good day today -- just because it is a good day for it, sun or not. I'm busy putting one ( a sun ) in my sky so I can have a bright pretty day anyway. See you all later.
Blessings
Jackie
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Ritajean: very glad to hear your face is going to be OK. How scary for you.
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Wren...Thanks for the reminder of the sunscreen. I always use it when we are in FL but don't think about it now in IL when it is so dreary but those rays do come through the clouds and this little section of my face will be very tender for a couple more weeks. I'm going to take your advice every time that I venture out.
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I was at the hospital this morning doing my final pre-op labs & meeting with the anesthesiologist before Fridays' surgery. My husband works two floors up in the Burn Unit and this is surgery #6, so he said he would go ahead and go to work rather than sit and wait with me - again. He walked 100 feet to the elevator, walked in and collapsed. Fortunately one of his co-workers was in the elevator. The next thing he knew he was in the ER with no idea what happened. He did not have a heart attack or stroke. He was admitted to the hospital and the internal medicine docs were running tests all day. When I left, he was getting a blood transfusion. We knew he has been anemic since the spring due to a bite by a brown recluse spider, but he was getting better. It's a puzzle. Meanwhile, I am still having surgery Friday. I've been through it enough times to do it all blindfolded, so I'll just drive myself to the hospital, go to his hospital room to give my husband the keys, then hop onto the OR table. I should be released on day two. Whoever gets out of the hospital first drives home and comes back the next day to pick up the other one. Easy peasy? Hope so.
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Sandra, Those brown recluse are really evil. Hope they figure it out and it's nothing serious. I love your plan. Hope you feel up to driving that soon. If not, I'm sure you have friends to call on. In your pocket for surgery.
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Count on me and the Universe tucking ourselves away in your pocket too. Prayers love and lots of positive vibrating energy for you both too.
Blessings,
Jackie
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There's lots of room. I have BIG pockets!
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Sandra - took a quick glance at the picture and first thought it was a mini-skirt - LOL. My excuse is always chemo brain. Sorry to hear about your husband. Hope he'll be on the mend soon. I laughed at the idea of your dropping off the car keys in his room. Best of luck for the "LAST" surgery Friday.
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