Illinois ladies facing bc
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In every walk with nature one receives far more than he seeks.
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We find by losing. We hold fast by letting go.
We become something new by ceasing to be something old. This seems to be close to the heart of that mystery. I know no more now than I ever did about the far side of death as the last letting-go of all, but now I know that I do not need to know, and that I do not need to be afraid of not knowing. God knows. That is all that matters.
Frederick Buechner0 -
Whoever you are, there is some younger person who thinks you are perfect. There is some work that will never be done if you don't do it.There is someone who would miss you if you are gone.There is a good reason for becoming better than you are.There is a place that you alone can fill. -unattributed
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Positive thinking is not the destination; it is the journey. An optimistic person will be constantly challenged-- by external circumstances as well as inner fears and doubts. Always remember that these tests are like a ladder you must climb.As you move past each rung, your optimism strengthens and your confidence begins to flex newly found muscle that you might never have developed otherwise.
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Ladies - I have not posted here in so long, though I do watch the thread. I wanted to let you all know that I have sadly been diagnosed as Stage IV -- I have extensive bone mets. I am meeting with my onco tomorrow to go over the results of the many scans and biopsy that I have had over the last few weeks, and to get a treatment plan going. I am so sad and scared -- I don't want to leave my kids without a mom! They are still so young - 13, 10 and 8 now. I truly thought that I had beat this cancer and now I am in for the fight of my life. Please keep me in your prayers. - Lisa
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Lemondrop --- I am so sorry to hear your message. I'm glad you have watched the thread and wanted to come back and share with us here. I am totally certain to a person that we are all devastated for and with you. I know that you are aware that there is a part of BC. Org just for those dx-ed as Stage IV so I'm not going to dwell on that but on the fact that strides are made ( never enough to quite suit us ) every day to help us fight --- no matter where we are with our dx's. I do know because I have a friend in that category, that it is possible to be Stage IV and end up ( very long remission ) being NED for yrs. and yrs. as has my friend, 20 yrs. and counting.
She did not want to leave her kids/family either. You will have all the prayers, energetics spiritual feeling and high toned strengthening and healing energies I can muster.
Jackie
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Oh, lemondrop, I am so sorry your bc has progressed. But Jackie is correct--Stage IV is not synonymous with “terminal.” It is something you can “live with” for a long time, not necessarily “die from.” As a friend of mine who was Stage IV for 12 years once said to me, living with metastatic breast cancer cancer is like a pot simmering on the stove--you and your oncologists have to watch it closely and drop the lid on and lower the flame if it starts trying to boil over. And that was back in the early 1990s--we have much better “lids” and more precise “flame controls” now.
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Lemondrop,
I am so sorry to hear this. I hope that your MO gets you into treatment ASAP. We'll be here for you.
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Lemondrop, sending positive thoughts and prayers your direction.
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A rich mind and noble spirit will cast over the humblest home a radiance of beauty which the upholsterer and decorator can never approach.Who would not prefer to be a millionaire of character, of contentment, rather than possess nothing but the vulgar coins of a Scrooge?Whoever uplifts civilization is rich though he or she die penniless; and future generations will remember them fondly. -Orison Swett Marden
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Oh Lisa, I am so sorry to hear your news. I believe in the power of prayer and I will keep you at the top of my prayer list. Just take it one day at a time. There are so many new drugs out there that are available now. Hugs to you, dear bc sister.
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"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things."
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Over the years I have come to believe that life is full of unchosen circumstances, that being human has to do with the evolution of our individual consciousness and with it, responsibilities for choice.Pain and joy both come with life.I believe that how we respond to what happens to us and around us shapes who we become and has to do with the psyche or the soul's growth.
Jean Shinoda Bolen0 -
Not only is there often a right and wrong, but what goes around does
come around, Karma exists, chickens do come home to roost, and
as my mother, Phyllis, liked to say, "There is always a day of reckoning."
The good among the great understand that every choice we make adds to
the strength or weakness of our spirits—ourselves, or to use an old
fashioned word for the same idea, our souls. That is every human's life
work: to construct an identity bit by bit, to walk a path step by step,
to live a life that is worthy of something higher, lighter, more
fulfilling, and maybe even everlasting.
Donald Van de Mark
The Good Among the Great0 -
"You can never regret anything you do in life. You kind of have to learn the lesson from whatever the experience is and take it with you on your journey forward."
