Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Anyone here familiar with the website findagrave.com? It has a
homepage for each cemetery that can have a photo of the gate, a map of
how to get there. A memorial page can be created for each person buried
in the cemetery. The memorial page can have personal photos, photos of
the tombstone, their obit/life story, and links can be created between
the memorial pages of spouses and parents and kids. There's a tab for
someone to request a tombstone photo. Great web site for doing genealogy
research. 116 million people have been added to the site, all
contributions are done by volunteers. I've been adding memorials to the
site for many years, and am one of the volunteer photographers that
fulfills people's requests. Sometimes I just pick a cemetery and go up
and down the rows taking a photo of every stone and then adding the
memorials and photos.Currently I'm working on Riverside Cemetery
in Fargo, Cass County, North Dakota. I've taken over 18,000 photos at
Riverside, have about 5000 photos left to add to the site. Every month I
go to the office and copy down who has been buried where in the last
month, take the photo of the temporary marker from the funeral home, and
then drive around and see which temporary markers have been replaced
with the permanent stone.So glad I felt good today and it wasn't
too hot out, spent almost 3 hours taking this month's photos. Now I
have a project to work on later this week when I'm hanging out in the
recliner after my chemo, adding the photos to the memorial pages. If you
check out Riverside Cemetery, my volunteer name is Sleuthesthedead.0 -
Carole, I think you are copying me! I had that same thing a few nights ago.... I mean I woke up, and felt so dizzy! It was worse when I held my head up, or looked down!
Today was finally better, but I wonder what we DID? We were like "bumper cars"..... And me being a "Chevy".......
I finally got most of my fence painted.... I thought it was the "fumes" at first, even though I was outdoors.... but don't think that was it.
(What I MEAN is, no-one in their right mind has a fence in their house! So of COURSE I was outdoors!) You all knew that.... thank you for not saying anything.... Cammi.
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Well, make that three of us. I've been dizzy/disoriented for the last hour or so. Tried eating some ice cream to see if some fat and sugar would make it go away.... best excuse I could think of for eating some ice cream. Now I think I'll just sit back and hope for the best.0 -
Oh Wow! It must be in the air! I tried drinking a Chocolate Coke, but by afternoon it was a little better.... I thought, like you Littlegardens, that some sugar would help.
Yesterday for Lunch, DH fixed us a Vanilla ice cream cone....
Today we were at Costco, so I had part of one of those delicious Chicken-bakes..... He had most of a Hot-Dog.... I'll have more of it for dinner....I LOVE their 2-pak of Goat-cheese, and hearing aid batteries are cheaper than anywhere....
Cammi, don't say a word..... I can just HEAR you thinking.....! And where have you been? In the Shower? Partying?
Jackie, did you work today?
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Puffin,I use Findagrave when researching our family trees. Found DH's relative buried in Meadville, PA, who was awarded the Medal of Honor for the 2nd day at Gettysburg. It has been a help to me. Thanks for volunteering your time. If I can figure out how to do it, I would gladly contribute!
Ohio (Bonnie)
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Ohiofan: what are you having trouble doing with findagrave? Be glad to help you out.
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Wren, we are flying into Seattle a couple of days early to sightsee. The cruise does not include our hotel...for that we are on our own. Even though we made hotel reservations months and months ago, pickings were slim in downtown Seattle. Apparently there is a large convention in town during the last week of August. We managed to get a room at Hotel FIVE, 2200 Fifth Avenue. Di, we're on Southwest Airlines flight 281 from San Antonio and we're schedule to arrive at 12:05 on Thursday, Aug. 28th. Gumby, please do plan to join us. How much fun is this going to be!!!
I have several things planned for our time in Seattle, but every moment isn't scheduled so I'm sure we can find a time that we can get together. The day we arrive might be the best. Our only commitment on Thursday, Aug. 28th is a city tour from 4 pm to 7 pm. Once we check into the hotel, I'm free for about 2 1/2 hours until the tour bus comes to our hotel to pick us up. The next day we want to go to Pike Place and the Chihuly Museum. (We are big fans of Dale Chihuly's work.) In the afternoon we have nothing set in stone. I'd like to take a Beneath the Streets underground tour in Pioneer Square but could put that off until Saturday if Friday is the best day for the rest of you to meet. We have to be at the Argosy pier for our Friday 4:30 pm - 8:30 pm boat ride to Blake Island for the Tillicum Village Salmon Bake and Show. Saturday the 30th our Golden Princess ship doesn't leave until 4 pm but we'll want to be at Smith Cove terminal around 12 noon or 1 pm. So Saturday morning is open too. Potential things to do that morning is a visit to the EMP Museum or that Beneath the Streets underground tour if we weren't able to do it Friday. If we don't get to go to either of those it doesn't matter.
