Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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I haven't worn pants in 14 years so I don't pay attention to pant styles except skinny jeans were just no flattering on most people. My style is comfortable - casual skirts - mostly jean style to the knee or just below with comfortable tops and comfy shoes - summer Chacos or Birkies and winter Dansko/Sanita clogs or my Blundstone boots - its all about comfort!!!
Petite - sorry that. you DH still can't get comfort and rid of the headaches.
My Medicare card arrived yesterday - still only Part A since we are both working and have health insurance through DH work. We are going to meet with someone this week to figure it all out - traditional Medare, Advantage, Medi-gap etc. even though we have at least 8 months, I want to know what is the best way to go for us. Since I plan to keep working I can look at what the school district offers - and it's open enrollment now, so I can at least get that information.
Need to work on my EOY evaluation today - get all my artifacts together, beyond just certificates (Professional development) what I have learned and do my self appraisal. My EOY is not till the 28th but my evaluator wants it one week earlier so the 21st. a great
Darn these sticking keyboard keys!!!
Have a great Sunday.
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I have never thought the skinny jeans were attractive and they look uncomfortable. I don't like wearing tight clothing. I admire people who wear dresses and skirts but I usually wear jeans or cropped pants or shorts, depending on the temperature. For several years I have wanted to switch to comfortable loose dresses for summer wear but haven't made the move, I'm amazed at the number of women who wear the tights out in public, displaying whatever nature has given them, shapely or not. The tights leave little to the imagination.
We awoke to bright sunshine this morning and no threat or promise of rain! Yay!
So far I am not feeling any enthusiasm for the gray hair.
Hope everyone has a good Sunday.
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Karma is simply the law of cause and effect. If you plant an apple seed, you don't a get a mango tree. If we practice hatred or greed, it becomes our way and the world responds accordingly. If we practice awareness or loving-kindness, it becomes our way and the world responds accordingly. We are heirs to the results of our actions, to the intentions we bring to every moment we initiate. We make ripples upon the ocean of the universe through our very presence. -Christina Feldman and Jack Kornfield
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Off to hospital yesterday for repeat brain scan which my PCP, Divine Patrick L does not think is necessary, but which our friend, equally Divine, Ivan C, who was head of neurosurgery at Evanston Hospital for years until he retired did ,just as a precaution.This was to check for a possible subdural hematoma after my fall Monday which cracked, broke, three front teeth and has left my chin looking like a large eggplant. PCP called at 8am this morning. Follow up brain scan yesterday was fine as he knew it would be.Said all systems go, but not to try the triathalon. I'm still ultra bruised,( though Arnica Gel is helping) but really the fix for teeth is just cosmetic, not surgery for what could have been a brain bleed. Utterly grateful for that and for my Apple 6 watch.
It’s strange, Sandi. All I basically eat are carbs and, especially, now on soft foods for a while. Oatmeal, oatmeal, oatmeal, oyster crackers softened in milk. I’ve always been a big bread and any kind of crust eater, and being vegetarian, it’s basically carbs. I have gone from 128lbs to 138 in the last year, but at 5’8” it’s okay, though, MO, says not to gain because of estrogen increase. And, maybe some weight is the Arimidex, not just tons of pita bread and matzoh.
I’ve been wearing Hanes loose black exercise pants for the past year- they feel like pajama bottoms. For dress, like where these days do I dress?, Gap 1969 boot cut, size 10-12. I look at the clothes in my closet, jackets, blouses, good black pants, and think, “ when, oh when, will I ever wear you again?,” but, actua, it’s not as if I care. So much drops away that was important when I was younger. Now just to be alive( and , hopefully, have fixed teeth) matters.
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Judy, glad they found no concussion nor brain bleed. My carb weakness is good pasta (so long as I can twirl it on my fork because I love to play with my food) and artisanal bread--the crustier the better, especially whole wheat sourdough. When Treasure Island was still around, I'd occasionally buy a "heel" of Poilane they'd have flown in from Paris twice a week. If I were told that I could eat all the spaghetti cacio e pepe, artisanal bread and organic butter, and (my guilty pleasure snack) provolone melted on Yehuda bran matzo I wanted and maintain my current weight, I'd be a very happy camper even without getting to eat any sweets. (But for me, chocolate has got to be super-dark--milk chocolate doesn't seem to qualify as chocolate).
Hope you can get those teeth bonded soon, and jet off to Key West!
