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Good afternoon friends- been a busy week! We got some nice soaking rain last night and snow around today. We have another storm coming through tomorrow night in to the weekend. FINALLY getting some real moisture/winter here. We are all happy!
Went dinner with my local client last night and had a fabulous dinner at a new place. I had a nice glass of the 19 Crimes, but the waiter suggested I also try other wine blend by Cooper and Thief that is aged in whiskey oak barrels. Dang was that good, but saw on the bill later it was $15 a glass. Looks like Total Wines has it so I want to pick some up at some point but have a glut of red here at home again so we need to drink some of that up first!
https://www.cooperandthief.com/
Karen from MN- yes, there was another Karen from awhile back that popped in and shared some updates with us. Cancer makes people really act strange and might be good to think about some standards responses as you re-enter into work and begin interacting with the world. I told very few people and because I did not do chemo, my cancer was less visible than what many women go through. But people had lots to say after (and still do). Best to just say you are happy to be back to work and deflect any detailed questions about your health. I liked to share with people I was doing better every day and had good medical care, and then would change the subject. Moving on has it's own challenges after cancer treatment, so just don't let people keep you there.
Sending you big hugs on the ongoing grief too. It took me a long time to visit my brother's grave after his passing. I was not going through cancer then either. I think right now you are taking care of you and you will go later when the time is right. Your family has been through so much this past year. Sending you hugs sister.
NM- thanks for your kind words about my cousin. He had a number of siblings and working my way through getting some cards done this week. It sounds like you are doing better every day with your crud. I want to get back to the pool but had some asthma this week so not yet. I may do the other bc yoga class for my research tomorrow afternoon.
Cami- so sorry to hear Joey is having such a hard time. I understand though, and probably feels very alone around this right now. So sorry Marty is not feeling well either, Leslie is hurting again. Such a difficult time for your family as well. Sending much love.......
Goldie- I love that picture. I have a guy friend who goes on and on about his health problems ad naseum. He also knows I have had cancer, and was comparing something once he went through to cancer. Eye roll. It was a life threatening situation, but seriously, like it's a competition? The only men I have seen who are not like this are men who have had cancer. Most men seem to think this way, but I cannot say I understand it? I hope he is on the mend soon.
Chi- I hope your throat is better every day? You would like that wine I had last night.
Wishing everyone here a good slide in to the weekend!
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Hi girls, I'm a couple of pages behind but I wanted to pop in and say I'm doing just fine. Lot of achiness in my knee, lots of ice, pain pills, PT and sleep. I did do laundry today and cooked dinner so I'm getting there. I've been watching mindless TV and not much else. I was able to go down to the basement for something today without a problem, all in all mobility is better than I expected but pain a bit more constant than I anticipated, I think it's just a matter of learning how to manage it, each day it subsides some. Went from Oxy every 4 hours to now every 6 or 7 with Tylenol in between. So I'll get back to catch up but just wanted to check in...
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Genny- so glad to hear you are doing well friend. Not an easy surgery and those pain pills are there for you as you work through your recovery.
Sending good thoughts for a speedy recovery!
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Happy national margarita day everyone!
Hope you had a great bday NM.
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karenwriter - yup there are two Karens. I've been MIA for quite some time, but pop in periodically.
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We were up waaaay late last night--the gold medal women's hockey game was broadcast live. Alas, I didn't chill champagne, because I didn't want to jinx things. Oh, well. Seltzer was good enough.
My DOTD tonight (don't judge):
Before going out to a late showing of "Lady Bird," we ate across the street at Luella's Southern Kitchen, a BYOB. (But we didn't know that, so we didn't "B our OB"). One of my friends is originally from Union, SC, and she'd rhapsodized about Cheerwine (and a few years back, 60 Minutes did a segment on it. But I never was able to find it when I was down south. Go figure there was a whole cooler of it in a little soul food restaurant here on the North Side of Chicago. (No chicory coffee--nor any coffee--for the beignets, though--just soda, water or sweet tea). Really sweet--tasted like a mix of black cherry soda & the wild cherry fountain soda from my Brooklyn childhood. (Could've used a little seltzer or Perrier to cut it, though). Other than diet ginger ale for a queasy tummy, this was the first soda pop I've had in years.
Cami, poor Leslie can't catch a break. Hope this time her incision will heal uneventfully. And between Joey's back problem and Marty's flu, you're probably the healthiest one in your family at this moment.
