how about drinking?

Good morning ladies! Sneaking a in a visit to the lounge to see my bwest fwends...

Yes, Stanzie, that does sound like teenagers. But then you try to leave their dorm room and they cry and say how much they will miss you... About the movie ratings... I once took DD2 to see an unrated foreign film (French, I should have known better) because it was really artsy and there was a three-some - not graphic but obviously the subject matter was inappropriate for a 14 YO and her mom. We always discuss the movie after, so as we were walking to the tea room tested the water..."what did you think of the movie?"... she said, "awwwwkward." So I dropped it. We thought Legally Blonde would be appropriate for young blonde girls (oh, maybe 10 & 12?) so when it came on in our hotel room we tried to watch it with them... until we got to the part in the restaurant when Reese asks her boyfriend if he is breaking up with her because she her boobs are too big... gotta look at the rating I guess!

Oo, Kathy, sorry about the bad coffee. West coast has the best coffee this side of Paris. Thankfully Starbucks and Peet's brought better coffee to the masses but we have local artisanal roasters here. I'm sure Claire has great coffee too. Had our pot of French Press delivered a few minutes ago...

So we left DD all alone yesterday. It felt like she was using us as a crutch so I reminded DH about her transition to her own room when she was 2... how we had to literally pin each other down so we wouldn't run to her when she fussed for less than 60 seconds (though it felt like an hour). When she was about 3, she figured out that we stayed up for a while after putting her and the baby down so she insisted on staying up with us. We had to go to our bedroom and turn off the light so she would think we were asleep, but she kept popping in and needing water or another hug. Daddy finally told her that when we close the door that means we are asleep and she shouldn't wake people... so she would pop in and ask if we were sleeping... sometimes she had to slap me to get a response and then I'd laugh and blow it. DH remembers sitting against our door so she couldn't open it. The idea was that she would figure out that she could go to the bathroom by herself but instead she pounded on the door until he opened it.

DH and I went to "The Help" (matinee) and DD called my phone so I ran out of the auditorium to call her back but she must have butt dialed... she was out exploring with new friends. We encouraged her to try to work out issues with her roommates before requesting a change. They are required to go to a counseling session together (even if there is no conflict) and they are asked to express one thing that the roommate could do to make them more comfortable. We did advise her to get the issues resolved before they cause a distraction with her studies.

Gotta go have fun with DH. Have a great weekend and I'll log in again on Monday!

DorK, What a beautiful prayer for our dear friend Junie.   Love it. 

I'm alive lol.  Still not 100% but feeling much better than I did.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend.  I feel terrible about missing Junie's memorial, but I was there in spirit as we all were.   Again, lovely prayer DorK.