Karen, I'm not crazy about skirts, as I don't like my thighs rubbing (and I detest pantyhose). I've tried capris and crops, but I'm so short that they look terrible on me. In summer, when t-shirts & Bermudas are too casual, I live in knee-skimming knit dresses. When I was performing in a folk duo (and then a trio) led by a pagan-Wiccan, we used to wear coordinated long "Holy Clothing" (made in India) embroidered dresses or tunics over palazzos. I bought a couple of shorter Holy Clothing dresses, but my bandmates frowned that by showing my legs I was ruining the look. (They were just jealous that I have nice legs--at least from the knees on down). We even wore some coordinated tie-dye long dresses--which on me, before I lost weight, looked like the clown threw up on the fat lady. One--with a bulls-eye pattern on the bodice--ended up in several Bar Show numbers in which I played a guitar-playing hippie in pink fleece-lined Crocs (ya hadda be there).
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Sandy - I don't wear panty hose - int he winter footless tights or leggings - in the summer bare legs. I didn't even wear stockings to my daughter's wedding - it was a gorgeous 2 piece dress. I own one dress and it is a t-shirt style dress. I have trouble finding dresses to look good on me - even for dressy affairs - so dressy skirts and sweaters. I'm small so no chub rub. My younger daughter buys knit shorts (like yoga shorts) or spanx type shorts to wear under dresses or skirts to prevent chub rub. I eat very little bread these past few years - we keep tortilla wraps in the house if we want a sandwich - and a pack of 8 can last weeks. Shabbat dinner, we eat a small challah roll each (home made). I used to love a good rustic bread. with butter and a hearty split pea and barley soup.
Keywest - happy to hear that the brain scan was all good. Hope you can get your teeth fixed. I have a few skirts that are now too big - I love them but they hang on me and are not flattering - I don't plan on ever gaining weight to fit in them, but I can't give them away just yet as they were favorite skirts - I curduroy (sp) skirts in the winter. Now all my skirts are demin or similar fabric, even my work casual -
Forecast is for 3-6" snow tonight into tomorrow morning.
Have a great Monday.
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I haven't worn panty hose in years. In winter I wear socks under slacks.
This morning it's sunny and cool. Perfect weather.
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Good morning, ladies. Lots of rain last night and more on the way. I have to wear compression hose when I am sitting for more than 2 hours. In the summer I wear loose fitting tropical dresses. Especially for sitting around the pool.
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There is always something to do. There are hungry people to feed, naked people to clothe, sick people to comfort and make well. And while I don't expect you to save the world I do think it's not asking too much for you to love those with whom you sleep, share the happiness of those whom you call friend, engage those among you who are visionary and remove from your life those who offer you depression, despair and disrespect.
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I don't remember the last time I had a dress on. Likely at least 12 or more yrs. That is all the farther I can remember back -- and some time before that I did add a couple of dresses' to my wardrobe since I was working. As I recall I didn't even wear them all that much then. Panty hose -- well, can't recall when I last wore them but likely when I first started back working in 2002 or '03.
I have mentioned before ( far from the recommended way ) that I lost a lot of wt. when I broke my arm -- over a yr. and a half ago now, and really am only about 15 lbs. overwt. At my age and height -- it doesn't really show much at all. It is why I can get by with the jeggings and close fitting reg. jeans as long as I stay away from form fitting tops and find ones that are long enough on my frame as I have long bones so can carry wt. that isn't always highly noticeable. Not sure why, but I've eaten mostly anything I feel like ( including ice cream and other treats ) and mostly when I feel like it and it doesn't seem to produce wt. gain or at least none that stays. Much more like before my 50's showed up. Back then I was 136 and ate anything whenever I felt like it. Oh, those were the days. I am thinking that at my age I'm not sure I want to get as thin as I could ( assuming I could ) as just as it can be hard to lose, I think it can often be hard to gain and so I think some leeway for unforeseen circumstances may be in order.
My Nutritionist teacher said that anyone losing wt. ( she experienced this ) will feel GOOD at a certain wt. and that may be as much as 10 #'s over what the current guidelines say. She worked on re-gaining a sm. amt. of wt. for that reason. She FEELS better physically and emotionally at a slightly higher wt. then the books say she should be. She is though VERY careful to not go overboard from her good wt. Just saying -- if you are over -- take heart because your body may be telling you what is right for YOU and never mind the book on it.
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Thanks for the reassurance, Jackie. Hope my NP "buys" it. BTW, paradoxically, you down in south central IL are in for a lot more snow than we are up here by the lake in Chicago (and up in Lake County it might not even rain). For once during a precip. event, the winds are coming in from the west rather than blowing in from the still-chilly lake. Karen, it's the same storm system that's set to dump inches of snow on CO, KS, & MO. We brought the herb pots in today and they'll stay in the kitchen window till the end of the week, when the lows at night will be >40. (Upside is that till we plant them in the ground, the neighborhood rabbits won't mistake the dill for carrot tops).
