Illinois ladies facing bc

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  • moonsong1013
    moonsong1013 Member Posts: 1
    edited July 2008

    My name is Debbie I live in Joliet il. I was dx'd on oct 31, 2006, had a mast. dec 2006 and started chemo Jan. 2007 I finished treatments june 28th 2007 this year I was 1 year out of treatments. I just want to say hello and to those of you who are in the midst of it all YOU CAN DO IT!!! Deb

  • tdbear
    tdbear Member Posts: 286
    edited July 2008

    YEA Leesa last chemo!! Are they going to give you a break before starting RADS?

    Welcome Deb! Please stop by & post often! there are several gals here just starting, and even a few of us that have made the journey twice! Illinois gals are tough!! (that's our motto)

     have to make this short busy work day

    everyone have a great weekend if I don't have time to check in later!

  • ritajean
    ritajean Member Posts: 4,042
    edited July 2008

    Welcome, Debbie.  We come up to your city every so often from Bloomngton to visit the Empress anf Harrah's.  I love those slots!  We're about 1 1/2 hours from you.  Thanks for popping on and visiting with us and encouraging our newest gals as they begin or continue on with their journeys.  Please post often.  We're an active group and there's ALWAYS room for one more!  :-) I'm so glad that you're a year out and have no problems.  I will be a year out from the end of treatments in a few weeks...early August and I was dianosed just a month after you. 

     Susan, when you visited that cemetery, you were in the town in which I taught for so many years.  Did you go by the Master's House then, too?  It certainly was a common abode...nothing elegant and fancy!  This is just one of the many towns on the Spoon River Drive which is held the first two weekends in October each year.

    Jackie...check your emails.  I sent you something to help out your red skin.  Hugs to you!  As long as this thread is in existence, never, never suffer in silence!  :-)

    Laura, my food hurts on the TOP and when I bend my foot up at the ankle or at the toes.  This is the same pain I had before I started adding magnesium and vitamin D.  It just came back this week and I've still been taking the extra supplements.  I think I'll increase the magnesium by 250 mg and see if that helps.  I'm pretty sure it is Arimidex-related.  Thanks for the Magnesium info, Wendy.  Hey that's really strange  BUT GOOD, that your pain went away.

    Leesa, so good to hear from you.  I'm so glad that you're finished with those devilish treatments and so sorry that they were so rough on you.  Hugs to you!

    JulieR...hope you're just relaxing and recouping at home with your favorite book, movie, or tv show.  You'll feel a little better with each passing day.  Hang in there.

    Hi to everyone else.  I need to get busy and write some questions for the young guy who bought my business.  Thanks to him, we're going to be at Wrigley Field this weekend, celebrating my son's birthday!  I feel guilty that I've played so much and haven't helped him out much lately!

    Catch you all later.

    Rita

  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Member Posts: 4,011
    edited July 2008

    Welcome Debbie...your strength shines through...keep on being well!

     Michele and Susan - I will post if we go to the track on Tuesday...read my post below  Cry:

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    THIS SUCK*! We went to the track last night...dh ran two times and then it was my turn...and then the transmission blew~! The Goat would not go into 3rd gear~!

    we're not talking about a shabby trans here...we PAYED BIG FRICKIN BUCKS FOR IT! I was SOOOOOOOO pisse*. We drove the sorry Goat home....very carefully...very slowly...,more than an hour away for us. DAMN...but I pity the dude who will receive my phone call tomorrow morning as I ask for it to be fixed in two days! I plan on racing next Tuesday night...it's LADIES NIGHT...awwwwwwwwwwwww how appropriate. I was so dissappointed...Cry 

  • Mich101
    Mich101 Member Posts: 489
    edited July 2008

    Laura- so sorry to hear about your car. Let us know how you phone conversation goes! Will you get it repaired by Tuesday?

    Welcome Debbie!

  • maryjane8
    maryjane8 Member Posts: 68
    edited July 2008

    Hi girls,

    Just a short note. Worked at WW all day and I'm pooped!

    Susan, my daughter's trip is affiliated with ISV, International Student Volunteers. She worked two weeks in Thailand teaching English to young kids. (80% of the English speaking people in Thailand were killed in the Tsunami, according to their literature.) Today she landed in New Zealand. While there she will be working on some sort of conservation project. Don't know if it's plant or animal life.  She is definitely the most adventurous of our 6 kids!

