Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?

I like that quotation, Jackie. 

It's crazy what people have to go through to adopt, but the end result is so worth it.

26 and it's been snowing for 5 hours. I've had enough. Tomorrow we are supposed to get our rescue pup and this mess and the re freezing tonight will most likely delay it. I am ready for her when we do get her...18 month old schnauzer-terrier mix named Charli. I have a new bed, toys, and treats ready for her to settle in.

I'm so glad Mike is holding his own Sandra! Sounds like they are on the right track, and he is in good hands!

Don't worry about your Daughter.... We have two, but don't have any sibling rivalry... They have stayed close all their lives.... even after big Sister threw the phone across the room at little Sister when they first moved in together... It all worked out, and now, the big Sister in Orlando thinks her little Sister (54) is like her own kid. They just love each other to pieces.

We just did our Quit Claim Deed.... and had all that other stuff taken care of years ago... I don't even remember now which one was named first.... because it doesn't matter! Isn't it usually the oldest one first? Or whoever is "closest" to you.... You are in control here Mom.... don't let it bother you.... You are doing this for them, and if one feels miffed for how it was worded, that is really just their problem.....

Some families are just different.... and then SOME are ..... for a lack of a better word, dis-jointed! Some families don't even talk to each other.... Or know where their Son or Daughter even IS! Some leave their kids as they are growing up, and never have anything to do with them again.... Same with the kids...

You just take care of your business, and don't worry if someone's feelings get hurt.... you didn't MEAN to.... You have a lot on your mind right now..... so it's okay.......

Sandra -- it is good news that Mike seems to haven taken a good up-swing in doing the chemo.  We just never quite seem to know how anyone's body will respond to things and I'm sure glad that the chemo seems to have provided a holding pattern for now. 

Sure sorry to hear that Stephanie  is feeling shoved into second place.  I'm sure it has been really disruptive to both girls that you, their father and them have had to confront this issue and feel the worries and stress.  Like Chevy -- I think in time she will see that when there are TWO someone has to be second and that is all this means.  In all the upset -- it is easier  to focus on this detail probably for Stephanie -- then the major part of the confrontation of what is happening.  Still, I hope she will soon realize that your love and care for her is just as strong -- but you are making natural, normal choices so that life will carry on with way less bumps and pot holes for all concerned.  Comfort for everyone with details that are settled so a strong focus on as much health and harmony can take place. 

I hope your daughters can just share in the love and warmth -- and not get lost in paperwork details.  I'll be praying for that.

We are awaiting three to six inches of snow this afternoon.  A bit of sun it trying to show itself, but it is pretty cold out.  I'll get all my running done this morning when I go out to feed the feral cats -- then back home to stay in and watch anything that comes from the warmth and coziness of the indoors.  Now that we are so close to Spring I'm not thrilled about the snow which I normally love --- so hanging on here. 

Blessings

Jackie

Sandra, It's a compliment to your relationship that she feels OK to bring it up. Not what you need to hear, of course. It may be a case of the best way not to worry about something big is to worry about something little. I'm happy to hear that Mike is improving on chemo. Wishing all the best for you both.

The snow started this afternoon  -- around 2 p.m. or so I think.  It actually is a very nice snow.  Pretty much coming straight down and very seeable out the windows.  It actually is the kind I really like.  I sort of hated the thought of having " a good snow " so late, but  it is what it is.  At least I really can find some joy in getting one during the day that I can watch and delight in the patterns  of the snow as it "piles" here and there.  Bill, our Black Lab was just loving it -- jumping and cavorting all over.  Though he can handle it fairly well -- he hasn't really enjoyed the colder, slippery, icier stuff we have had --- now a good snow that is not too cold since no wind is blowing seems to help him take full advantage of any fun to be had and he spent the afternoon doing just that.

It is due to snow most of the night I think -- not sure they were really sure -- so it will be telling in the morning when we get up to see what our white world looks like then. 

Despite enjoying the snow --- I will still be thinking of Spring.

