Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Cooler today outside I think since we have been going back and forth. This time of yr. I keep my summer things out for a short while -- so I can change during the day if it gets hotter than expected. Reminds me of the years we lived in So. Cal. Changing three or four times a day depending on if the wind was coming from the ocean or not. Coming from the ocean meant warm clothing needed. Coming from inland -- you could have on 'normal' summer type clothing for a few hours.
Petite, you sure have had a lot to deal with in that rental house. Wish the color had been more satisfactory to you. If I were the painter -- but then many 'jobs' depend on your being able to have some understanding and empathy. I'd think a painter by trade would be highly aware that colors that seem so good may turn out to be not adequate once they are applied. Be wonderful if he would 'help' but maybe he is booked elsewhere and can't fit a second coat in.
It is so easy to 'chat' with people. We run into people all the time at Walmart and have to keep moving ourselves and carts out of the way of shoppers coming along to the isle we are in. Not sure why we don't agree to just meet up later -- at one house or the other after the groceries are put away and catch up.
Nothing special today but the ever-present catching up cycle I've been in all week. There is always some of that, but it has been consistent this week.
Hope you all have a fantastic day.
ETA: I so agree with Betrayal who posted while I was writing my post.
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I have some final work to do in the garden. Weeding out strawberries from where they aren't supposed to be. Digging out the okra stalks. Just got back from the grocery store, and they got another shipment of straw, so I will be going back around two when the temperature peaks. Tippy will not be happy that I will have to leave him at home.
Although I should be sewing, I will be writing. Taking three classes at church has my mind working in new directions.
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Last fall I planted five knock out roses and left them to their own devices this summer since I couldn't set up a watering system and leave our water pump on. We have well water and turn the water off when we leave for the summer. Can't risk leaving the pump on with no one around to check on it. Apparently we got a good bit of rain during the summer and the roses survived but they are spindly. I plan to prune and fertilize and water them today. Once they're established they should be hardy.
We also have trees growing in some of the flower beds and I have to cut them off. They always grow back so it's an ongoing battle.
The planters on the patio have dead plants to be removed in preparation for planting some fall and winter blooming plants like pansies, which provide nice color through the winter.
My Saturday plans!
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Awesome photo, gorgeous rose!
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AAARGH!!!! Wrote a very long post--hit "Submit," and instead was taken back to the Login page...for the second time in an hour! The thread box said "Post a reply," NOT "Log in to post a reply.". I am so intellectually exhausted by that (my draft post appears nowhere in my browser's history, nor by using the "back" arrow) and furiously frustrated that I will NOT try again! Are we now supposed to copy every single thing we write to our clipboard, lest BCO Site Redesign Monster devour it???
Suffice it to say (short version), after a bedtime carb cheat I was awakened 6 hours later by raging R leg cramps--sequentially, in my calf, ankle, foot, toes, lower shin and inner thigh. Despite copious blobs of TheraWorx foam, it lasted well over 10 minutes and was so agonizing that in order to stand and take a single step I had to hold on to my dresser for dear life. Apparently, sugar & starch at bedtime is the trigger--but neither I nor my neurologist can figure out why. Checked the Cleveland Clinic website--and almost all my prescribed meds can cause it. But I'm not willing to stop treating my hypertension, cholesterol, GERD, asthma, allergies and depression to (maybe) stop it.
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I had one of my posts get gobbled up by BCO too, and my DH and I are also being plagued by leg cramps at night! Not sure how there could be a link, but strange to read your post mentioning the same, none the less. I never heard of having sugar/starch at bedtime being a trigger for cramps. Learn something new every day. I actually rarely eat anything after dinner. My DH has been getting cramps in the arch of his foot a lot lately too!
I haven't been sleeping well with anticipation of my upcoming surgery. Today I had so much to do that I feel really tired, so I am hopeful I sleep well tonight.
Really getting cool here, which I love.... minus having the heater go on. Beautiful day today. A lot of ball games at the park down the street from my house. So nice to see so many kids and parents enjoying a great fall day!
I need to bring in the hibiscus "tree" my DD gave me last Mother's Day. It has bloomed every single day. I don't think it would survive our winters, so I am planning to bring it inside tomorrow.
