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May 13, 2018 03:06PM
LoriCA, I agree, nature is where we need to be as much as possible (that is after being curled up in a warm bed). Good on you for finding an interest after your career, and one that was so completely different. Surely an RV trip would be a great experience, allow you to do more writing and photography in relative comfort, and with all the good wifi around could your hubby not do his thing? But, I'd suggest doing a trial run. Rent a vehicle and get out there for a bit to see if this really is a thing for you both. Then you've not burnt your proverbial bridges.
The discussion you had on planning your future is one we don't hear enough of outside the Stage IV boards, and good on you for sharing your thoughts here. There are so many variables with health and with relationships and with financial matters, that each cancer patient has to weave a way through the quagmire to arrive at a plan.
Like you, I'm a great planner, and although not Stage IV, I do have two cancers and have had two strokes. To this end, I have wrapped up my career, planned estate matters, got the financials in hand, and gone reduce, reduce, reduce with all the possessions, personal papers, memorabilia and all the stuff that I know my kids would not want to be burdened with. I've never felt better, physically or mentally, and am living life to the full. I particularly like BCO where, for some reason, men don't come, so I can be the resident male bc guru. But I write for a lot of other cancer websites, have a high profile in the local community of environmental topics, and get plenty of time in our large garden. I know we are at all different stages with our disease, but I hope we can all reach an equilibrium with life apart from the worries of this shitty disease.
Fran, I get the joy you've experienced from the actions of your thoughtful son. He's on target for growing up way faster than the statistical average in the modern era!
NED breast and prostate cancer. More on Male BC
Dx 03/14, IBC, Lgth. 2cm, Stge IIIB, Gde 2B, ER+/PR+, HER2- ; FEC x3, Taxol x3; Mx & 2/23 nodes; Rads x 33; now on tamoxofin.