Cheers,

Donna

Hi Loungettes,

We arrived at the church around 11:30 and stayed with the family till after 5! In the church, they had pictures of Junie, as well as flower arrangements, which I will try to post a pic of later. Above that, was a huge continuous slide show with pics of Junie, Junie with her kids, with her grandkids, with Bob, on vacation, etc. The modern version of "Over the Rainbow" (my favorite) was playing in the background. That was so moving, to see her so happy, with those she loved, places she loved, and her fav Miller Lite! I was ok hugging Bob, as I had talked on the phone with him after Junie passed, and shared some tears on the phone. But right as we were in the pew, before the service, I met Bob's dau Laura (Dr. Laura), and the waterworks started. I had tears falling thru the entire service. At one point though I looked down and saw my opened purse, and could picture you all in it, which made me smile inside. I also thought about how so many of you were praying and thinking of Junie and her family, right at that moment. Well, Junie's cousin who is older than she was, and is a minister, spoke about her life from when she was an infant until she passed. He even showed a photo of her mooning him when she was 3! Typical Junie! He talked about how much energy she had, how much curiousity, how smart she was, how she was always wanting to learn about things, how funny she was, how caring she was, etc. It was so nice hearing all that, and getting to know more about her. After his reflections, there were a couple of prayers, and then Junie's family came up, individually, to speak about what she meant to them. Her daughter Kerri, son Jason, stepdau Laura, and stepdau Kelli, as well as Bob, all spoke from their hearts about how much they will miss her, and that they love her. We all had tears listening to their remembrances, and how Bob's daughters thought of her as their "second mom". His son Paul is in Mongolia, but sent a letter, that Laura read,about how much Junie meant to him. Often, it was mentioned that she had a close bond with her cyber friends, and how much we all meant to her. After the service, I got to meet and hug her children (more tears), and talk with them about her. The church had a reception, which was nice. There were people Junie used to work with and drink and have fun with at "Chopsticks", as well as friends she has had for years. In the church, my DH and I sat behind a couple that we met in Tunica when we met Junie and Bob, as they are good friends of theirs. There were air traffic controllers that Bob had worked with, as well as other relatives. Then we were invited to Kelli's house for BBQ and fixin's, and drinks, which was about 35 mi away, and in Kansas. We kept driving betwn Kansas and Missouri so often, I felt like "Dorothy"...when we would come back into MO, I (of course) had to comment that we weren't in Kansas anymore, Toto. Anyway, what a nice get-together. The food was wonderful, best BBQ ever (Jason works there), and lots of other good food. Only ML was in front of Junie's picture, so we drank Bud Lites while Bob had his Dewars, and we toasted to Junie. All of Junie's family was thanking us so much for being there, and they made us feel so welcome and loved.I let them all know that you all were thinking of them right at that time, and praying for them, and some of you were even drinking Miller LItes in her memory. I had an instant bond with her daughter Kerri, and we talked for a long time about our memories of Junie. Between hugs and tears, we each learned different sides of her. One thing that was very hard for me, was being there, with all of Junie's 10 grandchildren, as well as her children and Bob's children (who she loved as her own), and feeling like SHE should be there with her family, instead of me. I mean, in her wildest dreams she never would have pictured ME being there, without her being there too. And her grandchildren are beautiful! They were all so sweet, and I got to meet the newest baby too. It was just hard being there with her being gone. But really, we were welcomed into her family like we were one of them, and felt such love. I am so thankful we were able to be here, and just wish you all could have been here too. But I hope I relayed everything so you can see more than you could see, from inside my purse! We are hoping to meet up with Bob sometime in Tunica, although it may be awhile till he feels up to doing that trip. He's really a sweetie, and you could tell how much he loved his Junie and how much he misses her.

Love you all,

Kathy

Awwww, Kathy, thank you so much for the awesome recap of the day. Gosh, I remember her talking about her new grand baby (step) and wanting to see the baby but Bob had to go alone as she was not up to it. She did often talk about her kids, grand kids and step kids and the love was evident. I am not a bit surprised that her people were so wonderful and treated you so kindly. Kath, had I been there with you, I would have been boo-hooing the entire time. The service sounds like it was just beautiful- the family did an awesome job. I am so sorry you had the feeling of it being "wrong" that Junie was not there with you but I really understand what you mean. A big hug and warm thats for so graciously representing us!  We appreciate you telling the family how much we care about them and how much Junie was loved by us. It is sweet that you and her family were able to exchange stories and see her in a new angle.  And lol about her mooning as a young child, love it!

Pants, get Wahiney Risque Whiskey some Miller Light to chase down a few shots of Seagrams, then a few mixed up...I think *she* NEEDSS this after today.  

I just found out that a group of our young teens were killed today in NJ on the Garden State Parkway and also another four injured.  So very sad. I have a friend, one who will be joining us for our girls reunion end of Sept, lives very close by and the entire community is in shock. It was a gruesome accident with the SUV flipping and splitting, God, I am praying for the families, friends and responders and so saddened by this. Makes me feel like finding my girl and hugging her now. And I feel like having a group hug with you gals too.

Donna, thanks for your comment on my post from the htl chapel. I got mad at DH for interupting me as I was grieviing and praying. So sorry you did not make the service but glad you are feeling better. Let's drink!! Beanie, you in for some shots?

CheerZ! Let's party!

Cheers to Junie!!! I would have gone to MO if it weren't for both my dad's and Avery's b-day's this weekend. I will raise my wine glass (a decent CA cabernet) to Junie! May her wonderful spirit live on and on and on and may she enjoy ML's for as long as she wants to! Thanks, Kathy, for the info. Junie truly lived a full life and leaves a wonderful legacy.....

Janis

Stanzie, glad you didn't help the biotch pass the buck and told exactly what happened. I think I am a bad stick because I have been poked so many time and I can only be poked in one arm. You get scar tissue in the vein and I think they just sort of collapse? NM could probably explain better.

