In treatment for TNBC stage 2. Feeling sad after losing my hair
Hi. I was diagnosed on Jan 20, 2026 with TNBC. Since then I’ve been through multiple scans, Dr.’s appts., biopsies, port placement and 3 (21 to go) chemo infusions. I have a positive attitude about it but the hair loss is really hard. I know it’s just hair to many but it has been how I see myself for 65 years now. Like all of the challenges with this disease I’ll get past this, but why does it have to take our hair.
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I agree! Why does it have to take our hair?? The hair loss is a constant reminder every time you look in the mirror. Really, reallyhard to deal with the emotional side of that. People don’t understand unless they have been through it,
hang in there. It does get easier. I wore a really good quality wig that looked exactly like my hair. I also had a hat with hair attached that I wore a lot.2 -
@marcasey I agree here too. The mental challenges are hard enough and then to look in the mirror and wonder who is looking back is another! As time went on of course I had to accept it and became a bit more comfortable with it. I decided to tell myself every morning as I was doing my make-up for work that my life was more important than my hair. Agree also that NOBODY can understand unless they went through it! I remember even a long time gf saying "it's only hair" boy did that cut deep. So take one step at a time…sending strength and positive vibes your way.
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Thanks @ann5631 and @cookie54! I know you two really understand. I have a wig and baseball cap with hair that helps. I’m going to invest in a custom wig as it appears I’ll need one for a year.
I realized my hair must have been very thick as my head is actually very small. I look like a pencil eraser now!!
Onward! Hope you both are physically well!Marian
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I hear you — that’s a really tough part of the journey, and it makes complete sense that hair loss feels deeply personal after so many years. It’s not “just hair”; it’s part of identity and how we recognize ourselves.
Many people going through chemo say this is one of the hardest emotional adjustments, even when they’re staying strong otherwise. Sometimes focusing on gentle scalp care, soft head coverings, or even experimenting with new looks (like scarves or wigs) can help a little during the transition.
You’re already showing so much strength by keeping a positive mindset through everything. Take it one step at a time — you’re not alone in feeling this way
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