Lori, if your mom is resisting using her CPAP because of that cumbersome mask, there have been recent studies showing that a nasal-only CPAP not only has a higher compliance rate but better airway pressure--because the conventional oro-nasal mask pushes the lower jaw back, which actually crowds the airway. (One of the reasons I went with a mouth guard, which pulls the jaw forward--but it's tricky to put on & remove). Glad someone can take care of Zeus.
Jazzy, I was sort of in the same situation--no chemo, no mastectomy. But I didn't play it too close to the vest--my friends & immediate family all knew, and the cast of the Bar Show had expected 2015 to be a breakout year for me--so I had to level with them why I had decided to drop out of the show. But they had assumed I would have the "full monty" of treatment, so were very surprised to see me show up at the final after-party with a full head of hair and a filled-out blouse. But looking back at what Bob has been through during the same time (five hospitalizations, two emergency surgeries, two bouts of walking pneumonia, and a life-threatening bowel obstruction); my best friend's scleroderma is beginning to relapse because her main med has doubled in price and her insurance will now pay for only an inferior drug; another friend is battling Parkinson's; yet another had a valve repair and cardiac bypass (and lost his wife last year to complications of a broken hip); and what my best friend's husband just went through (already has COPD and PAH, he caught the flu and was hospitalized with pneumonia--just released today)...I consider myself damn lucky. (And I have most of my voice back...though my L wrist is still keeping me away from my guitars & dulcimers).
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Karen, life will most likely never be the same, and YES you will get compared to every other person that has had cancer. You just need to come up with a good come back, whether it be sincere or a bit snarky. I would go with snarky! You will also get many cures from peeps. To that one I say thanks, I'll look into it. And leave it at that. I hope you are able to enjoy your get away. Both of you! Cuz you deserve it too. Ha ha, just read Jazzy's response to you, pretty much the same as mine! Your brother is there in your heart and soul, so don't feel bad about not going to the gravesite. Whether you go or not doesn't change the love and memories you have for your brother. I lost a good friend several years ago, and just bought a little garden angel in her memory, so I think of her everytime I look at it. Perhaps you could get something in your brothers memory to keep in the house or outside in a garden.
Jazzy….great minds eh??? Ahhhhh you hit the nail on the head while sick or hurting, men vs. women being a competition. That is exactly what it feels like sometime. Who can be sicker, or hurt the most.
Mary, thanks for checking in. Glad to hear it's a bit better every day. Of course you did not go into this thinking it would be painless, right?
Karen1959, always nice to see a fellow loungette.
Sandy, we don't judge! Mom does have the nasal only for her cpap. She wasn't refusing it, not sure why she wasn't using it. But she also has to sleep with her O2 which goes over the the mouth and maybe nose. Never really paid much attention to it. Glad you have most of the voice back. Now to get that wrist healed.
Town day today. Think I may be going alone, due to DH's hip/leg. Happy FRIEDay all.
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Good Morning, Loungettes!Happy TGIF day! Talk about a long day at work yesterday. Had to stop and recharge the tablet after I got home to finish entering data and such. Keeping everyone's medication list up to date is a PIA job that takes forever when there are multiple changes going on in a short period of time. Didn't get done until almost 11 peeyem, then up until almost 2 ayem winding down so I could sleep. Sadie was NOT impressed. It was nice to sleep in this ayem, that's for sure!
Karen--people can be very unhelpful at times. Maybe you need to come up with a nice little comeback line to give to the people who are upset with you--something like "I'm so sorry my time off to treat a life-threatening disease inconvenienced you." Or for the people who seem to know how we should behave something like "I so wish you had told me about (insert name/relation) before I was diagnosed, I could have made and appointment with them to learn how to be ill withcancer properly! It would have saved me so much time and energy and worry!"Well, those are the kinds of things I would like to say. What I did say sometimes was "I regret that my being ill created work problems for you." and "My doctor advised against that." or "My doctor would not clear me to do that." or "How wonderful so-snd-so was able to do that." My favorite line for many situations was "I never realized how hard it is for you." It gave people the focus of attention which seemed to be what they wanted without my having to invest any energy in them.Some people would talk forever after that line, which created a whole different problem to deal with. I am praying that you will finish the book by the deadline you set for yourself. I think that would be a marvelous testimonial to your brother. And you and your DH both deserve the B&B time!
Jazzy--Hooray for a good soaking rain! I've pretty much kicked the crud to the curb, and am happy to have done so. Amazing how long a week to 10 days can feel when you are sick! I'm going to do some research and see if there is anywhere around here where I can swim. I've looked at the Y scheduled before, and there was very little time available to adults at a time of day when I could make it, but with more control over my schedule that may be different now. Will have to see. Interesting sounding wine, I'll have to see if I can find a bottle.