Gail, I can't remember anything in particular, but love the moments when you are trying to be serious with the kids and end up busting out laughing. I miss those days too and was hoping to have grand children to share those kinds of moments with. Hoping your DD does get issues resolved with the new roomie, as you are so right in not wanting it to affect her studies.

Very beautiful DorK, Amen/Barmen. I can not listen to the music in the house, but will try tomorrow on my desk top.

Donna, so sorry you were not able to go too, but better not to spread icky germs around and I think that was the right thing to do.

Kathy, SOOOOOOO glad you got to be there, thank you so much for the play by play, you did a great job, and yes, more than what we could see from your purse. You made me feel like I was there. Made me tear up when you said you felt bad being there with all of Junie's family, when it should be her there. It's just so nice that you got to see and meet Junies family and other friends, and actually see a part of her life.

DorK, such a terrible tragedy, my prayers go out to the families of those kids.

We are heading out with some friends this morning, going boating! See you all in the morning. Happy Sunday. Hey hey Junie, I know you are here, I can feel you! Love you girl.

Kathy, Thank you so much for sharing the service details.  Junie was very helpful in sending me material about what is going on in MO. and Eureka Springs while I am going to be there with the girls. I think this magazine called ShowMethe Ozarks is going to do an article about our get together and if they do, I am going to be sure to mention Junie in it since I know she planned to be a part of it.  I am also including her favorite songs as well as the ones on the list you sent me on the DVD, CD or whatever the thing is I am having my husband put together.  You and Junie will both be there with us in spirit and we will drink a toast to both of you and I think maybe stopping by to visit her husband would be a nice idea if you really think he wouldn't mind.....let me know. 

Hey Beanie,

Isn't fiddle-dee-dee a Junieismn? Awwwwww!

So glad you gotz power back along wit de internet, can't live without these. 

Another stormy day here, who's in the lounge?Let's drink!

dORk

Hi DorK, I thought fiddle-dee-dee was a Mitchism...humm.

Hi Karen, sorry you are stuggling, glad it's not bc and sure hope you can get through it.

Gee, the HTL is awful quiet tonight. Hope everyone is okay. Proly a lot of sadness. Well, as always I'm praying for each of you and hope you are all okay.

Yay, Karen, Kristie and Beanie in da lounge two-nite, cheeRZ!

Karen, sorry you are having a rough time, we are here for you if you want to talk. Sending prayers to you.

Kristie, happy to hear you are nearing the end of treatments. And Gracie sounds like such a blessing with perfect timing. Be cautious of her sharp itty bitty baby teefers and if you get nipped, don't forget the neosporin (to prevent LE). Glad to hear you are happy!

Beanie, I see you hoarding ALL those dog bears, are you dwinking em all? Save some for me. 

Going nighty night now, it is after 11am and I have to get up early as I have two doc appointments tomorrow, dentist in the AM to get impressions for the crown, then PS in the PM to ask a boat load of questions, get a fill and hopefully a new cap/plug for my drain which is not ready to come out still.  Oh well, life goes on. I have a big few weeks ahead of me and am exciting..

Sleep well, my dear bwest fwends.  PEACE OUT! 

Good evening girlz,
Just got home a little while ago....its almost 10:30, long day, will write more tomorrow. Glad you popped in Karen, as I was about to try to contact you, I was getting purdy worried. Busy day tomorrow for you, DorK....will answer you galz later. Glad Beans, Kristy, and Stanzie are in the lounge too.....hoping everyone had a nice Sunday, and that the Dey-B4-Tuesday will be good too! Having an ML right now, and DH and I toasted Junie again....relaxing....made popcorn for dinner....lol....then ready for bed reallly soon. Hugs, RW

Kristie - Congrats on only 2 more rads...I'm so happy you will be done, what a great accomplishment! Also I'm jealous of your fur-baby, wish my life were more settled so I could have a pet, but I have been in the eye of the storm for several years so will have to wait. I' m just so happy you are almost dun!!

DoRk - yay, you are in da lounge too, yippee!! Oh and I'm caught hording dog beers...dang I thot no one was looking, but I really have buckets of them and try as I might, can't seem to dwink em all, so I'm looking for help getting all these down...the gulls did what they could but are now passed out. I will be praying that your apts tomorrow go super great...and just hope that stupid JP goes bye-bye soon!!! Gawd I hate that A$$hole.

Stanzie - Wasn't it you who started the fiddle-dee-dee on here?

