Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?

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  • petite1
    petite1 Posts: 2,446
    edited February 2020

    Good morning. A little cooler this morning. My SE's from Arimidex have suddenly hit me all at once. Hot flashes (haven't had those in years), and joint pain. I can hardly move.


  • Taco1946
    Taco1946 Posts: 630
    edited February 2020

    Petite - I too was surprised at the hot flashes at 71. MO switched me from a mild tranquilizer I had been on for years to Venlafaxine. Don't know whether I "outgrew them" or the venlafaxine has helped but I'm staying with it. Hydrate and try move if you can. I do stretches before I ever try to get out of bed.





  • wren44
    wren44 Posts: 8,075
    edited February 2020

    Have you tried loratidine (Claritin)? Get the plain, not decongestant. It seems to work for some people.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    Our "Rainbows and Butterflies" are the small miracles of our life -
    the little things that are so easy to overlook,
    yet so awe inspiring when we take a moment
    to notice and to pay attention.
    Give thanks for the rainbows, for the butterflies,...
    for all God's creatures - large and small,
    for the bright blue sky and the soft fog and the gentle rain,
    for the tree veiled in the season's first frost,
    for the baby's laugh,
    for the touch of a hand and the whispered "I love you."
    - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

  • petite1
    petite1 Posts: 2,446
    edited February 2020

    Good morning. It was 35 degrees when I got up, No hot flashes and pains. Yay

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    As selfishness and complaint
    pervert and cloud the mind,
    so love with its joy
    clears and sharpens the vision.
    - Helen Keller

    ...

    Love is the greatest force for good.
    - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

  • Chevyboy
    Chevyboy Posts: 10,258
    edited February 2020

    Petite! You're going to have to quit sleeping outdoors In the snow! Hah!

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    Image may contain: meme, possible text that says 'PERSONAL STALKER I WILL FOLLOW YOU WHEREVER YOU GO BATHROOM INCLUDED'

  • mcbaker
    mcbaker Posts: 2,104
    edited February 2020

    I have the stalker t-shirt. With a shih-tzu on it.

    Nerdy

  • betrayal
    betrayal Posts: 5,598
    edited February 2020

    Great poster but my bathroom stalker is a cat (actually the 3 take turns doing the stalking)! It's always interesting to me that once my children outgrew this need, the animals decided I still could not go unattended. LOL.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    One is happy as a result of one's own efforts--once one knows the necessary ingredients of happiness--simple tastes, a certain degree of courage, self-denial to a point, love of work, and, above all, a clear conscience.
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    George Sand

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    Fortunately Dh and I live alone so that bathroom doors are only closed ( sometimes loudly harped about ) during showers. It is our cats who think they are missing something extremely important. While my arm was broken and I needed to be able to call Dh they got used to the door open and did learn NOTHING they would really want to be involved in was taking place. They are re-learning that once in awhile they are locked out.

    Sun today. It will be warm which I will love. Already had some ( huge fur balls ) big messes to clean up. Seems the cats may be feeling spring wanting to arrive so they have been busy licking. Everything I have is covered with old towels this time of yr. that can be washed and put back down. Makes a mess but you adapt and go on.

    Hope you all have a fantastic day.

  • betrayal
    betrayal Posts: 5,598
    edited February 2020

    Jackie:

    Shut bathroom doors are not a deterrent since we installed lever door handles due to age related arthritis. The cats learned they could just pull on them to open the door. They don't stay, it just seems to be the challenge of opening a closed door, making their statement, leaving us exposed and then them leaving on their terms. I do have to monitor when guests are here to insure they have privacy. One loved watching the water in the bowl after a flush.

    It is a lovely sunny day with temperatures near 50. Have a good Sunday.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    Winking

    Those cats -- where there is a will ( and there is almost always that ) there is a way. We had a cat that would open our front door that way Betrayal. Our front door is actually enclosed in a big screen room -- so no one could escape but it did get the 'fancy' handle, easy for some cats to figure out. They only have to do it once too. We finally had to lock the door though because either all the heat or all the air-conditioning would end up getting donated to our town at large. Grrr.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    Giving it up for the night:


    See the source image

  • petite1
    petite1 Posts: 2,446
    edited February 2020

    Oh, yes. Midnight Louie is a bathroom stalker, but the toilet flushing scares him and under the bed he goes.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    A habit for all of us to develop would be to look for something to appreciate in everyone we meet. We can all be generous with appreciation. Everyone is grateful for it. It improves every human relationship, it brings new courage to people facing difficulties, and it brings out the best in everyone. So, give appreciation generously whenever you can. You will never regret it. -Carl Holmes

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes
    but in having new eyes.
    - Marcel Proust

  • petite1
    petite1 Posts: 2,446
    edited February 2020

    Good morning, ladies. Probate on my mom's estate is finally over. I contacted a real estate agent to sell the house and the estate sale of her belongings will be 3/6, 3/7. 3/8. I will be glad to get through this difficult time.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    Glad to hear things are moving well with your mom's probate, petite. Hopefully, it won't take too long to sell her house and you can begin to get 'settled' more with her loss and less with all the efforts and work that is made by a passing.

    Rained yesterday and while it doesn't look so much like rain now, it was really WET outside when we got up. Looks like it might be a damp day.

