INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours

Good Morning Ladies.

Patty u've had that  headache to long I think, please listen to Sas. Those types of headaches are terrible.

Hole I hope u'r doing better, I would imagine that a shoulder would be a lot of pain cuz of movement too.

How nice of all of u to donate, not for money, but to really help people, it has to be so appreciated and make u feel even better.

OK it's up to me to break Chevy's bubble, Chevy those pictures were probably taken with one of the first cameras ever made--don't u remember the puff of smoke when it was done. I do understand when u have u'r very confusing days thinking that one was recent--which of course made me laugh) but then a sadness came over me knowing u really believe that. I can't say Christ was walking the earth then, that would be recockulous, but u can still use u'r acrobatic skills even to this day. That's why u'r so good at u nite job. And I do know when u do have a BD the firemen are on call--so u see the whole neighborhood takes care of u in a way, day and nite.  So dream u'r little dream and we will all be behind u, as others will be.

Rose, I think it's cyber-bullying. Around here the schools can get involved in that. I'm long gone from the school scene, have no other ideas.

Stay dry?

Seriously hope they come out next week but with the last couple of days the fluid output had gone up. Hoping tonight they go down and keep going down. The bright side of the last two days is that the car had been fixed!

Rose - that is soo sad about the texts. Can you explain to your daughter that the sad person texting that s**t is doing it because she is miserable (the one doing the texting). One way to make yourself feel better though not a good way is to tear someone else down. That's what I used to do with my DD but thank goodness long b4 texts since she's 27. It was Friday night - was it at some kind of sleepover kind of thing? "Let's find someone to pick on". Great response and bet the texter was floored since she was no doubt expecting the same carp back. Or "please stop, please, oh pretty please" Agree with Spookie that school might need to get involved. But #1 is build your DD up which I'm sure you are doing. Maybe time for special DD/Mom activity if only a trip to the ice cream store

Wish you could send some of the monsoon just N of us. I think they have resorted to drinking recycled UM discard water.

Luvmygoats, Sassy, Spookie- I sat with my kid and we talked about who are real friends and fair weather friends and when to set boundaries. My DD is an emotionally YOUNG, immature 7th grader and wants everyone to like her. We (Mom/Dad) spend lots of time trying to explain how impractical and unlikely it is that everyone will like you. Pick a few kids and ignore the drama. She's a good kid, highly motivated at school, works hard, loves sports but she is by nature a serious kid, not happy sunny la-la-la easy going. I mean if you got left in a movie theater as a toddler, dumped in an special needs orphanage, 3 foster homes before the blued eyed- red haired giant spirited you away from China to a land where nothing smelled, tasted or looked the same, you would be serious too. Survival is a biggie and she is ever vigilant. Maybe because of the deafness too. It's very isolating. She wants connection to the marrow of her being, just like all other middle school kids, and maybe more so because of being adopted.

I was hoping if you kill the other kid with kindness and never return "fire" then it would stop. It worked last night. I am trying to tell my kid to turn off the phone. You are right luvmygoats- kids who do such things are not happy. It amazes me that the kids still use such abusive language when I know the school counselors have held many sessions with kids, as a group and one on one, to stop the abusive language. Last year my kid got nailed with sending a nasty text session (basically a fight via text between 2 )and she was read the riot act. She stopped; we look at her phone and messaging. She knows it too. We demand a hand over - like last night. Still there are some raging bullies at the school. I hear it from other parents, same thing. There just are not very many Chinese kids at the school and most of them tend to be rather dedicated students and hard workers, which makes them targets. If you all think of any nifty ideas or comebacks - PM me or write them.

Patty- Sassy is right about the head aches. if you have a leak and leave it unattended there can be serious consequences. So just call and run it past the doc on call at the pain center. Do not minimize the head ache pain, vision issues and report any numbness tingling you experience, or changes in position causing symptoms. Hopefully it's nothing. Better a quick call and leave it to them. I hope things continue to improve for you.

I hope it improves for Blondie, Holeinone, Momof2 and everyone else I missed. Special hugs to Jwoo..

((((HUGS)))) Rose and for your sweet daughter. Don't know any comebacks except just what you are doing with her.

Rosie!!!!!!!!!!I think I would be so pissed, I would report them to the school. I know that would be hard on your Daughter...... but that is bullying! I'm just so sorry.... I feel so bad for your Daughter...

You were very calm about it..... Oh let ME get on that cell phone, if MY Daughter was bullied!!!!! Those girls would not know what HIT them.

