Lumpectomy Lounge....let's talk!
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614, the tornadoes were in Pontiac ILLINOIS not Michigan. But they were terrible. Re: house. Now the mortgage lender says "oh I forgot to tell you we need a mold inspection per the FHA report" (which they buyers and my realtor and I have never seen). So have to do that. This lender is atrocious at complete communication. My realtor thinks this could put the July 1st closing in jeopardy (even if there is no mold and I don't think there is).
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Goodness Peggy, the crap you have to go through! When me and Dh went through all the mess to get mortgage on our house, I remembered thinking that I will NEVER move or go through this again!
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LG, no kidding! At least I now know there has been a driver assigned to move my stuff. Who knows when. As far as the crap on the house I'm selling, I think FHA is a royal pain in the pitutty. I had hoped to avoid FHA but obviously that didn't happen.
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I'm too tired to post much of anything, but I did want to say how happy I am that Peggy has arrived in her new town and is in her new home! Waiting for the furniture is no fun, but then again, it's not as bad as most of the waiting done around here!
'Nite all!
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Moondust, you are absolutely right and that puts it into perspective. Thanks for reminding me! Take care and sleep good.
There are 4 of us BCO'ers getting together for coffee Monday afternoon! I can't wait.
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Peggy, how exciting! I love meeting BCO sisters!!
Sandy, I wanted to thank you. You mentioned something a couple days ago about seromas and radiation becoming scar tissue. It suddenly hit me why I developed over the last few months this lump over my alnd site. My MRI report had mentioned not only a seroma in my breast but also one in my axilla. Add radiation to the nodes and of course I have scar tissue. It never occurred to me to put those together.
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Molly, I do too love meeting my sisters here. I've made wonderful friends. And how nice for you to put 2 & 2 together and come up 4!! Don't you feel better having solved that mystery???
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Yes I feel much better. The MO wasn't concerned but I was a bit freaked out by this lump. I was thinking of asking my PS to remove it during my exchange surgery if he is willing.
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Molly, I would, too. We get a bit skittish when something resembling a lump turns up and want to get rid of it.
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Peggy, Mold report. Really That must be something required in your area or the appraiser noted something suspicious in his appraisal. A home inspection should have found it. In fairness to the lender. They are swamped right now. Our office had 204 settlements this month we are an office of about 60 agents. I have also seen a higher number of properties come back on the market as well. April and May were nuts with contracts. I will admit some lenders are worse than others. One thing about Real Estate when I am busy breast cancer is not in the front of my mind.
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Molly50, I had my port removed Thursday, and the port removal team warned me that even where the port was a seroma will form, and once it resolves I may feel pea sized lumps there which is part of the seroma resolving process, and to not freak out if I feel a lump in that area. Wish my surgeon would have told me the same thing because I had a 12 cm seroma at my lumpectomy site and I worry about every lump and bump I feel there. But the port team's comments gave me slight peace of mind
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BrutersMom, There was nothing suspicious in the report that WE know of. I find it strange that not even the buyers & their agent have seen it. I didn't think there'd be mold but the basement (and house) are old (90+ years) so maybe it was on general principles. WHATEVER! Thanks for the insight. My brother also works mortgages and he is not a fan of FHA. So very true that staying busy at work does push BC to the background.
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Dear Brutersmom: Great insight.
Dear Peggy: Thanks for the clarification. I just saw Pontiac and thought of you. I am so sorry for all of the nonsense regarding your closing. I hope that you can close on July 1st. Good luck.
Dear Moondust: Feel well and get some rest. I am glad that you are not having any other SE's.
Dear everyone who is getting together: I wish that I could meet all of you. I will be in all of your pockets having fun along with all of you.
Dear ItalyChick: Wow. I always learn something new from this site. I did not know any of that information. I'm glad that your port has been removed. Yay. Celebration time.
Dear Molly: I would ask to have the scar tissue removed when you have your surgery.
My doctors told me that the way my breasts feel now is my "new normal". I have lumps everywhere because I have extremely heterogeneously dense fibrocystic breasts. I also have so much scar tissue because in total, I have had 3 excisional biopsies (one removed 2 lumps), 1 double lumpectomy (my bc surgery), and at least 8 core needle biopsies (for sure, however I may have had one more but have forgotten 1 over the years), my SLNB, and the breast reduction and breast lift during my bc surgery to conserve symmetry. (My first excisional biopsy was done when I was in my 20's.) In addition, I have fibrosis from the radiation to my left breast. I also had a giant 8cm hematoma after my MRI guided biopsy last May and I have a small seroma now which have caused breast changes. I no longer worry about lumps because unless a lump is totally new, large, and different, it is probably just "normal" for me. I must let the imaging diagnose anything going on in my breasts. I cannot tell. My radiologist in Florida who dx my bc told me that my breasts are "tough and lumpy and bumpy". My RO at MD Anderson Cancer Center told me that there are lumps everywhere and that my breasts are among the most dense that he has ever encountered. He told me not to worry and to stay away from doctors for a year. He said that my yearly MRI should detect anything. My MO in Florida agrees. Since they are not worried, I will not worry. I trust them.