Do you want to meet at the hotel bar on Thursday early afternoon?
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Sandra - good laugh from the cartoon
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Late again as usual.
Mimi, My mom is 89 and lives in Creston, Iowa Sw corner. She still lives in her own home. My sisters live in Peru, Ia. There is a wonderful Pub in Peru, Ia, that severs a great tenerloin SW. We always go there.
Hope everyone is Ok, I will be out of touch for a couple of weeks.
Hugs
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Letting go can be a gentle process. Our trust in our Higher Power and our faith that good will prevail, in spite of appearances, eases the process. And we must let each experience end, as its moment passes, whether it is good or bad, love or sorrow. It helps to remember that all experiences contribute to our growth and wholeness.
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"... all experiences contribute to our growth and wholeness." Jackie, your quote really hit home today, but sometimes I forget that or don't want to see that or don't understand that. At the moment I am thinking that not understanding is the hardest to accept.
Happy Wednesday to everyone.
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Not understanding has been the hardest for me too, Sally. Even knowing that this will be revealed at the proper time. If we knew or understood, the things we go through here would not be necessary. My feeling is that having to "live" in an un-knowing state while sometimes almost painful -- will add so much to the "soul" progress that will be made. Still, it is hard to keep going when the why is not revealed. We always question and we should, but some knowledge is not meant for us here. Meaning as in -- if we had that we would not have had to come into a life here on Earth again. We are here to perfect a part of our soul which will grow even stronger and bigger than it already is..........souls have been and will continue to be forever. Our soul has total and complete knowledge of every one we have ever been and everything we have ever known.
The thing is, eternity, or heaven or whatever you might call the place you will go when you no longer need to be "living" on Earth is where we were before we came here and no one would EVER leave if they had full conscious memory of the beauty, freedom and serenity and pure love that exists.
I think no matter where we are we 'grow' and we would grow in eternity as well. I do think though that since there is NO negativity there we grow a whole lot slower. I think some people wish to go a whole lot faster......and this would be the place for a Soul to do just that. There is so much negativity here.....of all kinds. Greed, stealth, murders, treason, hunger, disease, shortages of all sorts of things, disasters. But -- we would all be so terribly reluctant to expose ourselves to these things if we could recall our "eternal residence". In order to be here we must be willing to NOT be able to bring all of our memories along......for one thing we just wouldn't do it and as well.....in this case, if we had full memory, the challenge of growing would be removed.
So, feeling some of this to be the case, being very sure in some of it, while discontent at times, I am willing to muddle through and hope those who guard us while we are here.....and we do have angels and others watching over us ( that is the still small voice inside that does a lot of steering if we just will let it ) I can keep going feeling that I chose ( gulp - gulp ) this life so I could grow my soul a whole lot faster. I will have to be content even when its hard. There is a reason and we will know it someday......maybe a slight amt. here, but ALL and every nuance when we go to our REAL home again.
So, hope I haven't upset anyone. This is just how I see things so here's a disclaimer. I don't require anyone else believe one iota of this....but it is in fact all that comforts me when I get into those "why me " moments in time and helps me to push it aside and move on into a better place.
Blessings,
Jackie
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Jackie, DD feels much the same as you do. She says it's like signing up for a class and then discovering it's a lot harder than you expected. But you did it to learn.
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Hi gals..... So I finally waited long enough to see if the REFERRAL gal at my DOC'S office sent the right code in for my DEXA scan..... Is that what it is? Where they check your bones to see if your bones are jumping ship?
The gal at the Hospital said, everything is okay to set up an appointment.... Then I said, "You know, I'm wondering if I should just not even do this test, because sure as hell they will say I have bone-loss..... (only because I fell like a ton of bricks and broke my hip in the alley.) And that I should take some drug to harden up my bones....
And THIS is what I don't want to do! I'm not refusing treatment, I am just not going in for a test.... Because I don't want to take those drugs, that I have heard so much about!
