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  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited August 2018

    Goodness is about character - integrity, honesty, kindness, generosity, moral courage, and the like. More than anything else, it is about how we treat other people.


    - Dennis Prager -

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited August 2018

    To be admirable, morality must be its own reward.
    - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited August 2018

    To complain that life has no joys while there is a single person whom we can relieve by our bounty, assist by our counsels or enliven by our presence, is to lament the loss of that which we possess, and is just as rational as to die of thirst with the cup in our hands. -Thomas Fitzosborne

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited August 2018

    You will not grow if you sit in a beautiful flower garden, but you will grow if you are sick, if you are in pain, if you experience losses, and if you do not put your head in the sand, but take the pain and learn to accept it, not as a curse or punishment but as a gift to you with a very, very specific purpose. -Elisabeth Kuebler-Ross

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    Anger, resentment and jealousy don't change
    the heart of others--they only change yours.
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    Shannon Alder

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    "Life is not all sadness," Old Hawk continued. "Yet, without sadness we would not yearn for joy, and strive to find it, and treasure it when it comes. It is also a fact that neither sadness nor joy is with us constantly. And how often one of the other is part of our journey is not always within our control. We all want joy more than sadness and rare is the person who wants sadness at all."
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    Joseph M. Marshall III

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    If I were to wish for anything, I should not wish
    for wealth and power, but for the passionate sense of
    the potential, for the eye which, ever young and
    ardent, sees the possible. . . what wine is so sparkling,
    so fragrant, so intoxicating, as possibility!
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    Søren Kierkegaard

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    Carefully observe the natural laws in operation in the world around
    you, and live by them. From following them, you will learn the morality
    of modesty, moderation, compassion, and consideration (not just one
    society's rules and regulations), the wisdom of seeing things as they
    are (not of merely collecting "facts" about them), and the happiness of
    being in harmony with the Way (which has nothing to do with self-
    righteous "spiritual" obsessions and fanaticism).And you will live
    lightly, spontaneously, and effortlessly.

    Benjamin Hoff


  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    The journey between what you once were
    and who you are now becoming
    is where the dance of Life really takes place.
    - Barbara De Angelis

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    There is no physician like cheerful thought for dissipating the ills of the body; there is no comforter to compare with good will for dispersing the shadows of grief and sorrow. To live continually in thoughts of ill will, cynicism, suspicion, and envy, is to be confined in a self-made prison hole. But to think well of all, to be cheerful with all, to patiently learn to find the good in all—such unselfish thoughts are the very portals of happiness; and to dwell day by day in thoughts of peace toward every creature will bring abounding peace to their possessor. -James Allen

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    Our relationships are our sacred responsibilities, for they are the framework within which life is lived. They show us where we have more learning and loving to do. Our interactions with others call up the disabling beliefs and negative patterns of behavior we need to release—the cynicism, anger, resentment, and jealousy that block love's flow. Our relationships are our mirrors; they reflect where we are in consciousness. And if we are willing to face the truth about ourselves, our relationships offer the lessons that lead to our greatest transformation. -Susan L. Taylor

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    I will greet this day with love in my heart.

    And how will I do this? Henceforth will I look on all things with love and
    I will be born again. I will love the sun for it warms my bones; yet I will
    love the rain for it cleanses my spirit. I will love the light for it shows me
    the way; yet I will love the darkness for it shows me the stars. I will
    welcome happiness for it enlarges my heart; yet I will endure sadness
    for it opens my soul. I will acknowledge rewards for they are my due;
    yet I will welcome obstacles for they are my challenge.

    Og Mandino

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    Many of the most successful people I have known have never grown up. They have retained bubbling over youthfulness. They have relished wit, they have indulged in humor. They have not allowed " dignity " to depress them into moroseness. Youthfulness of spirit is the twin sibling of optimism. Resist growing up. B.C Forbes

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    This is the true joy in life, the being used up for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the community, and as long as I live, it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can. I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no "brief candle" to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for a moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations. -George Bernard Shaw

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    Courage doesn't always roar.
    Sometimes courage is the quiet voice
    at the end of the day saying,
    "I will try again tomorrow."
    - Mary Anne Radmacher

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more "adulthood" to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex. Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind. -Alex Carras

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    If you have integrity, nothing else matters.
    If you don't have integrity, nothing else matters.
    - Alan K. Simpson

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe
    with a person; having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure
    words, but to pour them all out, chaff and grain together,
    knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep
    what is worth keeping, and then, with the breath of
    kindness, blow the rest away.
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    George Eliot

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    Be Grateful for All of Life:
    Each of us has been infinitely blessed - beginning with the gift of life.
    Whatever may appear to be missing or broken on any particular day,
    our glass is not half full, it is 99.9% full.
    - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    "If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author. And everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page."