Jackie

Hi everyone

Just returned to the hotel from my cousin's daughter's funeral. It started at 1pm and it is now 9pm. It was sad, yet inspiring as well. She has two younger sisters who spoke about the guidance she has given them through their lives. He ex husband spoke about her purity and honesty- the love and kindness she showed to all was genuine and really who she was. But I think the best part was watching her younger son 9. He was struggling thru the service, but first sat on his teenage cousins lap, then when it got to be too much, his step- mother, in the row behind him tapped him on the shoulder and her very quickly moved into her arms, where she held and comforted him. It was very clear that there is real love between them.

It was an Irish wake, so it was back to the house for food and drinks and, yes, eventually Irish music. I was reunited with family I haven't seen in 7 years. It may sound confusing but my mothers best friend (Lily's) sister married my fathers brother. Growing up, we spent many, many hours with Lily's family, especially after her husband died when their daughter, my sister and I were all around 10 years old. We vacationed with them and spent many, many summer Sundays at their house because they had an above ground pool. Lily's mom lived with her, and of course she was also the mother of my Aunt, and my cousins other grandmother. I must have been 13 or older before I ever realized that Nana Burke was not really my nana. As first cousins, Lily's kids were at the funeral as well. We haven't really seen or talked to them in over 40 years. I was telling the son, Tom, that the very first official date my DH and I had was at his wedding.

It is so hard saying goodbye to someone so young and so good. It was wonderful catching up with family and almost family. It was good comparing stories with Lily's daughter who has gone through BC twice. And talking with one of my cousin's daughters about my radiation and other treatment. She is a radiology tech. It was tough watching my cousin trying to hold herself together on what was no doubt the worst day of her life. It was good to hear another's cousin's wife talk about her son being gay, for the very first time. Although we have all known for years, it was an unspoken truth. Today, his mom spoke, very naturally about her son's lifestyle and the fact that she loves him exactly how he is. He is her son, and that is all that matters. It was a day filled with emotion, and it was good to share it with family. I feel sorry for those that did not make it there. They missed a time of family bonding and remembering this is what family is and how important it is to be there for each other, in good times and bad.

RIP Patti - you will be missed, but you will always be loved by each and every one of us.

Thanks for letting me put my feelings on "paper".

Anne

And when we come to think of it, goodness is uneventful.
 It does not flash, it glows. It is deep, quiet, and very simple.
 It passes not with oratory, it is commonly foreign to riches,
 nor does it often sit in the places of the mighty:  but may be
 felt in the touch of a friendly hand or the look of a kindly eye.

 David Grayson

Woopie Wahoo......did we ever get the snow.  7 to 10 inches Dh says and I believe it.  We got out and dug our way out to the dog pen and fed them --- then we moved what seemed like tons off the deck and shoved our long, long walk-way out to the parking area.  We still have a lot of shoveling to do.  I have the artificial sun on in my computer room here -- so feeling good that way.  Not looking forward to going back out.  Not sure if we will be able to get out today at all, but then save for the feral cats, there is little reason. 

I got some groceries yesterday and had a pot of chili made for yesterday afternoon.  The leftovers will turn into chili mac which is a favorite of ours.  Have steel cut oat meal ready for breakfast today ---  so nothing is truly bad for us.  The township brought their snow plow out ????? no idea when, but they must not have realized our neighbors to the left had come out for the week-end.  They stopped plowing right at our drive-way.  We have to plow out to it and try to clean up the area where the town-ship moved the snow.  I'm just thinking --- wow !!!!  This late storm this yr. and I may have trouble for the first time since we have been home getting my car out.  I do think the snow is soft enough that if I can just get going --- I could run over the top of the snow ----  but since I would have to back out ---- hmmmm, I don't think I have any real maneuvering  room.

Fortunately, cats can in fact go a few days w/o eating if need be -- about 5 days to a wk. before you might have to really worry.  I will only be stranded for today.  I'm fairly certain by tomorrow --- we will be coming and going like always.  It is due to get warm enough to rain in a couple of days so this will not last that long I don't think -- just a mite troublesome while here.

