INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours
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susan. Congrats. !!! The hard part is wondering who's gonna take care of dh when his time comes ? Always thought he would go first. He deserves all the love and care and support he has given me
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yeah...I hope our daughter and son in law step up. My hubby has said he doesn't want to live when I'm gone. So sad to hear. So much life to live yet for him...and grand baby on the way....I am the one who's glass is always full. Plan fun things, keep us going, I am always saying...it's all good. He is a great care taker, but he doesn't lighten up and just live. I am worried about him way more than me.
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susan. Agreed
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Patty you have posted some beautiful things there, staraight from the heart. Never apologise for long posts. It is our choice to read them!
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Morning, Patty and Susan, a thought. The mourning period sucks which may sound obvious, but retrospectively, I needed someone to get me going. I refused all help. Hospice sent letters to join a group. Church did the same. Basically, I stayed in bed for a year except for doctor appointments. Greg's friends took me on a cruise a month after he died. My roommate was a very religious person. We prayed allot together. She was just the person I needed at that moment in time. Then I came home and went back to bed. I was on BCO allot. I guess here was my life line. Not sure how you get someone to take the help offered. Patty, your DH will have the boys, and Susan your DH will have the Grand, let's hope way old right
. Maybe that will help. Patty, I should be fussing more over the dinner, kind of lazy. But I have Di maybe that's why I'm not stressing. I likely will kick into gear tomorrow. Duh one day before. Maybe I'll try today.
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sas. Wow. Wiping tears. You've been down a hard road. So glad you shared that. Thanks !! For sure , you have been that life line to so very many people. Including me !
Chevy. Where are you???
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yes sas thanks. We don't know who might step forward for our hubby's. It might be a beautiful thing
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Well Dangit! I thought I was here! I posted to Rosie on her thread, and I somehow neglected to post here! You gals aren't noisy enough!
They said we would have snow.... I mean like every hour from 3 pm to just an hour ago.... The sun is shining, a couple clouds, and I am thankful!
We watched the Bronco's play yesterday! EVERY time they came close to doing something Janie would just SCREAM! It was so much fun to watch a game with her! I mean she really got into it...
I made lots of food and snacks, so by time to eat we were full...
Sent a lot home with her.... And going to Walmart today, and Kings....just to mess around.... I FOUND my car key/fob! I was so excited! It fell out of my hand-bag.... NOW I changed purses, and have it in a zippered pocket. Stupid little things that drive you nuts...
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Hey folks, I slept a normal cycle again last night! My sleep cycle has always revolved around until I am upside down again but I am fighting it better this time. I wish I knew a way to keep it up, consistently. If I didn't like the quiet late night hours it would be easier but I have come to appreciate the night and that does not help me be awake in the morning. It is wierd.
SaS i KNOW i WAS AWAY FOR Awhile and want to tell you that you are sounding good. I can hear it in your writing.
Chevy what part of the country are you in? I am in WA and we get rain every day this week with "Sun Breaks" on thursday. That means it is gloom that rest of the week. I miss Illinois variety of weather.
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Ms. Sas
good you are not stressing. I think it will be a lovely dinner/visit.0 -
Ginger.... I was born in Denver, and live a block from where I grew up! Married since 1957!
Yes, the sun is shining here too, but you never know what it will do in a few hours..... The weather forecast is the PITS! With all that special high-tech equipment, you would think they would be able to know what to expect! We know what to expect, when we look outside and we see it DOING it.... That's about it.
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Evie's 5 generations! She has two other sets to go. Is that unusual for someone to have that many? The others are from my DH's side and her dad's side.
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NICE PIC!!!!
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A www, I love the pic Smaarty.
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Thank you, Smaarty. I haven't statistics for how common the 'five generations' --i suspect that depends on how fast subsequent generations get around to procreating and how long previous generations live--but....sigh. Googly eyes.
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what a great pic
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Priceless!
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gorgeous pi
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Thank you Smaarty. Lovely picture.
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Beautiful picture Smaarty.
It got up to 57 degrees here today with gorgeous sunshine for most of it. So grateful for it, because it's supposed to go back to gray and rainy tomorrow.
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great pic!
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thank you guys! Has everyone dug themselves out? Anybody hear from Deb?
Queenie, how you healing up? Are you all done now? I go in next week for a yearly checkup. Everything should be fine.
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Chevy, from back on page 1119, pipeline, I was working towards a prophylactic BMX because of family history. Pipeline---hmm not sure why I know what it means and you don't. Looked it up. In medical circles it means "working towards an end goal". I wanted my boobs off.. Had I not been working to get them off. Likely wouldn't be here. I had a mammo august of 2008 NED see you in one year letter.
Dec.8th 2008. had MRI. Doc nicely lied about why it needed to be done.
It had the awful signet ring. Never have a problem over the holidays. Couldn't get anything scheduled fast. But got the bx on jan23rd. and the brain MRi should have been done earlier wasn't accomplished till Jan 20th/21st.
Both dx's came in at the same time. Not sure why the MO asked a nurse to call me and say" Dr Levine want's you to know that you have a brain tumor" What a sucky thing to say on the phone. I asked her "where?" I don't know. "What type?" I don't know. "What does this mean?" I don't know.. I said "Well, when the shit hit's the fan, I'm leaving for a breast bx that we know is positive'. Closure words forget.
Dear Greg and I thought we had a solution when we went to the boss. I had him already approved as a volunteer to help me with my homecare paperwork. A first in the volunteer system. He could drive me. Nope she relieved me from duty/work. Chit. Seriuosly, sucky.
What got me brain disabled..........I was trying to get back to work. I took the brain test 5 weeks after the last surgery. 4 surgeries, an almost killer chemo, Dh with ca & chemo and Arimidex. .I failed the test. FUCK. Retrospectively, DUH. That much messing with the brain........poor brain.
But as I said before it resulted in me being able to take care of Greg. Poor Greg, God love him. What he went through. 10 admissions, 4 for chemo--each had a fuck up. Then 6 admissions for complications. Then complications with those admissions.
It was part of why I stared at the ceiling for a year. All I believed and did my whole life was to help................ and then to see so many errors........... trying to make some sense of it.......
.not sure why it's hitting me so hard right now....
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Anniversaries suck. The end.
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sassy, maybe it's time for bed? Have a little wine. Better yet, go grab Donnie and have him knock your socks off. You need to turn off. And breathe.
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smarty. Love the pic. Can def tell y'all are related
Sas. Sorry your getting hit so hard now. Hugs dear friend. Hugs
Hootie hoo
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Smaarty, what a cool picture!
Patty, and Susan, I loved hearing about your relationships with your hubbys. It brightened my day.
((((Sas))))
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((((Sas)))), time to step back and take a slow, deep breath. Now let it out slowly. Repeat until you feel calm. Sounds like you have so much on your plate that it makes you remember how nice your life was before your DH's and your diagnosis and wishing you had it back, maybe. Know we all love and care about you.
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It's nice to know that when we hit a rough patch there is no judgement and great support here, even when we have to let it all out.
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