The Hermit Club
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Laurie sending good (((VIBES))) for u'r son. I hope u'r doing OK.
I missed the moon last nite and it's been raining today--maybe it wil clear up later???
I'm so cold and tired today so just doing hahaha nothing.
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Good Morning all--It was cloudy last nite I didn't see the moon again.--I saw some pictures on FB but that's not the same, well I guess it has to be--did some excercises already this morning--no coffee yet but I'll get it soon==Rain all day and hot and humid--Gee my favorite--well it could be worse so as long as it's no big storms fine.
Joey slept with me again last nite, my DD is fearful of him taking after her so he's see a physichiatrist (sp) for children this week--they did a lot of searching so I hope the found a good one. He has so many fears and maybe it's a good thing to see one right away--I don't know really we talk alot and he's very honest with me--I know he's being bullied cuz he's overweight and trying to loose it and I want to go beat up every kids that does it--the girls like him slot, but the boys bully him--well that's what we are going thru right now,
Sorry didn't mean to glump up my post i just came out. LOL
On another note I really hope everyone has a good day and feeling decent today.
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Laurie... prayers for your son/elbow/pitching/your healing.
Camille... I don't know what teachers Joey had this year, but bullying had zero tolerance in my classroom last year--and when kids feel safe (with any adult in the building), they report it. His teachers are obligated to protect him and deal consequences to those who are being cruel. They are not allowed to ignore it. I am so sorry he is having to suffer these issues. Losing weight will help him, because kids do aim for any weakness or difference they can find. It's almost a pack animal instinct. Does he have a group of friends he can be with? Bullies are much less likely to pick on someone if a group is present... Check your school's bullying policy. They are constrained by law to protect the kids... (I always let my kids know the first day... I was bullied as a child, and I will not accept it. Period. They get the idea pretty fast. ) Most incidents happen at recess or in the restroom. That's when reporting it is so important--whether the victim or a witness. Someone has to speak up.
Sorry. It's a sensitive spot... Hope your Joey can find some peace.
Hugs to you and to him.
markat--how's the organizing? I think I'll tackle a couple of rooms today. (Will start small, though.)
blondie, Jazzy, all... did you see the moon? Here, it was pale yet fiery orange. We had a wispy-cloud night, but clear enough for a full view.
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Hi Hermits,
Camille, I am so sorry to hear about your son. When my kids were little they were bullied for a short time, and it tugged at my heart badly. I too was severly bullied, physically and emotionally as a child and my parents did nothing about it. (They were ashamed of me) Anyway it was tramatizing (but I don't dwell on it anymore) although it brought up feelings with my own children. I think with your love and support, along with help from the school, he will get through this and end up being a kind empathetic adult. My oldest son was over weight too, plus he had a disorder where he grew extra breast tissue....he grew up to be a slim, very handsome young man. He is married and has three children.
I have been spending time organizing my kitchen cupboards and cleaning them. I put music on, which helps distract me from thinking that this task is boring as hell...lol...but it feels so good to get rid of things we don't use. I try to tackle a task everyday, so I don't get bored.
I will be filling out my complaint form through the equal rights division today. I got a call from one of my former staff last night, she was recently written up. She has been there for nine years....needless to say it broke my heart and brought up my own feelings about being mistreated. I want to be supportive to her, she is so upset, and was looking for direction from me. It reaffirms how nasty they are. This gal is a good hard working person, but moves slower because she is over weight and has neuropathy, so she limps.
It makes me sick how cruel people can be..... but not you guys.Thanks for all your help. .....I love going on here and reading posts....it is safe
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Teka ur overwelm me with u'r words. LOL
Lori U must feel awful for u'r friend from work--how and why are they doing this--Do u think they want everyone to quit so they can restaff people? U winder why someone who is in chharge can be so overpowering to people. They must enjoy it. That's awful.
Oh this is my GS who's 9 and he does have friends, mostly girls really like him cuz he is not a rough and tumble boy. Oh and they tease him too cuz he always helps this boy in there that is slow-he just like to. So we'll see this year My DD will have to handle it and now that he got accepted in that "gifted children"" program I don't think this will help him. And Lori I'm sorry that happened to u, that's horrible. And yes I always feel like no judging here just comfort.0 -
Hi hermits- day 3 of my little hiatus from the client site. The good news is a check FINALLY came in the mail, and got deposited today. I am due one more and have been told it will be paid this week (fingers crossed).