Karen, thanks for the reminder about challah rolls. Whenever I'd go to a kosher-style mega-diner, those were the first things I'd grab from the free bread basket (plus a nice half-sour from the pickle bowl). Another "guilty pleasure" midnight carb debauch for me is thin slices of challah toast with salt butter. I don't dare bring challah into the house (except a round one for Rosh Hashonah) for that reason. And Whole Foods' flour tortilla chips...nope, they may have been what started me on the road to ruin when I discovered them in November. I do keep tortillas in the fridge: Mission CarbSense 7" whole wheat ones, 2 gm. net per each. When I miss chips, I'll heat a little olive oil in a small skillet and put one in till it begins to puff up and then flip it. (Or I'll toast it).
Went to Guitar Works in Evanston this aft. to pick up a pair of handmade guitar-print masks (one of their staffer-instructors makes them). Felt weird to have to pick them up curbside, when most shops these days are letting people in.
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Sandy - I get 4 weeks of challah from my recipe - I freeze 3 balls to make fresh each week - make 3 or 4 small rolls and often we don't even finish those so they get used for croutons for salads or bread crumbs. After Saturday, they don't get eaten. Don't buy tortilla chips just whole wheat tortillas - 8 pack can last at least a month or more. Our lunches are usually leftovers. On days I"m in the building, I take yogurt or cottage cheese and fruit or leftover homemade pizza like I will today. I roll out my crust very thin - almost cracker like and the two of us barely eat half -
Not sure how much snow we got. Took pictures out the back window just before 5:00 am then a couple out front window about 20 minutes later. I'll have to post from my phone. Today is one of. my in person days - its only 15 minutes but hoping the roads aren't too bad at 7:30. Chevy [ what's it like on your side of town?
Have a great Tuesday
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Good morning. It is gray and rainy. DH has another headache last night. It lasted about 15 minutes. I think the meds are working, but we both seem down today (the cats, too). He thought the headaches were over. My stomach is acting up. I am going back to bed with a book.
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If you aren't in the moment,
you are either looking forward to uncertainty,
or back to pain and regret.
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This was posted in one of my Facebook groups and thought those on this thread might enjoy.
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Celia, the above is fantastic. Even more so these days when there has been a huge outbreak of un-kindnesses going on. No need to go into that, but nice reminders that being kind is a truly positive attribute. Thanks.
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karen I would love your challah recipe if you share?
Got my 2nd Pfizer shot on Sunday. Was fatigued but otherwise ok. Tonight a slight 99.6 fever with a slightly red arm. Hubby got 2nd Moderna today and is snoring next to me on the couch. 14 day countdown starts now!
We've had flooring people here and they are done now so tomorrow is my day to rest. Hope you all are keeping well. I'm happy to have finally replaced old carpet with oak.
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Reader - happy to share - though it is modified - It is for a food processor and I've only made it in my kitchen aid, and I need to use more flour than it calls for. It's not uploading here from my phone (just took a photo of the recipe on my phone) so I'll try posting later.
Have a great Wednesday
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Cool and breezy this morning. Had to pull up the quilt last night. My sleep was disturbed by the wind chimes chiming rather loudly.
DH's niece posted a funny photo on Facebook, a snowman pushing a lawnmower. She lives in Indiana.
Nothing on my schedule today except exercise class at the gym.
Countdown of days now before we head north on May 20.
Happy Wednesday to all.
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[The Native American] believes profoundly in silence—the sign of perfect equilibrium. Silence is the absolute poise or balance of body, mind and spirit. The people who preserve their selfhood ever calm and unshaken by the storms of existence—not a leaf, as it were, astir on the tree; not a ripple upon the surface of the shining pool—theirs, in the mind of the unlettered sage, is the ideal attitude and conduct of life. If you ask: "What are the fruits of silence?" he or she will say: "They are self-control, true courage or endurance, patience, dignity, and reverence. Silence is the cornerstone of character." -Ohiyesa (Charles Eastman)
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Yesterday was ( talking weather-wise ) a wild day. It was not so much in the hrs. before the afternoon, but at that time we started seeing snowflakes in the rain that was falling. So, off and on there would be full snow falling very lightly, then changing to some rain -- then back to some snow. I think the finale' was rain as there is sun this a.m. and no snow. It still won't be as warm as I would wish for, but having no snow is a blessing for sure. I didn't think we would accumulate, but as I've said a lot before -- with climate change going on we really can't be sure ( despite what the weather report may say ) what we will have. I just know that in our little pocket here -- we usually get lighter weather than is predicted for the rest of the our weather area. I think we will gradually warm up and go back to a 'good' Spring.