We are still "hermit crab" sitting from when our DD and family were on vacation. They came home this past week but have yet to have had time to pick it up. We will deliver to their house tomorrow if they can't come and pick it up. This crab has survived for years and is quite large. He is actually fascinating to watch. I just always pray he survives his stay with us. I don't know if our grandchildren would forgive us if something happened to it!
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What unique pet watching! A hermit crab.
It's in the 50's here this morning. And sunny. I can't remember when we had such nice weather in early October.
I discovered yesterday that one of the knock out roses probably didn't survive. It looks dead. I worked outside for an hour or a little more. I'll go out again today with long sleeves and the loppers to removed small invasive trees that I can reach. One azalea bed is so large that I can't reach invaders in the middle.
So far I am not experiencing the problem with losing posts.
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When you find yourself in a frustrating situation repeatedly, instead of fighting it or asking why this always seems to happen, try asking yourself, "What am I supposed to be learning here?" You may be surprised at the answers that come from within you. Life's lessons may be viewed as difficulties or challenges to be overcome, but in reality they are exercises in fine-tuning that will make our efforts more effective in the long run. We are developing skills, attitudes, and perspectives that we need to move forward with insight and awareness. -Gail Pursell Elliott
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A bit cool this morning, but likely a warm enough day. I hope I can leave my sweatshirt on, but it sometimes get three or four degrees warmer than the prediction and that would be enough to make me change and look for a light sweater instead. Not too much going to happen today. I'll get some chicken cooked so I can make sandwiches with it.
The nice thing about weather like this is I often feel free to cook in the oven as it doesn't overheat the house.
I haven't lost posts, but have had a few other odd happenings. Signing is mainly which changed a week or so ago and seems no way to get it back. I'm just feeling fortunate that it will still work.
Hope you all have a great Sunday.
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Have been missing in action here after hip replacement surgery, but ...Unfortunately, though my hip stuff was going very well, and I got rid of walker and was practicing around apartment on cane, all good, but last Sunday Gil came down with Covid and, I did, on Tuesday. Long story,but had to call ambulance at 5:30 am on Friday and wound up, though lungs were clear, labs were good, blood oxygen was iffy, in hospital for observation..Beyond horrible in isolation room. Noone but CNAs and one nurse could come in. Room was 4x4. Confined to bed with rails. Could not get out. Came home late yesterday. Bad thing is Hip Replacement leaves you prey to blood clots which is why you have to be on blood thinner for 30 days. Covid alone increases your risk of blood clots by 22% and being in bed without moving legs more, so am on blood thinner, for how long?? Terrified.
Also, all this has been a huge setback for PT. Will fight back and ask Jackie’s question, “Wbat should I be learning here?
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Keywestfan, I am so sorry to hear about your ordeal! I wonder why they didn't at least put those compression pump "boots" on your legs, knowing you are prone to clots? Maybe I am mistaken, but I have had them on my legs after surgery once or twice. I always assumed they were for circulation to prevent clots.
How awful that you were so isolated! I guess it could be worse, but especially when you aren't feeling well to begin with, makes isolation feel so much worse! I am glad you are home and hope both you and Gil are feeling much better!
I am really praying I don't come down with anything prior to my surgery on Wednesday! I am working tomorrow and Tuesday. I would go nuts at home as now it all seems "real" and if I think about it, it gets me upset. Better to keep busy!
carole, your rose bush reminded me of something from my childhood. I live in PA. Back in the late 1960's my family vacationed in the south and my father was fascinated with crape myrtle trees (bushes). He bought one and planted it in our yard. It did well during the summer/fall, but in the spring, it looked like it was dead, well after other trees were in bloom, so dad cut it down. Then, around 2007, I went to Virginia to hear some of my friends perform. I passed a nursery and decided to stop and purchase a crape myrtle tree. I had plenty of room in my mini-van for it. My father had passed away and I thought it would be a nice reminder of him. That one thrived too during the summer and fall, and in the spring, it looked dead, just like the one my father planted. I told my husband he might as well cut it down, and he said why? I said, "because it's dead!" Turns out my husband knew they take longer to get their leaves in our climate, but they do survive, and ours did, so much so, we have given off shoots to other family members! So, if my dad had just waited, I am pretty sure that tree would have survived and thrived too.