    I hope you all have a great Monday.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    If I can think of myself as loved, I can love and accept others.
    If I see myself as forgiven, I can be gracious toward others.
    If I see myself as powerful, I can do what I know is right.
    If I see myself as full, I can give myself freely to others.

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    Kathy Peel

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    Well, well, well. Rain off and on for two days and snow this morning. I don't think it will stick and may even turn back into misty rain at some point as it warms a bit, but still something of a surprise. I knew it would snow in Chicago, but I am four hours away. Still, I can't complain. It is not going to stick and won't last long on the ground -- what little does.

    Otherwise, should be a good day. I hope you all have a good day as well -- and not too much for snow or other issues.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    One's destination is never a place but rather a new

    way of looking at things.

    - Henry Miller

    Happiness is not a destination. It is a method of life.

    - Burton Hills

  • petite1
    petite1 Posts: 2,446
    edited February 2020

    Good morning, ladies. It is cool and sunny. I am heading out for nice walk with friends and then lunch.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    Sun out today and that makes it very pretty. Temp. won't be real high but 60's predicted for the week-end. Well, that will be really nice. It will likely produce the possibility of rain but that is a bridge for later. I'm just going to really enjoy that sun. Nothing much going on here which is how I like it. Didn't go out for taco night last night has Dh was waiting for a call that never came. I didn't mind cooking. We did have a little more snow about when it started to get dark, but not slick outside despite looking like it was.

    I hope everyone is doing well and I hope you all have a wonderful day with lots of sun at your house too. Been wondering how Puffin is enjoying her new living arrangements. Hope all is well with you.

  • carolehalston
    carolehalston Posts: 9,016
    edited February 2020

    I am working on a 1000 piece puzzle. The table where it's laid out is like a magnet. I'm wondering why I bought this puzzle some years back--I don't remember the purchase details. In addition to flowers, it has insects and I really don't like insects. It's a difficult puzzle but slowly the pieces are fitting into their places.

    It's sunny and cold this morning. I plan to go to Silver Sneakers chair yoga this afternoon at 1 pm. Plus work on the puzzle!

  • wren44
    wren44 Posts: 8,075
    edited February 2020

    We were working on a puzzle at Christmas. A really difficult one. Suddenly GS put together about 6 pieces. I'm sure he's seeing something different than what I see. One year we got a small puzzle, maybe 6 inches diameter. It was a box of chocolates in wrappers. Impossible to see the shape of the pieces with the distracting wrappers. We finally turned it over and put it together with the blank side up.

  • cindyny
    cindyny Posts: 1,576
    edited February 2020

    Ladies, we're in Syracuse, NY for the funeral, partner lost his 102 yr old mom. Temp 26 & feels like 13. We can deal with that, but the predicted blizzard is hitting just north of here. Tug Hill area could get 3 feet. East Syracuse calling for 1-3" so we're thankful for that. Ride home tomorrow on NYS Thruway, which is kept very clear, should be ok.

    If you can get out & enjoy the day, do it! HUGS to all.

  • illinoislady
    illinoislady Posts: 46,506
    edited February 2020

    Brrr, Cindy. Thinking about you and hope all goes well with you. Condolences on your partners loss. Making it to 102 though sounds like a good long life, but it always hurts. Do hope the roads are good for you on the way home.

    Carole and Wren -- the puzzles sound like fun if you don't look at the bugs too long. Dh and I did puzzles for years. Finally we jus gave up as it was getting to be a hassle with having too many cats around. Wasn't bad when the most we had was two. Had a puzzle on the card table most of the time. Friends would come to by to chat and end up helping. Sometimes I miss those days -- our kids weren't grown yet though and there was a lot of water that hadn't gone under the bridge yet. It has made for a lot of pleasant memories.

    Week-end temps here will be good though our mornings are still pretty chilly. Hope we have more sun tomorrow.

  • mcbaker
    mcbaker Posts: 2,104
    edited February 2020

    I am trying to reduce my antidepressant. Had my first post-treatment appointment with my onco today. Complained that I had a cloud hanging over me today. He very specifically reminded me that my cancer was the smallest cancer that can be called cancer. Explained that blood tests will be used to screen for any re-occurrence, which, by the way, is unlikely. I got home, and had to walk to the pharmacy, Anytime Fitness is on the same block, so decided to exercise away the blues. I got a phone call, and a woman was at my place with her two boys to give Tippy a good exercise run. I had forgotten! I explained my train of thought for the afternoon, and was forgiven. She will bring them by tomorrow afternoon.

    So I still have the cloud hanging over my head. I had been getting good sleep, and last night decided to let Tippy sleep with me. Bad decision. We kept waking each other up. Back to the kennel. He won't be happy about that, but luckily I won't hear about it. I got a full-size weighted mattress last week, suitable for a very active sleeper. I need to get some https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00OACKW3O/ref=ox_sc_act_title_4?smid=A14CRMAU1MI7KA&psc=1 to prevent it from sliding around between my sheet and my bedspread.

    I have a series of muslin dolls to make and dress for my family, kids and their cousins. I have some cat-curtains to make (I don't want to explain). A quilt to put the binding on, Exercise for my back, as well as going to the gym. Meeting Tippy's demands will be much easier if I can get some good dog-walkers. Our dog trainer I think has recruited another member of our class (and dog) to go walking with me and urge me to walk faster. I am a dog-mom to an athlete, and I am most singularly un-athletic. I think I am the one who will have to change.