I also went to Starbucks to get a pound of free coffee I had from a promotion they were doing and came away with a free scone and drink too! The universe is taking care of me today!
Lori- the client site I work at is really mean to people too. It is very hard to work there these days. Is your organization having financial problems? What I have seen is that organizations "in trouble" usually start doing nasty things to their employees and it is precurser to getting rid of them. If anything, you now know they are doing this to others which may not make any of it better, but at least maybe they are not targeting just you. Good luck with the filing and let us know how things go with everything. We have to stand up for ourselves as no one is will!
The bullying thing I think has been around for so long. I was bullied too as I was a chubby kid. Now children have different weapons to hurt one another. Facebook, texting, you name it. Children are just not treated very well in our society (and many of them living in poverty these days too). Sigh.
Over and out for now. Will catch up with you into the week my hermit friends.
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Cammie glump away so glad he is going to see someone, and sorry he is being bullied, love that the gc talk to us....
nope Skittle didn't see the moon am still in my room trying get over this 3rd week of chemo...I know I will be better by Wednesday....tomorrow should be the last feeling bad day....thanks..
Lori I am so glad you are filing AND that you could be there for another staff member and must feel good that it isn't just you......
Yay Jazzy and it is a shame you have to play hardball with them to get them to do the right thing but to also pay their bills...
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where is everybody, hope you are all well and in AC!!!
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Hiya, I'm still around - trying to read everything and catch up.
Herceptin treatment last Friday - only two sticks to get a good vein this time. I'm looking forward to the treatments being over though I think I will kind of miss seeing some of the nurses there every three weeks. They are all so nice.
I'm almost done with removing the stuff I want to keep from my Mom's house. My brother is getting close to having all of the fixing up done so I'm guessing it will go up on the market sometime in July. It will feel nice to have all of that over and done with. Of course I still need to really start organizing and finding places for all of the stuff too but that can wait. (Yes, I procrastinate way too much. *sighs*)
My outlet is playing games on the computer. It's just a great way to get away from thinking about real life problems. I have quite a few online friends and while a few of them know about my health issues, most of the people I interact with have no idea and it's nice to keep it that way.
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Jinkala it's nice to hear from u--wow u have a job going on, a big one. And u do get used to the nurses and staff--I went weekly and it was a hoot.
We're getting storms right now again--non of the storms are to be taken for granted anymore--they are scary.
Blondie hence the name HERMIT sometime we don't come out of our shells.
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JINK, thanks for checking in...
yep Cammie!!!
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Hello my friends,
Hot and humid here in wisconsin, the sky looks a bit angry, but I don't mind storms at all. Especially at night when in bed, I love listening to the rain and rumbles of thunder. So yesterday I got another call from a different employee who was one of my staff.....and she was terminated. Get this, she was called Sunday afternoon to work, because the other gal called in. This employee comes in and works the whole shift, and Monday they fire her....I don't know, it is just strange how they handle things. Both employees were looking for guidance and help, and I don't mind, but it is so upsetting to hear about it all. My husband and I saw the attorney, and she was helpful in laying out my options. Unfortunately all of the e-mails are "nice" and the nastiness went on when there were no other witnesses. She said I should file a complaint with federal eeoc. This attorney said she could assist, however the people from this place assist free of charge. Overall there is a good chance of getting back pay, but the attorney doesn't feel like I will end with a large sum of money. I feel liike I recieved some good advice.....
On a different note, does anyone deal with chemo brain? No one has mentioned it on here. It was very apparent when I started chemo, and then it improved. But now it has creeped back. Some people take it in stride and don't worry much about it, and my Doctor doesn't have a remedy. He already did a brain scan and all was good, no sign of mets.
Yesterday I went for a walk/jog....I have been gaining weight like crazy. Had five cupcakes at my sons graduation party, along with all the food. I gain and lose weight so easily, although losing is a bit more of a challenge, because I like to eat when I am bored. I just have to get in the routine of exercising....