-- Aubrey O'Day0 -
Looking for and enjoying beauty is another way to nourish the soul. The universe is in the habit of making beauty. There are flowers and songs, snowflakes and smiles, acts of great courage, laughter between friends, a job well done, the smell of fresh-baked bread. Beauty is everywhere, ready to nourish the soul. It must only be seen to begin helping us.
Matthew Fox0 -
"Aspire not to have more but to be more."
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Compassion is the ultimate and most meaningful embodiment of emotional maturity.It is through compassion that a person achieves the highest peak and deepest reach in his or her search for self-fulfillment. -Arthur Jersild
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It is easy enough to be pleasant,
when life flows by like a song.
But the person worthwhile is one who will smile,
when everything else goes wrong.
Ella Wheeler Wilcoxnot easy to do, but so worthwhile.
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An old man's T SHIRT QUOTE I am not 60. I am 16 with 44 years of experience. Think different , problems common to all but attitude makes a difference.
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Thanks for keeping this thread active, Jackie. I keep hoping that a new group of ladies will find this thread when they most need it and forms bonds as our group did. I often wonder how I would have gotten through the journey without the support of the Illinois ladies.
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Every word you said and then some. I still feel such strong affinity for the place that kept me from going insane that I don't want to do anything to let the door close. I hope I can be up to the task for a long, long time to come.
Blessings,
Jackie
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You are a child of the universe, "fearfully and wonderfully made." In the history of creation, there has never been anyone like you. Accept this reality about yourself— that you are a special, unique human being who has a place on this earth that no one else can fill. Acknowledge yourself as a glorious expression of your loving Creator. This healthy self-love will form the foundation of a joyful and satisfying life. Then, as you love and accept yourself, your inner light will shine outward to bless and heal your fellow human beings.
Douglas Bloch0 -
You will find when you look back upon your life, that the moments when you have really lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love.
Henry Drummond
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I don't usually comment on much and it is usually quiet here, but I have always been moved by this quote. If 98 % of our actions were done with love and care for the outcome this world would be the most beautiful place.
Having said that --- the world is often the way it is not because it couldn't be far nicer, but because we learn so much about life from those things that are NOT done in the spirit of love. I have also always said that perfection is not this place, but is the place where we will end up. If all was perfect here, not only would we not learn much, we would not learn it deeply and the learning cycle would be abysmally slow.
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I'm officially done with the "she's so flawed but she is the lesser of two evils" rhetoric. Cause, you know, I'm flawed. And you are flawed. And Bernie Sanders is flawed and Barack Obama is flawed and even Michelle Obama is flawed. But the difference between all of them and me--and probably you, is that they have all given their flawed lives to public service. And now, they are all working together in their inevitably flawed ways, to save all of us, and the whole world from a sociopathic narcissist. And every day, Hillary puts a hopefully unflawed bullet proof vest on her flawed and aging and sometimes unsmiling self and stands up in front of people who have been incited by her opponent to shoot her, and she says calm and rational and intelligent (and sometimes flawed) things about how to make a difference. In my book that makes her a fucking rock star. And in the words of another flawed and resilient rock star. There is a crack in everything. That's where the light gets in.
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Listen to your life. See it for the fathomless mystery that it is. In the boredom and pain of it no less than in the excitement and gladness: touch, taste, smell your way to the holy and hidden heart of it, because in the last analysis all moments are key moments, and life itself is grace.
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The peace of one individual is small.The peace of many people together is big.When we see ourselves as separate from our community and from nature, then violence and strife arise.It is only when we understand our part in an overall unity that there is the possibility of peace on a large scale. -Deng Ming Dao
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You cannot fail at being yourself.A cat doesn't try to be a tiger, and you shouldn't try to be something you aren't.You are a process, not a product.Your job is to discover what you are and to create that creature. You still won't be perfect, but success isn't about perfection--it is about authenticity.You are a success if you are being your real, authentic self.
Bernie Siegel
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Hi Ladies:
Jackie, you are forever faithful. I am stepping back into this group to express what I am grateful for today! I just realized that i was first diagnosed with breast cancer ten years ago! I am here! Rita, I think you were just after me. I am so grateful. Of course I feel sad that we have lost some and that others continue to fight. I know that at any time I too could be back in the fight, but I am here and there was a time I wondered if I would be!
The only setback I had was when the American Cancer Society revamped their guidelines and I tumbled from Stage 2 into Stage 3 (I had pagets which is rare and the staging for it changed about five years ago). Psychologically that just threw me for a loop. I have learned since that time that labels do not always apply! Happy and good days to all! Susan (Zap)
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