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Okay how do you get a cake out of the pan when it said not to grease the pan?
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good luck with that, CHEVY will know.....
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update. - finally they found the problem. I have a fluid filled cyst where they froze off that last tumor a few weeks ago. They said it is infected and leaking in my body. Tomorrow they are going to squeeze me in to get this drained and them hopefully home by wed with oral antibiotics. Do very excited to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Oh yeah the draining is a super easy procedure. Woohoo
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Sass.... can you turn it upside down on a large plate, and put hot wet towels on top of it? Or tap it gently with a wooden something.... all around it. No matter WHAT those directions say, always use something to grease it with... Even if it is like Pam or something.... Or just leave it in the pan, frost it, and cut out sections like that..... It will still taste the same.
What do you mean "IF" DDBBBFFFFFFFFFFcomes home?
Rosie.... I know..... I know what it's like to scream like a ban-shee..... sometimes we just gotta do it.... but it doesn't even help. I would just go in the bed-room and cry. Most of the problems I ever had were trying to deal with a drinker..... But thank God, after 57 married years, it has gotten so much better.......
I remember my folks always getting into screaming matches, and how afraid me and my Brother were.... So I would never face any problems..... only by being silent..... But when I finally got old enough, and mad enough, all hell broke loose!
An geez Peppermint! At least they found the problem! YaaaaaaaaaaaY! Who was it that lived through Ruptured Appendics..... I had that same thing with I was 14.... Just a bad stomach ache.... and my Dad had the flu, so they thought that was what was wrong with me.... 2 days later, one night I remember screaming in pain! And threw up.... the next morning they called the Doctor.... He came out.... I went in to the hospital.... couldn't even walk. I SWEAR they were waiting for me to die.
THEN some Doc thought I could be pregnant! I didn't even know what that WAS hardly! So they operated, found peritonitis all through me.... had drains, and barely knew anything for 3 days.... They thought I wouldn't make it.... But I SHOWED THEM! That was my close-call.....
Hi-ho! Hah! You thought I would know? You haven't seen ME screw something up here in this kitchen, HAVE you? Silly girl!
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Peppermint Patty- no wonder you are sick. Major body infection! I hope they can get this worked out and you can go home.
Sassy- thank for those links.
My accountant and I actually just had a long talk about making sure things are in order. He told me he had several clients who had died unexpectedly last year and then their spouses or other family members who had to settle estates and taxes with his help were left with no guidance. I had never told him about the bc, but did that day we talked. So we talked through what I had set up and other things I could do to be better organized. This is independent of having any sort of disease, this is just around the what if of anything else that can happen.
I have all the estate docs drawn up and POAs set up too and did before it all went down. But beyond that, one of the things he said most people forget to do is to be sure everyone knows some of the finer details. Like all your credit cards, retirement funds, life insurance policies, safety deposit box locations, where the bill info is stored to contact them to make sure you can pay the utilities. This is especially true for single people who live alone (like me) or in relationships where one person manages the money. He said people cannot figure it out how to pay bills, close credit card accounts, get access to monies to pay bills until a house can be sold, etc. without some sort of direction. He suggests keeping it in a folder or binder somewhere that people will be able to find and updating it yearly during tax time. He said that is when most people are focused on their finances, if not all year long.
I will tell you I have a good friend whose father was unwilling to share anything with her even when asked and as she had to assume POA in his decline. Her estate settlement since his passing has been short of a disaster. I think most people don't want to leave that burden to those who will carry on after we are gone. My parents were good about making sure we had what we needed. It was really hard even with those things too.
So I am in the process of getting some of those finer details documented for my family that would have to take over if I could not make decisions or otherwise am not here to make them.
I hope that is helpful to folks here on at least the financial aspects. I know there is a lot more some have to think about with respect to children and the like. Glad to hear there are threads here to talk about it.
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Okay Patty, in your pocket. Got the cake out and. Frosted. Chocolate, chocolate frosting, little Hershey chocolate drops, with cherry sauce and whipped cream. No calories @ all. I just had to lick the spreader. Now on a chocolate rush.0 -
Yes Smarty! You snuck one in on me.... Ha! I have all my papers and information in a special place where everyone knows.... AND all the phone numbers who has to be called first..... Like SS.... to stop those checks.... Plus, Titles, Deeds, Insurance Policies, POA's and Living Will.... etc.
Even the Creamation's are paid for.... plus the accounts are in all our names, and the house is now in the girls names. So actually even though we have a will, it won't be needed, because it has all been taken care of.