My day off and nothing much planned. I can work around here and hopefully get some production. Dh has his 'new' room quite far along so I plan to start the major work of sorting, tossing, Goodwilling, and whatever else I need to do to bring the items from two rooms dumped into areas of my living room into line. Going to be something of a major chore. I hope it goes better than it feels, but I know I'm into overwhelm at the moment. Hoping once I get deep into it, I will be able to see enough progress to be able to relax and work fruitfully w/o loads of indecisions plaguing me.
Hope the sun is out for all of you.
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Good morning. After all the rain, it is bright and sunny. I am hoping to get some chores done. The lanai has a low spot that forms a puddle. I need to get that swept out before it turns green and nasty. My old cat, Miss Felix, likes to sit it the puddle. Cat dementia.
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IllinoisLady: Your project can initially feel overwhelming but once you get in to the actual sorting for keep, donate or trash you do get a feeling of progress and liberation as the piles diminish. The end result of the purging is worth it. Believe me, I know this after having to do this for our attic, the basement offices, and 3 bedrooms. I know that Purple Heart received some nice clothing and household items I no longer "treasured" but that someone else might. The excess office supplies went to a local teachersteam organization and they also accepted fabric donations. All will be given to local school districts where the need is great. They were so happy to pick up what I had for them. It was a lot of work but after I felt like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders. Now that is not to say that we still do not have items that really need to leave at some point in time but for now it is enough. My DH is a bit of a hoarder and it has been a challenge to get him to part with his "what if" items. We will reassess what needs to leave in 6 months.
Our home is still not fully restored and it has been 18 months since the trees hit. I really want them to finish so I can start on some other household projects that were placed on what I thought was going to be a temporary hold. Right. The only finished rooms are the 2 bedrooms that just needed minor ceiling repairs and painting plus the windows were replaced (so the upstairs windows all matched). The master bedroom and bath, basement, living room and foyer still need either minor work (the former) or major repairs (the latter). My on hold plans included getting the floors in the family room and kitchen eat in area refinished and the kitchen cabinets need to be refinished as well. I have postponed trying to find contractors to do this work but it really needs to be done when we can open windows to dispel the smell of the finish. We have hardwood floors throughout so I need to get the area rugs for the family room, living room, foyer and dining room cleaned once all the other dust producing construction work is done. I will get new rug pads as well since the current ones are old. I just want to enjoy an intact house.
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Betrayal, your house sounds huge.
Jackie, every year or two you are sorting and getting rid of things! Good luck on this latest effort.
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Betrayal, Sounds like we have matching husbands. Mine wants to keep the steak knives despite not having eaten red meat for 20 years. I think I'm going to have to start sneaking things out while he's away at the store. He also wants to hold on to plastic glasses ($1.00) we haven't used since 1974. We would only use them if we moved to Arizona, which is not even being considered. And if we did, I could buy them again for the same price. He wants to keep the cup he bought to go with the espresso machine we threw out 10 years ago.
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Wren44: Have to laugh because my DH is also somewhat of a packrat. As an electrical engineer he has scads of electric related materials, computer parts, ham radio equipment, etc. in his "what if" storage. Meanwhile he is just retiring as an EE professor so this was stuff he did as a side job or household project. I told him to keep some of the more pricey items and let the others go if we could easily replace them at a low cost but even then it was a tug of war. I finally enlisted the help of my DD and DS who told him they did not want to have to rent a dumpster to clean out his "junk" (it has no meaning or use to them) once he is gone. I think that hit home. At one time he was in the mode where he wanted to save the motor from an old washer and I told him under no circumstances (it was leaking oil all over the place), why would we want to keep it in the first place and it would be grounds for a divorce if he tried to sneak it into his "hidey holes". He got the message. Honestly, if I could dispose of the stuff when he was not here, he probably would not even notice it was gone.
I can remember my mother cleaning out my Dad's stash from their basement. As she was using the inside stairs to drag stuff to the curb, he was taking it from the curb and back in throught the outside cellar way. It was hysterical to watch. Eventually she waited until he was away on a camping trip and loaded up the curb. He never did miss it or if he did he was smart enough not to say anything.
