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  • schipmom
    schipmom Posts: 100
    edited June 2011

    June,

    I am so sorry for the loss of your Dad.  Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your whole family.  Take care.

  • tinkertude
    tinkertude Posts: 1,998
    edited June 2011

    JUne I am so sorry for your loss and your familys. I am glad you were able to be there. My heart aches for you right now and please know that you and your family will be on my prayers. You all will have a special gaurdian angel to watch over you know.. much love and hugs to you my dear friend!!xoxo

  • tinkertude
    tinkertude Posts: 1,998
    edited June 2011

    JUne I am so sorry for your loss and your familys. I am glad you were able to be there. My heart aches for you right now and please know that you and your family will be on my prayers. You all will have a special gaurdian angel to watch over you know.. much love and hugs to you my dear friend!!xoxo

  • chabba
    chabba Posts: 3,600
    edited June 2011

    June, my prayers and sympathy are with you and your family.

  • JustmeAlicia
    JustmeAlicia Posts: 629
    edited June 2011

    June ~ I am so sorry for your loss.  I am so sad for you ~  Thinking of you and your family.  Sending you big hugs and much love. xo

  • peg119
    peg119 Posts: 190
    edited June 2011

    June - I am sorry for your loss and glad that you were able to be there with your family.  Take care of yourself during the upcoming days, weeks and months.  

  • NJvictoria
    NJvictoria Posts: 45
    edited June 2011

    I'm so sorry for your loss June. My father passed away last February and it was so hard for all of us. He was suffering from dementia brought on by heart surgery that he had had 3 years prior. A side effect of being put on the heart/lung bypass machine. He eventually came down with pneumonia which accelerated his dementia, and he passed away within a month.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family June. I know you are a strong woman and you'll make it through this difficult time.

    Vikki

  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Posts: 4,503
    edited June 2011

    June my friend I am so sorry for your loss and my heart aches for you.  I will keep you and your family in my prayers.  Put on some clothes with lots of pockets so we can all jump in and be with you.

  • tinkertude
    tinkertude Posts: 1,998
    edited June 2011

    Sherry excellent idea.. we will all go with June and be her strenghth... a big group hug! we love you Junie B!!!!!!

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Posts: 7,545
    edited June 2011

    Here is a big group hug for June

                  

  • tinkertude
    tinkertude Posts: 1,998
    edited June 2011

    JO..Thats great!

  • June2268
    June2268 Posts: 926
    edited June 2011

    I love all you guys as I am crying my eyes out from all your love and support!  Thank you and please do come with me as I am not sure how I will make it through this!  I am a freakin wreck right now.....

  • tinkertude
    tinkertude Posts: 1,998
    edited June 2011

    We are right beside you June!!! right beside you!.xoxoxoxoxox friends forever!

  • June2268
    June2268 Posts: 926
    edited June 2011

    Just tell me how does one close there eyes at night when they are in so much pain?  I am so exhausted!

  • tinkertude
    tinkertude Posts: 1,998
    edited June 2011

    June When my dad passed away I was like that didnt sleep for what felt like days... I admitt I had help and had to take my xanax. One step and day at a time. No time limit for this, no wrong way or right way to handle it. It is in your time and your way. Feel how you need to honey, I still miss my dad and it will be 3 years in August. I will say as time goes on and this may be very hard to imagine right now, but as time goes on you will be able to think of your dad and smile and laugh, yes tears too, but you will be able to remember and remember with a smile... in your own time... You have my number use it anytime!!!... One step onr breath at a time! I know the pain is umimaginable right now, give yourself the time you need to grieve .

    Love You

    Maria

  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Posts: 4,503
    edited June 2011

    June--Maria put it very well.  My Dad died 28 years ago and I was young and I still miss him.  I think of my step-dad as my dad because he has been my dad longer than my dad was.  My son died 16 years ago and there is not a day goes by that I don't think of him.  With both of those losses it was hard at first and sometimes I thought I could not breath because it hurt just too darn much.  But eventually I could breath and now I can laugh and tell stories about my son and my Dad without crying.  It is a process that you will have to work through your own way.  We love you here and are all here for you.

  • sgreenarch
    sgreenarch Posts: 253
    edited June 2011

    Dear June, I only just found out about your Dad. Just so so sorry. May you and your family be comforted by your memories. We are all thinking of you,

    With love,

    Shari

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Posts: 7,545
    edited June 2011

    June - Tink said it very well - one step and one day at a time.  My mom passed in 1995 and my dad inn 2001.  I still miss them terribly.  There are so many things I would have liked to ask my mom but couldn't.  You know we will all be with you in your time of sorrow.  Hope you have big pockets cuz we are going to fill them.  Take your time and grieve in your own way.  Just be sure to reach out to us when you need to.

    Love You

    Jo 

  • Sandeeonherown
    Sandeeonherown Posts: 1,781
    edited June 2011

    June- Don't know which is harder ..the numbness or the tears but they are both coping mechanisms and will see you through the coming days....if you need to take something to sleep, take something. I sang at my dad's funeral...planning it, practising it and then singing to say goodbye to him helped..no way I could have spoken, but I could sing. Do something that will help you through....the ache lasts for quite awhile....I remember not wanting to be touched in any way except by a couple of people..felt it would bruise me somehow....and also felt that the crying would never stop....it will...but while the tears are here, let them fall.They are here for a purpose. We are with you...in pockets,on shoulders and sitting with you,invisible but present.

  • June2268
    June2268 Posts: 926
    edited June 2011

    EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU LADIES IS AMAZING!!!!!  THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR CONSTANT KINDNESS AND WORDS, IT REALLY DOES HELP!