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Just some random thoughts here on "learning". In looking back at life (a lot more often since my first cancer in 2007) it seems to me that I have actually gotten stronger and less timid and or afraid of things that go wrong. Most of the time I know it will pass and merciful grace will take its place. I also think of the adage that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger and I put that picture (of being stronger) in front of myself all the time.
If anything, I do hope that my (learning) has made it far easier for me not to worry much until something happens, if it does. I use to worry all the time, but I don't do it much now. I use to want more then I do now so learning has gone on in that area too. I use to think way too many negative things which I think worry enhances and a lot of that doesn't happen anymore. Some blessings are hard to see because we just exist as we are and don't question or notice little changes as maybe the much bigger improvement they may be. We really are perfecting ourselves, know it or not, into the best version of the people we truly are and some of that learning is subtle, as to maybe not be well noticed. Easier for us generally not to be jarred into our recognitions.
Here's to learning. I lhope I do a lot more
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Mavericksmom- you & your husband might try rolling your feet, use a tennis ball or a handball, a couple of times a day. I had to add magnesium way back for leg cramps. And the old wives tale, which some claim to work, is to put a bar of soap in your bed down by your feet. Doesn’t have to be a big bar, can be one from a hotel small guest size. Or so they say.
Sandy it’s happened to me, after keying paragraphs, and it’s gone. I usually walk away from it angry. No idea how to make it work.
That hermit crab sitting is a hoot. But I know the “don’t die on my watch” feeling. My niece is in the hospital so her sister & daughter have taken in her dog and a turtle. Added to their posse of a dog and a hamster.
Keywest your cup runneth over! Here’s hoping you both recover and have no long term issues. And you’ll be back on track with PT before you know it.
We sold some of the sports cards and have a good line on someone else wanting to buy some. I feel like - name your price and take everything! I know I have more in the garage and in the upstairs closet. But we’re leaving in a month, and I’m not going there. Revisit that in the spring. It was 47 when I woke up, 60 and sunny around noon. Now it says it’s 60 but no sign of sun so it feels colder.
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Judy, so sorry Gil caught COVID. Was it his first time? Did he (and you) get the updated bivalent booster >2 wks. ago? If the answer to both questions is "yes," that is downright scary: it means none of us, however "hybrid" our immunity (e.g., my history is shot, shot, 1st booster, BA.1 infection, 2nd booster, 3rd/bivalent booster) are safe enough to let our guard down in the slightest. Is Gil as immunocompromised as you? Hope he gets well soon and you stay well.
Speaking of blood clot risk after joint-replacement surgery, I was on warfarin for 6 weeks after each of my knee replacements--and I was a decade younger than I am now.
Gordy messaged me today that one of his improv friends just died yesterday of a massive stroke several months after a heart attack. He was only 38 and (ostensibly) physically fit. Talk about scary... It's an unpleasant milestone of maturity the firs time you lose one of your contemporaries, to whatever cause but especially illness (and one normally associated with more advanced aging).
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Sandy,
Do not worry. We did not get the updated bivalent booster because it came out less than 2 weeks before my hip surgery. Surgeon said no vaccines less than 2 weeks before and must wait six weeks after for it.Would have been better for me to have done it anyway than to have caught covid 3 weeks post hip replacement. We are recovered except for deep tickling coughs. Has anyone tried Mucinex? The cough is troublesome and can be embarrasing. Otherwise, my main worry is the blood thinner for 2 extra weeks to ward off VTEs or PEs from Covid and Hip Replacement. Hate this double whammy and must get back to PT and walking- though feel really deconditioned. Also advised, though I don’t know if this is correct, to wait 3 months after Covid to get the booster as immunity is high now and it is better for it to wane a bit before boosting
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Every beauty and greatness in this world is created by a single thought or emotion inside a human being. Every thing we see today, made by past generations, was, before its appearance, a thought in the mind of a man or an impulse in the heart of a woman. -Khalil Gibran
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Hmm, I am thinking again. Wonder if that is dangerous but listening about the latest "booster" which Dh and I just got. Started thinking about my cousin who got covid a few months back. She had all the vacs/boosters up to then. She was not too sick (per descriptions of how most felt upon getting Omicron variant). It is interesting NOW that she is trying to lose wt. She had successfully lost a lot of wt. looking and feeling quite well before, but during covid lockdown gained a lot of it back.