Wahine - I'm so glad you got home safely, hope you get rested tonight so you can write us more tomorrow if you feel like it.

Claire - So glad you had a great weekend and it is great to hear you are feeling so strong and able to keep up, you are really amazing...my goodness all that cycling and then swimming and hiking, I really couldn't keep up! Sounds like your weekend was really great!

Well I just worked my tush off this weekend, I've been doing stuff I'm very rusty at and it's good but just exhausting, plus so many worries, anyway I did well and will have another busy week staring tomorrow... I'm so tired I could just fall over and I think I will. T-I-M-B-E-R!!!! K-E-E-E-E-R-R-R-A-A-A-S-S-S-S-H-H-H-H-H-H-H-!

Cheers and sweet dreams to all!

AAAAARRRRGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHhh cannot believe I just lost a verrrrry long post, because I was signing my name.....omg cannot redo it, but am thinking of you all sooooo much!!!! I even had mentioned I was signing off b4 I lose the post.....sheeshhhhhhh...... I mean.... "Fiddle dee dee"!

DorK-that was an odd, but nice dream about Stanzie! Good dreams are fun and nice. I love reading, too, but I usually have no idea who the author is. I do have a few favs, Mercedes Lackey being first and formost, with Janet Evanovich a close second. I enjoy listening to audio books, too.

Stanzie-What kind of business doesn't give customers a copy of the receipt?????? Makes me wonder what they are hiding! I would have been yelling, too!. Can you contact the store owner or local manager? I cannot believe they would rather replace a piece of equipment rather than copy a receipt. What kind of policy is that? Yikes!

AStorm-Your DD marked up the million dollar fridge??? Lucky for her it came off! Sounds like DD's dorm experience is going along the usual lines. At least there is a place to entertain "guests" and still leave some privacy for the roomies. Wow, Liza Chere sure have aged, haven't they? I love the picture of channeling your sweet southern mum! That manager won't know what hit him. Maybe if you call the manager today and tell him/her what happened and that your treatment has you considering changing banks. The manager may waive the fee to keep your business, if not, maybe you should be somewhere else.

Stanzie-sounds like you got a really hi tech washing machine! Sometimes simple is better, but I'm sure you'll get it all sorted out. Can you dissolve the detergent in water and use it like a liquid?

DorK-Jabberwocky was in a play I was in during High School. I heard it so many times that I learned it without trying, and have found it useful for distraction in the past. I have to concentrate just enough to be distracted, but not so much I can't do it if I'm stressed. Yes, you can get another cap for the drain, not sure if the doc will have that in the office. Might have to get it from the hospital OR suite. AS long as it's working it should be fine, but if the drain is falling apart it may be time to take it out. My last drain came out because the stitches pulled out, not because the drainage stopped. Had to deal with a dressing where the drain hole was for a while, but not very long. Just keep an eye on the thing, and squeeze and plug as often as necessary. I know from experience that you can use duct tape on there, too!

Wahine-Hooray for smooth flights and nice rooms! At least that part of the trip is enjoyable. Enjoy the BBQ!

Stanzie-There is no right or wrong way to react to hard news. If you are not freaked out, then that is fine. It's also fine if you get freaked out at some point. Don't waste time worrying about if your feelings are right or wrong, feelings and reactions just ARE. The important thing is weather or not you can keep functioning. A second opinion is always a good thing. Most insurances pay for second opinions for just about everything now. Sorry the teens are so insensitive to you right now. If they don't feel comfortable watching the movie with Mom, maybe they shouldn't be watching it???

Beanie-I've always wondered how much a seagull could drink! I do know about gulls and target practice, that's why we call them Dump Ducks where I grew up. The common shout was "Duck, he's gonna dump!"

Claire-are you saying you had a reaction to the show or to something you took/drank/ate just before? I'm so sorry you had to leave at intermission, that is just not fair! And it certainly is time for some good luck to come your way! Still praying for your perfect job.

Chrissy-sounds like you get really excited about packing for a trip! Good for you! Just remember, if you forget anything essential you can find one here. Good excuse to go shopping!

Stanzie-sounds like Lowes has been treated more than just it's customers badly! Glad you could fill out the form to protect the delivery men. Now we just need to get you a padded hat to wear when doing laundry so the lid doesn't smack your head!

DorK-great prayer, thanks for posting. I was thinking of Junie during odd moments all weekend.