My emotions have been up and down....sometimes its one hour at a time.....right now I am feeling good and am just going to take a break from thinking I am a loser.....my husband, kids , siblings, and friends seem to think I am a good egg, so I will go with that. Have a good night my friends.....
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Oh yeah, chemo brain. I had problems driving, I'd see red brake lights, knew I was supposed to do something ...............oh! STOP!!!!! Forgot what I was saying mid sentence, probably would have forgot my head if it wasn't attached.
But then it seemed to get better, or so I thought until I had to write my phone # last week. Gone! Last chemo last Oct.0 -
Envious of all your rain reports. Hot and dry here. No rain in the forecast...
Yes, hermiting. As Camille said... in my shell. (Hit a grumpy streak with drug se's. Humbug.)
Hugs to each.
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Lori get ready for this, now they say it can last indefinately---my sister, cousin and I all dealt with cancer and all have chemo brain--of course we do laugh about it now but at first it was scary as hell, I have talked to my sister on the phone we could barely hear each other so we decided to hang up--I had the phone upside down. We seem to tell each other the same things (other people say) all the time or we completely forget things told to us.It's daily. They really don't know much about it yet except it can last for any amount of time--see that makes them right. Even the Drs. a few yrs back didn't realize it was existing, now they know so. That the good news and that's the bad news.
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Hi all! Um I would seriously hire Laurie or a professional organizer at this point, lol. I think my idea of clearing clutter has always been to hide it, well it has came back to bite me!
Camille I'm so sorry about Joey
Maybe the gifted school would be a good place for him! I'm a worrier, and my kids are too. Especially my 8yo. My mom dying has brought out a lot of her quirks. We are working on them.
Hugs Skittle! Hope it passes quickly.
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Markat organizing is a skill not to be taken lightly. I can't do it at all. Never could I'm a closet stuffer too.
Oh Skittle I'm sorry--this is a goofy feeling like leave me alone--I talk on here and Email but I don't want to talk on the ohone even. Oh well this to shall pass--I'm so sick and tired of saying that when one thing passes another one is right behind it. hahaha it's true tho.
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checking in, getting there, hopefully will feel up to dong the things I need to accomplish....how is everyone?
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Checking in on all of my dear friends. We are still in Omaha and the boys just went off to batting practice and all I wanted to do was catch up with you guys! Thank you all for your prayers for Nick's arm and performance. He pitched in two games, with a total of 8 innings and only gave up 1 run (unearned, so it was not his fault...it was an defensive error). He also had 8K (strikeouts). He could not have pitched better and we are so very proud. At random times we had coaches and parents take us (and him) aside and tell us what raw talent he has. That is always a gift to hear (especially from other parents) as he/we put so much of our lives into his passion. He literally commanded the mound and it was nice to see that he gained the respect of all of his teammates. (These boys are a national travel team and have never played together before.) We have played 5 games and unfortunately lost them all by one run, but we are enjoying ourselves. We have another game tomorrow and then we return home for one day before traveling to Huntington Beach with Nick's other team. We have had a few storms pass through and I have enjoyed the thunder and rain. However, one of the storms knocked a baby robin and his nest out of a tree near the parking lot where our car was. We were leaving for a game, when he caught my eye. I had to rescue him! He was small and fluffy and looked hurt. I was so upset. I showed Nick and my husband a pile of mud and told them to turn it over as I thougth it may be his nest. It was. We placed him back in the nest and back in the tree. I checked on him that night and the next morning to find him softly resting. I have checked on him the past three days. Each day we have had a different experience with him as his nest was blown down again. I ended up finding him cowering under bushes. Yesterday I re-placed him in his nest. As I did, he opened his mouth up SO wide! He was hungry! I looked around for his mama and daddy, but they didn't seem to be around. I dug up rolly-pollies and found a ladybug (so sorry!) and hand fed him. This morning I asked my husband if we could stop and buy worms for him. I was so worried that his parents has abandoned him. We bought worms and we we came back, he was gone AGAIN! This time however, I found him on the ground and he seemed better. I fed him worm. He ate it, squeeked at me and did his best to scurry away. It that point, his parents started circling us and squawking. I assured Nick that the baby was not healed and fine and we needed to let nature take it's course. We dumped the rest of the worms for them and waved goodbye to the little guy. (Of course I will check on him again later, but I won't get too close.)
