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Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
Our rally was I think 3.5 miles long, lined up between the sidewalks and road, but out of any pedestrians way. A real lot of support, which was great. But the few large pickup trucks that gave us the finger, I gave them the peace sign. ✌️ We also had some teen boy yell out the passenger window, “go to work!” 🤷♀️
Today we spent some time finishing up winterizing the back yard by removing anything that needs to be stored in the garage, and putting it away. SO raked up all the fallen pine needles, they’re long and you can almost “skate” on them they’re so slippery. The yard looks good until the next heavy winds.
I was cooking a turkey dinner today so I ran to the store for last minute things. As I drove away from the store I could hear something flapping on my car. I pulled into the first side street to check my tires; all fine. Then I was on hands & knees looking under it to see if I picked up something; all clear. I drove home slowly, glad it wasn’t far.
Then I stated googling what would cause the noise. I watched about 3 YouTube videos but didn’t hear anything that I thought was my car noise. I had $$$ dancing in my head, knowing we’d need to take it in for service before we leave for FL.
I text my cousin, god bless him, explained everything. He said he was dropping his son off for work and would stop by. He got here and we took it for a ride. He had me pull on a side street and park. Then had me turn the wheel as far right as I could, as he sat on the ground with a flash light looking, and as far left. Passengers side first, then drivers side. Then he told me to straighten out my wheel and back up real slow. He got in the car and said see if it’s still there. We drive up the street, and it was gone. He opened up his hand and showed me what looked like electrical tape, but made out of a cloth and super sticky. It was stuck to my tire and every rotation it was slapping the wheel well. You know if I took it in $$$ were ready to dance! So fortunate it was that easy.
That’s my day. Clean up from the turkey dinner was a lot, but oh so worth it. Lots of laundry, it’s strip the bed day too. It was in the 70’s and very windy, but a good day. Rain forecasted for all day tomorrow, heavy at times.
Update on gf dh: yesterday about 5pm they said Mt Sinai had a bed. They’d be transporting him down about 7:30. Gf son offered to go down with her. They left 6:50 AM today, arrived to taxi to the hotel, then uber to the hospital. Gf son left around 4 to catch the train back home. He arrived back home safely. She got back to her hotel on her own, via Uber, and was being brave going out to dinner alone. We text and by 9 she was going to bed. The hotel has breakfast included until 9:30; she’s hoping to eat & head to the hospital by 10-10:30. Her dh procedure is scheduled for Tuesday. If all goes well they could be headed back up here on Friday.
Looks like Blue Jays are going to have a game 7!! I’ve been rooting for them.
Re: Second DCIS, same breast, strong family history -- remove one breast or both?
Hi Melissa, I'm not sure I have a good answer but wanted to offer a couple things to consider…
They test for considerably more genes now than they did when you were first diagnosed. You might consider another round of genetic testing.
Perhaps a breast MRI could help identify if there's any areas of concern in the other breast. Maybe you had one recently, it's not clear if your second DCIS was picked up on mammogram or what.
Do you have the Er/Pr/Her2 status of this second cancer? Sounds like you must, given the comment about tolerating tamoxifen. If you think meeting with medical oncology before making a surgical decision would help, you should feel empowered to ask for it.
Like you, I've dealt with this twice. It's not fun, and definitely not fair! However, I did find that my prior experience was very helpful when having those initial appointments to come up with the plan. Good luck and keep us posted!
Re: Having surgery in October 2025? Let's support one another here!
cbs, glad you’re doing well and happy to say I am also. Really surprised how well I feel. Grateful girl.
rising, you need to take a breath and see what feels right to you. I hope you can get a second opinion sooner than later. Please keep us posted.
Mods, thanks for the good wishes.
Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
I'm on the left. I haven't seen an estimate but there were multiple demonstrations in our legislative district. It felt very peaceful. A few hecklers drove by but none on the sidewalks. Loved all the folks in those inflatables we've been seeing at the ICE rallies. All ages and a few dogs. I sure wouldn't even think of taking Mutz to an event like that!
Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
@petite1 @betrayal your holiday adventure photos are great! I've been viewing them numerous times. I work all this weekend and it's super slow. So I was able to catch up on all 49 new posts!!! Tomorrow I have my annual eyeball tests and Tuesday an endometrial biopsy. Exercise this week will be tricky as I miss all three of my scheduled classes for appointments. ugh. I'm watching baseball Go Jays Go as well as hockey and saw the last period of the Nuckleheads vs Washington today. Canucks are lucky it stayed 4-3. They went into the third at 4-1. ugh.
Kitties are not amused that the weather is tipping but still try to go out if I open the door to the catio, Hope everyone is doing well.
Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
I'm glad so many people turned out for the NoKings protests and all seems to have been peaceful. I was afraid the ProKing crowd would provoke violence.
I accomplished a major yard task yesterday, pruning the two out-of-control wisteria bushes located on either side of our driveway near the street. Pruning includes using the loppers to attack invasive trees and vigorous yanking of vines. It's quite an undertaking . I should take before and after pictures. Wisterias are a lot of trouble for the brief blooming in the spring. But it is a lovely display of lavender in contrast to the silver-gray bare vines. At the longest, the bloom lasts two weeks, and the jungle tendencies of the plant take over.
We had a chance of rain last night and I was so hopeful we would get some natural watering. The shrubs all look desperate for a drink of water. I don't have a watering system and have no intention of hauling a hose around our huge yard. Nature will have to provide.
Not sure if I will continue yard work today. I may do laundry.
Taco, I was up shortly before 5 am this morning getting tee times online for the Tues/Fri golf group. Then I went back to bed. If you don't get online early, the desired tee times for the season are quickly gone. I'm responsible for October tee times and will send out a group email.
Hi to all.
Re: recurrence with pleural effusion
@birdsndognow I haven't had cancer in my lungs but I'm also a stage iv patient and can feel the devastation this can cause. I hope they soon find a treatment that will work for your case. You may want to seek an opinion at a major cancer center if you are not already at one.