    -- Mark Houlahan

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    Give the best you have received from the past to the best that you may come to know in the future. Accept life daily not as a cup to be drained but as a chalice to be filled with whatsoever things are honest, pure, lovely, and of good report. Making a living is best undertaken as part of the more important business of making a life. Every now and again take a good look at something not made with hands—a mountain, a star, the turn of a stream. There will come to you wisdom and patience and solace, and above all the assurance that you are not alone in the world. -Sidney Lovett

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    There is one thing we can do, and the happiest people are those who do it to the limit of their ability. We can be completely present. We can be all here. We can give all our attention to the opportunity before us. -Mark van Doren

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    Today is a new day. You will get out of it just what you put into it. . . . If you have made mistakes, even serious mistakes, there is always another chance for you. And supposing you have tried and failed again and again, you may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call "failure" is not the falling down, but the staying down. -Mary Pickford

  • chisandy
    chisandy Member Posts: 11,408
    edited September 2018

    This is for all the Chicago/N. IL women on this thread: any interest in a get-together? Ever since the N.Shore/Kellogg BC Support Group disbanded (dwindling attendance after our facilitator died in Apr. 2016), I've been searching for a Chicagoland support group. Amazingly, there are almost none--there's one tonight, way out west at Loyola (at least the website says "third Thursdays") but nobody's answering, and it's definitely a long commute during rush hour. Cancer Wellness Center has none--just a Tamoxifen & AI group on third Wednesdays. And Gilda's Club has one---but it's every other month, all the way down in Oak Lawn at Advocate Christ. (2-hr commute, as my DH who's on staff there will attest. All the more baffling as Gilda's Club is located in the Loop). None of them are CTA-accessible either (ours was just steps from the Purple Line Central St. stop).

    I also put out a message to Chicago-area members of MyBCTeam.com, but all I'm getting are "hugs."

    Does NOBODY want to meet face-to-face any more? (Note--you downstate gals obviously get a pass).

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    Several yrs. back there were a lot of get togethers. Usually at a restaurant. Maggiano's though by now I'm likely spelling it wrong. Christmas party every yr. too. It would be nice if a group could get together again. Back many, many pages now I'd imagine -- there should be numerous pics. I have to admit though this was going on right after ( I wasn't able to attend due to distance ) my dx. Around 07' and 08'. I think the get togethers were at times quite lively.

    Hope you are able to get a response.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    Time is an equal opportunity employer. Each human being has exactly the same number of hours and minutes every day. Rich people can't buy more hours. Scientists can't invent new minutes. And you can't save time to spend it on another day. Even so, time is amazingly fair and forgiving. No matter how much time you've wasted in the past, you still have an entire tomorrow.Success depends upon using it wisely—by planning and setting priorities. -Denis Waitley

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    If someone is able to show me that what I think or do is not right, I will
    happily change, for I seek the truth, by which no one was ever truly
    harmed. It is the person who continues in his self-deception
    and ignorance who is harmed.

    Marcus Aurelius

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018


    The test of our progress is not whether we add more
    to the abundance of those who have much.
    It is whether we provide enough for those who have little.
    - Franklin D. Roosevelt

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018

    People who have attained things worth having in this world have worked while others idled, have persevered when others gave up in despair, have practiced early in life the valuable habits of self-denial, industry, and singleness of purpose.As a result, they enjoy in later life the success so often erroneously attributed to good luck. -Grenville Kleiser

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,770
    edited September 2018


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    Only one person in a thousand knows the trick of really living in the present.Most of us spend fifty-nine minutes an hour living in the past, with regret for lost joys or shame for things badly done (both utterly useless and weakening) or in a future which we either long for or dread. . . . There is only one minute in which you are alive, this minute, here and now.The only way to live is by accepting each minute as an unrepeatable minute.Which is exactly what it is—a miracle and unrepeatable. -Storm Jameson

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    And today's quick thought:
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    If we take care of the moments, the years will take care of themselves. -Maria Edgeworth