Illinois ladies facing bc
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Welcome Buttons, sorry we have to meet this way though.
Joan-sounds like good news on next week's surgery, I'll be praying all goes perfectly. Sorry to hear about your phone and ticket - it's always something...
Sun's out! Yippee-even if it's chilly, it's mood elevating to see the sunshine.
Have a wonderful day all!
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Welcome to the new girls!
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Adding to the dense tissue stories: I was told my 4cm rock hard "lump" was "dense tissue" FOR 4 FRICKIN' YEARS! Arghhhhhhhhhhh...I get so irate when I think back. I doubt my anger will ever cease...sigh...
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"I've decided to go with a much more junior role for this person as it will allow me to reshape the department in the way that are needed."
Since I was in her price range I assume this means I was too old. She likes to work with young ones.
Joan I feel your pain regarding the phone. Lost mine back in the snowstorm in Jan. Hope smooth sailing with the surgery.
Well I need to go do something to get my mind off this. I've never been this out of touch although I did say to my husband after the interview that the only way this wasn't a fit is if she preferred to work with someone younger. Guess in the back of my mind I knew something.
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lago sorry to hear about the job not working out. So many disappointments. I hope you realize maybe she was a bit intimidated about your skill set!
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"maybe she was a bit intimidated about your skill set"
That's not funny.
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lago I meant that you scared her because you are so good!
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Yes I know. I have mentioned to people here before that I intimidate people. They all laughed it off but it really does happen. I don't think it has anything to do with my talent. (I'm good but not that good).
I think it's because I come off as pretty confident in most situations. I learned to fake it at a young age… then started to believe it as I got older.
But seriously this can be an issue. People who are managers and are not confident will never hire someone like me and if they do it's a horrible match.
I don't think this woman was intimidated by me at all. I believe she either wanted someone jr., wanted some one who she could control (and has no opinion) or went with the least expensive… or all three. Just surprised because she said I had a beautiful portfolio, wanted someone who had experience in Christian marketing (yes I do), stated she knew I could do the job in the interview and stated I was in her price range.
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Sorry it didn't work out Lago. With this economy there are so many very talented and competant people who are not getting the job. I see it in teaching. These men and women are so talented, so dedicated, so ready to be in the classroom and serve the community well but then they do not get the job. Just too many people out there. I know that doesn't help you. I think is so smart to do the followup calls and ask directly about the job you didn't get. They know people and can pass your name on and may just even call you in a few months if things did not work out as expected. I hated job-hunting. Keep at it.
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Lago, I am so sorry it didn't work out. I have been scratching my head over the mentions of your 'intimidation' as I read through the past threads. Am I missing something because I just don't see it. Hang in there. The job market is really starting to open up.
Welcome to all the new posters in this thread! I am still so new myself that I am having a hard time keeping up.
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Illinois Lady - I wish this thread had a 'like' button. I look forward to your posts every day!
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Thanks I'm feeling better now. I'm making curry/honey/mustard roasted chicken. The house smells wonderful. I actually feel I'm competing with my Pakistani/Indian neighbor for food hall smells. 0
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Lago-sorry about the job
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lago, I have to admit when I first started reading this thread, I was a bit overwhelmed by the confidence of your postings. Then as I kept reading them over time here and finding them elsewhere, I came to realize that you were somewhat of a combination of my long time Jewish therapist and my older sister. Both whom I really respect and care deeply about. But neither of them quite have your sense of humor.
And as someone who hires people occasionally, it takes a confident supervisor to hire someone who could some day step into her shoes. I could be accused of agism too, as this seems to be, but I go for older candidates, more accomplished candidates with a strong track record. In my field, someone young takes so much more time to train than I have to give. I can't believe she gave you so much information about why she didn't hire you. I have to be mum or speak very obliquely when someone asks why they weren't hired.
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OMG I hope I don't come over as arrogant on BCO. I'm not that funny in person though
Only once before did I get an answer to why I wasn't hired. I actually came in second. The reason why you are instructed not to say anything is many times the candidate will start to defend themselves. It can get ugly. I have a feeling she knew I was pretty professional based on the interview and all my emails… I'm sure she wasn't expecting me to respond with "if another positions opens up in the future please keep me in mind."
I usually don't get too down about these rejections but this took me by surprise. I really thought I would at least make it to the 2nd round.
Dinner was good. Now off to clean it up.