I am going to start volunteering for Florida Cancer Specialists on Monday helping out in the chemo infusion room in my MO's office. It will be rewarding for me to do this over the summer. I will be busy with that and the summer work for work that I have to do. Then, there is always decluttering my house..... That is my plan. Wish me luck.
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614, what a lovely thing to do volunteering in the chemo room. That should be very satisfying for you. Your other work, probably not so much but it does have to be done. Decluttering is yuck but necessary!
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614, I admire your attitude and so rewarding to help out in the chemo room.
Went to Zumba today. The cotton cami under my sports bra did the trick & all the movement didn't rub my tender radiated skin. Now I still can't jump up & down fully yet, but moving makes me feel better & I've started using weights again on the weight songs.
Sure is hot in central Illinois today, staying in air conditioning. Hope everyone is having a relaxing day.
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Pretty hot here in N. IL too. I played an outdoor festival in Bartlett this afternoon and was quite grateful for the tent over the stage that kept it cool enough that my compression sleeve & gauntlet wasn’t uncomfortable and I was able to take off my hat. Unfortunately, because we were facing the sun, no matter which glasses I wore I could barely see the fret markers on the guitar neck & fingerboard. No problem for the 3-or-4-chord songs, which I can play with my eyes closed--but a nightmare for those few songs on which I play movable chords up & down the neck. Overshot a couple of times. Dang cataracts!
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It hit 100 degrees here in Atlanta today, with about 70% humidity. Ugh. When you walk outside it feels like someone tossed a wet rag over your face. Poor DH. He has severe lung & heart disease and he just can't tolerate this heat. He has been low all week, very fatigued, taking long naps, no energy at all. A couple times he got dizzy and thought he was gonna fall down. I think it's partly the heat and partly the code orange air quality. I've just had to make him stay indoors this week.
Well, this morning I volunteered with a group that concentrates on local ministries. They provide camping gear to homeless men (mostly), birthday presents and paper goods for children, small appliances and new mattresses, maternity clothes, diapers, school uniforms, and no-sew fleece blankets for children and adults. It was pretty hot in there (no A/C) but they had about 25 fans going (it's a big warehouse.) I worked on the blankets, since about half of that can be done sitting down. My knees and feet don't work so well anymore, so I really appreciate them finding something that would work for me. I brought some of the fleece home so DH & I can work on them while we're watching TV. It really feels good to be able to finally do something for someone else, after all that people have done for me.
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Seems like it's hot all over the country! We've been in the 90's here, but at least we have air conditioning so if I just stay inside, I hardly notice it. My younger sister came down from the Bay area yesterday. We took two of my grandsons to see Finding Dory, and it was a very nice diversion. It feels good to get out after the surgery, but underarm swells a bit in the heat. I'm having a bit of a time trying to convince everyone that I'm really fine and can drive etc. (as permitted by the surgeon even!). I've had quite a few surgeries in recent years, and everyone thinks I do too much too soon. But it isn't real hard to sit in a movie theater! I'm not one to sit around, and am looking forward a photography workshop class beginning next week and then a jewelry class through the art museum here. My biggest goal is to get back to my pottery, but am trying to let the surgery heal first. Stay cool all, and hope the rest of your weekend is good.
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I got yal all beat with 110 degrees here!! I open the back door for less than 5 minutes and was drenched in sweat! It feels great to do for others. A team of co-workers from my job are doing ball tournament to raise money for charity that 100 percent of profits go to help people with expenses associated with cancer. I can't play, but will be there to cheer them on! Anyone have ideas i can use for care package items I can buy to put together for chemo patients at the charity hospital oncology center?
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Gee whiz, Ladies. No heat here in Spokane...yet. Yesterday was wet and 56; today 76 and low 90s by Monday. My son swears there's no humidity here. Okay. If you say so.
Dara, I can't see any reason for you not to drive and do what you want.
