INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours

Junie, I can relate to the multiple stories about fathers. I think I got straighter info from my father's obit than ever anything a family member said. I hope you and your sister like each other and develop a good relationship. I have never met my half brother and sister and don't know her married name. So she doesn't know she has a sister with BC. I just hope she gets her mammos regularly.

Hi friends- wishing everyone a pleasant holiday weekend. Thought this would make you smile!

JazzyJune- glad I made you smile! Mission accomplished!

I think connecting with your half sister would be so nice and perhaps the relationship you really do want, vs. trying to have anything deeper with your mom. I was not sure she was still alive or not, but as adults, we all have to decide what kind of relationship we want with our family, whether they good, bad or outright ugly. A narcissist will never listen to anyone, got plenty of them in my family. I live by a phrase "when someone shows you who they are, believe it." I think you just know a whole lot more about who your mother really is after this. That being said, it is sad to realize and been there too sister.

Sending you hugs and wishing for better days.

Shepkitty- it sounds like things are better and glad you got out to eat!

Hi, MamaRay! I just got back from picking up my younger daughter from swimming?

MammaRay, is the headache gone?

Hi there HiHo, hope your scan gets an A+. Bummer about those bone mets. Wonder if they can zap them to lala land.

Lori, yay indeed for surgery this Wednesday! Three plus months of waiting is torturing. Mine was only a three weeks after dx and that seemed like an eternity. I remember the day of surgery I was really calm because I was more than ready to have the " monster " taken out. During pre-op I was joking with the nurses and the anesthesiologist, even refusing Verced because I was not nervous at all. Thanks to all the people praying for me. Will be praying for you.

Ms. Wren, I have been wanting to ask how your niece is doing.

Susan, I am jealous too of your friend who was carrying Elena. Love it when they fall asleep on your chest.

Forward, good for you for exercising. I play badminton twice a week for a few hours and walk Mitzy on my days off. I always feel good afterwards. I get cranky when I don't get my excercise.

Rosevalley, it was a delight to see you dropping in. We miss you here. Thank you for sharing the article from NY Times. I was excited to read it until I came to the part where it states that the findings only applies to hormones+ and tripple- BC, not Her2+.....boo or should I say boohoohoo

Ms. Sas, you ok??

ShepK, boy I get heartburn reading what you had for dinner last night. I love wings, especially buffalo wings. I have not tried Mitzy on the new food yet because her stool is still loose. Stopped the Apoquin several days ago. Not sure how long it will take her stomach to go back to normal. Her itch is back. Really thinking about giving her Zytec or Allegra. I still have some prednisone from the previous visit, but don't want to give it to her again. It also can suppress her immune system. I'm changing Vet.

Hello Jazzy, Ms. S, Sensi, Kath (have not seen you for awhile. Hope all is well with you), Eeyore, Jwoo, and my other lurking friends.

Oh Mostlymom, I found the picture of the stones they took out of our friend from Nepal. I hope everything went well for you.

The poor friend was kept in the hospital and was not discharged until the next day.

So happy today!!!!! I now only have to see my BS once a year as of yesterday, unless something starts showing up!!!! Another step to normal!!!! I was also given the staging for the BC. I was never a Stage IV

Good news M0mmy!!

Thanks. Just another step into normal livin

MammaRay ~ Hoping you spend the holiday weekend surrounded by all those you love and doing the things you love best. Prayers for comfort and healing (((hugs)))

Smaarty ~ Hootie-hoo OOOOOO....That guy woke me right up!

Teka ~ so happy for Footprintsangel

Feline - I lurked here for so loooong before I could figure out a username to post under. I was "worried" about what Chevy might rename me! I miss her humor and garden pics too

Loverly ~ G-R-O-S-S!!!! That was so way far more awful than anything I've ever posted.......A plague of pantless fat men to you missy!

Not sure what has happened to my other post.....hmmm maybe I forgot to hit submit.

Mommy, good news.

Teka, thank you for letting us now about Debbie's new pup. You ought to drop in more often I miss Ms. Chevy's( and Ms. Spookie's) humor very much too.

ShepK, now that ain't nice sending me plaque of naked men. I know, I should have been a surgeon, but then again I would have to look at naked fluffy men.

Chevy, we miss your "nothing's" 🌞

Come back with more nothing's, pretty please? With coke and chocolate, hummmmmm?

Loverly ~ OMD......How is he now? Does your family Dr. take emergency calls on the weekend? Scary, scary. Drag him to the ER - he should be checked out.

FFH gave us a heart attack scare years ago when the kids were younger. He had all the symptoms but refused to get out of bed and go to the ER. I called our PCP; he was so concerned he spoke to FFH on the phone and told him to either meet him at the office or go to the ER. FFH still refused and fell into a scary deep sleep. The kids and I sat in the living room together worrying and trying to figure our what to do. He was too big for us to carry out to the car. Plus he gets really grumpy.

It did turn into a nice bonding experience. While we trying to figure out if FFH had expired or not, we had a good talk about what we would do if he had indeed passed. His son decided he would stay here with our little family we had created. His daughter decided she would go live with her mom but come back here for the summer and holidays. My son decided that if anything were to happen to me that he would stay with FHH so he wouldn't be separated from his step-siblings. We did take turns cautiously peeking in on FHH to see how deadish he looked. If he was still breathing, we did not want to incur any grumpy responses. Well just as we had the rest of our lives sorted out, future vacations, home improvements, college plans.......after planning the funeral services and such first.....FFH stumbled out of the bedroom to use the restroom and then came out and made a sandwich . Maybe not a sandwich, but it was some food item.

I won't go so far as to say we were disappointed, but the mood in the house certainly changed. The kids were relieved they weren't going to have to help tidy up the bedroom before we could call an ambulance, coroner, whatever.

It was an experience that brought us closer and we have referred to that day often. We were not only a family, but a team. We never did figure out what had made FFH so sick. He has continued over the years to give us many "scares" involving other near fatal events. What is important is that the kids learned to rationally think in an emergency, problem solve and work together.

Edited to add that Loverly is temporarily forgiven until we know how her hubby is faring.