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Now, now. I didn't say "arrogant," I said "confident." Big difference! Maybe there wasn't a second round?
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Hi Ladies! I tried to read up to catch up, but I've been off the boards too much to get it all.
Long story short, my Mom is not in good shape. Didn't get a clean scan and possible liver mets. She's not rebounded at the end of the last chemo round and they can't do anything else with her until she recovers somewhat. For now, blood testing weekly and then a rescan in a few more weeks to evaluate what is going on.
I'm doing well. No recurrence, and waiting for final PS ok before I go to see Vinnie Myers for my 3D tattoos. I'm ready to be done.
I'm going to try to check in here more. I had wanted to get a downstate lunch group together, but things just got too crazy with work and my Mom's situation to get it planned up. I heard from a few of the downstate ladies, so I'll try to resurrect that.
I am also planning for the birth of my first grandchild. Baby will arrive in late July.
Yep, it's been a crazy start to 2012 for me. Anyone going to Vegas for the Sisterhood? I'm planning to go and would love to meet more of you.
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Hi Girls....Yes I am sooo far behind in reading all your post. Welcome to all the new girls who have been posting. Sorry you have to be here, but you will find that we all are at different stages of this disease. Come often for hugs and support.
I have been so busy with packing and moving my mil. She has so much stuff that we had 3 huge moving trucks filled to the brim. Now the fun begins with the unpacking. Spring break last week was sooo relaxing. On the beach at Captivia with my beach chair, ocean and sunshine and I was a happy girl. Can't wait to be back in Nov for more relaxing beach time. Back to school and it has been so crazy busy. I think of all of you often and hoping everyone is well and living a new normal life. I have been training hard for my marathon so I am excited to see if my osteoporosis has improved any with all this weight bearing training and running I have been doing. My dexa scan is next week so I will see then. Hoping for good results.
Just wanted to wish everyone a happy Passover and happy Easter for all who celebrate these holidays. I hope to plan a luncheon / dinner in the near future. Lago do you have any dates open to plan one for us?
Well it is jammie time for me. Sweet dream to all....
BJ
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Lago....one more time --- I too wished things had worked out. I think looking for work is tedious, very consuming sometimes. Also, I really do think that are probably a lot more applicants now-days.
I am one of the ones who said they felt slightly intimidated --- but hey, I look on that as a good thing. I'm well out of my comfort zone here and feeling that I do ok. I feel I am worlds apart from you Chicago ladies. Raised in a sleepy little town of 200 people all of my growing up years. I do not have the style and poise, and yet......a place was made for me and I feel accepted.....so sometimes, now and then, I can "feel" a difference, but I think all happens for a reason and I embrace the feelings that come......I have growing to do so do not see it in a negative way at all. Anyway....Invisible just made me feel ten feet tall and it is that much because I'm 5'8" already.
It is hard to keep up with everyone. I know it will take me awhile as there are several new ladies and even though I know almost everyone.....it wasn't until the Xmas party that I actually got some people finally identified. I usually can identify people better by their voices.....though I don't know with my ears being worse that it is as true as it once was. Faces I could forget when younger, but would instantly know who it was if they talked.
Another 9 p.m. day for me....but that is all right. I can sleep in, ( like that is actually possible ) in the morning a little if I'm fortunate.
Hope you all have a fantastic day.
Hugs, Jackie
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lago- THEIR LOSS!!! And it's not about you.., it's about her!
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Chiming in about the dense breasts here, too - wow, so many of us!
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Hi everyone! And new comers
sorry i disappeared for a while.. Surgery recovery was tough for me because i dont tolerate pain pills.. But now 6 weeks post bmx i feel much better and im going to FL in 3 weeks!
Lago- sorry about the job
you deserved it! Young ones need jobs too though lol 
that prob just means theres a better job out there for you! I heard someone say there were 20-30 yr olds, where are the other 20 yr olds?! Lol
PS tamoxifen sucks. My hot flashes are back..the two months i could have slept without them i was recovering from surgery..thanks universe! Anyone tried the effexor for hot flashes? Thank god its spring and theynsell mini fans again
You ladies are too social for my chemo brain to keep up! Hows your hair for my fuzzy friends out there?! I look like a boy i think haha0 -
Morning! Wow! So many new girls so welcome but I really wish that you never found your way here....
Too far behind to catch up now but wanted to say..