I hope you are all safe and sound and can stay in if possible. 

Thinking of you all and wishing you well.

Blessings

Jackie

Sandra thanks 4 checking in, sorry  4 all the drama, girls, lol.. hugs 4 all of u

Home tomorrow 

Anne,  I am so sorry for your family's loss. that was a lovely post.  

Blondie, glad you are heading home. You will feel better there

Thankfully we had just snow flurries today not all the snow they predicted

Hope everyone has a great week

Jean, you're having more than your share of health challenges.  I didn't know about a dangerous drug list.  It's nice for your brother that he found a companion.

Blondie, yay for going home!  I hope you settle in comfortably after the long absence. 

We had 1 1/2 in. of rain last night.  It's overcast so far this morning.  We're supposed to be in the 70's on M, T, and W and then have a 30 to 40 degree drop by Thursday. 

We're having morning coffee and watching the local (New Orleans) news.  A dr. in nearby Covington was shot and killed by his wife.  I'm curious about the details but so far just a trailer across the bottom of the screen.  Years ago I was a patient of this dr. 

Guess I will get some housework done today and make some turkey stock with the skeleton of the turkey I cooked yesterday for noon dinner at my mother's house..  I may have to send dh to the supermarket for some onions. 

Wishing everyone a good Monday.

Blondie, how fantastic that you will be home soon.  I'm thinking it is today since your post was 11 hrs. ago.  Anyway, that is just wonderful.  There really is nothing that compares much to the comfort of home. 

Jean, you really are having one issue after the other.  I sure hope it all gets sorted out.  Hoping that Spring is going to help everyone and everything.  Hope I am right.  We are looking out at our snow and un-plowed parking area.  I told Dh not to bother the hours it would take to put the snow blade on the tractor.  It is going to be 50 in a couple of days.....and, I don't think we are going to actually keep getting snow -- this and anything later on is usually a sort of 'freak' storm.  No point in going through all of what it takes to put the snow blade on now.

Carole, I think when our weather warms we will get the rain you are having now.  I am so fortunate that Di was so kind as to send me the sunshine lights.  Had it on all of yesterday.  No sun, but there was in my office here.  We were outside a number of times pushing snow off the deck and clearing the long sidewalk from our kitchen door to the parking area in front.  Then on to town where we cleared paths so we/I could get to the feral cats.  Dh helped but then I helped him all day here.  Glad he did -- by the time we got to the 'cats' I was starting to wear out on shoveling and tossing snow. 

Don't know if I mentioned here we have a snow cat.  One of the cats the neighbors ( thanks a bunch ) left when they moved just was jumping, crouching in the ruts and cavorting all over.  She seems to think it great sport to crouch down in a rut and jump at anything or anyone that happens by.  It was fun to watch her and made being out a lot more pleasant. 

We have some sun outside which is really nice this morning.  I hope you are all able to have some too.  I'll be back later on.

Blessings

Jackie

Bonnets.... Maybe it's just me, but I also heard that magnesium was goof ror leg-cramps.... but for some reason, I break out in hives....

I had that rapid-heart-beat for about a year.... brought on by stress, but I know the caffiene I got, made it a lot worse.... Mine started with stress.... but then it really took a-hold, and took forEVER to calm down.... Hope they find a cause and a cure!

Jean, I hope you are feeling better and you can find out what caused all your discomfort.

Carolehalst, that was a pretty good rainfall. We are to have freezing rain tonight into the morning. It will make for a fun drive into work.

Today is 5 years ned. Today five years ago I was called and informed I had tested positive for BC. I see my onc. next month and pd the end of this month. In a way I am nervous about not taking femara anymore and on the other hand excited about not taking femara anymore.Kind of silly? That year we were told on my birthday and a week later on our anniversary we were sitting in the oncologist office deciding what we would do.

I talked with all our boys and grandchildren today and one son that lives close to us stopped by for the evening. Some that live an hour away will be in this weekend.

Hoping everyone has a good week and weather gets warmer