    Leesa - good to hear from you. Glad the chemo is over.

    Welcome to the new ones and good luck to everyone taking treatments!

    Mary Jane

    JanClare - hope your posterior is better. I did have to laugh at your story, however!

    Rita - Have fun at the Cubs game!

  • wendyk13
    wendyk13 Member Posts: 1,458
    edited July 2008

    Morning all....wow, what a lot of rain!  We saw on the weather channel that some of you girls up north, and towards the city got it much worse than we did.  I figure I won;t have to water for 3-4 days!

    Deb...welcome!  So glad so far everything is going great for you!

    Leesa....YAY!!!!!  All done!!!!!!  On to rads......which I am SURE will be easier on you than Mr.Chemo was.  Can you get that port out right away?

    Laura...oh c**p!  Too bad about your car, and it took soooo long for you guys to get it fixed in the first place!  I too would love to be listening in to that phone conversation this morning!!!

    WendyTY...a mohawk?  Need pictures soonest!

    Susan....your arm going all tingling is not good.  Hopefully PT will move that disk back where it belongs.  That being said, I have a really good friend who had to have that surgery 15 years ago and he is doing just fine...no problems.  I don't know what level his herniation was, but I could find out.  His was so bad he could actually push the disk back in with a finger!  Yuck!  He had a fusion....no problems whatsoever.  And reading stones in cemeteries - well, at first I though that was a bit strange, but I am guessing it's quite interesting as well.  Some great kids you have!

    Rita...have fun at the Cubs!  Looks like the weather will be pretty ok.

    JanClare...how's the butt?  I learned from PT that kinesio tape which they use..if you put it over a bruise...it picks up the skin away from the underlying area, and the blood dissolves much faster, hence your bruise goes away rapidly.  You can get it at any med. supply place, they told me.  But it costs about $15. or so for a small roll, but then you wouldn't need much and it would last for a long, long time.

    Irina...glad your new onc is so nice, and that he is trying something else for you.  Sending good vibes to you!

    Jackie...how many more left?  You are really zipping right thru...

    As for my 2nd steroid inj....just some pain at the inj. site but so far so good.  Still some pain, but it is getting better.  I have another 3 PT's next week...they are going to teach me to "fire my Multiforis's myself" or if I can't they are going to hook me up to a portable "something" and zap me as I walk around.  And no...I have NO idea what any of that means.  Something about these little muscle groups on either side of my lower spine...I guess I'm not "firing", just a little "ping" once in a while.  So I guess the idea is...if I can get all my spine in alignment, my piriformis on the R unstretched and to stop firing constantly, my L piriformis to become UN-inhibited (must be from all that time in Catholic schools with the nuns), my multiforis's to START firing, change my posture, and un-rotate my R hip flexor...this should all allow my disk to start to move back where is should be.

    Well then.....HUH???????????  I told you PT was interesting...all a bunch of gobbledy-gook...but interesting!

    Off to start my day...still trying to get on the internet with this stupid iPod touch...oh well, by the time I figure it out...there will be a new version.  At least I figured out the music part...

    Have a happy day everyone!  And where ever you are in treatment, always remember...there is another side, and you will get there!  And the sun is shining!!!!

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,794
    edited July 2008

    OMG Wendy--it's just a piece of cake.  Put the left one in the right one out, then let it ping just a little, then you shake it all around, then fire the multiforis---and thats what it's all about.

    Well, I think I have maybe 9 txs ( rads ) left.  Don't have my little book with me so not sure, but thank goodness--not many.  Feels like I have been going home washing clothes and cleaning as much as I can before I come back forever.  And yep!!!! the motel scene is getting pretty tiresome too.  Have not slept at night too well the past couple of days....must be the nap after rads. 

