No one cares about this
I've become increasingly aware of the myths surrounding breast cancer, perpetuated by the media, and fed to the media usually by women that are only about 6-12 months out of treatment, declaring that they are 'cancer free'. We know that breast cancer is not this simple and easy - you can never know if you are cancer free - perhaps except if you had a grade 1 tumour, or DCIS. I see this as a problem because it creates a false, pink easy image of this horrendous cancer. It paints anyone who lives with depression, PTSD and fear as being negative - how do we get the help we need, and the support, with this perception? How do we ever put an end to the sexualisation, commercialisation and infantilisation of breast cancer when these women feed the media what they want: that getting breast cancer is pink, happy, very curable and often funny.
So yesterday I made a comment on something on Facebook about mammograms, stating that women under 40 can get breast cancer - as I was 38 at initial diagnosis. A woman only one year out of treatment had a go at my post implying that she had already said that, and other words belittling my statement. She had already stated that she is "cancer free" and “one of the lucky ones", so I said you actually cannot know if you are cancer free you are actually no evidence of disease, and I talked about my recurrence and now lifelong treatment. Her response “I am cancer free” and also thatshe didn't need my negativity and bringing her down!
So what has happened to me should be kept as breast cancer's dirty little secret because it's not the happy fun outcome that the media has fed these women and that they buy into? If we talk about the reality of breast cancer, we are hated and reported to Facebook as being negative!? I've also noticed that people in general couldn't care less about this. I've told people who never ask me how I am and couldn't care less. It seems that unless you look sick they don't care - yet come October they are dressing up as pink superheroes and holding pink morning tea to apparently support people living with breast cancer. My hatred of the pink rubbish and myths the media perpetuate grow all the time as I see the hypocrisy and the reality of what really goes on. Anyone else experienced this? Being told by the newly diagnosed, who believe that once their treatment is over they are cancer free - breast cancer is that easy, that if we talk about what we've experienced we are bringing them down and being negative" - or else there is just silence and no one wants to know?