  • Linda_M
    Linda_M Posts: 19
    edited June 2011

    June, I am sorry for your loss...my thoughts to you and your family.

  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Posts: 4,503
    edited June 2011

    June the picture you have of you and your Dad on FB is so good.  Please post it here so the other gals so see. 

  • heartnsoul76
    heartnsoul76 Posts: 1,204
    edited June 2011

    June, I am so sorry about your father! Fathers and their daughters have a special bond. I know when my father passed away, I was basically in a state of shock for about the first 3 days. I didn't sleep so much as pass out. It has been about 8 years since I lost him, and I can tell you one thing. I feel like he is always around me, and I'm always talking to him. He may be gone, but we're still close. Take care of yourself during this rough time. Big Hugs!

  • June2268
    June2268 Posts: 926
    edited June 2011

     Here he is Sherry!

    This is my special man who has touched so many lives.  I have been reading his online guestbook and am so touched by everyones kindness and their view on my Dad.  One person called him the George Bailey of Framingham, Mass......

    Simon H. "Si" Babineau

      |   Visit Guest Book
    Simon Henry "Si" Babineau, 83, died Saturday, June 18, 2011, at MetroWest Medical Center in Framingham. Si was born in West Harwich, May 4, 1928. He graduated from New Bedford High School in 1946 and later served with the occupational forces of the United States Army, serving in World War II in Japan. He was a graduate of RCA Institute in New York City and Northeastern University, earning a bachelor's degree in engineering and management. Si was married to Connie (Ferland) Babineau on Aug. 19, 1950. He worked for Western Electric Company in Watertown, for 30 years as a production and quality control supervisor. He founded and became director of an employee assistance program for alcoholism and drug addiction. Concurrently, he held several officer appointments in local and state organizations. After his retirement, he subsequently became director of similar programs for veterans at the Soldiers Home in Chelsea for six years. Si was very active in St. Jeremiah's parish. He was the founder of the Parish Council, served as eucharistic lecturer, CCD instructor and usher for more than 20 years. For more than 30 years, Si was an instrumental part of the CYO (Catholic Youth Organization), locally and as chief coordinator of athletics for the Archdiocese of Boston, and co-founder and athletic director for the entire New England region. In 1993, Si was one of the first to be inducted into the CYO Hall of Fame. In 1995, Si was honored by the "Salute to Framingham" organization for his work with the youth of Framingham. He received several citations from the Senate and House of Representatives of Massachusetts for his dedication and commitment to the community. Besides his wife, Connie, of Framingham, he is survived by nine children, Paul Babineau and his wife, Connie, of Framingham, Mark Babineau and his wife, Suzanne, of Holliston, Alan Babineau and his fiancee, Kathy Bissen, of Framingham, Linda Hutchinson and her fiance, San Pietroforte, of Upton, Neal Babineau and his wife, Maura, of Leicester, Owen Babineau and his wife, Lisa, of Framingham, Eric Babineau and his wife, Lynn, of West Boylston, Guy Babineau and his wife, Sue, of Hudson, June Bonetti and her husband, Steve of Shrewsbury; 16 grandchildren; and six great-grandchildren. A funeral Mass will take place Tuesday, June 21, at 9 a.m., at St. George's Church, 74 School St., Framingham (Saxonville). Burial will be in St. Stephen's Cemetery in Framingham. Calling hours are Monday, June 20, from 4 to 8 p.m., at the Eugene J. McCarthy and Sons Funeral Home, 11 Lincoln St., Framingham.

  • Paula66
    Paula66 Posts: 1,572
    edited June 2011

    He sure did alot in his lifetime.  You sure are a proud daughter.  You are still in my prayers.

  • sgreenarch
    sgreenarch Posts: 253
    edited June 2011

    Dear june, if the measure of a man is the legacy he leaves behind, your father was a giant. Thanks for allowing us to read about him. His story made me so happy! He filled a life, it seems, with as much living as he could! Married for 61 years? Children, grandchildren, great grandchildren? Served his country. Became an engineer. And then all those good works. I am so sorry for your loss, june. But your Dad is an example to me of someone who used the gift of life to the fullest. For himself, his family and others. May his memory always be a comfort to you and your family.

    Shari

  • tinkertude
    tinkertude Posts: 1,998
    edited June 2011

    JUNE..What an incredible man, !... Thinking about you alot and wanting you to know we are with you!. cry when you need to smile when you can and reach out if you need!...love Maria

  • slinky
    slinky Posts: 166
    edited June 2011

    Every since I have been on Tamox (4 months), my knees are so painful that I cannot even kneel down. My onc said this is not an SE of Tamox. Well, I am here to say that it is an SE! I stopped taking Tamox one week ago and slowly but surely I have returned to normal range of motion with my knees. I can jump up and kneel all the way down to touch the floor - painfree! While on Tamox, I could not bend at the knees and had to bend at the waist because of the pain/swelling in the knees. I love being painfree in the knees!

  • June2268
    June2268 Posts: 926
    edited June 2011

    Shari thank you for your kindness that you wrote.  He was and always will be a giant in my eyes and he did live his life to his fullest.  Us children were his everything, he truly was an amazing man! 

    Ready to carry you all along today as I need my sistas to hold me up!  I have tried everything to sleep and just cannot!!! 

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Posts: 7,545
    edited June 2011

    June - Thank you for sharing your dad's story - what an incredible man.  We are here for you. I better go get in line so I can jump in your pockets. Thinking of you today - (((HUGS)))