    Denny had his neck fused and it would have been fine but he insisted on going back to work and did not tell the Dr. he would be hammering on things ( he repaired the saws and drills surgeons use ) so broke the fusation loose.  Had to be redone which started a chain reaction---needed an ulnar nerve repositioned in his arm, then an operation on one foot.....so I'd probably not be so afraid to do it, but I would let my Dr. dictate how long to lay off w/o too much griping from me.  Just like a man sometimes......Denny forgets that it was his insistence to go back to work that got him into trouble and if he hadn't heard someone else 'demand' to go back to work ( probably thought it was a macho thing when he heard it ) he more than likely would have stayed home the entire time......so now Tom has some company Wendy and you are not the only one that can be blackmailed. 

    Rita been checking my email ( not today yet though ) but nothing there.  I can do my mail here on web-mail which I don't really like as I can't seem to figure our sending.  I'll work with it at home on my own computer.  I've seen people sit right down at any computer but I'm not very good at it.

    Laura...count me in on wanting to be on the other line when you talk to those  guys who put your engine in.  Probably doesn't matter much that there was a few hours between when the thing crapped and your call.  Bet the guy that takes the call will just be thankful he wasn't on the track when it happened.

    Hope all our Julie's, Jule, Becky, Irina, WendyTY, Leesa are all doing ok.  Wendy is absolutely right--there are two sides and if yours is not so good right now, it will definitely change for the better.  Maybe not as soon as you'd like but it's like age (OMG did I say that ) you can't stop it. 

    All take care and I'll talk to you tonight.

    Jackie

  • smerf
    smerf Member Posts: 476
    edited July 2008

    Lost my post just now. This can be so frustrating!

    Susan....I can sympathize with your tingling and discomfort in your arm. I get the same thing in my leg, and have had a drop foot. It always cleared up with conservative tx, and I hope yours does too.

    Jackie...AquaPhor is very good. My doc prescribed Radioplex, which was also good. I got burned anyway, and it was difficult to wear a bra. That hampered my life for a bit, because i never go out with the girls on the loose!

    Wendy...Hope your PT is going well. Sounds like another foreign language, doesn't it?

    Rita..Hope you have great weather for the game. My DH is at Advocate Ill. Masonic Med. Center, and we can walk from there to Wrigley.

    Leesa...So glad you are finished, and sorry it was so hard on you. I'm hoping rads will be easier, and you'll soon be finished.

    Welcome Deb. Glad you found us.

    To all in tx, I'm thinking of you, and hoping you're doing well. Julie, are you up and about yet?

    JanClare...It was so good to hear from you, and to be part of such a caring group of women.

    Michele...How's the new house coming along? Wet drywall is the pits, I know. Been there, done that last August, and it wasn't pretty! Hang in there.

    Guys are calling me to ask where I want the new towel bars.....so I'll check back later.

  • zap
    zap Member Posts: 1,850
    edited July 2008

    Hi:

    I posted with all my damn back complaints, but now it is not there! Maybe for the best.

    Anyway, I just asked a question of myself and came up with tears rather than any decent answer. So I am asking any person on this thread to answer this question, if they feel so inclined. It may help all our new ladies too.

    Cancer and other serious illnesses (in those we love and in ourselves) create such tension because we need to live daily with such uncertainty. We always have the "what ifs" in our thinking. How do you live with this uncertainty?

    Thanks to any one who cares to respond. I have the mri today. Remember the idiot who told me to think of it as a torpedo? I paid that man good money for his "therapy".....auughhhhhh!

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,794
    edited July 2008

    Susan, I definitely want to say something on this subject, but I need some time to think about it though sometimes what pops into your head first often is the best answer you'll ever come up with.  Still, I'll get home on my own computer and hopefully by then  I'll have given the question lots of consideration.

    Jackie

  • smerf
    smerf Member Posts: 476
    edited July 2008

    Susan,

    Tests bring on anxiety for most of us, and you are not alone in that. I'm feeling it already, and my next mammo isn't until next month.

    I remind myself that we all live with uncertainty, and I refuse to allow it to ruin my now, if that makes any sense. Sometimes it gets the best of me anyway, and then I try to go out and do something I enjoy, just for me. I also come to this site, and can always find support here. My dad died when I was six, and that taught me early on that there is uncertainty in everyone's life. Getting old has been my goal, and I think I'm about there!

    Are you having a breast MRI, or is it for your cervical spine? I'm sending you positive thoughts for a good report. You know we are all with you today. Come back later, and let us know how you are doing.

    hugs, Pat

  • maryjane8
    maryjane8 Member Posts: 68
    edited July 2008

    Susan - good luck with your MRI.