Genny--so glad to hear you are doing better! Sounds like some real recovery going on there.Good for you!
Illi--I didn't realize it was Margarita Day yesterday!
Chi--is that a real bottle of wine? Great name! oh, I see, it's a soda. Looks intriguing!
NM's DOTD:
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Good morning friends- the end to a busy week! Getting some laundry done while I moisturize my hair and face before I head out to the day. The dry winter weather has taken it's toll on my skin, but things are getting mo better with the higher humidity. We are getting another storm tonight but not sure it will drop down here from the north. I heard the Taos Ski Valley got 2 feet this week (we like this.....)
Work things are starting to come together, although one thing is a bit stalled but it will allow me to be in town for that all woman's panel with one of my prof orgs. I was asked about this last weekend and needed to check on a few things, and now think we are good to go. I have done presentations before with several groups in town, but not this one, so it will be another way to put my stuff out there!
Goldie- I love the idea of a small icon to have nearby to think of someone you are missing, when you cannot get to the grave site. I think we just worry we will loose our memories, but they are always there. I think of my brother all the time, and live too far away to visit his grave regularly. Been 25 plus years......
I get snarky sometimes too, especially with people who already know and keep saying stupid things. Like "so you are all done with that now, right?" No, still taking medicine for five years, but thanks for your concern. I borrowed this one from my sister who hears it a lot in with her patients "will I/you die?" My sister says, yes, some day but hopefully not today (LOL, my favorite). When my friend did that comment about his situation being worse, I got snarky and said "you know, you are right, yours was by far worse. You win!" He was quiet after that!
Chi- I had another surgery before bc stuff that year and if I needed to get out of anything during treatment or recovery, I hid behind that other non cancer issues and said I had some recovery to do from that (and no lie there, because I had to recover from that AND the bc stuff as they were all close together). The other issue was something I could share, a one time incident. I think it is harder to keep anything private when you go through chemo though. My sister had to work hard to do that in her medical practice, but we found her a wig that looked much like her style and color. With time, as her hair grew in, she was able to dump the wig and showed up at work one day with a new short hairdo. She knew people were trying to figure things out including her patients, but would not let the conversation go there.
And yes, I have seen so much worse too that my treatment felt do-able. I think the part that surprised me was adjusting to the AIs that first year and also just how long it took to feel better. I told my friend who just finished rads to be ready to feel some latent fatigue and that she may not feel really back to herself for awhile. She had a lumpectomy and rads like us, won't do the AIs, but still. It all takes more time than you can ever imagine?
Mema- I think your surgery is coming up soon in early March. How are you doing sister.
Genny- how are those knees today.
Karen1956- thinking of you on the loss of your mom.
Other Karen- hope your week is finishing up okay. You keep plugging through that chemo friend, you are taking good care of you.
Cami- thinking of you and hoping things are getting a bit better every day for you and the family.
Time to get moving to my day. Have a good TGIF and good last weekend in February. Three more weeks to daylight savings and less than a month to spring!
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Lol! Yup, snarky here
When people ask if I’m done with treatment, I say no, I still get IV meds every 3 weeks forever. Then they say forever?! And I tell them until it stops working or I die. Now puzzled, they usually say, but you look so good and I tell them that cancer really seems to agree with me.
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Just pooping in for a minute to catch all up. NO SURGERY TIL APRIL 4. PS is gonna b on vacay. I am struggling not to sink down in da wabbit hole. But wanted to thank all for the positive thoughts, prayers, and pep talks. I'm just praying my new MO will give me Herceptin drip on Tues, 27th. I could not get a confirmation via phone...so may have to do a 'dance' on someones head come Tues.
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Changed my avatar, at least for now. Realized my previous one was taken when I was only 60, sans glasses and with makeup. My new one is me, barefaced (except glasses), at 67. I feel it's more honest. (Except that eyeglass frames are the "new concealer").
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ChiSandy, very nice pic and I gotta say your bio cracked me up! Ha ha! FYI, those of us prone to hypochondria are totally vindicated by cancer, lol
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Ill- that is funny, cancer agrees with me. I heard a few of those "but you look too well to have cancer" comments when I went through everything.
Chi- I like your new avatar!
I went to the second breast cancer yoga class today. Some of the same ladies, some different ones. I have an observation about the yoga instructors I will share once I am down the line further on checking out these classes (one more to go which I may try in the next few weeks!)
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When I first told Bob I had breast cancer, he said that hypochondriacs who get a cancer or other major disease diagnosis are his best, most compliant patients. When I asked him why, he replied that they're grateful that doctors are finally taking them seriously. I am a card-carrying (i.e., my Medic-Alert card) hypochondriac. I want my epitaph to be quite simple: "SEE?" (Oscar Levant's was "I Told You I Was Sick!").