As for me, I took myself off of the pain pills two days ago. I hate them. I am using Aleve and ice twice a day. I am getting relief little by little and I am grateful. The past three weeks have been rough. I see my Oncologist on Friday before we leave for CA. The nerve problem in my left hand (due to the IV) has not resolved itself and my doc is going forward to Risk Management at the hospital. We shall see what happens with that.
Skittle---I hate the "yucky day" feelings. I am so sorry and I hope it goes away soon! HUGS to you!!
Ladies, I also hate talking on the phone and avoid it at all costs! LOL! I am a texting and emailing fool! Lori and Jazzy, so sorry about the work situations. I pray that they resolve themselves. Jinkala-so great to hear from you! Jazzy, Camille, Teka, Markat, Blondie, Spookie, and all of the rest, love and peace to you.
Jazzy, I too was bullied. I was the "fat girl" that everyone made the butt of their jokes. It was torturous and affected my life. Your Joey obviously takes shelter in your love and safety. Having such a loving mother who is aware of his struggles will help him so much. I pray for his peace. As a mother, I feel the rage of wanting revenge on the kids that are so cruel. I can only pray that God takes it all away.
Love and peace to all of you,
XOXOXOXO
Laurie
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Aww Laurie that's so sweet about the bird. My mom used to save birds that were injured or deserted from the nest. I guess she started when she was a little girl and continued throughout her life. She always rescued animals though. She worked for a vet for about 10 years and we always were "fostering" different animals until a permanent owner could be found. She actually tested positive at one point for that respiratory disease you can get from birds
Poor mom.
I'm still digging and organizing. My stupid fleeting attention span definitely doesn't help. At this rate I'll still be doing this next summer I guess I'm a bit of a closeted (literally) hoarder too. Sleep is still a problem. I finally read through the booklet that the hospice sent and my grieving process appears to be normal. I suppose instead of food or alcohol I have decided to bury my feelings in organizing I imagine that is healthier!
The birds are singing and eating through the distant thunder claps. I guess that means we're in for some storms tonight! Peace to all!0 -
Lol Teka, good for you! DH jokingly said that he's heard of baby steps, but I'm like a baby still in the womb ;-p He's lucky I love him or I'd add him to my recycle bag!
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Hi ladies- just checking in. Doing okay at work. One check down, one due in my hot little hands any time. Got another invoice going in on monday so god willing, I will have my cash flow situation in better shape soon!
Went up north on monday for a bit of a get away. Saw a great band that was traveling through the area this past weekend. I saw them at a music festival in Austin last year, and their free concert on monday night was AWESOME! British boy band.
It is really hot here again this week.
Laurie-lovely story about the baby bird. I too love the birds and saved a few big and small in the past. I hope the little fellow makes it okay with the help of his watchful parents.
Teka- good job on the counter. I love a clean corner or surface top myself.
Markat- we have to find whatever it is that helps us to get through the grief. I commend you for having the energy to do that work right now, it seems like it is helping you. One day at a time my dear.
Blondie- I hope you are doing okay with the chemo and SEs. Wishing you some feeling good days.
Cami-
Must go water my very dry and struggling gardens. Love to all hermits!
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Laurie u bby burd story is prescuoys, my dad was ike that so much. And u'r son is doing great all good news, Now u have to be taken care of si u do that for u'r self. I know u push and that fine, but u also need to rest at different times too,
Markat good for u., whether u finish or not u'r thiking about it--more tha I can do.
Teka organization good.
Jazzy u got some extra fun tine in so good for u.
Blondie I'm sorry u;r struggling, it's not easy I lived alone so all my grunts and groans no one heard, now they do and I hate it-Blah
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Laurie you are one of the sweetest people I have NEVER met....how lucky that birdie was that it was you that was there, others might have ignored it.....so happy that your son is doing so well...and happy you can be there with him to see it....