Damn good thing they didn't have cell-phones in those days.... Okay, kindness is nice, but a good bat, or stick of dynamite is even better! Damn those kids! I think I really would report them to their school, and let them handle it.... Bullying can really HURT those kids! I'm sorry....

Okay yes.... It was me standing on Ivan's shoulders.... I LOVED that Acrobat class.... until he and another guy were swinging me around in a back-bend, and then when I was over their heads, one was supposed to catch me.... but I fell down on gymnasium floor on the back of my head....

And that's when I had a severe brain-concussion with amnesia, and helped me forget all of my childhood years.... all of my school years.... I see the pictures of those times, but I don't remember being there....

Okay now shut-up Cammi! I just KNOW she is going to say that's what led to my demise and become a world-renown pole dancer! Hah.... But a darned good one at that....

Hey Peppermint & Mom

Yes Littlegoats! And Mom 2.... Report those damn little girls! Of all the nerve! They will keep doing it, until some sort of intervention happens!

Wait..... does she need that phone? I don't know how we survived with one phone in the house....!!!! At least the kids weren't so sneaky! I know "they all have one" but ..... Oh God.... I don't know how we survived!

Ah geez.... Sass is going to be a brat..... join the club kiddo.... so am I! We NEED to be brats sometimes..... and so is Cammi She is our mentor... She can be our teacher.... of something....

We need to get Cammi in on this.... where IS she....??? Probably out making a Walmart run or something.... In her Pajama's....

Yes.... save the texts.... and notify the damn school.... It just makes ME mad because I HAVE Daughter's.... I remember one time when the youngest one had a worthless boyfriend, and she broke up with that little piss-ant, and he took her SHOES, and didn't give them back to her.... and she walked home crying!

Dh went TO his house.... had a little "talk" with that little beetle-brain, got her shoes back, and he never bothered her again.

Us Mom's need to take charge here.... You want ME to come out there? I just de-activated my FB account.... I am just too old for that nonsense.... and sometimes you see stuff on there, you wished you HADN'T seen....

Rose, stop making excuses for both girls. Middle school is hard to get through anyway. Their hormones are exploding, peer pressure, grades, parents,life in general.

Doesn't matter if your DD is Chinese and adopted. Kids would bully if she was green with orange spots. I've seen them do it if you don't have the "right" sneakers. Or the "right" hair style. Or whatever is "right" this week.

If this brat is doing this to your DD, I'd bet the farm she's doing it to other kids too. It's not harmless girl stuff. I heard of a young girl who killed herself because of it.

The school needs to know. They should have procedure in place to deal with it properly.

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Mommy- I hope the drains can come out this week. That shower will be waiting for you!

I will call and talk to the counselors at the school. I just love them and have such respect for them. They have a hard job. You are right spookie probably nothing to do with being Chinese. My white haired daughter got bullied and made her cry over being teased she was an "albino freak." Her choir teacher stopped the choir one morning and said enough! This girl is not albino stop! That was years ago. Now my white haired daughter dyes her hair brown.. to blend. Kids are cruel. It breaks my heart because her natural hair color is a true stunning white! I am sure my DD would say it was her decision to go brown but I wonder.

We have had some suicides here because of bullying.. being a kid can be hard. We have had some other things happen too, that required more drastic interventions (a talk by the police) and stopped thankfully. It just seems like a non stop thing.. ugh. The school already bans phones during the day -YAY! I am happy to report this same girl texted my DD and said she was sorry. So maybe sending back daisies to all cannon fire works??!! I hope so. My DD seems better today, done family things all day.

I am adding to this post - got such cute pictures back of oldest DD from the Dance! She looked so cute in her dress. She and one of the other residents were all jazzed up. Adorable. I will try and get a picture. Night.

Good Morning Ladies---

Well Chevy u said it u'r self see how easy it is to have u'r legs spread, it was then and it still is. Good for u, BTW is this declared as income?

Patty just call who u need to call and have this headache checked out. I never knew any of the other stuff, so please cal someone.

Rose my heart just flopped over---Teens can be so cruel and explosive and sad and every emotion that's in the book. But bullying is so horrible---this is all newer to us but I think u really handed it well, just kill with kindness. But they do say to let the counselors know now, it' very important or everyone concerned. Oh that's just so mean, I don't understand why anyone would bully anyone else to begin with, I mean if u don't like them fine just leave them alone, not everyone likes everyone, but to make fun or be mean to me is evil. I'm sorry u'r DD has to go thru any of this.

Chevy- you look like Shirley Temple in that little sailors outfit! How cute!