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My favorite summer drink. Deep Eddy Ruby Red vodka, big splash of grapefruit juice, top off with Jarritos or other grapefruit soda (or club soda) for some fizz
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Melissa- welcome to our thread. I LOVE ruby red vodka! Thank you for this!
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Thank you!
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Good Morning, Loungettes!Happy Saturday! It was sleeting last night when Sadie and I went to bed, fortunately didn't accumulate very much and looks like it will melt off today now that the sun is coming out. Starting to see lots of seeds and gardening stuff out in stores already. I need to decide what I want to do this year. The herbs did really well on the deck last summer, I think I'll do that again this summer. I've still got quite a bit of the herbs I dried last fall. Need to remember to use them more! Got an e-mail from Hospice, Clinical Manager 1 wanted to know if I would work with some new staff this coming week--that was an easy one to say yes to! It will be nice to have a few work days that don't involve driving 100 miles during the course of a day. Depending on the weather I may take Sadie with me and take her to the local dog park during lunch and let her play a bit.
Jazzy--the dry winter weather can really do a job on the skin, can't it? Sounds like work things are working out well for you for the comingyear. I like the "yours was worse, you win" comeback! I bet that really shuts some people up! I noticed the time change coming up when I was updating my wall calendar, spring really isn't far away now, no matter what the Groundhog said!
Illi--I bet very few people grill you about the beast more than once! It is amazing how many people do not realized bc is never considered cured and how many are living with stage IV disease. Public education has a long way to go.
Mema--aarrgghh!!PS is allowed a vacay, but not when it means one of my peeps needs to wait! That has got to be so hard. Wish I could fix it. Still praying for you. I'll tell God He needs to put a ladder in the wabbit hole, and maybe carve out a few ledges and install reclining chairs or comfy beds on them for rest stops. Oh, each ledge has a direct phone line to the HTL Tenders who will hand deliver any libation requested.
Chi--Love the new pic, you look great!
MelissaDallas--welcome to the HTL!What a great sounding drink, wouldbe wonderful in warm weather, or any weather for that matter. Pretty, too!.
NM's DOTD--Melissa's Ruby Red!
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NM, that busy day at work, I think was with hospice, had to be a good look and reminder as to hard you were working EVERYDAY! No more circus, no more monkeys. Or is it no more bull and no more bullSH*T? Glad you will get some work with hospice that won't be so involved with too many patients and too many miles. I forget about my herbs too and need to dry some this year. Love some of the come backs for Karen. And I LOVE your design for the wabbit hole, it's poyfect!
Jazzy, we got another couple of inches of snow this morning. As of yesterday it was all gone and back to being dry as a popcorn fart. You had some good come backs for Karen too. My little angel fairy for my friend sits on my entertainment center, along with my dads ashes.
Illona, I guess cancer agrees with me too! And the rest of us stage IV goils, as they have been at for quite some time now
Oh Sue, this waiting has to really be playing on you. Pweeze try and stay outta dat hole. But if not, mese glad to join you.
Sandy, at first I thought we had a new loungette. There was nothing wrong with your other picture. You look great in both and really not much of difference. I bet if you took the glasses off and put make up on, it would look very similar.
Well hey there Melissa. Welcome and thanks for the dwink!
Leaving in 5 days, looking forward to see my mom and brothers. Just hoping all goes well with the Queen! Hubby still struggling with whatever is going on. Just waiting on approval for an MRI.
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Here are my dads ashes. The plate behind him is a tin. My bad, I had it sitting in a spot where the sun was hitting it and it split. Totally bummed me out. My grandmother top left and dad bottom right
The next photo is for my friend Suzanne. Both of us had ponds and we often floated around in mine or hers with cocktails and she also liked gardening. Hers was mainly flowers and such. So her fairy used to sit in my garden by my little pond, which I no longer have.
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NM, I “educated” my mother recently, lol. She was dxd stage 1 a few years ago and had the unfortunate lack of sense to do a little happy dance and declare herself cancer free after discussing my treatment for brain mets. I somewhat rudely reminded her that one is not actually cured until they die of something else.
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Good Morning, Loungettes! Sadie and I had a nice quiet day yesterday. Puttered around the house, but didn't do a whole lot. Not going to do much today, either, one of my eyes has started watering and stinging and is blood shot, got to get that cleared up before work tomorrow. Looks like some snow moving in today, Hopefully not too much, I'm getting tired of snow. Whatever, though. Not like we have any control.