    MJ

  • blackjack
    blackjack Member Posts: 771
    edited July 2008

    Hi Girls,

    I hope everyone is having a better week than me. If it could only get worse.. can't see from new contacts, cracked front tooth and now my new basement flooded with water after it was just painted..they had to cut the drywall half way up the walls, remove all the carpeting and get the restoration men here to dry everything out. They told me that there is mold and it will take 5 weeks to get it back to normal. I sat and cried last noc when I saw it. Oh I hate remodeling.

    I am soooo stressed over this....I need the beach and lots of Cosmo's now. I know it will get done but I am in a time crunch now as I am going to Iowa in a couple weeks and then to Providence again to see my son. Then school starts soon when I get back......sorry I  just needed to vent now. I told my dh that this is the last time I am remodeling for him.

    I hope everyone else is having a better week than me. Work men are yelling at each other..gotta ck it out. Will ck back later.

    Blackjack

  • smerf
    smerf Member Posts: 476
    edited July 2008

    Blackjack,

     Summer seems to be racing by in a fog of remodeling, doesn't it? I can't believe it's already the middle of July. I think this feels more back to normal than anything else. I did chemo beginning of March until the end of August in '06, and the time seemed to drag by soooo slowly. Now it's back to going by too fast!

    I went through weeks of mold remediation in August, and it is frustratingly slow, but hang in there. It'll get done, and be just as nice as before. Maybe we can do lunch or dinner, and Cosmos, of course, and cheer you up!

    My work is also going too slow for me. They just told me they have to break out some of the new tile in the shower because the water pipes are too short to attach the shower fixtures. I'm putting in body sprays, showerhead, and a hand held shower, so that's quite a few tiles. Can't wait for DH to get home and complain about this all weekend! This means more work days next week when they thought they might finish today. Also, just noticed the painters painted one window shut. It can't be washed from the outside so I really need it to open! What's with these guys anyway? Maybe I just don't remember the problems with previous remodeling. Chemo brain and I'm getting old, but still feisty, so I'm getting on the phone to get the painter back!

    Feel better, Pat

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,794
    edited July 2008


    "Remember there's no such thing as a small
    act of kindness. Every act creates
    a ripple with no logical end."
    - Scott Adams
  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,794
    edited July 2008

    Hi all, I'm back home and on my own lovely computer.  Of course, that would be the same one that stood great chance of landing outside the window many a time.  Just use something else for a bit and your own turns into your million dollar baby right quick.

    Rita.....I did receive something in the mail from you today....thank you, thank you, thank you.  I re-checked wondering if I read wrong, but your little note did say email.  No matter---I just assumed not seeing anything was due to using the computer at the motel. 

    Blackjack, I am so sorry to hear about all your re-model woes.  Makes me feel somewhat lucky their was no remodeling money in our budget this yr. with my little "problem".  Course, we are big time do-it-yourselfers so it would basically be on us anyway,  What do they say about what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.....think how strong you will be when this is all over and then I think Yeah, and about now Michelle is saying to herself, think how hard I'm going to slug you when I see you for that and you will be the first to know how "strong" I've become. 

    Just keep remembering what Wendy said----there are two sides to everything and your getting the bad side right now but it will change  to the good side.  The best way out of something is facing it and going right through the middle.  Ducking, dodging, trying to re-arrange or erase just stalls things and gives us more dread and dismay.  Let yourself have a good cry, or some good anger ( just enough to be productive ) some good venting, and hopefully you'll be back in there taking charge and getting things done.  I think about everyone here knows what the end of the world feels like----when you first find out you have cancer....so this is not pleasant what you are going through but you got to the end of the world and got back.  Just think about that.

    Love an hugs and much positive energy to you.

    Jackie

  • ritajean
    ritajean Member Posts: 4,042
    edited July 2008

    Jackie...glad the package arrived.  Do not use it in the morning before your rads but apply it on generously as soon as you're finished and as needed for the rest of the day and night.  I always put it on right in the dressing room at the cancer center.  It interferes with the radiation if you apply it before your rads.  Then I put it on again in the later afternoon and right before bed.  Hope it helps.