Try as she might, she cannot seem to get inspired to be consistent in her wt. loss attempts now. She really wants to do it, but it is almost, according to her description, like her brain short circuits or something since she'll lose a couple of pounds and then just gorge and gain it right back. She did not even come close to having the issue before covid and says that and a couple other items like her housecleaning habits seem to have changed since covid. It does sound like there could be a connection since I know how apt and eager, she was when she was so successful with her first structured eating plan.
Going to be a nice day here. It is always very cool in the mornings now, but likely warm enough today to skip the sweatshirt. I'll likely do some extra cooking so that I only have to do a couple sides at suppertime. Been trying that lately since I /we seem to run around in the late afternoon doing a number of things. We are slow to get started with anything that is done away from the house -- shopping, paying bills, appts. and it makes cooking the evening meal more difficult and tiring so I'm adjusting and think it may work well.
Keywest, I think that is true about the boosters. Right after a covid infection you have a high degree of immunity, and you don't need a shot then. I think too, if you wait, then you have coverage from the booster alone for a longer period as well.
My confusion on these things is -- how long does the booster really last and will we need a yearly booster which sounds likely to me. Also, are too many people going without mask or other protections because they think we have reached a saturation point with these injections. I sure don't think that. I sometimes lately have forgotten my mask at Walmart but then worry. So far it has worked out, but a friend of mine who had a similar operation to mine had covid before her operation and just lately got it again. Just says to me that we aren't all that safe here yet. We do move in different circles though. Well, fingers crossed for all of us.
Sorry to hear about Gordy's friend Sandy. I agree -- it is something of a reality shock to lose a friend when you and they are young and have general good health.
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Good (late) morning ladies. Sorry to hear you and your partner got covid Keywestfan. I hope that you’re doing well and have mild symptoms. Sending you healing vibes and hope you recover quickly.
BIL/SIL we’re here over the weekend and left this morning. We had a nice visit, showed them our little downtown shops yesterday. Was glad that we had nice weather so that we could be outside.
My PCP has taken me completely off blood pressure medication. Blood pressure is still too low and I had another faint feeling incident after exercise. Also going to get a carotid artery ultrasound. Had the bivalent and flu vaccines at the end of September.
Hope everyone has a healthy and peaceful day.
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Keywestfan, I am sorry to hear that. Wishing you a speedy recovery.
Loved the rose picture!
When I miss a couple of days, it takes me forever to get caught up and I don't remember who posted what.
Carpet goes in today. DH has been calling and posting on the repair company. I think he will probably take it to small claims court. In the meantime - a picture is worth a thousand words, so I am posting pictures.
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Good for you on the pictures, pitite! I hope you get results!
Cardplayer, "downtown shops" sounds wonderful on a beautiful day! I love window shopping, walking around in unique shops, looking, wishing, and the calm feeling of the whole experience! We have a local tourist attraction that I absolutely love, called Peddlers Village. It is full of quaint shops, restaurants, and depending on the season, outdoor displays. Right now is their scare crow contest. My daughter and I would bond there all during her childhood and into adulthood. Her husband proposed to her there and she was even married there! My son would go with us while he was young and still into toy stores. He was not into shopping like my daughter and I were. I even talked my DH into walking around there a number of times. So many great memories! In the winter they have a gingerbread house display for all ages. So much talent, even in the children's categories.
illinoislady, I can relate to your cousin, minus the Covid, which so far, I seem to have avoided. I have had a weight issue for as long as I can remember. I had great success with WW twice, but always put most of what I lost back on. I couldn't get myself motivated to lose weight. Then, summer of 2021 my doctor ran an A1C and I found out I was pre-diabetic! There was NO WAY I was going to become diabetic without a good fight, or diet in this case. My husband is diabetic, and I have watched him "play around with his insulin" long enough to know that is not something I am willing to do. He tests his blood at least 4 times a day and makes so many insulin adjustments, I am dreading the day when I will have to take over his care! He can tell someone else what to eat,but doesn't practice what he preaches. And there is the expense! I hope insulin does cap at $35/month, but I will believe it when I see it. DH is on two different insulins.
