Planning surgery for November 2025? Join the waiting room for support.
Are you scheduled to have a lumpectomy or mastectomy in the month of November? Join us here where we support each other as we prepare for our surgeries, ask questions about what to expect, share reservations and fears, and support one another through preparation and recovery. And, we encourage others who've "been there" to answer questions about what to expect with surgery and recovery.
Share your surgery date so we can cheer you on, the type of surgery you'll be having, and let us know how you do after it's done so others know what to expect first-hand.
While you get ready, check out the Shopping/Packing/To-Do List for Surgery and Recovery. For more information, check out the Surgery section on our site for info about what types of surgery, questions to ask, choosing between lumpectomy and mastectomy, and what to expect with surgery and recovery.
If you need more support, consider joining our Virtual Support Groups for those going through treatment — and beyond!
We're all here for you and we're in your pocket for surgery day and beyond!
—The Mods
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I’ll be having a double mastectomy with Goldilocks closure and fat grafting along with sentinel lymph node biopsy Nov 6. I’m super nervous and just want to get over with! This second diagnosis after 10 years came as a shock!
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Hi @ltam16 - We’ll be thinking of you on November 6 as you go through your surgery. Feeling nervous makes perfect sense, especially after facing this again after so many years.
Anyone else having surgery soon? Let's support each other!
The Mods
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My bilat mx is Friday 11-7. I'm lucky to have friends and family lined up to support me and each-other the several days after surgery. I ran into a childhood friend, she shared her (different) bc story with me. I know I'm strong mentally and physically but this really is like an out of body experience, so far. Even discussing it feels like / how can this be MY story?///
Julia near LA
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Single mastectomy on 11/17. Aesthetic flat closure. It's my second DCIS in that breast, and after lumpectomy & radiation the first time, mastectomy is my only option now. Not looking forward to it.
I totally relate to the comment about this feeling like an out-of-body experience. It doesn't feel real. I have moments of acceptance, moments of blind panic, and moments of overwhelming grief. I didn't even know I was that attached to that breast. But change is hard.
Can anyone tell me if I'll be able to lift my opposite arm over my head after surgery? I keep seeing talk of not lifting arms up after mastectomy because of drains & healing tissue, but I'm hoping that a single mastectomy means the other arm will have some mobility.
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I would trade removal of my both pinky fingers for the bilat if I could!
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I so relate to the out of body experience! I keep thinking I’m going to wake up from this bad dream. I too never realized I was so attached to my breasts. It’s going to be a big change and adjustment. My emotions are all over the place.
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Just joined. Bmx on 11/10. Diagnosed Oct 7, DCIS in Left breast and LCIS with microinvasion in Right breast. Today is my last day of work before medical leave. Ive been keeping busy but i have a feeling i’m goimg to wake up tomorrow and it’s all going to hit me. Very thankful to have this space as I go through this. Treatment at MSK and apparently it’s 7-10 days until path report post surgery. That’s going to be hard, ie to wait to hear if LN are positive, whether i need chemo etc.
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Hi @hopefulmom79 , welcome to the BCO community. We’re so glad you found us, though we’re sorry for what brings you here. We’ll be thinking of you on November 10 and sending strength for the days ahead. Please keep us posted on how you’re doing when you feel up to it. We're all here for you!
The Mods
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@ltam16 We are thinking of you today! Check in when you get a moment to let us know how surgery went and how you're feeling.
Sending gentle hugs!
—The Mods
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@gypsy11995544 We're in your pocket for surgery tomorrow! Let us know how it goes.
Hugs!
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Hi, I have my lumpectamy scheduled for 11/14 with sentinal node biopsy. I totally agree with the out of body experience. Its been an emotional roller coaster.
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