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Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
Yesterday was my family birthday party at Bonefish Grill. My BFF was able to find someone to drive her and her guest turned out to be quite sociable. He thanked us for welcoming him and the great meal.
My DGS and my step GS also celebrated birthdays this month so it was a real family occasion. I ordered Bang-Bang shrimp appetizers for the table to share, for my BFF it was a first and she was in love. DSIL had the appetizer and also ended up ordering the Bang-Bang shrimp tacos for her entree.
We had the private room to celebrate in and it was so nice to be able to talk without concerns of bothering other patrons. DGS discussed what he wanted to order with me because of cost (he added on a lobster tail) and wanted my okay. Of course, he can order what he wants to eat. Each guest ordered their meal from the menu including drinks and dessert so there were no regrets.
My DD and DSIL decorated the room and had mini bouquets from Wegmans for each adult female guest to take home. They were lovely and each was in a small wine glass. They had balloons, table runners and it looked lovely. My DB and DSIL gave me 2 bottles of my favorite red wine and 4 gift cards: 2 each for Uno and 2 for Bonefish Grill. Both are close to us and we enjoy having meal there.
All in all it was a nice party and our favorite server was in charge of our room. We love when she is our server when we go for meals and to have her yesterday was a bonus. She's attentive without hovering. Handling 13 guests is not easy either.
DGD had lobster for the first time and loved it. I think lobster was one meal which was ordered most. DH always gets fish.
We had thundershowers last night with some downpours which we really needed. I won't have to water the new plantings much this week since more showers are predicted.
DGS volunteered to help spread the last 11 bags of mulch so he will be coming down for a day or 2. He starts school next Monday and I think he feels bad he didn't help with the other 80. Now he's 16 he can get a job. He did apply for one and is waiting to hear back.
Tomorrow I take my car to the dealer for the annual inspection and an oil change. I'll do drop off because I don't want to sit around at the dealership even though they have this elaborate barista bar where you can choose your favorite and offer snacks as well. I most likely will snag a biscotti though.
Hope everyone has a great day and waving "hi" to everyone.
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Re: Contemplative practices - Affirmations, white light visualizations, healing meditations
@rlschaller After a pretty wild summer, I have been wondering what to do with myself, and tea with a friend sounds like the perfect antidote.
Re: My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer
@norah2024 So sorry to hear of your health struggles lately. May you feel the caring and support of all the amazing women here. Sending strength and healing vibes your way❤️
@candy-678 Hey there, it’s good to see ya. Sorry you’re still having to manage GI issues, Hope you’re able to work around it to get out of the house to socialize with your church friends.
@shanagirl You’re one amazing lady like many others here! May you continue on your healing path and regain strength daily. Fall will be here before we know it and will bring in beautiful days for us to enjoy 🥰
@mara51506 Oh that egg sounds simple and delicious! Would never think about add mayo to it. I have heard mayo while making a grilled cheese is always a good secret ingredient to fry it with.. very interesting.Hope the rice cooker is a fun addition to your cooking collection. I know you will find creative ways to use it!
@tanya_djamila You popped in my head while typing, how are you and DH making out?
All ok here, just enjoying the end of summer the best I can. In all pockets for appts and sending prayers and strength to all who are struggling ❌⭕️
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Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
Tiny yellow beetles invade the campers here during the winter. The door to our camper is very tight when closed. It's hard to imagine how they squeeze themselves through the cracks. One chore on arrival is to vacuum the beetles. They haven't been as numerous the last two years.
Yesterday dh and I went bicycling for the first time this summer. We transported the bikes to the village of Dorset and biked to Park Rapids on the Heartland bike trail. 6 1/2 miles. Then back to Dorset. The return trip was much harder for me than in the past. I was "tuckered out" by the time I arrived at the truck. As expected, I had leg cramps later, back at the camper. A hint from dh's cousin, Cindy, who ran marathons, is to eat yellow mustard. I consumed a couple of tablespoons, drank lots of water, applied Voltaren. Something worked because the cramps stopped gripping my thigh muscles. I slept well and didn't get up this morning until 7:30.
Off to the gym this morning and then to Walmart's with a list. My Monday routine. I'm hoping the dire weather forecast for tonight doesn't bring high winds and huge hail.
Happy Monday. The NYT crossword puzzle is easier on Mondays. I can usually solve it. Each day afterwards it gets harder.
Re: My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer
@shanagirl I am very sorry you have a third bout of pneumonia, no wonder your appetite is poor. I am in your pocket for it to go away. Also in your pocket for an answer to be given on what causes your pneumonia, whether you just pick it up or whether is treatment or cancer related. In pockets for your xray as well.
@candy-678 You certainly sound like you are plugging along despite the stomach issues, in your pocket on that too. In your pockets for scans coming up.
I slept alright last night. Nothing on agenda today, putting garbage out back til I can take it to the curb on Monday. I have been fussy over meals last couple days, going to dispose of anything I am not eating and the ramen, tried one yesterday and the taste was horrible. Second meal was Kraft dinner and there was way too much water. I will still make it but only 1/3 to 1/2 cup at a time. I really need to shift back to just simpler stuff I made for myself to enjoy it more. Ramen is going out with trash, I still keep out back in my bins til time to put out front.
Cats enjoyed their first meal of the day, been stretching time between eating and drinking, 45 mins to an hour. My cats don't get fed once or twice a day, it is better a few times a day and splitting time between food and water is better for Tigger.