Carol: My house is a 4 bedroom, 2.5 bath, Colonial style home with a basement that is totally finished. It is not as large as some of the "McMansions" in the area but pretty standard for homes in this area. It bears little resemblance to the house we bought 36 years ago since we have personalized its interior and exterior over the years. My DD and DSIL have already placed dibs on it as their inheritance since my DS will inherit his wife's parents home since she is an only child. It's still a work in progress though since we try to keep it in good condition which means routine maintenance like the cabinets and wood floors. At one time when it still had aluminum siding, we decided to paint it ourselves since the color had faded to an indescribable shade. Both of us have a fear of heights, DH more than me so I was able to paint up to the bottom of the second story windows (2 coats) and then hired my DB to finish it for us. So we do try to do some of the work ourselves but aging has meant we do less of what we used to be able to do. There is something about painting a wall or room that is rewarding since when it is finished there is a new look and it will remain that way unlike housework such as scrubbing floors and having someone track in dirt. LOL
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My DD said she could describe her life as a young mother. She is running the vacuum cleaner and her 1yo son is walking behind her eating crackers. Best description of housework I've ever heard.
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Have to agree with your DD. I had just finished waxing the kitchen floor (many moons ago when linoleum needed to be waxed) and just as I was admiring my finished work, the cat walked in and sat in the middle of the floor! She then proceeded to clean herself. All I could do was look on in disbelief because I had waited to do this when all others were in bed. I touched it up the next day but after than made sure the cat was in the basement until the floor dried. So glad my floors no longer require waxing.
As far as the old wives tale regarding cats not walking on glass top tables, I can disprove that with my one. She loves to paw print the coffee table as soon as I clean it!
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My cats are "clingers:" in fact, the younger one insists on occupying my lap every waking moment except when he's eating, nagging me for food, or using the litterbox. He even prefers to sleep on my lap. The older one starts yelling at me every night around 12:30 until I go upstairs; then she circles the bed till I'm ready to sleep, at which time she face-butts me and then kneads my chest till she gets sleepy.
My BFF is feeling much better: as of yesterday, his speech was almost back to normal and he was confused only about directions in the hospital parking garage en route to the lab. (In fairness, it's a big confusing garage). He even drove to the pharmacy. Still waiting for the EEG & lab results. I suspect it might be epilepsy-related, as he'd had seizures in the past after ear infections.
Until I got a reminder text late last night, I'd totally forgotten that tomorrow is my 6-month MO & lab appt. I hope her nurse lets me opt out of weighing-in, as I am truly embarrassed.
I need to find out what the Zoom link is for the live "after-party" after my YouTubed concert this Friday night (www.wildhoginthewoods.org for the concert link). "Doors open" at 7:15, show starts at 7:30. Please be understanding about my fingers having "gone rogue" on the first song and then a few awkward moments of silence halfway through the set while there was wild raucous talking in the hallway (I couldn't hear myself, but the videographer said the noise didn't show up on his monitor). I hadn't performed in over a year!
The concert is to benefit the Wil-Mar community center, which houses the Wild Hog in the Woods coffeehouse in Madison, WI.
Speaking of Zoom, I lost my Zoom-courtroom "virginity" yesterday morning, defending Bob's suburban traffic ticket (it was dismissed). I'd done meetings, rehearsals & kaffeeklatsches before, but this was my first time "in court" online (actually, the first time I'd even been in a courtroom in a decade). I threw a blouse on over my scrub pants--since I was visible from only the shoulders up, nobody could tell I wasn't wearing a bra. Bob could have represented himself (neither the complaining witness nor the officer showed up), but he doesn't know how to Zoom. (He does all his telehealth visits by phone, audio-only, not even FaceTime; he refuses to join--or is procrastinating about joining--Doximity, which is how my own docs do video visits and non-portal e-mails).
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We have moved often and I always think I have purged, but then there is more when we move again. I took pictures of several items, before the last move - I had needlepointed 8 chair covers for the dining room set that wouldn't fit in the smaller house and now have them as prints on my office wall. I was just going through pictures from our trip to Africa over 10 years ago and realize that I can now even get rid of most of them. Ken's SIL is a REAL hoarder. Her son says he's just going to call "the Jesus truck" when she dies and have them empty the whole house. Sadly, I know she's hanging on to some stuff that doesn't even deserve to be recycled. She must have paid a fortune to have it moved from Texas to Colorado. If her son doesn't want boxes of his grade school art work, I don't think Jesus will either.
Loved today's quote, Jackie. I just spent 2 hours in a car with a woman who rambled on so much that all I could think about was silence.
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