I went through this with my Grandma, and my folks.... The hardest part was going through the big funerals.... man, I hate those.... So sad.... and by the time WE kick the bucket, everyone else will be so old, they will say "WHO?"..... For my Dad, we just had a grave-side service, and they laid him in beside Mom.... It was STILL hard, but not the big commotion of a funeral and reception. Just a few words, with his friends, and then we all met at Dad's bar, and had a few toasts to him..... Much easier.
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Patty - so glad the root cause has been found. Hope recovery is smooth from this point on.
Sassy, can't imagine what to do about that cake. next time, maybe parchment? What were they thinking???
March is coming in like a lamb. It's a good day for projects. My fridge is a mess, so I guess it's time to go feed the mouse that lives in the compost bin...0 -
choc cake sounds wonderful. Choc is one of the few things that taste the same going down and coming up. I know tmi
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Patty - it's great that they found out what's wrong with you. That way they'll fix it and you'll be home in no time!
Mmm - chocolate cake with cherry sauce... Can someone please send a tiny piece my way ?
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Chevy, Believe it or not if every single detail is thought to be taken care of---even if a Trust is in place, a Will is needed. There can be unforeseen things like finding an unclaimed Lotto ticket, that the trust doesn't necessarily cover. Other stuff too, but too heavy here.
I did essentially, the same for Dh's funeral. He was cremated too. Calling at the back of the church right before Mass. Then lunch at the local place in town. Easy to up the food when more came then expected. Then family and a few back at the house. Plus, the funeral was on a Saturday 9 days after he passed. So, much easier on me. By then I had slept for days and felt human again.0 -
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Chevy, You're a lucky girl. Peritonitis is what killed my mother in 1945. Before penicillin was available to civilians. Actually they finally managed to get some but it was too late.
PattyP, Add water to the list.
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Shhhh...... I won't tell...
BCO ladies take a group photo at lunch at George's Restaurant in Long Beach, California on June 3, 2014
Left to right: _ann_ (in black), badger (behind), hbcheryl (in front of badger), ruthbru, kindergarten, SlowDeepBreaths, 2nd_time_around, whippetmom, and sweetandspecial
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The house smells divine Chocolate throughout. Interspersed with the pot roast spices>>>Marjoram, fennel, rosemary, tarragon, thyme, pinch of mint, onions. OOps forgot garlic Oh well. Must remember to do the chocolate @ Thanksgiving and Christmas just for the smell.
Patty, we talk of everything here and deny when we can. Particularly, are beloved Chevy. You saw those trashy heels. Well, maybe I have some stashed too
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Mama, don't let Badger and 2nd fool you---these girls have reputation. Most of them exercise.0 -
Hi again! Sass, the reason I said that is because Both my Grandma, and my folks went to great lengths to have a will filled out, and then notarized.... But since I was my Grandma's POA and Drable POA, I was in charge of her account.... That meant her house and bank account..... And since I was given her house, by a quit-claim deed, I tried to sell it, for her care.... But it would not sell.... too much work needed to be done...
So the city allowed me to keep it in my name, but only rent it out for the annual, and costs of Insurance and Taxes. Her will never came into play. Same with my folks... My Brother and I were on all of their accounts.... so no will was ever needed. Maybe it is different under some circumstances.... I just know that when a Husband dies, or a wife, it all goes to the surviving spouse, irregardless of what the wishes were when it comes to their kids.... Or even to another person.....
I remember when this man died, he had willed his home to be sold to my BIL, and SIL for only $150.... But his wife said absolutely not.... They were renters, but his wife was then in control of his will.... So they got nothing.... even though that was what he wanted....
And my friends Brother thought that when his new wife passed away, that HE would get her Estate.... But her KIDS protested, which they should have, and I don't know whatever happened to that mess..... It can be a long drawn-out mess......
We DO have a will in place, but it still has to go through probate, UNLESS everything is in their name..... So no need for the wills....
Wren.... I know..... that's what they said.... It can be deadly.... if something goes wrong like that, and too much time is taken to figure out what it is.... Sorry about your Mom....I just remember having to go back to have some long tube drained and finally taken out....
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well, they exercise, I don't. Can't you tell? Just lucky enough to know the right people...
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Okay, now WHAT? WHAT trashy heels??? Sass, I couldn't even get one FOOT into one of those cute little tart-like heels! Are you kidding? And I know Crocs look pretty stupid, but not the cuter ones.... the winter ones with fur...
Spookie.... just to clarify..... "Winter" is when some STATES suffer through about 4 months of cold, wet, SNOWY weather, for no apparent reason.... Again.... "Winter" is for the tough and rowdy.... not some sillya$$ women who never wore a COAT in their lives.
Winter means a new beginning.... Out with the old and in with the NEW!
I am so sick of Winter!
