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Octogirl, Happy Birthday to your dh! I'm sure he doesn't expect more than you are able to provide for a celebration.
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Carole: I slept through the storm! We had our windows closed and the air conditioner and didn't hear a thing. I knew a thunderstorm was expected and had unplugged our computers and the internet.
Had a fun afternoon with the great grandkids. It was too hot to walk to the park so we stayed in the air conditioned apartment and played. Got some cute pictures I'll have to post.
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thanks Carole....I figured out the perfect birthday present for hubby: he has been handling all the housework, cooking etc all week, plus going to work....(and doing some work at home), and of course he is stressed about me...so I told him to forget dishes, laundry, grocery shopping and all that tomorrow, and do whatever he wants, all day long. For him, that will mean puttering in the garden in the morning while it is cool, and probably playing on the computer and watching the baseball game with me in the afternoon.... He needs a break too!
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Octogirl
I think that is the perfect gift, not only because he will get to do what he wants, but because it acknowledges that you see how much extra he is doing and you appreciate it.
For many years, that was what I would ask my husband for on Mothers Day. I was the stay at home mother of five (or more, when we were foster parents). He would help the kids with breakfast, take them to McDonalds for lunch, supervise them all day, then order pizza for dinner. That was all fine with me- I got to sleep in, read a whole book, take a bubble bath, and never here "Mommy, Mom,Ma- I need, I want, etc" I came to really cherish those days.
So Happy Birthday to Hubby, and congrats to you for coming up with a great gift
Anne
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I had my first Taxtoere treatment yesterday, everything went well. I am hyped on steroids right now, have 2 more to take tonight and then tomorrow I will probably crash if not Monday. Going today to get my head shaved. I will feel better knowing that I do not have to go through the scalp pain as the hair dies and falls out. Depending on how I feel we may leave at some point this week for Iowa. DGD is going out to Las Cruces NM to spend some time with her brother and his family. I am so glad they love her.
Need to get on the road for my head shave. Hugs to all
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Yep, hubby is enjoying his day off and his birthday and he couldn't have picked a more gorgeous day for it! Cool and sunny outside and supposed to stay well below triple digits all weekend! (hey, here in the Great Central Valley in late July that's about as good as it gets :-)) He has put his favorite composer (Bach) on the outdoor speakers and is picking tomatoes from the garden (our tomato crop this year is the best we've ever had). Not sure what could be better for him.
As for me, as noted on another thread, I did my first post surgery walking this am. Half a mile, took me half an hour. Pretty slow but baby steps are good, and most importantly, it felt great.
Time to sit in the backyard and watch hubby putter in the garden...have a good weekend all!
Octo.
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Good morning, all. I'm doing laundry at the laundromat. Bright, sunny day and will be warm.
Happy Sunday.
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Home from vacation in Florida, where we enjoyed walking on the beach, sitting under an umbrella, eating seafood every night, and just relaxing. It was just what my DH needed and tomorrow he goes back to work while I get back on schedule for chores and exercise class.
The hardest thing we ever did was say NO to our son. After years of fertility issues, we adopted him. He was a day old, so there were no abuse issues but we had no medical history because his birth mother was adopted. When he was a teen he started hurting himself. We ended up putting him a therapeutic school. He walked out on his 18th birthday. He continued making choices not in agreement with the contract we had made in family therapy. Now at 25 he is hopefully growing up. He's had the same job for 8 months and has a girlfriend. Tough love is aptly named. I know if I'd been dealing with his actions my health would be awful. Heart health and bc recovery wouldn't have been a priority.
Love the pics. Great deck.
Welcome to newbies.
This week I have to see dr for follow up on ab repair. It's been 8 weeks and I'm now feeling normal. I can't lay on my stomach and don't know when I will be able to do so again. I had wanted to lay on a towel on the beach but enjoyed sitting instead. I'm finally adjusting to new mess since insurance wouldn't cover the one that worked and now I need three! It's ridiculous that I have to buy three when the previous one was working. I will never understand the workings or non-working of insurance.
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Welcome back, Teacher. Glad you enjoyed your FL vacation.
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We just finished putting the camper on the truck. Will be going for a short (three-day) fishing trip this week. Then have to be back as I've got a couple contracts starting up.... I'm also going to my cousin's 100th birthday party next week.
No breast cancer in that side of the family (my dad's), just in my mom's.0 -
Have a great time, GG. Hope you catch a lot of fish. HAPPY BIRTHDAY to your cousin!
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Welcome to Octogirl, 50sgirl and Jan69. This is a great group of ladies.
Carole, I love your porch. Your DH did a great job.
Chevy, that cake looks so good
Wren, thanks, I will make cakes for family and maybe some friends. Mainly I was thinking about going into a bakery somewhere to decorate cakes when and if I ever retire,
Anne, I believe you were correct in your decision. There is only so much we can do to help our children no matter how much we love them.