Wahine-thank you for the great description of the day. I feel like I was there!

DorK-I heard about that accident on the news-terrible! {{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}

Jaybird-hope you enjoyed your Dad's and Avery's b-day. Junie would have understood and wanted you to be with them, I'm sure. I'll join you in a toast!

Goldie-veins do develop scar tissue, which makes it very hard to get a needle or IV in. Veins also collapse, it's a protective reflex where the muscle in the wall of the vein contracts when it senses something threatening the vein. The contraction makes the vein smaller, and can close down the vein completely for a short time, making getting blood or an IV impossible. Veins also "roll" or move side to side under the skin, AWAY from the needle. This makes it very hard to get the tip of the needle through the vein wall at the correct angle to collect blood or start an IV. There are ways to stabilize a vein that rolls (pulling down on the skin over the vein, aiming for a fork in a vein where it can't move very far), but rolling can trigger muscle constriction (collapse) and cause problems. When you've only got one arm that can be used it's best to minimize the number of sticks to minimize scar tissue and let the vein get less sensitive so it won't collapse so quickly. Or to get an order to have blood taken from the feet or legs. Some labs don't like to do that, but that is not OUR problem, it's THEIRS.

Karen-sorry you are struggling. There are ladies here who "know people" who can take care of problems if you're interested in that sort of solution. . . .

Husker-Welcome back! Jumping in is good. Hello to Gracie from Sadie! Your done with rads on Tuesday? We MUST have a celebratory party!

Claire-Good for YOU and your personal best! Too bad you couldn't find a nice place to swim. I love to swim and that would be a huge disappointment for me, but it sounds like you found some fun stuff to do anyway. Warm blackberries are sooooo tasty! And there is nothing like a good shower and clean clothes after a good workout!

Oh Pants, Jock-Beanie needs to be placed carefully into a gently swaying hammock to sleep off her overwork. She'll need a good massage, too, when she wakes up!

This message is for the imp of lost posts. STOP IT! Quit picking on Wahine. Quit picking on ALL of us. You are cordially invited to GET LOST!

 DOTD must be the Miller Lite, in honor of Junie.  

Claire - I lost my post last night too but it was because DH was eyeing my screen. I jumped and spilled my wine on the sofa (white, which is unusual for me but paired better with dinner). Told him what happens in the lounge stays in the lounge and he asked if he could come in the lounge. Told him "Never! Some of us are naked and many of us indecent." Sounds like you had a great weekend. DH took my bike down for me but one of the tires needs to be replaced so still no riding for me. I found the absolute perfect ocean ride but I'm still working out how to get there without getting killed. (Literally, we run over bike riders here. There was another fatality less than half a mile from my house about a month ago. My kids' teacher was struck and killed 2 years ago. Hope you are safer where you ride!)  

Kathy - thank you so much for posting about Junie's service.

Stanzie - sounds like you are busy with Back to School too. DD called me several times on Saturday (we didn't tell her we were still in the city as we wanted he to settle herself), but not all yesterday. Trying to give her some space but I couldn't sleep last night... think I'll give her a call soon. I agree with NM on the "feelings"... nothing makes me angrier than someone telling I am too sensitive or that I don't care enough. My PS got fired for that and the new PS made things better for me. DH and I have an ongoing battle where I tell him something is hurtful to me and he tells me that I am too sensitive. I used to blow up at him when he said that but now I calmly state, "It was hurtful to me. I am just giving you that information. Do with it what you will." As for the kids, I have had a really hard time letting them make decisions like whether or not a movie is appropriate. I have been accused of "smothering" but I don't agree. Even DH thought I was too strict with DD1 at times. He used to say, "well when I was her age I used to..." and I would remind him that he and his friends turned his parent's house into a hash den. Maybe that was ok with his parents and they looked the other way, but his parents don't get to decide how we raise our kids. My older DD was very curious from a young age and it was hard to give her some room to grow and still keep her out of trouble. But now that I see all the other freshmen going crazy because their parents aren't around while DD keeps her head, I realize that giving her some slack was a good thing. I am sad that she didn't call me yesterday though ... WAAAAA!

Yes, DorK, you should read Gone With The Wind.

Kristy - YAY! You must be so thrilled!

Beanie - so good to hear from you. Probably smart to keep busy. It's funny how time heals and helps us put things into perspective.

Welcome home, Kymn.

Cheers to everyone!