Jackie, was it YOU that said there are Side Effects, and sometimes the "cure" is worse than the condition, or something like that?
Now I am 77, and figure I eat healthy enough, and sometimes take multi-vitamins, and I'm in pretty good shape.... so I don't want to upset things when everything is working good.... for me.... Does that make sense?
I even took some mineral supplement once, and broke all out in hives.... and not to mention what the Tamoxifen did to me.... so you can understand why I get cold sweats when thinking of taking a new drug.
I didn't even take those pain pills they prescribed after I got home from the hospital!
Are any of you gals on those bone strengthening meds?
Okay, about when we kick the bucket..... I just want to believe that heaven and hell are here on earth.... That my life now, is as good as it's going to get.... But I can always keep trying to make it better...... I want to think that when it is over, it is just plain over.... I pray for all of those that are sick, to be taken care of.... And I thank God for all that I have, and for another day!
I know it is our "soul" that is supposed to live on.... at least that's how I feel..... But I'm happy with my life, and even when things get tough, I ask HIM for help, and for guidance. And when DH is having "issues" I even pray for him.... and would just DIE if anything happened to him....
So I don't know what religion that is, or how I am "classified"..... but I think our lives are in HIS hands, and we have to keep living our lives like HE wants us to live.... Even if that is "forever" !
AND..... everyday IS a gift!
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Ohio....here that button is -- just glance to your left. Chevy -- you are fine. All is right in your world and will stay that way. You make your part of the Earth ( your household, family and surroundings ) as good as you possibly can. Most of the women here are doing that....and there is nothing so MUCH that any of us NEED to do -- if we are fair and decent people. If we love life but accept the limitations and are ok with that. We don't need bells and whistles....just go about life doing what we can --- it is really more about sharing smiles, giving a helping hand if we can. And knowing in our hearts that we love creation and our creator. I don't have a RELIGION or CHURCH. I have Spirituality and it is carrying me around just fine. I feel confident and safe. I know I will be where I need to be and I'm ok with it all. I feel very solid with doing things this way.
Blessings
Jackie
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Jackie! I just KNOW it.... We are truly Sisters! ALL of us can be, whether we believe the same way or not..... whether we are this, or THAT religion!
We just need to live our lives as best we can..... and help others when we can...
We went to visit Theresa in the "Home"..... and she looked GREAT! She has settled in very well.... and no more dizzy spells!
But then a few minutes ago, I forgot BREAKFAST this morbning with the OLDER folks! DANG! We meet every month on the 2nd Wednesday! I plum forgot, but called "Ruthie" and she had forgotten TOO! Hah! We both just laughed!
She was going to call old Ray, and see if he dined alone!
I sure hope not! See, Ruthie is 90.... same as Theresa, AND SHE STILL DRIVES! Now THAT is something we should all think about! Both of these women are smarter than most young women I know.... I used to work with her DH at Coors, and we've been meeting for lunch for over 14 years! You would THINK I would never forget! But I did..... I have just been busy..... that's my excuse! Finished painting the whole fence, AND gate! THEN cleaned off our front-porch!
Also brought home a rug from DD's house, and got that laid-down, and everything is clean now! So I'm having a coke....
OHIO! Glad you like us! We like you too!
Jackie, looks like it's just me and you babe..... Ha! Talk to y'all later! xoxoxoxo
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Chevy, it makes me feel good to know that Theresa is doing well. And no dizziness! Isn't that something?
You don't think Theresa sent that dizziness to me? LOL! I am able to do my usual activities. Today dh and I biked. But I feel a bit drunk.
Chevy, if you've decided you will not take any meds for bone deterioration, I don't see much reason to do the dexa scan. Of course, your bones may be fine and that test result would probably make you feel good. It's entirely up to you.
Post a picture of your painted fence.
Jackie, I am not in the least offended by your stating your beliefs. I seem to have a lot more questions than answers. About most things! I do find it hard to accept the theory that everything happens for a reason. I think there's a lot of luck and chance in life. I don't believe some Master Puppeteer is pulling strings on all the millions of people alive at any one time. Up to now I feel I've been pretty fortunate.
Hi to everyone.