Mommarch, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Enjoy your trip.
Puffin, glad you were able to spen time with your grandchildren even though you did not get to go to the parek
One son and family stopped over last night since they just got home from vacationing with her family. Today we drove over to another ds home about an hour away to visit with them and see the grandkids there. We had a nice visit.
Just finished crocheting a white beanie hat and started another one. Still working on the blue scarf to match the hat I made before. Crocheting is very calming to me but I start it and forget about the time.
Hope everyone had a great weekend and have a great week.
Emma
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mommarch: you'll be in my thoughts this week, that taxotere can be wicked stuff.
We got back home this afternoon, had a fun weekend with the kids and grandkids and great grandkids. Trying to get the house cooled down, need to go around and water some of wilty plants. Here I am with great granddaughter Kyara.
Lew with great grandson Sylas
with granddaughter Krysta, who just graduated from HS
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Whether you know it or not, one of the most
important relationships in your life is with your Soul. Will you be kind
and loving to your Soul, or will you be harsh and difficult? Many of us
unknowingly damage our Souls with our negative attitudes and actions or by
simple neglect. By making the relationship with your Soul an important part of
your life, however, by honoring it in your daily routine, you give your life
greater meaning and substance. Use your experiences--all of them--as
opportunities to nourish your Soul!
Elisabeth Kuebler-Ross0 -
Puffin, lovely pictures. Looks like you and Lew are both enjoying the time with your young family members.
We left the a/c on last night, only the 2nd time this July in MN. We're planning to drive to St. Cloud today, about 2 hrs., and possibly buy a boat at a marine store there. It's an older boat that has most of what dh wants.
Wishing everyone a good day.
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Hi from the west coast. This is my last full day in CA.
We spent a few nights in Berkeley, then in Monterey, and four days in Mammoth Lakes. I loved Mammoth and saw so many great places like Mono Lane, Devils Postpile and Hot Creek- all geologic wonders. I collected a lot of volcanic rocks to mail home for my geology lab.
My son drive us back through Yisemite whi h was a special treat. Weather was perfect in the Sierras. But it is too dry.
Mommarch, thinking of you and praying for the best possible outcome.
Anne, sending hugs your way. It is a very tiugh situation with your DD. she knows you are there if and when she has had enough of this craziness. I am glad you can stay connected with the grandkids. That is so important.
Carole, i wish you continued safe and peaceful travels! And Teacher, i am glad you had a good vacation.
Jackie it is so good to have a job you enjoy.
Sending good wishes to all.
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Joan811, so glad you enjoyed my back yard! :-) Yes, Yosemite is too dry, although in a sense you lucked out if you had perfect weather there....we've had more than normal amounts of rain, hail and even snow in the high country the past few weeks. If you think it looks dry now, you should have seen it a month ago :-(
I love the Mammoth area and Eastern Sierra also.
Puffin, love the family pics. I am seeing my grandkids in two weeks, can't wait!
The weekend was nice, but it is warming up this week. We will be 105 by Wednesday, and sunny. Going to go for a short walk this am before it heats up.
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Some people never seem to grow old. Always active in thought, always ready to adopt new ideas, they are never chargeable to fogeyism. Satisfied, yet ever dissatisfied, settled, yet ever unsettled, they always enjoy the best of what is, and are the first to find the best of what will be.
William Shakespeare
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Saying a big hi to all this a.m. Got home last night about 10 p.m. A little later than I expected. Had a difficult time this time. One of the little Yorkies -- actually the old one, but not that old, took sick ( on a Sat. when there was so little help to be had ) and passed away. Very sad and I truly hated having to call and let the family know. We get through whatever we have too, but we really don't have to like it. I will be staying again this coming week-end but feel it should be fine. The older dog did have 'issues', but it is always a very sad thing when the 'owner' can't be there --- so you can let your friend know personally -- but we did ok. Lots of tears -- both ends. I thought the older Yorkie was a rare jewel and she will be sooo missed.
Otherwise we/I'm fine and looking forward to catching up around here so that I can do almost an instant re-play this week-end. There were two weddings scheduled and both out of town for my employers -- so a bit of non-stop work almost -- but you take what comes and work with it.
Joan, wow --- your excursions did sound like they were memorable and enjoyable. So funny to hear someone say they are sending rocks to themselves but I know -- the only way to get them home. I just find rock study fascinating anyway.
Puffin those are pictures that just yell fun and memories the minute you see them. Grandkids are almost always fun -- made for a grandparents delight I think.
We are hearing thunder, but not sure the rain will come. The humidity is here though -- ick.
Anyway, off to the bank now and to feed the feral kitties. Hope you have all been well ( Mommarch ) and keeping cool -- termite -- sounds like you may be getting some of the yucky humidity too.
