Topic: Welcome to The Worry Bar

Forum: Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts — Meet and support others who are affected by these issues around anxiety, depression & other emotional effects.

Posted on: Mar 23, 2021 02:36PM

Posted on: Mar 23, 2021 02:36PM

2019whatayear wrote:

I'm doing an online Zoom MBSR (mindfulness-based stress reduction) class from gilda's club. Last week the class was about accepting thoughts vrs have an aversion to thoughts. That resonated with me and now I have a coping mechanism that is taking shape and seems to be reducing my scanxiety and FOR (fear of recurrence)

When I have a worry, I imagine that I am the proprietor of "The Worry Bar" and welcome the thought and invite it to take a seat. I tell it, you can stay here as long as you want, but I get to choose your drink. Scanxiety is at the end of the bar today drinking raspberry lime kombucha. I know this may sound silly, but I'm finding it kinda works. I def. have less anxiety than unusual about how I need to call and schedule a routine follow-up scan on Thursday. Entering The Worry Bar as I type that is "Afraid to look forward to my anniversary on 4/2 because then maybe something bad will happen when I get the scan" She is super annoying so even though she wanted iced coffee she's getting a chamomile tea because she needs to chill out.

Sharing in case this sort of mental game helps anyone else :-)

5/6/2019 IDC 2cm, micromet 1/9 nodes, BRCA2+, ER+, PR+, HER- BMX 6/2019, A/C & Taxol 2019, Radiation, BSO - preventative 2/2020, Letrozole 3/1/2020, Started Lynparza for 1 year preventative on 7/18/2021
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Mar 23, 2021 03:36PM annabelle2 wrote:

I like this! I'm going to try to come up with something similar (and just contacted Gilda's Club to see if I can get some help after struggling alone for 3 years). Thank you for sharing this Smile

Dx 2/9/2018, IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIIC, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 3/9/2018 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 7/18/2018 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left) Radiation Therapy 8/15/2018 Whole breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Surgery 1/22/2019
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Mar 23, 2021 04:40PM mountainmia wrote:

I took MBSR through my hospital in 2014, prior to cancer diagnosis. I had in particular a relationship issue that had triggered severe anxiety and depression. Even though I was through the worst of it, I still had clean-up work to do.

I created a room similar to yours, for that person and a handful of other "troublesome people" in my life. They especially would visit me as I tried to go to sleep, keeping me awake or giving me a poor night's sleep.

I made my troublesome people stay on the screened deck. Some parts of the year that's a pretty delightful place, but it would be pretty uncomfortable to sit out there overnight. There is only a door into the house, none out to the yard. There's no bathroom available. I would tell them, I can't keep you from showing up, but you have to stay on the screened deck. I'm not going to entertain you. I'm not serving you a drink. You can't come in for the bathroom. Once they were there, not inside with me, I would go to sleep and sleep peacefully. It honestly still amazes me how well it worked, and after a while, they quit showing up so much.

I haven't used this method much to deal with health anxiety, but if I practiced it, I'm sure I could make it work.

Thanks for bringing it up. I hope others get some benefit from it, too.

The rain comes and the rain goes, but the mountain remains. I am the mountain.
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Mar 23, 2021 05:58PM 2019whatayear wrote:

Yes def. take advantage of Gilda's Club they have many virtual programs right now!

Mountain Mia. I love this. No bathroom breaks for the troublesome :-)

5/6/2019 IDC 2cm, micromet 1/9 nodes, BRCA2+, ER+, PR+, HER- BMX 6/2019, A/C & Taxol 2019, Radiation, BSO - preventative 2/2020, Letrozole 3/1/2020, Started Lynparza for 1 year preventative on 7/18/2021
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Mar 23, 2021 06:02PM moderators wrote:

2019whatayear -- this is great! Thank you for sharing! We're sure this conversation will be helpful for many managing the worry and stress that comes with a diagnosis. We hope this thread stays flowing and others offer suggestions or experiences they've found helpful!

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