INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours

to the East Coasters:

HAPPY NEW YEAR gals! Hope you all had a quiet and peaceful one....! Okay, first..... SASS! What do you mean your toe-nails are too long for shoes! The first picture that comes to mind are the ones of Howard Hughes! YEE GODS girl! Gotta trim those things! If they are 2 inches beyond your flip-flops and sandals, ya gotta whittle those things down a tad!

See, I don't have to "trim".... that is being just lady-like. I have to file from the tops! With a long-handled callous remover! My feet were frozen when I was little.... and I lost my toes nails, because the toes were froze, and they never grew back right... So they grow UP instead of OUT! Ha, ha! Now that I have you all feeling bad for my condition, we'll just say my toe-nails are not normal.... but I keep them under control.... Hah!

And yes I remember that time.... Made me feel bad.... mostly for her going back and apologizing for being on our thread.... Made us feel like a bunch of drunken sailors! Now THAT'S another story....! It's like we might forgive people, but we can't forget how they made us feel.

I'm not so sure about this forviging thing either! Do any of you gals have IN-LAWS that have done or said things to you, or about you and your Husband? And you found out about it?

Or found out how two-faced they are, and you didn't even KNOW it? And they pretend to be all nice, and sweet when you talk to them? Or around them?

What hurts most is finding out your Husbands relations are all a bunch of sneaky people, and it hurts YOU, because it hurts your Husband.! And what's even worse, is my DD was not included in their Christmas Eve family traditional dinner.

I can understand them all not wanting to be around my DH when he drinks... I don't want to be around him EITHER! But to find out their answer to that is to just forget we even exist? To be nice to him every other day, but "he's not "family" enough to be included in their annual dinner?....

And to hear it was a "last minute thing?" I may be dumb, but I'm not stupid.... Ha!

See DD saw all these pictures on Face Book.... about this huge family Dinner.... And asked "but why weren't we invited?" And so I'm here telling her "Honey, those pictures were taken from years ago".... And I was probably taking the pictures, so that's why we weren't in them".... So I looked at them... and my heart just dropped... Everyone was there.... but not us.... So I called SIL and asked her, did you go last night? "Well, yeah, but it was a last minute deal".... From then on, I don't even remember what we talked about.

So our girls figured out, it's because their Dad drinks when there are family get-togethers, and no-one wants him to go over..... So she doesn't get invited either.

And honestly I can see their point... Both DH and I grew up this way... both of our Fathers were always drunk.... Everyone hated to be around them... My Mom stayed with my Dad.... come hell or high-water.... and she didn't like it, but she stuck up for him.... He was hers to deal with. So I am being my Mom now.... I know how she feels.... It's okay to talk about them ourselves, but we don't want anyone else to talk about them....

It just made me mad as hell at all of them! And made me feel so sad that his family would choose to ignore him and our Daughter. And it was ME who hauled all that beer for my BIL! Remember how I said my new car ain't no beer-hauler? But BIL wanted it for their party....! SIL says they all got chit-faced... by that time I didn't even want to hear it.

And I bought my car from his Nephew! The same one who he sold his '57 Chevy too... And was given the snow-blower and all of his hunting and fishing equipment.... AND guns! We all had so much FUN when they came over, and signed the papers... So they had the dinner at their house.... with all the rest of the family... just not us Guess I should be glad we don't have to be part of the family anymore.... Guess we don't need anybody else, right?

We have each other.... that's all that matters.... 59 years with this man.... and I honestly love him more now than I ever did... We've been MARRIED for 57.... Sure he makes me mad, but by morning it's all over with... we still have each other... and our Daughter's.....

So my New Years Resolution is to just take care of my family, and don't worry about anything else... Nothing else matters.

Chevy-I'm sorry that happened. Family stuff can be so hurtful and stressful! I made it my goal these holidays to just focus on my little family and not deal with the outside drama. Sometimes that is the best way to be ((hugs))

Sass-on the family member...turns out the letter she received telling her no cancer, was about her lymph nodes. I didn't see the letter, but she says it was very confusing and misleading. I think she just panicked and called a few people, then it got to me. haha, funny how I'm somehow now the BC expert. I did talk to her previous to the letter, we spent about an hour on the phone talking about what was happening. She's the girlfriend of sister-n-law's brother...so don't know her well. I just felt led to reach out to her.

I think about Kristine too, and her family. I hope they are doing well or as well as can be expected. I imagine it was hard to leave her dh and kids behind

LMG-ya'll doing okay over there with the ice? Just rain out this way, bummed because we had wanted a little ice

Well, I'm hoping 2015 is a MUCH better year than 2014.

((hugs))

Okay, I'm a car authority! I have one! It's a 2011 Chevy Cruz.... what kind is yours? I don't have heated seats....nor remote start! Yours must REALLY be fancy! Nor automatic climate control....I don't think.....

Teka and Tang.... Yes.... we move on..... can't do anything about ignorant non-caring people.... even if they ARE family members. I just talked to my little Brother.... He is 76, a musician, and lives in Nashville. We just laugh and act silly on the phone.... He is such a kick! I love to act the Big Sister part....

Spookie.... Make LilDutch tell us what kind of car she has.... Tell her about your chevy Spark....

Tang.... I know..... His family is just not worth it.... It's only one Brother, 2 Nephews, and 2 SIL's and I wouldn't give a tinkers darn for any one of them.

Too all my supportive friends here. Thanks for being part of my life...Lots of love....

Sorry, some New Year's Eve survivors stopped by here. My new car is a 2014 Chrysler 200 S group Touring.

oooooo sounds nice! Unlike SOME people, have you figured all the stuff out

Wren, I am....! Exactly..... you know. And for DH.... knowing that his family will see him on their terms... but not when they all get together.... We all used to be sooooo close. Every Holiday and Birthday was spent together....

But now I can think of other "things" that have happened.... but I still won't say anything more to DD.... because I can tell it made her feel bad too.... for what they did to her Dad.

When my Folks friends did this.... after my Mom died, I couldn't figure out why my Dad wasn't invited to their "Retirement party!" I was.... but not him.... And it just hurts when people you love are hurt by other people.... especially "family."

But at least I know..... I know now, to just take care of my own..... and you gals!

Okay Spookers! Go run out and take another picture of your thermometer! It is 31.5 degrees here right now! Almost up to freezing..... Haaaaaa! So Spook.... does your car have blinkers? And a steering-wheel .... Heater? 8 track tape player?

Well, generally speaking...... and with much contemplation, your beautiful new car DOES pass our inspection..... Ha, ha! I love it Dutchess! Does mine have fog lamps? I have to check that out.... But we don't go driving in hazardous weather....

I LOVE black cars.... but mine is a pretty Silver.... They call it Diamond Silver..... meaning it has ground-up little diamond chips in it probably....