Grouches, that's stinkin' hot. Tell your co-workers to take care and drink gallons of water. What a great project. Sorry I have no ideas for chemo baskets.
Poodles, good for you for your charity work. I know it is appreciated.
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Lovinggrouches: Ideas for chemo care package: Aquafor ointment, cheese & crackers, Alka-selzer or tums chews, fiber supplements, coconut water (the small juice box things), bandanas, knit caps (maybe from Salvation army, then washed?), small refillable water bottle, original ricola throat drops, dry mouth lozenges (come in a big box, maybe divvy them up in snack bags), small travel games, headphones, small squishy ice packs for icing a port, port pillow to attach to seatbelt (there is a charity that makes them), or maybe a info card so someone can sign up to have one mailed. Small pad of paper and pen, Larabars, or Z-bars, or Trader Joes fruitbars, That's my 2 cents. what a great idea!
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Dara, I was diagnosed with IDC but when I had my lumpectomy my surgeon found DCIS next to my tumor. So she removed both but did not get clear margins on the IDC so I had to have a re-excision. No node involvement and low oncotype score so just radiation and Femara. Best of luck to you. Jo
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Dear Balding: It is great that you are able to move around and exercise. I hope that your skin continues to cooperate as you finish rads. Good luck.
Dear LG and Poodles: Isn't it rewarding to help others? Good for both of you.
Dear Sandy: It is great that you do so many performances. It must be awful to have to wear the sleeve in this heat.
Dear LabScientistMom: Good advice.
Dear Dara: You should do whatever you feel up to doing and enjoy every minute of it.
Stay cool everyone.
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Thanks so much! I love getting advice from people who have been through chemo. A friend of mine made the suggestion about the knit head coverings and some gloves also. She said her fingers would always feel cold. My first donation will be gas cards for radiation patients that travel long distances every day, but my second donation , I definitely want to benefit chemo patients. I will also get with breast health navigator at next support group meeting and see what she says. They already give out a travel bag with a mirror, hand sanitizer, pad and pen, finger nail files and stuff for patients. I just hope my snacks keep selling well, a co-worker is managing it at work while I'm away. I won't make a whole LOT of money, but I'm hoping for 100 dollars a month and I can save it and do my donations quarterly? I so appreciate the advice!!!! HUGS to all!
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Jo6202, thanks. My surgeon went back 3 times while I was still in surgery until she got clear margins so I lucked out not having to go back in. It wasn't until the path report that I heard anything at all about DCIS. Since it was grade 3, it worried me a bit, but I'm just holding tight until I meet with MO. My lymph vascular was negative. Until I get back my oncotype and genetic results, I don't know what treatment I'll have first.
Lovinggrouch, have you ever looked into Go Fund Me? I contributed several times to causes where people are raising money for a good cause. The latest one was to help a young woman in another state who makes snicker doodles to sell and donate to Alzheimer research. Her goal was to raise $500, but in 2 days she raised over $1500. The donations funded all the supplies and ingredients.
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Oh, and I've really never been one to do what other people tell me, so while others want me to just sit and "rest," I've lined up all sorts of fun things to be doing. If I get tired, then I stop. I know none of us feels like we are in control with cancer, and I also know how much my family loves me and wants me to be around. They think I go into denial, but I think one's mental attitude is just as powerful as any treatment plan prescribed! Photography, jewelry, pottery, art here I come!
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DaraB-I love your outlook! The mind is powerful medicine. No doubt your outlook can influence how you weather this journey. Here's to reveling in the joy to be found in each day
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I whole-heartedly agree. A positive attitude is everything. I think that bc survivors are a unique group who have an "attitude of gratitude" and we want to "give back" to others going through a bc journey.
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Darab, thanks for the advice!!!! I'm around a weird group of people lol! My job will donate 200 dollars to sponsor ball game with 10 volunteers to raise money for cancer (it's also a marketing strategy, mind you)(administration won't be there), but when I sold raffle tickets for the organization that helps local people, I had to buy 7 out of 20 tickets myself because I couldn't get anyone at the job to buy one. (Administration included) and I didn't want my organization to look bad because my breast cancer support group at the local hospital (from whom we get most of our patients), they all know I work there. Somehow I don't think gofundme would work well with a lot of the people I know. They are all big eaters though, so selling snacks and food work well. I work in a therapy unit with access to a full kitchen and have thought about cooking a good home cooked meal once a month and charging five dollars to eat and can make some good extra money that way. Thanks all for the advice and I'm working on my positivity instead of worry about my cancer! HUGS!!!
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Dear LG: You are doing a wonderful thing. Kudos.
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