    I did send you an email explaining this.  It's probably still bouncing around out there in cyberspace.

    Rita

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,794
    edited July 2008

    Ah Susan...................

    It's a little profound and I almost wished that I had not rushed into saying I would contribute on your question but I'm going to try for you.  First and foremost, I have felt for so very, very long that we are all very old souls.  We end up in different bodies, but we are old.  So, as well, I think we choose all we want to experience in this life---the good, bad, ugly and everything in-between. 

    As part of that experience we do have to contend with all sorts of illness and other debilitating things like paralysis, loss of limbs, mental illness etc.  Now there really is something that keeps us pushing on.....fearful and upset as we might be, ill as we or someone we know may become.  We have within ourselves a creative spark and even when we think we can't possibly go on, that we are too torn and tattered and tossed about until we are nearly mindless, that spark stays right there, alive and well.  Even if we lose some of our ability to be totally rational.....that spark of life is there KEEPING us centered when we are full of fear and upset and questions.  That spark knows what we don't.  It was put there when we first as new souls came into being and it takes care of us.....and will not really let us quit until the chosen time comes. 

    So, we struggle with the questions and wonder why and live with un-certainty because  it is just another avenue of our life.

    When I was a lot younger I had such a fear of death.  I was terrified ( had no idea of just how I might die ) of every gruesome accident or tragedy I would hear or read about almost certain something extremely painful ( so I would suffer for hours first ) would happen to me.  Somewhere along the way I also started to figure out that I was not here by accident and the more I accepted and started studying the more I realized that no one else was either.  None of us are accidents and are here of our choosing.  It is simplyfying things( a whole, whole lot ) but once I accepted that and a few other ideas, well quite a few others I realized that all I can do is try to do the very best I can with every day I have chosen for myself in this life.

    Some days I will make a good showing, some will be excellent, but oh some are bound to be pretty woeful.  I will be falling on my face I'm sure more than I could ever dream is possible for one person, but in much of my spiritual studies....it is not that YOU are the BEST.  It is that you have the DESIRE and TRY.  It is that you will defer to the spark within yourself when the road gets bumpy and struggle weighs you down and you wonder if you will ever smile again or feel good again.  Where there is life, there is hope.   There will always be questions, bewilderment, even feelings of defeat----but through it all, no matter what is is....we are here only to do our best which is different for each person.  The little star that only emits a small twinkle is no less a star than the big bright one easy to find in the sky---both stars, both where they were meant to be each in their own time----just like us.  We are where we are meant to be, doing what we meant to do--even if we are dreading every medical test--thinking, what if this is it.

    When I come to my what if this is it...............I just go on to the next phase of my existence.  That is a simplification of course, but exactly what will happen.  For me it is somewhat cut and dried. 

    Not to make a joke of anything but my dad use to say your going to live till you die.  He did not do all the spirutuaL reading and studying I have done, but in essence.....he had it right anyhow.  I have enjoyed my studies and will I know do a lot more  as times goes on. 

    I don't know that this is a great answer Susan, but it does satisfy me pretty much.  I still think illness, and other problems,in our life and the lives of those around us happen because when everything is great we don't learn near as much.  What would you learn in life if you never made a mistake, or ran out of money, or saw a hungry homeless person.  Trials will always be a part of our life while we are in this world because this is the only time we need them.   I wish sometimes I would have given myself a few less---like everyone on this blog, now and then I have times when I'm feeling overwhelmed and thinking nothing will ever be smooth or easy again. 

    Well, am I a man or am I a mouse.........I'm just a tough Illinois girl and I will take off right through the middle of this stuff---even if I have to sneak up on it part of the time and I will make a difference to me and if I can make a difference along the way for someone else I will more than gladly do that too.  And when I get where I'm actually going by living this life I hope I will be happy and maybe even a little proud.........that's what I'm aiming for with all the spark inside of me that I can call up. 

    Love you all,

    Jackie

  • wendyk13
    wendyk13 Member Posts: 1,458
    edited July 2008

    Hi again!  Finally got my iPOD touch working with the internet...if it works with the wifi in florida, I can keep up with you all!