See you all later.
Jackie
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Joan, One of our dilemmas trying to downsize is what to do with all the rocks. We moved ourselves from Houston to Seattle in a rented truck. Every drawer I looked into had rocks in addition to whatever else is there. I have a beautiful white & rose quartz rock from my first backpacking trip. My family made fun of me because I was complaining how heavy my pack was all the way up - and then picked up a rock to take back. I went to Greece with a group and we picked up so many souvenir rocks that we joked about them being trucked in at night for us to find.
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Wren and Joan,
At least you don't have to wrap all the rocks when you pack them up! I collect both Depression glass and antique china head dolls. I cringe at the thought of us having to ever make a move and pack our collections. We had to take everything off our walls and shelves when we did the roof this spring . That in itself was a job.
had 3 lovely cool days this weekend, now we are back to summer heat and humidity.Had rain last night, looks like we may get more. Need some now , after a pretty wet spring ,
Been doing better on the gluten free and FODmap diets, but today was one of the not so good days. Went to lunch with a friend and had to head home early. Phoooo! The gluten free was a challenge when we were in Montana.
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Hi everyone
Jackie- so sorry about the little yorkie. We had a similar situation years ago. One set of good friends left their old, blind and deaf dog with another set of good friends for the Christmas holidays. The owner even brought over materials to build a secure area for George. They weren't gone 24 hrs when George got out, fell in the pool and drowned. The friend responsible for George came over to pick my DD to babysit. She was so upset. She knew she had to tell the owners, but it was 2 days before Christmas and didn't want to ruin the holiday. What followed was about a 15 min conversation on what they could say to the owners without technically saying George was gone "he's been no trouble at all", " he hasn't made a sound" , etc. The day after Christmas they told the owners, who weren't at all surprised. They knew it wouldn't be long. I'm not sure who was most upset- Diane for having the dog die on her watch, or the owners that were so upset that Diane and her family had to deal with it.
With all the talk of grandkids, I have to post one of the recent pictures we had taken:
Anne
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Puffin, Love the pics. Grandchildren are such a blessing!
Mommarch, you are in my thoughts daily. Thinking of you also Sandra & Mike. Healing thoughts being sent to you all.
Paula
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PS - Just got to the page to see your lovely photo Ann. You are a sweetheart of a mother and grandmother.
Paula
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Ann, I love your "granda and kids" pic too. You hit the nail on the head ---- I'm sure my employers feel bad that I had to sit with their sweet little friend while she went to the Bridge. Sad !!!! Though it is something that you never do at all well most of the time ( and it still hurts plenty ) I do have, likely since I'm a rescuer, a little more experience. What saves me is knowing that all distress vanishes and that animals are generally way more accepting of it all --- we are the ones who have trouble in those areas.
Again -- a very beautiful picture.
Jackie
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Great picture of you and the grandchildren, Anne. Enjoyed seeing it.
Your employees couldn't have had a better person in charge during their absence, Jackie. Sorry you had to deal with the death of their dog.
Joan, your trip sounds wonderful for a geologist!
Hi to everyone else.
We bought the boat in St. Cloud yesterday and it sits outside by our deck. It's a 1988 boat and motor and has some signs of wear. Hope it works out for us and we get some use and enjoyment out of it. I'll post a picture.
Off to exercise this morning. It rained last night and is supposed to rain more this morning.
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If the sight of the blue skies fills you
with joy, if a blade of grass springing
up in the fields has power to move
you, if the simple things of nature
have a message that you understand,
rejoice, for your soul is alive.
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Morning, and how great Carole. Now you have a boat and can come and go as you please on the water without waiting for an invite. I know nothing about boats, but think --- if the motor works well enough and there are no holes in it -- then hopefully you will have something to putz in when you like --- or to go "catch" dinner for tonight so all should be well.
Don't you have to give 'her' a name now and break a bottle of Champaign on the bow or something before you take your maiden voyage --- hmmm, I made be thinking of a bigger boat -- but just for fun, maybe I would carry along a little bubbly on the first trip out and drink it -- rather than spill it all over the outside of the boat.
Hot, hot, hot here today and humid again. The door to August lately is looking yucky that way. We will see. Lots of time it dies down and we are ok. Time will tell. I will see you all later when I'm off work.
Blessings,
Jackie
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Hi all:
checking in to send greetings from sunny and too hot California. Did a morning walk today, almost a mile, yay, and can definitely feel it warming up. Triple digits today for sure. I plan to spend the rest of the day indoors in the lovely air-conditioning....
Love pics with grandkids, and will love to see the pic of the boat!
Octogirl
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Carole - what will you do with your boat in the winter? I can picture you pulling it home to use on the lakes & in the bayous.
Sandra - thinking of you. Hope you've been able to slow down some & Mike is still doing OK. When is your trip to FL?
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