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You guys crack me up sometimes!
Patty- chocolate tastes the same going down as coming up made me LOL. It is good to find humor in the not so humorous situations, right? Wishing you a rapid recovery from the infection. Systemic infections make you feel so bad. I had one once too. I was in the hospital for 8 days with it. You are going to get better and be home soon.
Chevy- well, just south of you we had a big dump of winter Thursday into Sat morning, and today it was all gone and back to spring weather. Amazing how it can do that, but that becomes common in March and into April. More warm days will come, less snow will fall. Next weekend is daylight savings and I am so happy about that!
I won't be here as much this week with some professional things going on but will pop in when I can. Hugs to everyone here going through difficult times right now.
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2nd. Love the pic. Thanks for posting
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Love the pix putting the name n face together
Patty so glad they figured it out, take care of yourself
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Thank OMD only have to deal with Chevy on THIS page. GOOD slippers. OHHH Chevy chevy-----oh chevy. Do I talk of anything that I don't have a clue. Beachie asked a simple question about itchies. You saw it was a medical/nursing question. Seems simple for me to answer. Wouldn't do it. It was associated with Rads---I know NOTHING about rads----will not tread where I have no knowledge. I don't pretend.I have however studied----to the degree that is reasonable RE:probate. So, my DEAR CHEVY....it allows me to make a plug for Dacey. Norman Dacey wrote his first Edition of "How to Avoid Probate" in the 60's. My dad gave me his copy. Regretfully, I loaned it after I read it and used it. Had to buy the updated version in the 90's when several estates were eminent. By then it grew. The folksiness that was in the original edition was gone. Bummer.
In the 60's and 70's The American Bar Association tried to have Dacey JAILED. Why? He was telling people how they could do stuff on their own. He would explain why something was necessary. Then he had blank forms that could be filled out and notatirized or medallion(bank) notary. They were legal. The ABA didn't like it b/c it cut them out of the loop.Money for services.
It was chaotic at the time in the 60's, the judiciary did eventually rule in his favor. But then there were individual state ABA's that fought. It was a mess. But eventually he won.
Lawyers now use his documents to create legal stuff.
Norman Dacey is a hero for you and me. He changed the world. Yeah, he did. Cool
I was trying to do some legal stuff awhile ago will go find the thread and bring back link
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Okay, this is a link to a group that provides legal services. They are the next generation of Dacey. What you can do on this site is do all kinds of legal documents---no cost for x number of days. There is a legal firm behind it. The forms and how they tell you how to complete them is quite legal. The trial memebership is free.
The trial memebership lapses after about ten days. Thinking that in the trial period you can do a limited number---forget. You can read. If you decide to use the site, be prepared to do as many documents as you can during the free time. Then remember to cancel the membership. To make this work for you, you need a printer to print off the final documents.
https://www.rocketlawyer.com/?partnerid=103&gclid=CJCFkMbViMQCFS3l7Aod-gkApA&e=2368160983d
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Patty
hoping you get sprung soon!Sassy, can just smell your dinner here, now. Yummy! (Kept trying to type something and auto correct made it "dee-lush", tee hee). How did dinner go
Am using Dad's iPad, it's so slow like a player piano, funny! So busy watching that, forgot what I was going to post.
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Oh Captain, My Captain--------------CHEVY, such a good thing. You bring forward such useful memories and they are free
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Wow....how did I get this far behind...I'll never catch up!!
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2222222222222---Dinner was so fun from beginning to end-----they brought bruschetta. Toasts done at home----didn't think it would be okay----it was........salad>>>>recipe from somewhere>>>> spinach/green onions/red onions/strawberries/nut--any>>>Ken Rasberry walnut vinaigrette--littly apply and tossed. New bread from Publix's to go with pot roast stew(?)-----crock pot. perfect---hardy ---held up to dunking---saw the guys. Me too at the last
Decided last month to have cleaning gal twice a month------the goal was to return to the old days of entertaining. But I hate cleaning. I keep up with it-----But pre BC------OMD couldn't entertain without things being perfectly clean. With having Di twice a month---I told her I would then schedule 'something'. She had a funeral yesterday. OMD----------I looked around and said--good enough.DBF washed the tile.
We had a great visit.-----------------been awhile for what used to be normal.
Space shot tonignt
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Rocket went off. didn't seem normal. but no blow up..... not sure why a difference.............We are always edgy here about rockets. and previously shuttles. They are big here. They get a small notation elsewhere. Hopes it's okay.
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Patty Peppermint - I am so happy for you! I hope they squeeze you in first thing in the morning and get you on the road to recovery asap. It will be so nice for you to get out of there knowing that you are on the mend. That is great news!
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