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Chevy, It's the opposite at our house. DH doesn't think thru what we might do, so he takes everything he might even remotely use. We go to see GSs (3 day weekend) and I have a carry-on bag and he has that plus several duffle bags, etc. Then he has his flute and the music stand and the stool to sit on, a couple of books, his computer and food from the frig. I have seen him take 3-4 coats. I have one with plans to suck it up if it's warmer or colder than I think it will be. Of course, I used to be a travel agent which may have contributed to my prowess.
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LOL. My ex sis in law looked like she was running away when she packed for a week vacation. 2 blow dryers, in case one crapped out. What, Florida doesn't sell them? More than half her closet.And on and on. We truly did laugh out loud at her.
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I KNOW! When we go to Sheri's, it's like I pack an outfit for each day.... because we might not be able to wash clothes? Hah! And she has all the shampoo's, creams, shower wash.... etc! She even always has a "goodie" basket for us on the bed, with all of our favorite "stuff!"
I do the same when she comes here though.... And fill a plastic compartment with all her favorite snacks, by her bed!
Our SIL is coming next week! So she will be alone with her boys for awhile.... Going up to Central City to gamble, and meet his Sister for lunch that day!
I remember one time I was trying to bring home about 12 Grape-fruit in our luggage.... It weighed too much... So I had to pay extra....!!! DAMnit! But her neighbor has this Grapefruit tree, and they were FREE! Until I took them on the plane!
I just bought some here 3/$1..... Hah! I have about 12 now... But I cut them up and freeze them......
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When we moved here we had a lot of citrus trees around. Kind of like tomato up north, everybody gave it away. I'd take bags of my tangerine to work. My neighbor had the best pink grapefruit tree. But the cold and 6 hurricanes in 2 years killed them off on the coast. I do miss it, the upside is the fruit rat population is waaaaay down. Which is good, cause the coyotes have killed all the outdoor cats.
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Antique Victorian EAPG Wyandotte Button Band, Riply & Co. 1886-----5 bucks
Bryce Higbee MEDALLION SUNBURST BANQUET Connected Circles 1896-------- maybe 2bucks
EAPG SERVING PLATE 1890's-1912 EAPG-BRYCE HIGBEE GLASS-YOKE & CIRCLE-RINGS----1.75
I found the bottom plate this week. The two above I thrifted within the last while. Posted them a few weeks ago. In scrolling to try and find the name of the bottom plate, I found the other two. The second and third plates came from the same junk store. It's a real junk store. I'm sure they're rats under some of the piles. You have to watch every step you take because things are just all over the place. Also, got these there, Anchor Hocking Waterford/Waffle 1938-1944. couple bucks. My favorite junk store now.
The guy is so funny. He says "What's your offer" I learned this time to go low and then he countered. Pretty cool.
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............................Smarrty 2016
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Happy Birthday, Smaarty! Enjoy the movie, my niece liked it.
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OOPs, I gifted this glass the short one, to DI without verifying what it was. Apparently, it's one of the earliest pieces of EAPG early American Pressed Glass1940's. I suggested using it for q-tips. It's called Giant Sawtooth.
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the movie was cute, my GS liked it. He turned 12 the end of January. It was nice just the 2 of us. Haven't done that in a while. Another GS turns 13 next week, I'll miss his birthday. Will have to do something with him when I get back.
Thanks for the birthday wishes. Who's next?
I should let you guys know that my stomach is hurting a whole lot less. Stopping the push-ups was a smart idea.
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Yay!!! When are you leaving again??
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I haven't been on for a while. I started this journey last April and now, I am looking at being done with radiation on the 23rd. I should be ecstatic. Instead I swear I am in shock. I have done enough research to know this can be normal. I've been through hell, did a few laps, and coming out the other side. Knowing and going thru it are two different things tho.
I feel...... broken. Only word that fits.
Interestingly, I'm not writing this for support or advice. I think I just need to say it. I feel broken. Strangely, I think it's because it is suppose to be almost done, but it isn't, now is it. I'm still recovering from chemo - the worse part now is the neuropathy doesn't seem to be subsiding. I don't want this to stick around. I can't hardly walk or touch things. Typing is hell and I have to type a lot. Ugh!
Radiation did me wrong too. My skin apparently is severely sensitive to radiation and I'm dealing with second and third degree burns. They hurt!!!! Probably will scar some. Sure.... why not? geez
But in a few days I am done with radiation and start hormone treatments, which after this hell, I am not sweating at all. I'm already in menpause after all. So in a few days I will be expected to be done and miraculously all better. But I won't be. I'll have a road of recovery ahead of me.
My boss asked me 2 days ago that he was going to put my schedule back to full-time starting the 25th. I have two days to recover apparently. I started laughing, hysterically. I had to leave work the day before because blisters popped and were draining thru my shirt. Yeah, I'm sure I'll be just fine by 25th.