Goldie--I was thinking about how that was the norm when I was working late the other day. All the more reason to keep control of my schedule. I did have to catch and cage that one monkey in order to answer the family's questions, but I did let 2 other monkeys go that their handler will have to deal with when back from vacay, but no one will get hurt between now and then. Have a good trip to see your family. And I hope DH feels better soon.Nice memorial to your parents. Love the fairy, too!
Illi--even our mothers can be out of touch with reality and common sense at times.
NM"s DOTD:
Mad Eye Martini
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What You'll Need
- 1/2 ounce Hpnotiq liqueur
- 1 ounce premium vodka
- 2 ounce lychee juice
- 1 lychee (search for canned lychees in syrup)
- 1/4 teaspoon cherry, strawberry or
- raspberry preserves
- 1 blueberry
How to Make It
- Pour the ingredients into a cocktail shaker filled with ice.
- Shake well.
- Strain into a chilled cocktail glass.
For Lychee Eyeball Garnish:
- Drain and dry lychee, then fill with preserves.
- Place blueberry, blossom end facing out, into the cavity.
- Skewer with cocktail pick and lay across rim of glass
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Happy Funday Sunday everyone- been a quiet weekend working on the house and getting the last of my tax prep work done to send to my accountant. I have been working to increase my exercise with walking and yoga and tomorrow will return to the pool (longest I have been away to date, like three weeks). I really wanted to be sure I was through this respiratory stuff and finally feel like my lungs and sinuses are strong again. Today is yoga and more walking, and will get back in the water tomorrow before I loose any more of my aquatic fitness. Takes a long time to build that up and a very short time to loose it.
I wanted to share my experience with my second bc yoga class on Friday. The teacher was someone from one of the local yoga studios I have been too (I used to know the old owner, now owned by two young gals). Same location, and the room was a bit hot and one of the women got dizzy. She thought it was her meds, but I pointed out to the instructor it was very hot in the room with no air circulation. So we adjusted that and the class was really nice and restorative. Everyone in the room was 50's on up, and heat is NOT our friend in the post menopausal and hormone blocker world.....
I chatted with her about my interests to become certified to teach BC patients, and mentioned I was coming to my five years and was going to wait until at least next year to seriously get on the certification process (time and money). I mentioned to her my feet had issues on the aromatase inhibitors and wanted to get better from that, but could tell she had no idea what that was. So my hope is that if I get certified to teach yoga, as a bc survivor, may have a bit more knowledge of what goes on in the post recovery world at least based on my own experience. i can see the importance of taking the bc specific courses, vs. standard certification training. I did like the class and will go back on Friday's when I am not able to get to the pool at noon (or if I am a maniac, I can swim and get to the class after as there could be enough space to do so). As you know, I am sort of a maniac too!
Speaking of the AIs, this coming Wed is my last day on the AIs. I had been debating about getting another bottle to get to the "exact date" in March, but my MO's CNP said I could finish my Feb bottle and call it done. I told Walgreens the script was done per my doctor's office and they said "oh good, it has expired anyways" so no more reminders. I do remember the five year thing feeling so impossible when I started the meds, but I made it.
As part of that, I wanted to share with you I probably won't be here quite as much going forward. I do plan to continue on BCO, but probably will only be here once a week vs. every day or few days. Part of my own process and needing to focus on moving forward in to some new things unfolding with work and life. I share this just so you know if you don't hear from me as often, that you don't worry about me (as I know we tend to do when people go off the threads for awhile or even forever).
I do care about all of you so very much and also want to thank you for all your love and support around my recovery process since I joined you a few years ago. I came here stalking Cami as she was on other threads with me when I started, and found a wonderful community of women (and yes, you are my favorite thread too!) I do know the five years does not mean I am "done with this" as some friends like to say, but it is a milestone with my own healing process as I come off the drugs, that I am grateful for to protect me. But also have caused other issues for me too I am looking forward to now recovering from. I know many of you are on FB with me (spending less time there too, but for different reasons), so you can keep tabs on me there as well or PM me here any time as I get the notifications via e-mail.
I plan to be back here again sometime next weekend and wish you all a great day and good start to March
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Good Morning, Loungettes!Happy Monday! Going in to work Hospice today with a bit of a twist. Clinical Manger 1 is having me work with new staff today and probably tomorrow, so I finally get to do some teaching and support some new people without the newbies feeling like they are taking up someone's time that needs to be elsewhere. I see the effect of Clinical Manger #4's ideas here. Of course, it means I'll probably only work 8 hours today rather than 10 or 12, but that does not hurt my feelings at all! And Sadie will like it, I'll be home sooner in the evening!