Jazzy good for you...hope you are taking care of yourself...
Mark [[[[[[[[[HUGS]]]]]]]]]
Me....well feeling good today...week off from chemo, as I am sure you remember and it excites me that I can get things done, which I did, sewing/mending and hanging a new shower curtain, hanging up wet clothes outside and of course it rained, oh well....which doesn't seem like much but it was enough to get me worn out....didn't want to push myself cause I have a list of things I want to do before chemo next wednesday, really have a hard time breathing after coming from the basement to my room on the 2nd floor...which is why I have to move eventually...car is not fixed yet...exhusband came to do it got frustrated which is fine cause then we had really hard rain showers and I would have felt really bad if he was under my car in the rain...apparently he let my dogs out when he was here and saw my elipical and texted me asking me if I wanted to sell it, told him to put my starter in and he can have it, he said how about saturday, lol.....we were married for 12 years, have been friends for 37 met him way before we dated....he is married for the 4th time, I am #2, lol....anyway wifey #4 wants/needs it, lol...aren't I bad....anyway....eyes are watering going to go..bb tomorow, have a nice night...
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Blondie however it gets fixed it's good
And u are doing alot, I know it seems like maybe not so much but litlle by little u are--I never did a dams thing. but getting it every week I'd feel better the day i got it basicaly so I was on a different schedule and I sril don't do much. I did some PT today and not the one I was told not to do and a few things around the house and that was it. I was done for the day took my pain meds and vegitated as usual. LOL
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PT what exactly are you doing for how long Cammie? Pain meds thank goodness for that, going downstairs for a popsicle then going to read.....hugs....
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Hi hermits- we broke a record here today. 105 degrees and I know you hear "but its a dry heat." Trust me, 105 is hot no matter what the humidity! It has been 100 degrees or more all week and pretty much been laying low in the evenings as this heat bothers me. I am going to get up in the morning and go swimming at the gym before it gets too hot.
Blondie-glad you are on chemo break and getting some things done. I agree with Cami, however it gets fixed, its all good.
Cami-hope you are feeling good and the storms in your area are not troublesome.
Must go water now that it is dark. Still 93 degrees here at 9 p.m. I need to do a bigger rain dance I guess.
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Blondie I' doing PT for my rotting back LOL 4 separate things wrong-none can be cured but maybe they can make me more comfortable hahaha--It's just easy excersies and walking cuz anything more than tht I crumble up LOL As I told them the pain goes to my eyeballs--(that's how I explain things) I mean how do u really explain pain--90 yr od women walk better tha me so I can't say I walk lik a 90 yr; old. It's just part of the whole picture so it could be worse.
Jazzy I don't care if it is dry heat --an oven is dry heat but would u sit in one that 105 degrees. It's horrible--last summer was the worst one I hve ever seen and it started i May hardly any rain and never under 95--no one was going out unless they had to and even in the early hrs, it was in the mid to high 80's and couldn't breathe out there--it went on for 3 ful months and then I realized I'd take winter any time against that crap--u could always warm up in winter and then u were worried the A/C would go out cuz there was so much going on it 24 hrs. a day and when it did for almost 2 weeks we had to stay somewhere else u could not breathe at all--So many things for outdoors were cancelled cuz u couldn't be outside. So I hate the heat so much.-I really feel bad for u.
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Blondie just a note of why--I'm trying so hard not to have to use a walker and may just maybe this PT can help with some strength, but she didn't sound to promising about it,--I don't know what I have against walkers I just don't want one.
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Blondie that's funny about you ex! I hope he can fix it and it starts up!
Hope you feel good tomorrow.
I really dislike the heat. I sweat and yuck I just hate it. I try to do fun things with the girls in the morning or night. DH loves it so he takes the afternoon shifts lol.
Camille I hope the PT helps and little Joey is doing better.
I hit a low today Ugh. My energy has been bad and I just feel blah. My birthday is tomorrow or today depending on your time zone (28th). I'm 32 today! Yay! I'm hoping to have lunch with the girls then do something with DH. My mother in law has offered to watch the girls. It makes me sad about my mom not being here
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