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Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
Sunshine, I’d be lost without the help of my cousin and I know it!
MM, your Kielce sounds like a peach.
Puffin, it’s a good idea to move the kitchen chairs. Anything to make life easier is a good thing.
Jackie, the puppies are adorable. It’s a good idea planning for the times you need to leave him home alone.
Carole, I too would probably get a dog if we lived in one place. Someday but not now. Happy 55th anniversary!
Sandy, good to hear from you, although it sounds like you’ve got your hands full. Need a parking fix before winter is right!
Betrayal, congrats on getting a new canary! I hope he sings as well as expected.
Wren, the painting class sounds fun. I’ve always thought of myself as artsy, but truly do not possess a painting skill, among other lacking artistic skills!
Petite, nice that you’re getting another vacation, you’ll have a blast. Key West is a hike and a half from the panhandle. You could take the Key West Express out of Fort Myers Beach and sit back on the boat for 3+ hours to avoid the extra drive. I think it’s $185, plus parking. But if you drive you do get to see the Keys old bridges on the way, and the colorful waters as you go; but it was a hike from Fort Myers when we drove it. Just something to consider.
Today I went with my niece and grandniece to a local amusement park, Six Flags in Lake George. We walked about 5 miles, had a refillable cup that we refilled 10x at least, and I even went on a few rides. I’d show you a picture but each one is funnier than the one before it. The faces I made, in the nanosecond my niece snapped the pictures …epic.
I’m the one hanging on for dear life.
We took some water rafting ride, where they bump the “boat” into the walls and water sprays all over you at various points. My jean shorts were soaked as was most of my body. It was a good thing it was sunny but not horrifically hot. I did one other ride which started out ok, but by the last 1/4 I was thinking I couldn’t move my neck - gravity tossed me to the left side. And yes, I am too old for this.
Hope we all have a good weekend.
Harley, thinking if you and hoping you’re doing well.
cindyny
Re: For Arimidex (Anastrozole) users, new, past, and ongoing
I start my Anastrozole tomorrow morning, wish me luck ladies!
Re: Just diagnosed
We're so sorry you find yourself here, @keepthefaith, we know this is a lot to process. As exbrxgrl mentioned, once you get a treatment plan in place, it DOES get easier. Many, many of our members have been living with MBC for years, decades even - it is not curable, but it can be treated.
We also moved your topic to our metastatic forum, where you'll be able to read about and connect with others who are living everyday with MBC. You are not alone! Take it one day at a time, we're all here with you.
If you're interested in additional support, we want to let you know we offer very supportive, moderated Virtual Community Meetups. There are a number of different groups and times, so if you're interested, please check them out here: Virtual Community Meetups.
We’re here for you,
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Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
Pool - My cousin called to say he had extra parts in his garage from his pool and he’d drop them off before he went to work. Then he text he was stopping at Home Depot for parts. By time he got to my house I only had to go to the pool place for the flex PCV. About $50 in parts, $100 to him. Family! I had to drop the water level, so the inlet wouldn’t have the pressure of water as he replaced it. I took off the clamps and hoses so he didn’t have to. He replaced it all in about 30 minutes. It’s filled back up and running well. I’ll put some shock in it tomorrow.
While I was out I got rid of 2 paint cans, recycled at Sherwin Williams.
I showed my cousin where my chain link gate across the driveway was hard to get open, it had dropped. He said I could adjust the attachment to the post. So once I was home from the pool place I got out a wrench and did what he explained. First attempt raised it nice and high, but then the gate latch barely touched the other side (2 pieces that latch in the middle). I had to play with it but success! Mind you it’s about 38+ years old originally installed by Montgomery Wards.
And that was my day. Awake at 6:30 AM, I hope to be asleep by 2 AM. Hoping your day was less crazy running around than my day. Nite!
cindyny
Re: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
Lil' Red in the middle. He hasn't all the silver (I think partly due to his actually being much smaller) and his paws don't look gigantic like his littermates. In he picture he doesn't look so much different in size and it is in the coloring and paw size that its most noticeable.
These are miniatures, so likely maybe 12 lbs. or a bit less. The parents look to be closer to 16 to 20 #'s.
Re: IDC and Mental Health
@bcfightr24, we're sorry to hear about your recent diagnosis. The first few weeks are some of the toughest. Everything is overwhelming, and you're just trying absorb this new, huge reality that is before you. It's scary, and hard to manage the anxiety, and everything feels unknown. It's great that you found a mental health therapist.
We've heard many times from different members about instances where they experienced what we would describe as "toxic positivity." All of the feelings that you are experiencing are normal, and it is not wrong for you to express them or feel them as you are experiencing. Like @salamandra shared, it's often that people are not able to manage their own fears and anxiety related to your diagnosis, and they respond in turn by shutting you down and encouraging you to have "positive thoughts." Try checking out this article, which talks about toxic positivity in relation to breast cancer, and some responses you can use when people say that to you:
Please keep us up-to-date on how you are doing. We do offer free weekly meet-ups over Zoom with other individuals going through active treatment for early stage breast cancer. You can take a look at the dates and times, and register for them here:
The ones you would want to join are the In Treatment for Breast Cancer groups, which are for individuals with an early stage breast cancer. They are on Tuesdays at 1pm EST and Thursdays at 6pm EST. It can be especially helpful when you're in the beginning like you are right now to hear from folks who are a little further in the process, and they will understand this part of your experience in a way that no one else in your life can since they're not going through it.
Let us know if you have any questions. We're here to support you! 🤗