We got an inch of sleet and wet snow yesterday. Very crunchy. Very pretty. Should melt off today if it does get up into the 40's as the weather guessers say it should.
Jazzy--so true about heat not being the friend of the post-meno, and/or AI treatment phase ladies. Glad you could point out that and divert the poor lady from blaming her meds. Sometimes we are took quick to blame meds when the answer is really much simpler. Some things are work being maniacal about, like pool and yoga time, just don't go overboard. HOORAY for having the 5 year finish line in reach! I remember how long that sounded when I started, and how I was kind of surprised when it came to the end. As to not being in the Lounge as often, I will miss you're frequent posts. You have been a great help to me this last year as I changed my life/work focus. This is a natural turning point for many women, and a logical point to shift focus. Glad you are doing so well, will look forward to when you do post, and wish you the best of luck!
NM's DOTD:
Ran across this, haven't seen one in YEARS! A "Lady's" drink:
Pink Squirrel
>What You'll Need
- 3/4 ounce crème de noyaux
- 3/4 ounce white crème de cacao
- 1 1/2 ounces heavy cream
How to Make It
- Pour the ingredients into a cocktail shaker filled with ice.
- Shake well.
- Strain into a chilled cocktail glass.
Crème de noyau is like amaretto. Both liqueurs have the same almond flavor despite the fact that neither is made from almonds. Instead, crème de noyau is made from the pits (or stones) of apricots, peaches, plums and other 'stone' fruits. Noyaux is French for "stone" or "kernel," so the name makes sense.
The main difference between crème de noyau and amaretto is the color. Noyaux is a brilliant red and amaretto is often a deep brown. This makes the Pink Squirrel substitution less than ideal because amaretto will not create a pink drink!
Beyond popularity, there are other issues surrounding crème de noyau. One that scares many drinkers away is the cyanide potential. There is a compound in the noyau that turns to hydrogen cyanide when digested. The majority of the time, the quantities are too small to be harmful and nothing to worry about. It is, however, something to be aware of.
If you find the rare bottle of crème de noyau today, it is probably like Hiram Walker's and flavored artificially. Bols does make a crème de noyau that is made from apricot kernels. Either is a good option for a Pink Squirrel, the only question is whether your local liquor store stocks it.
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Jazzy, we will miss you friend. Good luck on everything, your health, your exercising and things the workfront.
NM I hope you have a pleasant day at hospice. Perhaps you should tell the newbies not to go above and beyond a!nd get burnt out and to not take any sh!t from the clinical managers.
I'm getting so frustrated with my moms care, of should I say lack there of! Not that she is not getting good care at the nursing home/rehab, cuz she is, but they are sending her home tomorrow. We just keep getting shoved off to someone else, who shoves us off to yet another. Here is a letter I wrote to her social worker there at rehab and her response. Mind you my mom has not been home since the beginning of the year.
My letter to her....
Jessica,
I'm really concerned with mom going home on Tuesday. We are not having any luck at all trying to get her placed somewhere. She either doesn't meet the criteria or doesn't make enough money. Anyone we talk to says we can't help try this place. We just keep going in circles with no help or answers.
Talking to her on the phone this morning, she is still repeating things and asking the same questions. Doesn't remember I'm coming on Thursday, and she has known this for months. I had said to her that I saw she seen her grand daughters pictures from Cancun, she even commented on them but doesn't remember. I asked her if she went to the dining room for lunch, she said I don't know, I guess. Don't know what she had to eat. She was crying and scared, very shaky voice. I just don't know what to do. I got her a thing to wear around her neck that all she has to do is push the button and it calls 911. Told her this before and put it on her Facebook page, she replied to it, but now doesn't remember.Lori
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Her response...
Lori –
I spoke with Denise, Physician Assistant for Dr. Langnas, this morning. She stated that she was going to run some labs and see how they looked. I can ask her to give you a call tomorrow (if she's in) or Wednesday (her normal day) to discuss any questions/concerns you may have. I hope that having a discussion with her would provide some clarity that I may not be able to provide.
Jessica
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Jazzy, we'll miss you--but for what a wonderful reason! To be done with treatment and yet young enough to move on and ahead with one's life work and passion is truly a blessing!
Lori, hope your mom's social worker can find the right strings to pull.
50s and sunny today. Ran a couple of errands, and noticed to my chagrin all the detritus covering up my lawn (especially at the base of my magnolia, where the crocuses should come up, and the side strip where my perennial herbs and a couple of berry canes appear). About half dead leaves & twigs and the other half locust bean pods. Hope we can get it raked before the snow comes back Thursday.