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Chevy - I was diagnosed with Osteopenia a couple of years ago. I took one of the bone drugs for awhile, but decided it wasn't worth it so my GYN said to take CitraCal with D - 4 pills a day. In 2007 I quit smoking & quit drinking cokes - both known to accelerate bone problems. As of two years ago, the DEXA scan showed downward progression had stopped & I'd actually gained more bone back, so now I take just 2 CitraCal w/D vitamins a day along with my Centrum Silver. At 70, I will have the scan again this year since I'm curious what all the chemo & radiation has done to my bones - but I still won't take the bone drugs. You go girl!!!
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Hi peeps, nope Jackie not offended....chevy I was on zometa but he stopped it a while ago, have no idea what he will do now that I am off chemo...going to him on Friday (mo)I am feeeling goooooood cept for the breathing, and have to worry about doing too much...
how is everyone?
ME
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How do I get so far behind and then I can't remember and my sarcasm is tainted, except for Chevy whatever u wrote in my head I feel sarcastic that moment, but lucky you I forget.
Jackie however u believe I think it's wonderful that u tell us, it makes so much sense and u are very spiritual, which I believe is beautiful.
Anne I don't know how u do it, everyone gave u such caring input, I really can't add to it, but I will say be cautious--This man is having big problems and to me it is scary. I know I'm not saying anything u don't know---This seems black and white answers but then again I don't think so, there are o many variables. Tough decisions for u.
And the cruise is almost here, it seemed so long ago when u were planning it, it's just a couple of weeks away, Good for u and to have face time with Di and whoever else can make it sounds super great.
Teacher that really looks bad, I'm so glad u got help right away.
I like the wine popsicles, clever too.
My sister got a spider bit and it was so bad her whole leg was affect by it. she finally went to the ER and one Dr. knew exactly what it was and she was treated immediately and was fine. But it looked terrible.
My boss stopped by tonite and I just have to say how I love him. He's so nice and sweet and his pregnant wife is so nice and beautiful too. They match.
OK my brain is muddled--Carole I hope that dizzy feeling has left--u could have some kind of inner ear thing going on. And Chevy u'r dizzyness is probably cuz u'r a dizzy broad.
U gals are all so great.
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Hi all ...
I am not offended by belief discussions. Actually, I enjoy hearing everyone's opinions because I enjoy thinking about all perspectives.
Blondie, glad to hear that you are mostly feeling good.
Carole, am sorry about your dizziness. My step-daughter in her fifties is dealing with that too.
Chevy, I too would like to see a picture of your fence. Thanks for the update on Theresa.
MinusTwo, I was very interested in your bone density post. When I took my first dose of Fosamax a week ago, I had a week with tiredness and minor headaches and some foot cramps. I blamed the Fosamax generic and did not take this Monday's dose. I realize my anxiety could have caused the tiredness and headaches ... maybe even lack of water which could also explain the foot cramps. I plan to try it a least once more and see how it goes. I already take Arimidex, Synthroid, and simvastatin generic.
I broke for dinner, so there are probably other posts I did not see. Have a good night everyone.
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Carole, I too feel some concern that you are still a bit dizzy. Is there a walk in clinic available to you ?
Hmm, I don't believe in luck and chance at all. Although, from long habit I might sometimes say some thing like " as luck would have it ". I also sometimes joke and say..."well !!! If it weren't for bad luck, I wouldn't have any at all. When I started studying spirituality....I soon felt luck and chance were way less real to me and it is to the point where I do not think of them at all. Not like most people do. But then again --- we are all where we are 'meant' to be and so whatever you feel or sense is right for you -- and your beliefs too, are what is RIGHT for you. It is better to not work too hard to "change" someone or even try much to sway them to your thinking. They NEED what they have which is why they pretty much hold onto it and they will go full circle with it. It will change.....when it is time, if it is what they feel and need. The individual person is responsible and responsive -- no one needs to do much. If they wish to share something meaningful that is fine, but each soul knows what they need and will avail themselves or not.
No point in making it difficult, or making things un-attainable, or making anyone feel less for any reason. We are all old souls on the same journey -- some take a plane, or some a boat and maybe others just ride a bike. No one is wrong or making a bad choice. So, I don't worry too much about how others do the religious, spiritual part of their life. There isn't really a right and wrong too much.
Well, then, I'm going to finish here and go get in my recliner. Long day, but a pretty good one.
I hope you have all had a good. Waving at everyone.......
Blessings
Jackie
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Chevy, I think your bones are probably ok or your hip would have just shattered. I have osteopenia and am trying to keep my calcium up. If your bones are bad, you could just wear bubble wrap and cushion your fall. The DEXA just takes a few minutes. There a few things you have to stop taking - like calcium for 3 days before.