I am not sure what I wish to have. Debating different meals, could take some lentils or chick peas, chop them with cheese later today. Right now got Harvey's on the way. Got tomatoes and cheese on burger with onions and mayo as well. Onion rings are included and some cinnamon donuts.
The burger meal with donuts and onion rings was delicious.
Meal 2 was a delicious egg. I put a spoonful of plain mayo and added a ton of cheese dry seasoning, nacho flavor. Whisked up the egg and the mayo with cheese seasoning. Put egg in my mini griddle, OMG was so delicious. I also made a couple of small hashbrowns, heated in mini griddle, they were great as well. Had a yogurt for dessert. Added cherry mio to the yogurt, it was so good.
I also allowed myself a treat of a rice cooker, have wanted one for ages so figured I might as well try it out. 50 bucks on Amazon, coming tomorrow.
Beyond that regular chores going on, did a regular broom sweep, amazing how much fur gets under the step bench between living room and kitchen. Nice I do not trip and fall anymore and put my smaller step device due to the bathroom floor being replaced and it is a couple of centimetres lower. Less of a trip hazard.
I do hope everyone has a good day, in pockets for all who need me.
Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
@cindyny - Sending lots of sympathy. I'd have to call people in to help; couldn't do it on my own. You're a trooper!
Re: how about drinking?
Good morning friends!
Sorry I have been off the radar. I have been working through a gnarly late summer virus that started at the end of July and has had me going through all the phases of it. I am pretty much through it now in all it's glory but it came with some complications like asthma that now goes with any respiratory issue plus I got a weird viral rash this time too (that was a first). Not a normal time of the year for me to get something like this, but I have been spending some time in our clinics the past month with my project so I am blaming it on that. There are SICK people in those clinics! There is always a wave of crud when schools start (which they did the week before last) and then lots that goes around end of August into Sept. It has been a slow crawl out from this but find there is no such thing as a simple cold anymore…
Its been a miserably hot summer here but starting to get the mid- August slight cool down which has us around 90 degrees for hight instead of 100 plus. As much as I love all the things that summer offers here including the festivals and markets, outdoor summer markets, gardening, and outdoor music, it is harder to look forward to things with the increasingly hotter summers. I know I am not alone with this and know it's been really hot everywhere this summer. Plus, some areas are getting TOO MUCH RAIN and having terrible flooding. We have a bad fire to the north of Santa Fe that has been growing but they brought in a hot shot crew from CA and now have almost 500 wildfire fires working on the fire. There are hundreds of fires in the west this year.
Things are rolling along at work and still working to get some things taken care of financially as well as to be ready to go. I am going to have my new(er) car paid off in the next couple months (turned a 6-year car loan into less than 2) and have an HVAC system to update here at the house, plus some work to do with my financial advisors and to prepare for Medicare. I am starting my yoga teacher training next month to get ready for this next chapter and see a timeline between end of the year to March of next year when I reach full SS age. It's funny, I remember in my last year of grad school in the mid 80s being so focused to get my education and get into the workforce, now it's a whole process to be ready to get out of it too! I see my timeline anywhere between end of the year to March 2027 to be ready to go….
Mommy- I am sorry for the additional losses in the family and the family acting out. I have learned that family seems to be at its worst during times when things are not good, especially with sick family, eldercare, losses in the family, etc. I think you have some good boundaries with the problem children and keep those up while you take care of yourself. Sending hugs.
MinusTwo- thank you for thinking of me. I am rising like a phoenix from the ashes once again…
Wallycat- thinking of you too sister and know you are in deep grief with the passing of your DH. I have only way through big losses (or maybe any) is to feel what you need to feel. Do you have the support of a grief counselor or support group? Sometimes can be helpful, it was for me with the loss of a sibling many years ago when I was in my 30s. Please continue to take good care of yourself and sending love across the miles…
NM- hope you and mom are doing okay. Have you been out kayaking this summer? I have such fond memories of Maine in the summer from my youth and into my 20s when I lived there for one summer during college.
Teka- hope all is well in North Country!
Got some things to do to be ready for the work week and hope everyone else here is doing okay, is safe from natural disasters in all their shapes and sizes. Back again soon!
Re: how about drinking?
And then last night my eldest niece tried to pull me into a conflict with my late step-uncle's wife over something stupid. Didn't even get involved as I don't care what the problem was and who got offended over it. I have no wish to upset either side.
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Re: Abemaciclib Verzenio for Stage IV
@seeq thanks for the tip. Ill have a word with my Oncologist this week and see if the Fluconase can help with my nose. I think there's something going on in there because it feels dry, irritated and sore every morning when I wake up. The irritation causes mucus accumulation which forces me to blow my nose, from which I see little drops of blood on the tissue. Tge experience is not overwhelming in any way but because foreign to my body, I just want to get rid of it. May our @going2beatthis Fay's blessed soul continue to rest in eternal peace. She had such a lovely presence 😍 💕 💖
@marcials1 My prayers are with you. Sending you love and hugs ❤️🙏🏻👍 @candy-678 Welcome the world of Verzenio world and may your journey on this road be a smooth one. So glad you've got it under control so far.
Re: STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER
Found this advice online and felt it was appropriate to share:
Some parts of your health journey deserve tenderness, privacy, and time before they become public conversation.
Not everyone asks from genuine care, and some people collect deeply personal details simply because they are curious.
When that happens, your pain can become gossip instead of something held with compassion.
Medical struggles, diagnoses, fertility concerns, and mental health challenges should be shared carefully and on your terms.
The right people will respect your boundaries without pushing for updates.
You never owe anyone a front row seat to a chapter you are still learning how to carry with grace and privacy every day
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