This was a movie marathon weekend. Thurs. night we went to see Lady Bird; Bob worked Fri. night and then we watched Olympics; Sat. night we watched a screener Blu-Ray (Gordy's friend is a director in L.A. and thus an Academy voter) of Phantom Thread. Yesterday we saw I, Tonya (it wasn't nominated, but we went to see it mostly to see whether Margot Robbie might be a dark horse for Best Actress and whether Allison Janney might beat out Laurie Metcalf for Best Supporting Actress). The only Best Pic nominee we have yet to see is Call Me By Your Name, but both Gordy and his director pal were unimpressed; Timothee Chalamet doesn't stand a chance against Gary Oldman's Churchill--which is probably why Sam Rockwell was entered by Three Billboards'... producers in the Best Supporting Actor rather than Best Actor category; as good as his co-star Woody Harrelson was, they're not going to split the vote between them and let Dafoe or Jenkins pull an upset. DOTD yesterday was Rivarose Brut at the theater's bar/restaurant (we brought it in, along with dinner, to our seats).
Speaking of Oscars, here are some of my observations:
BEST PICTURE--will win: The Shape of Water. Gee-whiz special effects, highly original fantasy (will also win for directing & original screenplay); still playing in theaters. Should win: Three Billboards. No gimmicks, fantasy, or special effects (except for fires).
BEST ACTOR--Gary Oldman. No one else even came close.
BEST SUPPORTING ACTOR--Sam Rockwell. Ditto.
BEST ACTRESS--will win: Frances McDormand (Three Billboards). Might win: Saiorse Ronan (Lady Bird) because of dropping her thick brogue for a perfect general American accent and playing a 17-yr-old (she's 23); dark horse: Sally Hawkins (The Shape of Water), because three acting Oscars came from playing mutes (Patty Duke, The Miracle Worker; Marlee Matlin, Children of a Lesser God; Sir John Mills, Ryan's Daughter; though it wasn't the charm for nominees Holly Hunter in The Piano or Alan Arkin for The Heart is a Lonely Hunter); Margot Robbie (I, Tonya) because of dropping her Aussie accent to sound exactly like Tonya Harding (whom we see & hear during the closing credits), plus learning to figure-skate in only 6 months (though she had stunt doubles for jumps & spins). Should win: McDormand. Raw & real. And the character was written for her.
BEST SUPPORTING ACTRESS--will win: Allison Janney (I, Tonya); Should win: Laurie Metcalf (Lady Bird). Again--real, raw, no artifice, no accents, no existing person to study for doing an impression. (I, Tonya's script was partly taken verbatim from taped interviews, news footage and court testimony). The toughest way to create a character, from the heart, working without a net.
BEST DIRECTOR--will win: Guillermo del Toro, The Shape of Water. See above reasons. Should win: Christopher Nolan, Dunkirk. Incredibly complex with battle and underwater scenes and little dialogue--but still riveting. But it came out last summer, which for Oscar purposes is a decade ago in dog years.
BEST ANIMATED FILM--Coco.
BEST ORIGINAL SCORE--will win: John Williams, Star Wars, yada yada. Sentimental favorite, the Academy loves him. Should win: Jonny Greenwood, Phantom Thread. "Woven" (sorry, someone had to say it) seamlessly with classical symphonic standards to the point where it all sounds integrated; made a bizarre psychological character study of a film a bit more believable. All the more amazing when you consider Greenwood's provenance: the alternative rock band Radiohead. (But hey, it worked for Danny Elfman to the point where more people know him for his film & TV scores than for his band.....uh, whatsitsname? Oh, yeah--one-hit wonder Oingo Boingo.
BEST SONG--beats me. None stands out, IMHO--not an earworm in the bunch. Probably either the one from Marshall (because of the subject matter and that Common--a proven winner for his song for Selma--wrote & sings it), or the one from Mudbound, because of its Best Supporting Actress nominee, acting newbie but music star Mary J. Blige on lead vocal.
Gotta binge-watch short subjects, documentaries, & foreign films on Netflix all week. Bob has that "Oscar Wiener" contest title at Cellars to defend.
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This is maddening--none of my italics or bolds are showing up in the posts, though they're there when I'm composing it! No choice of which "text editor" to use, either. When I'm typing on a tablet, and have to make edits, words run together unless I add extra spaces.
I HATE the Web software BCO uses!!!!
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Jazzy, we'll miss you--but for what a wonderful reason! To be done with treatment and yet young enough to move on and ahead with one's life work and passion is truly a blessing!