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As always it is late, spent the day packing for our trip to Iowa, what a job, DH went to the broom shop had a fairly good day. We are leaving at 6 AM in the morning hopefully. Will stay out tomorrow night and be in Iowa by late evening on Friday. Printed off my Iowa State Fair Tickets today. Hope the weather is not to hot. Had a nice shower this afternoon, it is funny if it says we have a 50 or 60% of rain it does not rain, if we have a 20% chance it does.
Took DGD to Dr. on Tues. for physical, every thing ok, except she is a little over weight. I think that will change when she goes back to school and does not snack. She is 5 ft. 5 in, above the percentile for her age. Can not register her for school until we get back.
Will post if I am able to get to a computer.
Hugs and everyone stay well and safe
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I'm worried about you girls having dizziness, vertigo, or imbalance. I used to think all those were the same thing, but after my brain stem stroke, I learned the difference. If this doesn't go away in a day or so, think about getting it checked out, especially if you also have an abnormalities in your eyes, ears, or your voice.
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Had an awesome time at the Look Good Feel Better class, so much fun, learned I was wearing my wig wrong and now no longer need the bangs trimmed. Lew took my picture when I came home but too tired to post it tonight, will try and post tomorrow.
Labs drawn today, passed everything so it's a go for tomorrow's chemo. Have my list of questions ready and my bag is packed, port cream ready, bag of flavored ice chips and my homemade popsicles ready to go into the cooler.
Have also started my dexa so may be back on at 3!
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Speaking of DEXA scans, I'm getting mine tomorrow. Wren, I was told no calcium for 24 hours. Hope the 24 hours was right, 'cuz I ate cheese yesterday....0 -
Here's my new look after the Look Good Feel Better Class, though I
don't plan to recreate it for chemo today, just going to slap on a chemo
cap! Have an appt with dietician during chemo, hope she has some
suggestions to avoid diverticuli problems this round.
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Puffin, you look MAHvelous! You're not even sick! You can't fool us! You can kick that chemo to the curb! Just hold your head up high, and believe that you can get through this without any hint of a worry!
Carole, yes, my fence is finished! I'll take a picture....and then I'll post it after jump through 20 hoops to figure out how to put it HERE!
Also, I think I meant something that is not exactly what I kind of said! I mean, that I can always find a reason when something good happens..... Or else even like when my Dad was soooooo sick, and just out of it.... I just prayed for God to take him to be with Mom... He was moaning, and just out of his head, on that last night...
Even my Mom! Same thing.... I begged them to give her more morphine, because whe was just yelling, and seeing her so helpless like that, I just wanted to wrap her up and take her OUT of that place, and OUT of her misery! I went running down the hall, and told that nurse, she HAS to have more.... but they said "It will just put her to sleep." So I said, but she is moaning and hollering! THEN they came in, and increased her Morphine......
It was then that I wanted her to just PLEASE go to sleep, and no more pain.... no more nothing... and HE answered my prayers.... So I wanted to believe my folks were taken because that was the only way out.... no more pain and suffering....
We dismantled my old ancient computer yesterday... THAT worry is gone.... And I'm still finding more bells and whistles on THIS one! I just LOVE the Windows 8 on this new Dell!
Wren! That's a good thought.... that my Femur COULD have shattered! Ha! THAT'S what I'll tell them, if questioned on my thought process, not to mention my sanity! But I WILL start taking those supplements.... "just in case."
Mommarch, so happy everything is sailing along with your DGD! You sound happy!
Sandra.... Okay, my dizziness is now gone.... BUT you mention you had a stroke? Did it affect your hearing?
That's why I quit taking Tamoxifen after 1 1/2 years, because I had a stroke near the 8th cranial-nerve, which caused my loss of hearing... like overnight! Both ears!
Tamoxifen in CERTAIN people with a CERTAIN gene are more prone to strokes with Tamoxifen, and that is what happened to me.
I wear hearing aids, and it will never be the same as normal hearing, BUT I can hear good enough.... like when I want to..... but SOMEtimes I don't want to hear "stuff"...Ha!
But the dizziness I had, could have been related to me painting that fence? Maybe the fumes, if even a little, caused that temporary feeling....
Okay.... I gotta go out and watch a Sunrise! xoxoxoxoxo
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