If you mention to anyone how your feeling, they think it's because I'm worried about recurrence. I haven't even gotten that far yet. I'm just exhausted. Just trying to get thru these last few days. I can't even skip out. They would schedule them at the end. hahaha I can't escape.
I feel better writing this. Talking doesn't always work. People are a step ahead trying to think of something upbuilding to say, so I don't get it all out. Here I have a captive audience. Sorry about that. haha
Think I can sleep now. Goodnight.
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It is nice to have a hobby and doing what gives you pleasure, Ms. Sas. You get additional joy when you give them away too, right? Double pleasure
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Oh, hi Dyanbrooks! If it makes you feel better, by all means write away. Goodnight!!
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Duncan and Sons produced the Ellrose pattern in the late 1800's. This elegant Daisy & Button paneled Serving Bowl is in beautiful condition and an excellent way to serve up a favorite dish for the holidays. The crystal clear glass sparkles. The upper edge is deeply scalloped; the patterned panels of the bowl form high peaks that
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dyanbrooks> you took the words right out of my mouth. This is my first night on because i just decided that i needed to make this night productive and read up on my Google search " depression after breast cancer". I've been up crying the past few hours. This was mainly triggered by single motherhood issues with my 11 year old son. I'm in the reconstruction process after a double mastectomy and is considered "cancer free". I just got my implants last Friday. I'm passed the pain almost. .i have some discomfort and these drains are keeping me home bound since i can't drive. I'm glad i found this forum because besides my mom, i have no one i feel i can trust with my true feelings about my experience. And i don't want to burden my mom because I'm sure she's exhausted from taking care of me last year. ..she still continues to take care of me of course because that's what mothers do. I feel ashamed for not being strong enough at times. There are people who have gone through worse and who have lost their fight all together. So i don't mean to sound ungrateful with my whining but i only know how i feel and some days i can't get away from feeling insufficient. ..inadequate. ..weak. people praise you for being strong for surviving cancer but do they know that the dark cloud still lingers overhead? God bless them! And i love them for being supportive. But i feel lonely even though i know I'm not the only one suffering through these depressive thoughts. I know this post is scattered but I'm tired from crying and my thoughts are running together. Luckily I'm going to my doctor next week and will ask her if this tamoxifen is causing some depression. I think being inactive and stuck in this house for the past week is not helping.
Thanks for starting this forum. I'm sure I'll be checking in again
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Dyan, can you get a doctor to sign you off work? Does not sound right that you should be at work while dealing with burn like that.
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I had the bad burns blisters and oozing mess from rads too. Yes, it hurts. I got a week off to heal, did boosts, then finished regular rads. Doc gave a rx for silvadine, really healed fast. Of course you're tired. Physically and emotionally worn out. It's a rough ride. Is there any way you can get a few more weeks off to just chill? If not, just do the bare basics. Ignore the dust bunnies! Let the kids do dishes and laundry. You still have to take care of you!
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So Spookie, what IS this? It sounds like you live in the Wild Wild West! You said "fruit rats"??? You mean Fruit Flies? They are probably related. You guys in Florida have the strangest creatures!
Now Dyane.... Don't you go worry your pretty little head none.... We're all here to stand with you.... You said you feel "broken".... that's a good way of putting it... I think we all do/did.... and you don't want any support? Or advice?
Nope.... I gotta do this.... We gotta support you, because we are all in the same boat, or were, and we know what is going on... especially me, since I am older than any of these gals...
I don't know neuropathy, but I know a lot of these gals are in the same boat. Radiation burned you? You know what I did? I have this Mink Oil. Yep, the kind from Kiwi! It helps so much, with any kind of skin problems. Also any type of Desitin... Zinc-oxide... Try that... You could even use cut Aloe Vera leaves...
Can't you just tell your boss you "have issues".... and he isn't helping! Work it out with him... That's one worry off your mind.
Oh? Here's "gillllllllty".... I kept thinking you were saying "glitter" or trying to! It's always nice to see someone else we can talk to! You just stay right here...
Don't go crying anymore.... it just makes us feel bad... See, if your Son sees you crying, it makes him feel bad too... So try and stay happy-faced for him, but come here and just talk to us...
I don't like to talk to family about things that hurt me... they TRY to help, but then I worry about THEM feeling bad....
I ALWAYS feel "weak".... mostly because of .... oh wait.... it's 2 years ago tomorrow that I fell and broke my hip! But that's over with... I feel inadequate because I'm getting too old to dance and move around like I used to... but that's only natural.....
I AM sufficient though! I have to watch over my Husband... make HIM feel sufficient and un-depressed!
