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Re: STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER
@kathrynw1thasea Could you allow yourself to just feel your anger? Just feel those feelings without wondering if you are right or wrong. Maybe do some journaling to let it out and process it. It would be very hurtful to be left out of the decision making process regarding your parents but at least it is done. I remember about your quilting machine-I'd be angry about that too but maybe at this point you should buy one for yourself if you can afford it. It sounds very much like you've been shut out of everything and that has to hurt. Maybe this can be a new chapter where you can visit your parents as you are able and avoid Sister #3 whenever possible. Nice story about your ex-even though things did not work out, how nice that he is still in your life as a support and that your relationship helped him to be a better husband to the woman he eventually married. Peace to you.
Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
Betrayal, definitely get that cross stitch set up and while away the time.
Carole, I’ve purchased the tax software and have most of what’s needed to file. All due 4/15, I’ll file both through the software.
Your mention of sales tax reminded me of a time traveling down here, via TX. I think we were by Loretta Lynn’s ranch, headed back to the main route and stopped in a gift store. I bought a few things for gifts and at check out the total was so off of my estimate I had to ask did something ring up wrong. No, it was their sales tax … I swear it was near 13%. Blew my mind. We pay 8% which we thought was high. I digress!
We had a beautiful sunny and warm day. First good day in some time. All neighbors are comparing our power bills, on how much they’ve gone up now that we put heat on. I think from last month which included Christmas lights and guests, ours went up $20. And in comparison to NY it’s still lower by about $40, and that house is empty!
Speaking of NY it’s absolutely brutal there right now. Winds were causing -21 feel temps. It’s going down to -6 overnight. I keep checking on power, wifi Thermostat and cameras. So far, so good.
We went down to the casino for another free outdoor concert. Weather was great, but attendance wasn’t real high. We’re thinking it was due to the many things going on today. It was a New Orleans funk fest, zydeco music, which is fun.
This was Soul Rebel, a lot of horns that sounded great. I did run into the casino to leave some money. Hope to collect some money one of these days.
Super Bowl tomorrow, I’m viewing it as an east coast, west coast challenge. Sorry ladies, I’m east coast for both houses!
We’re planning on running down to Bonita Springs for their music & seafood festival at noon, before football. Really it’s for SO to hear some guy play - he’s tried 2x and the guy always cancels. I hope he shows up this time.
cindyny
Re: Am I being under-treated?
Hi @amerli,
It's very common for those who are questioning their care to get a second (or even third or fourth) opinion - have you considered this option? Many people find doing so either gives them peace of mind as it confirms their original doctor's recommendations or opens up some other options to discuss the benefits and risks of one path vs. another. Read more about Getting a Second Opinion, including how to ask your doctor for one and how to make sense of what you find out.
We're sure others will be by soon to weigh in with their thoughts on TNBC and their treatment experiences.
We hope this helps!
—The Mods
Re: Am I being under-treated?
Hi @amerli, A confirmation of a treatment plan from a team at a large teaching hospital is a reassuring sign but technically is not a second opinion. Seeing or having an online consult with an oncologist at another institution would cover that.
It is very common to be given a proposed treatment plan with final decisions made after surgery. The postsurgical pathology is far more accurate than the biopsy pathology which is based on a small tumor sample and imaging. If there are any new findings in the surgical pathology, treatment can become more or less aggressive than first proposed.
If you still have doubts about the recommended treatment at this point you could seek a second opinion then. All the best.
maggie15
Re: how about drinking?
If anyone has been watching the mixed doubles curling from the Winter Olympics, the team representing the U.S. is from my region of the country!
m0mmyof3