    Blackjack/Pat....wow, what a mess!  Keep looking up...things can only get better!  (don't look down as then you would see the flood waters, mold and broken tile)

    Susam....what you are feeling is sooooo normal.  I remember last March while waiting for my mamm appt...my DH said "Why are you worrying?  Either it has come back, or it hasn't.  If it hasn't...good.  If it has, you get treated...you move on."  Well...I screamed and screamed at him all the while crying my little eyeballs out, snot running down my face...until I realized something.  He was right.  Ding-ding-ding...give that man a cigar!  I cannot STOP it from coming back, all I can do is try and PREVENT it from coming back.  Which I know you do.  So ask yourself this when you wake up tomorrow morning (or something to this effect)...do you want your first thoughts to be "What if it comes back today?" and then worry about it and ruin the day?  Or would you like to wake up and say "Wow...great day!  If it's coming back...I better have the best day ever!"  I know that may sound a little pessimistic, but it works for me!  There are no do-overs in life, this is not a dress-rehearsal.  So until someone tells me I am checking out....I choose to stay checked in.  When DH was dx'd with a. fib 10 years ago, I swear I just waited for him to drop dead for MONTHS!!!!!  And so did he!!!!!  What a waste of time!  BC has taught me mortality..not a lesson I liked learning very much.  Now....I just live every FRICKEN' day to its bestest ever, even if I am stuck in PT!  Cuz it's better than being in the dirt, if you will excuse the expression.  Life is good....don't you dare waste another minute of it, okay?  Mama Wendy says....

     Laura...thanks for "fricken"...worked here very well!

    Love to you all!

  • wendyk13
    wendyk13 Member Posts: 1,458
    edited July 2008

    Jackie....THAT'S IT!!!!  That's what I was trying to tell Susan....

     "LIVE....until you die"

    Live, live, live!!!!!!

  • JanClare
    JanClare Member Posts: 267
    edited July 2008

    Susan, Wendy and Jackie said it better then me, but remember- "Live, Live, LIVE!  Life's a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death!" (from Auntie Mame)

    And my own mantra, "Enjoy THIS day!"

    Just checking in before the weekend starts.  Big waves and hugs to everyone.  Leesa, so glad you finally checked in.  Jackie- you listen to Mama Rita and use that cream!  Blackjack, oh honey, you have had the week/month from H#ll!!  Hope it gets better soon.  

    Have to admit, I'm a little worried about JulieR- has anyone heard from her since Blackjack talked with her BF after the surgery??  I called and left a message, but have not heard back.  

    Also, sending big (((hugs))) to JulieChicago (JulieB??), who started CMF chemo today.  I was lucky enough to talk with her yesterday.  She's Triple Neg, just like Smerf (Pat)and myself!  I  know she's really worried, but she also seems very strong, with her head on straight.   Pat, you will like her, she won't do anything without strongly researching it.  And, Laura, she's a graphic design artist- artistic, just like you!  I told her that we would be here for what ever she needed, if she needs to vent, stop on by!

    So is anyone available Wednesday or Thursday night for dinner?? Blackjack, I'll buy the Cosmo! 

  • blackjack
    blackjack Member Posts: 771
    edited July 2008

    JanClare, Please count me in on Wednesday for dinner. I sure do need a cosmo. They finally came tonoc and ripped out all the moldy carpeting and will start next week to fix the leak. The  leak is from a shut off sprinkler head that flooded under ground into the house..ugh

    On the bright side is that my furniture came and no problems or returns. yeah for that. And I love it. Gotta run another repairman here...let me know when and where for dinner.

    Will ck back later,

    Blackjack

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,794
    edited July 2008
    While we have the gift of life, it seems to me that only tragedy is to allow part of us to die - whether it is our spirit, our creativity, or our glorious uniqueness. Gilda Radner
    US actress & comedienne (1946 - 1989) I was wondering if the word up there should have been the instead of that ????
  • smerf
    smerf Member Posts: 476
    edited July 2008

    I think I can do Wednesday for dinner. I'll just throw the guys out early if I have to, because I so need a break from all this. I'm getting cabin fever, staying home all the time. A glass of wine, and you all for company......nothing could be better!

    Pat

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Member Posts: 39,794
    edited July 2008

    Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end. There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days. All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten will pass to someone else.

    Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed. Your grudges, resentments, frustrations and jealousies will finally disappear. So too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to do lists will expire.

    The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away. It won't matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end. It won't matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant. Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.

    So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?

    What will matter is not what you bought but what you built, not what you got but what you gave. What will matter is not your success but your significance. What will matter is not what you learned but what you taught.

    What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage, or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example. What will matter is not your competence but your character.

    What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you're gone. What will matter is not your memories but the memories that live in those who loved you. What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.

    Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident. It's not a matter of circumstance but of choice.

    This is Rex Barker reminding you to, "Choose to live a life that matters."

    This is one of the things that I read that continues to inspire me.

  • smerf
    smerf Member Posts: 476
    edited July 2008

    It's inspiring me too, Jackie. Thanks for posting it. I think I've used some of it with my children over the years,and I think they get it!

    Enjoy your weekend at home. Soon you'll be back full time!

    Pat

  • wendyk13
    wendyk13 Member Posts: 1,458
    edited July 2008

      Will one of you PLEASE explain to me why these storms have to come in the middle of the night?  I swear I am sleep-deprived.

    I leave for vacay on Thurs...but maybe I could do dinner on Wed??  When and where?  I assume Maggiano's is out...way too much food, I agree!  And not that I am cheap...but we paid for a lot they we never even touched, even if we got to take it home!

    Jackie...thanks for the great posting.  So true....

    JulieB...don't you just love JanClare?  Hopefully we will get to meet you soon!

    Blackjack....well, what can I say?  Glad the furniture is okay...was kinda worried that you got the wrong stuff, or something.

    Susan...how are you today?  How did the MRI turn out?  Thinking about you a lot lately...

    Time to get moving....I see the rain has let up a bit.  Need to get showered up and then pick up my gauntlet (they had to order a S for me) and then pick up my contacts (I only wear them for a week, and then rest my eyes for a night...2 YEARS????  what was that idiot girl thinking??  Oh right...teenager...'nuf said).  Then put together a pasta salad for a BD party tomorrow.  Everyone have a wonderful day...wet to be sure...but wonderful.  Live, live, live!

    Fists up, and I guess tops too for today!

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    [Deleted User] Member Posts: 4,011
    edited July 2008

    Susan - You are 1 year behind me with your dx...time does help! The uncertainty does fade. Sooner for some - later for others. Keeping busy helps, but you have already mastered that one. Your concerns will become fewer and farther apart...give it more time.  

    blackjack - Damn girl...IT'S ALWAYS SOMETHING. I hear ya! You took 10 steps ahead and now 5 back! Yikes...I hope it all moves along quickly and swiftly. Hang in there...dear!  

    leesa - Glad you're on to rads...HANG IN THERE TOO! Have you thought more about selling your house? Is, and when it's time...if you help packing, moving, etc...I have an SUV - would be happy to help...  

    wendrew - Nice! You'll have a great time in FL...you're quite the savvy tech these days! LOL Wink 

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    Count me in at Wednesday's dinner!  

    Well...the Goat is going in the shop this morning...they have promised to try to have it fixed by Tuesday...YEAH RIGHT...it's like working with contractors! LOL I'm just so impatient...dh reminds me OFTEN...it's the nature of the beast...we have to roll with the punches...We shall see. I spent hours yesterday making graduation party invites for my nieces party that we're having here in a couple of weeks. We're also celebrating her 18th birthday! The cover says - Look Who's 18! and I scanned in 5 baby photos of her. And on the inside it says - And Look Who Graduated From Highschool! Below it there's a photo of her in her cap and gown. It turned out really cute. I printed them out on my color printer. I decided to make her a "movie" dvd to the country/western song My Wish - by Randi Flatts. The dvd will be dissolves/still shots of photos of her from a newborn to her graduation last month...It's alot of work...I have to scan in the photos from the first half of her life (35 total), as digital cameras had not yet been available...the second half photos are already in my computer...thank goodness!  It's going to take me a long time to scan, design and edit it...I better get started!

    Have a lovely day girlz!

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    JanC - Are you still willing to order the metal lympha bracelet pieces we talked about? If so, I would like to post about it...gotta get them ordered so we'd have them in time for the 9th.