Joan...yikes! Hopefully now that the "little things gone wrong" yesterday are over, your surgery (surgeries!) will be a breeze! Too bad they couldn't do your back/foob at the same time...and yes, I am only kidding...hugs!
Lago....your perfect job is out there, just waiting for you! Glad to see you perked up last night, cooking what no doubt was a wonderful dinner!
Count me in with dense breasts. Count me in with eyebrows/lashes that fell out/grew back FIVE times! Drove me nuts but onc said that happens...eyebrows thin now, lashes not too bad. Hardly ever need to shave my legs, and only under good arm (no rads). Can't say AI's caused this as it was going on before I started them.
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Wendy how long before your eyebrows stopped shedding. I'm 15 months PFC and my eyebrows are thinner than on chemo. I was wondering if that was still chemo related or the lovely estrogen sucking drug.
Katiep I too don't do well with the pain meds. They make me nauseous. I never took any after my BMX but I did try when I got shingles. I took a half a norco… not worth it. Granted I could take Aleve and Ibuprofen for shingles. You can't take those after surgery. Don't forget to make your necklace for those hot flashes.
In the design field it's the young ones that get the jobs. They are less expensive and will work long hours, and are perceived to "obey orders"… but then they burn out/smarten up, quit and find a job that pays better and gives them more responsibility. So hiring the inexperienced doesn't always translate into a smart decision. 30 YO are not considered young. Sounds like I lost the job to a 20-something probably just out of school or 2nd job.
Yes I know there will eventually a job for me. Not sure if it's waiting or someone needs to quit so I can take their job but I'll find it. It's just taking longer than ever before! In the past I would at least have freelance work 3 days a week.
I think I might be getting hot flashes again too… but I did eat spicy curry last night & Cayenne pepper the night before so it might just be the triggers. But like spicy.
Beth sorry to hear about your mom.
Big hello do everyone else. Wow. Maybe we need to change this thread to "Dense in Illinois"
Everyone getting ready for the big holiday weekend?
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lago, I've been lurking and posting since early Feb. A reluctant member of the sisterhood. And you were one of the first ones who welcomed me. I always look for your posts. IMHO, you seem to be one of the most knowledgable people around and willing to share. I value that and it has helped me in my understanding on several different topics. This is the kind of thing I think but don't often enough say, and thought you might be able to use a goodie after the job interview. Upward and onward.
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Busy around here lately!
Lago - I know I would hire you! You are smart, kind, funny and certainly not arrogant! I hope you find the perfect job. I am sure it is getting very frustrating but don't give up. I will keep your job search success in my prayers! Hugs
Katie: I was wondering where you had been and how you were doing...so glad you popped back in! Glad to hear you are recovering well. I take effexor and it has helped quite a bit. I still have a few hot flashes but they are waaaaay less intense and I am not covered in sweat after.
I am busy getting ready for Easter. My mom flew in last night and will be here for a week. So excited to spend time with her and Easter with her.
Wishing you all a good holiday weekend!
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Good morning all. I too am (or was) dense!
Looks like I'll still have drains for Easter, boo.
Lago- That interviewer was dense but not in the boobs! You da bomb.
I am pondering Vegas......
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Choose Inner Peace.
Nothing is worth losing your inner peace.
Take action as circumstances require,
but never surrender your inner peace.
Stop. Breathe deeply.
Close your eyes and breathe deeply again.
Then, and only then, take action -
from a peaceful heart.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie0 -
I guess it is the Triple D club.......Dandy Dense Dames. Oh my !!!!!! I guess I always thought of it as somewhat rare to a degree. My Dr. always said drinking a lot of coffee "early" in life made a big contribution to this.....but I don't totally see the connection. I did however drink coffee a little younger than some.
Glad to see you here Wendy....I missed ya. Katie...glad you are back too. Hope the flashes get to a reasonable level. Mine did.....and I never had them before chemo.....only a couple, so it was a bummer, but they are pretty meek when they happen now.
We have cooled off here.....though I didn't want to roast early.....sure seems cool out there now. All the fun things I had planned for the yard can wait for awhile....we are still in rainstorm mode for a day or two yet, I think.
Hope you all have a wonderful day.
Hugs, Jackie
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Jackie I never had a cup of coffee in my life. I had really dense breasts. Too bad my butt and thighs aren't as perky and small as my old breasts. Wonder if coffee drinking will firm them up
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I'm off to buy a coffee urn.
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