Lori, hope your mom's social worker can find the right strings to pull.
50s and sunny today. Ran a couple of errands, and noticed to my chagrin all the detritus covering up my lawn (especially at the base of my magnolia, where the crocuses should come up, and the side strip where my perennial herbs and a couple of berry canes appear). About half dead leaves & twigs and the other half locust bean pods. Hope we can get it raked before the snow comes back Thursday.
This was a movie marathon weekend. Thurs. night we went to see Lady Bird; Bob worked Fri. night and then we watched Olympics; Sat. night we watched a screener Blu-Ray (Gordy's friend is a director in L.A. and thus an Academy voter) of Phantom Thread. Yesterday we saw I, Tonya (it wasn't nominated, but we went to see it mostly to see whether Margot Robbie might be a dark horse for Best Actress and whether Allison Janney might beat out Laurie Metcalf for Best Supporting Actress). The only Best Pic nominee we have yet to see is Call Me By Your Name, but both Gordy and his director pal were unimpressed; Timothee Chalamet doesn't stand a chance against Gary Oldman's Churchill--which is probably why Sam Rockwell was entered by Three Billboards'... producers in the Best Supporting Actor rather than Best Actor category; as good as his co-star Woody Harrelson was, they're not going to split the vote between them and let Dafoe or Jenkins pull an upset. DOTD yesterday was Rivarose Brut at the theater's bar/restaurant (we brought it in, along with dinner, to our seats).
Speaking of Oscars, here are some of my observations:
BEST PICTURE--will win: The Shape of Water. Gee-whiz special effects, highly original fantasy (will also win for directing & original screenplay); still playing in theaters. Should win: Three Billboards. No gimmicks, fantasy, or special effects (except for fires).
BEST ACTOR--Gary Oldman. No one else even came close.
BEST SUPPORTING ACTOR--Sam Rockwell. Ditto.
BEST ACTRESS--will win: Frances McDormand (Three Billboards). Might win: Saiorse Ronan (Lady Bird) because of dropping her thick brogue for a perfect general American accent and playing a 17-yr-old (she's 23); dark horse: Sally Hawkins (The Shape of Water), because three acting Oscars came from playing mutes (Patty Duke, The Miracle Worker; Marlee Matlin, Children of a Lesser God; Sir John Mills, Ryan's Daughter; though it wasn't the charm for nominees Holly Hunter in The Piano or Alan Arkin for The Heart is a Lonely Hunter); Margot Robbie (I, Tonya) because of dropping her Aussie accent to sound exactly like Tonya Harding (whom we see & hear during the closing credits), plus learning to figure-skate in only 6 months (though she had stunt doubles for jumps & spins). Should win: McDormand. Raw & real. And the character was written for her.
BEST SUPPORTING ACTRESS--will win: Allison Janney (I, Tonya); Should win: Laurie Metcalf (Lady Bird). Again--real, raw, no artifice, no accents, no existing person to study for doing an impression. (I, Tonya's script was partly taken verbatim from taped interviews, news footage and court testimony). The toughest way to create a character, from the heart, working without a net.
BEST DIRECTOR--will win: Guillermo del Toro, The Shape of Water. See above reasons. Should win: Christopher Nolan, Dunkirk. Incredibly complex with battle and underwater scenes and little dialogue--but still riveting. But it came out last summer, which for Oscar purposes is a decade ago in dog years.
BEST ANIMATED FILM--Coco.
BEST ORIGINAL SCORE--will win: John Williams, Star Wars, yada yada. Sentimental favorite, the Academy loves him. Should win: Jonny Greenwood, Phantom Thread. "Woven" (sorry, someone had to say it) seamlessly with classical symphonic standards to the point where it all sounds integrated; made a bizarre psychological character study of a film a bit more believable. All the more amazing when you consider Greenwood's provenance: the alternative rock band Radiohead. (But hey, it worked for Danny Elfman to the point where more people know him for his film & TV scores than for his band.....uh, whatsitsname? Oh, yeah--one-hit wonder Oingo Boingo.
BEST SONG--beats me. None stands out, IMHO--not an earworm in the bunch. Probably either the one from Marshall (because of the subject matter and that Common--a proven winner for his song for Selma--wrote & sings it), or the one from Mudbound, because of its Best Supporting Actress nominee, acting newbie but music star Mary J. Blige on lead vocal.
Gotta binge-watch short subjects, documentaries, & foreign films on Netflix all week. Bob has that "Oscar Wiener" contest title at Cellars to defend.
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Oh, great--now the italics show up but the bolds don't! I give up. Anyone else frustrated by BCO's text quirks????
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