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Dec 10, 2018 09:48AM
I send my sincere condolences to you and your family.
Christmas is an extra hard time to be dealing with such a loss.
I knew Susan on Insomniacs Thread. She was a very proud Grandmother and so happy when your family (I presume it was your family) got a job that meant you would be close to her.
I can share with you a sweet little story about your Mom.
It was when the reboot of Star Wars came out, I can't remember the name of the first one as I write, but it was the one where Ben Solo/Kylo Ren kills his father, Han.
Susan was anxious 'because she had heard that a character died in the film.
I said I had seen it and if she really, really wanted to know she could send me a private message. She reached out to me in a private message and said yes, she did really want to know. She said her daughter (you I presume?) did not want to spoil the film for her by telling her, but that she knew she would really feel much better about going to the film if she was forewarned. So I told her, and she was genuinely happy to know.
I completely understood she was coming from. I feel like that. With movies or novels some people do like to know, others would hate to. No right, no wrong, just different and maybe even different at different stages of life. Real life is not like the movies, and it is probably better we don't know the sad parts of our lives in advance because it would really spoil our happiness to know there was sadness ahead. But movies are just movies, novels are just novels, and if it will give you a happier experience reading the last page first, or PM-ing someone to find out who did the dastardly deed or who died, well why not?
Any way I think she was happy to get that little bit of info and it is definitely a little tiny piece of your Mom's life that I can share tonight.
I hope you and your family are surrounded by love at this time.
XXX Susanna in Ireland
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