Anyway, I decided right then there that I am tired of seeing "obese" on every stinking doctor summary, usually right at the top of the list. I also knew I needed to make permanent changes, so I started with not eating after dinner and only allowing sweets on VERY special occasions. For me sugar is a drug. I get addicted and go through withdrawal when I stop eating sugar. After slowly dropping about 8-10 pounds, I added smaller portions to my change list. I do not measure except for my morning oatmeal, and that is easy because I use a half cup measuring cup as my scoop. I eat oatmeal every day, I like it and I find it lowers my cholesterol.
I try to stick to as many non-processed foods as possible, but I eat whatever l normally eat, including potato salad, pizza, occasional chips, etc. I don't feel at all deprived because I knew if I felt deprived of foods, I would never make this a permanent way of eating. I lost over 30 pounds and keeping it off has not been an issue so far. I actually prefer healthier food to sweet treats. The other day my DH and I were watching a movie and the characters had caramel apples and I said I could go for one of those, to which my husband said, yes, but you would only eat the apple, not the good stuff on it. Not sure he is right about that, but he certainly notices my choice of foods. He is actually eating healthier because he has started to make the same choices.
Maybe your cousin could also make small changes and lose weight too? Over the summer I hit a plateau, up a pound one day, down the next. I just started losing again, just a few pounds, and very slowly. One of my biggest fears of surgery is going back to my old eating habits. After I have had surgery, I often can't eat and what I can tolerate are the high carbs, like bagels and cream cheese. Hopefully, I can scale back the portions this time around if that happens. I know lack of exercise will make it hard too, but as long as I don't go totally off, I am ok with doing the "eat what I can tolerate" mode for a few weeks until I make progress with healing.
Sorry about the long post, probably my last for a while as surgery is coming up, but I will definitely continue to enjoy reading everyone else's posts while recuperating!
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Holding you close, Maverick's mom. Be kind to yourself right now and worry about the weight later.
I lost 30 lbs. with WW about 9 years ago. Crept up during Covid but now weight less than I did when I finished WW. Not what WW would say was my goal but I am comfortable and actually don't want to lose much more because I'll have to buy all new clothes. Did Noom for 6 months and actually got rid of some bad habits. Late night eating is my demon.
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Late night eating is my demon too--and even if it starts with a keto-friendly faux treat (like Enlightened "ice cream," nut/coconut-only granola with unsweetened almond milk) or some nuts and a square of dark chocolate, the sweet taste is a trigger to going for the real carbs like Cheerios with raisins, provolone melted on matzo or even a cookie. But if I cut myself off from food at least 2 hrs, before bedtime, my discipline holds up. (Oddly, a mini-cheat in a restaurant doesn't seem to carry over later at home). Lately, whenever I manage to "close" my 8-hr eating "window" I've been able to hang on for thr 16 hrs. of my fast. (Sleeping in helps a lot).
The advice to wait 3 months after a bout of COVID is proving to be wiser than originally thought. 3-4 months seems to be the "magic" period of antibody effectiveness, whether from infection or vaccination. But here's the kicker--with each dose of the vaccine (and especially now the bivalent booster), the body's "cellular immunity" (sort of long-term, revivable immunity via "memory" T-cells) seems to accumulate, unlike "humoral" immunity produced by antibodies themselves, which are powerful at first but do fade and need "goosing." Your level of "humoral immunity" in the couple of months or so after recovering from COVID is high enough that getting a booster too soon is merely gilding the lily--or a few Hershey's kisses right after a hot fudge sundae. If you have any doubts, due to being immunocompromised, your MO should be able to order an antibody titer blood draw. If it's low, getting boosted sooner may make a bigger difference than in "immunotypical" individuals.
If uncontrollable coughing is a problem, plain Mucinex will do nothing--it'll thin your phlegm and make it easier to bring up, assuming there's anything more than air in your lungs (i.e. a productive vs. a dry tickly cough). It will not make you stop coughing Mucinex-DM contains dextromethorphan, which is a cough-suppressant. I find that if the intractable dry tickle plagues me (especially at inopportune moments like being woken up with a cough, in temple or at a concert, or while singing, the softgels that have the dextromethorphan alone suffice (as well as being neat & tasteless) if there's nothing that needs "bringing up." I've disovered that the Walgreen's "Wal-Tussin" softgels are easier to find than either CVS' or the name-brand Robitussin or Delsym. (The most powerful suppressant is codeine--but we don't need to add an opioid--especially on top of another one you might be taking post-op, at our age not the least because it can suppress respirations and end up making you trade an annoying cough for actual asthma). Bob prescribes "Tessalon Perles" (benzatonate softgels) to his walking-pneumonia and bronchitis patients who can't stop coughing--but they can make you drowsy and you do need a 'script.