Tamoxifen??? You say Tamoxifen??? Don't even get me started. Some can do it, but some can't.... And you are stuck in YOUR house? Can you drive? Just get out.... don't go hanging around your house with all those feelings.... Go get a chocolate coke and fix up some biscuits and gravy.... Do something that makes you happy.
Okay.... I'm so sick of Winter I could scream.... Been saving tomato seeds and ordering new varieties... I look forward to Spring, and working in my gardens....
Went to see our old neighbor Theresa yesterday.... I took a lot of those women in the Assisted Living those ruffled scarves I have made.... It makes them SO happy! They are sitting there in their wheel-chairs, and I walk up, and talk to them, and they smile, and I give them a scarf, and their eyes just light up their face! I ask them if they would like one, then I put it around their neck, and they are so THANKful! It really puts things in perspective.... Just something to put a little sun-shine in their day...
Okay gals... gotta go get another cup of joe... BBL....
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Okay.... I have to get back on my pole now.........carry on girls.......
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Dyan and Gilty- just wanted to say hugs to you sisters. Just wanted to say this all happens so fast from dx to treatment. You get spit out on the other end with a whole lot of physical and emotional things to recover from.
And honestly, there is nothing anyone does to prepare you for what happens on the other side of treatment. I think it is the part of cancer care and support that is sorely lacking for women. Please know you are not alone with this experience. And the emotions tend to catch up with you in time. I remember a lot of crying after I finished rads and as I tried to find my new normal.
I know you are not looking for advice, so just wanted to share my experience and perspectives from when I went through after treatment. We are here for you any time you need to talk.
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Welcome here Dynabrooks and Glitty, Sorry that you are going through this. It sucks. This does say Insomniacs, but we are a 24/7 thread. Yakking all the time.
PTSD and depression are common with BC. Please, consider getting a counselor. Most Cancer centers have people on staff or they can refer you to that have training to work with cancer patients. It's important to make sure a counselor does have that training. The origin of our depression is different and therefore counseling is different.
Dyna, do you have a Human Resources Department/ personnel? If you do talk with them. HR departments are very aware of the rules related to medical stuff. My department told me if anyone put pressure on me to return to work, I was to report them. They stated all communication was to go through them and my bosses weren't even allowed to call me. They did twice, I could have reported them , but chose not too. The point being if you do have a department, use them. If not that makes it a bit more complicated. Others here may have some suggestions.
On the burns, Spookie's suggestion re: Silvadiene is a goodie. I have a link to a wound thread I worked on a lot (i'm an old nurse). Scroll through it. I have a section describing how to use Silvadiene. It's a great product and been around for decades, but they're is a special way to use it.
https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/44/topics/754935?page=1
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Glitty, Your worry about your 11 year old son, is so heavy on the heart. I suggest you scroll through the beginning of this thread and look for the posts from Thatslife. She was from Australia or Auckland. She had a similar problem. What she found very comforting was she developed a plan early on re: who would take care of her daughter if she passed away. She was early stage when she made this plan. The person she chose became involved in their lives. A threesome. Her thought was that whatever the future brought her daughter would deal with it better having such a close relationship with her friend. She did develop bone mets, but was doing well with it. This is meant to make you sad. Knowing your son has someone in his life that you chose and everyone knows the plan will bring you comfort. She left BCO b/c she had several people stalking her. I only say that b/c I don't want you to think it was b/c she passed away.
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Loverly, I do love the glass, I have been told that I bore people here with it and no one cares. But others have said they enjoy it. Then the giving is so much fun. Plus, it's saving them from oblivion
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Not the best pic. Duncan and Sons produced the Ellrose pattern in the late 1800's. It's daisy's & buttons with alternating clear panels. 1.75 This junk store is a gold mine. Haven't thrifted so many old pieces in such a short time ever. Nor been able to find the names.
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welcome to dyan and gillty. These forums are a great place to rant and vent and say all the things you cannot say to family and local friends. We get it. We have walked a similar path that you have.
Dyan: sorry that you have neuropathy. Have they tried any meds for you? Lyrica, gabapentin? I have neuropathy from a different problem, and gabapentin has really saved me. If you are not on a med, I recommend asking for one. Sas has good advice about going to human resources,,, if you don't feel up to working full-time yet,, get a note from your doctor and tell HR. Your body and your mind have been thru A LOT. A week or two off with NO appt's would feel like a vacation. And NO housecleaning during this time. Only R & R,, if you can manage it.
gillty: do not feel ashamed or guilty. You are doing your bloody best!! It is a lot to deal with. and an 11 year old boy on top of all of this cancer crap. Hang in there.
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Group hug on a friday afternoon
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here's some more of Evie. This is a blanket I just ordered for them.
I'll probably be off for the week. You guys behave, but have some fun too! Susan, hope you're feeling better. Patty, I want to hear all the details when I get back. LOL, you make sure you watch out forChevy!
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