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Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
At last - Debbie's surgery is scheduled for April 28th. Was able to get a nonstop flight to Boston and rent a car there on the 26th. Couldn't find a flight to Portland, ME. Have no idea why such a problem but this may be easier anyway. One less airport to navigate although the car rental place will be more hectic. New dog sitter arranged. Will have to change a few appointments in the morning but we're finally moving forward. If we only weren't so worried about her stroke risk!
Continued crazy weather everywhere. What a horrible accident in CO. Stay safe everyone.
Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
Welcome honeymoonkaminiski.
I am heading back to NC to turn prep the cabin for warm weather. I am finally over the cold and bronchitis. I have returned to my usual routine.
Re: Positive nodes with long term survival
Im almost 21 years out with Stage IIIc 22/22+ nodes. ER/PR+ HER2 -
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Living my best life ! You can too !
Re: Poll: How do you manage hard feelings and moments?
What surprised me the most was the disappearance of people I thought for sure would show up for me. I've been very independent my whole life. I'm 42, never married, no children, and I've always been the person to show up. I travel to people so they don't have to travel to me (since they typically have kids). I'm the one who drives and plans and figures it out. I show up for their birthdays and their kids' events, and their kids' birthdays or graduations or recitals. I was relatively healthy up until being diagnosed. No major health issues beyond hypothyroidism and I've never really needed any help with anything. And then suddenly I needed a major surgery (DMX + DIEP) with major recovery, chemo, radiation, lymphedema therapy, and the two small surgeries to have my port installed/removed. It was hardest thing I'd ever gone through and it was like crickets when I looked around for friends to help. I did ask and my mom's best friend who came to visit, but honestly I asked for that more for my mom (who was my main caretaker during all of it) because I could tell she needed her best friend. My mom (73) is 5'3" and 120lbs and I'm 5'11" and 200lbs, so while my mom was there for me emotionally, she couldn't really be there for me physically. Her friend came and they were both able to help me and it was good for me. But my friends who live a few hours away— nothing. They asked when they could come visit me to buy me a wig. That was nice, and they did come and we enjoyed a weekend, but I was exhausted and sad and on the roller coaster that neither really understood. Chemo treatments were me and my mother packing a lunch and spending the day at the treatment center and then going home and me sleeping off nausea and sickness for a few days. My friends who I've known and shown up for time and time again for 20+ years…..just weren't showing up. And that's the hardest part during. The hardest part after has been everyone just thinking I'm done and so I'm better and 'thank goodness you're past all that' when really I'm not. The emotions are heavy and the medical menopause doesn't help and my body doesn't feel like my own and I'm sad and they don't understand any of it. And I have my phase 2 surgery soon and I'm not looking forward to recovery again and needing help again and having nobody show up or understand….again.