Back in Dec. 2019, when I caught what turned out to be parapertussis, I didn't take anything (not even honey, as I was strictly keto then) but sugar-free Ricolas on nights I had to sing.t I paid for it big-time on-air in-studio on a local public radio folk show's four-hour "Holiday Hoot" marathon. It was a long drive out to the west suburban studio, on wintry roads, and I had no inclination to take anything that might have in the least impaired my alertness on the road (not to mention on-mic). I sang "It Sucks Being Sick st Christmas" (one of my most-requested songs back then but in horrendously inappropriate now) and began a coughing fit in the middle of it! The DJ thought I was acting (as I actually was when we recorded it), until we chatted afterward and I was still hoarse.
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Mavericksmom, the "peri-op" period is the absolute worst time to try to deprive yourself of what you crave--your endorphin receptors will need "topping up" till the stress is past. Pre-op, you're gonna be NPO (no eating or drinking) for what might be 12-16 hrs, befors anesthesia--so you might as well make your temporary farewell to food something you truly enjoy. Yes, your glucose will spike for a week or two post-op--but as my ortho surgeon explained after my first knee replacement, it's a physiological response to the cortisol your body puts out in response to surgery. It will normalize as your body recovers.
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Thanks for the information! I never thought about it but you are right about the cortisol!
Working a half day today so I can finish doing last minute things like wash etc. Also, I want to be home when the hospital calls me for time to arrive at hospital Looks to be another beautiful fall day, enjoy everyone!
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Best wishes, Maverick's Mom, as you go into surgery. Hope all goes well during and after.
Add me to the list of successful WW weight losers and gainers. I'm a lifetime member and developed some useful habits that serve me well. I never dreamed I would put on this much weight or wear the size I'm wearing.
Another pretty day here. I am looking forward to chair yoga this afternoon. The senior exercise class with Ed was good yesterday. I am so enjoying being back home.
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Good morning. The house rehab disaster continues. The carpet people were a no call no show, yesterday. Hopefully they will get it done, before the lady comes to take pictures this afternoon.
I had a big scare, last night. Miss Felix, my 25 year old calico went into Thyroid storm. I was sure her nine lives had run out and she was going over the rainbow, but she survived. We rushed her to urgent pet care. I just carried her and didn't put her in the carrier. She slept in my arms. She stay that way for over an hour. Then she woke up and said this place smell like a vet's office. She did settle back down and slept in my arms on the way home. She has an appointment with her regular vet for follow up labs.
I am so ready for a mini vacation.
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Sending you healing vibes for your upcoming surgery and recovery mavericksmom. Sending you a virtual hug.
Over time, I gained weight. I had a sedentary job. Sat at a desk all day and didn't take advantage of the gym facilities at my work. My doctor said to eat less, walk or do some exercise. Bought a treadmill for home use. Did step class with my neighbor. Lost some weight and then I started having back issues. Stopped working out, gained weight. Then stomach issues. Lost weight, got things under control and slowly gained the weight back. Ugh. I blamed menopause. When I started chemo, my weight really started to drop. I lost 35 pounds total during treatment. So far I’ve been able to keep the weight off. I walk everyday (2 miles) to help with neuropathy, eat 5-6 small meals a day and don’t eat after 7pm.
Hope you have a safe and healthy day.
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When love fills your life, all limitations are gone. The medicine this sick world needs so badly is love.
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I have made the decision to increase my overall fitness. Five times in my life the accumulation of physical and emotional stress have worked me into a physical and emotional state of exhaustion. The stress of knee replacement could trigger it yet again. The more fit I am when going into surgery, the less likely it will trigger another episode. I would rather work the knee until I can't work it anymore.
Just finished working in the garden, digging up strawberry plants from where they aren't supposed to be, cutting some mint to cover with Everclear, digging up a nice-looking carrot. Piling the extra strawberry plants and a few okra on top of the bale of straw. That was enough.
My prayers for you, mavericksmom. I have been reading your posts for a long time, and you are strong, with lotsa love in that heart. You will get through this.
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