how about drinking?

Kymn

Thanks ladies you all made me feel much better. I even went home today at lunch to spend it with the kids, I usually dont cause I live about 10 km out of Lethbridge and by the time I get home I really only have about 25 min but it made me feel better and my daughter who is 9 sure loved the surprise

Every day I am feeling my head getting clearer and clearer.

Hugs Kymn

dara_diverse

Happy Anniversary Gail and congrats. I hope today is a much better day. I am so sorry for all the stress of yesterday, sounds like you can use a drink, sending more rounds of Junebugs, enjoy. I am sad for you in finding out so much about your sister and especially the poor children (your niece(s)/nephew(s). I see the reason more clearly as to why you prefer little contact. I find it so sad when families don't act as such but you have a good reason to keep your distance. I am sorry for you. And I can only imagine the stress of losing the earring. So glad that your DH was so kind about the day and also got to be the earring finder for you! That type of thing is good for anyones ego lol. Your jewelry sounds so beautiful, so glad have both earrings again. I believe that amethyst is a blue/green like a turquoise but may be mistaken. Your joke about next years lasagna had me lmao girl. You are witty. You are also quite brave getting back to work real soon. I have been out the last year more than in. It does affect the paycheck but for me, it is a nice break. Since BC, I wonder how I will face that life again until retirement, it is just rough. I love being home. I see my DH when she wakes up, I hang outside and am enjoying the summer. I have already started my happy hour today and plan ontaking the time the company will give me.  I am getting paid 2/3 my base salary so there is a sacrifice. I wish I was more like you though. I could probably work as my most comfortable position is sitting in a chair. I would be dead tired and not able to work long hours but could do it.  Oops, but this is not dorK saying this, it is her assistant Stella and it is a lie. 

Karen, you are smart to closely monitor the young ones computer usage. Some people just let the kids do what they want. I have a friend on facebook that is constantly posting every minute of her life. She often mentions the kids are bothering her. I always feel like posting "perhaps if you got off facebook and gave them some attention, they would not act up.  Discipline is key. 

Stanzie, how is your son feel?  I hope he is feeling much better.  And I must say that I look up to you in that you maintain such a large home on your own. It is so much to care for a home. There are so many things that need another person to help with and very hard to do many things yourself. NM is the same deal and there may be more.  I give kudos to you girls. I do know what it is like as I have been alone for most of years I have owned. And your home must be much larger than mine and it is just alot. I wish you could find a contractor like mine who is just so dependable, nice and does beautiful work. He works hard and never complains, he enjoys what he does. He is still plugging away. Only five windows are done so we have a long way to go. He will not charge extra for the lost time from the new issues. I am also having him replace my main bath medicine cabinet where I pulled off one of the mirrors and smashed it - I blame my numb half of hand. I blame BC. Why not? I also talked to him about adding a water line for my fridge and he can do it, yippie!! I swear everyone I know (other than Karen) has the ice and water on the outside so it will be a treat for me to have this.  My home is quite small, 1800 sq. ft. I would guess yours is much much bigger and the cost of things gets much bigger. Both of my sisters have what I can mansions and they are very good at keeping their homes immaculate. Me, not so good. 

Kymn, what a great surprise to your children coming home for lunch! This will be a day that they etch in their memory, the day Mommy surprised us and came home for lunch. I am so glad that the chemo fog is lifting. We told ya it would get better. You go girl and keep up the great work! Hugs to you, you are an awesome Mommy! 

Back to Gail, excellent words to Kymn! You and many of the gals here are so good with words and I admire that. 

NM, awesome heartfelt post today. I loved all of your pics and posts. I can't say enough how much you add to the lounge and to boot, you give great professional suggestions. I had heard of using a blow dryer for earaches and may have tried that in desparation. Speaking for the rest of us, we grealy appreciate your expertise. 

Hoping Kathy is doing well today, am I too drunk to remember if she popped in today? Darn. Maybe if I did not hog face the entire page today, I would see if she posted this morning. I hope to see you KATHY for Pau Hana. I am here. I would like to propose a toast to our Junie. Here is to the greatest breast friend in Heaven above, let's spead the love, makie Junie proud and drink up!!  Cheers my dear friends. Love each of you.

Now who is coming to the lounge for a big DorK group hug with Junie (with us in spirit)? Lori? Kathy? Kymn? Anyone?? 

DorK

Kymn

Im in for a big Dork hug lol and a big drink too

karen1956

DorK...my house isn't much bigger than yours....and I don't consider mine small....the main floor is just shy of 2000sq ft and the basement adds another 1000st ft....older 2 kids bedrooms are in the basement......we turned our covered patio into an office for DH..it used to be in the basement but when he stopped travelling as much he didn't like being in a "dungeon" all day...the office is the best room in the house...its his man cave!!!  I love my house....just the right size for us...the house is a ranch.....we have 3BR, 2 Bathrooms, family room, living/dining room and the most wonderful kitchen!!!  And the best part, if all goes well and nothing happens we only have 39 payments left!!!  I called the mortgage company today as my escrow went up and I had a few questions so decided to ask how much longer till its paid off....by the time its paid off (if all goes well) we will have been in the house 21+ years.....we have a low interest rate and its probably foolish to pay it off, but it is peace of mind.....and then we can figure out what to do with the "extra" money....oh yeah...I know....college for DD#2 and retirement.....

Been spending too much time on the computer today....how did I manage only an hour or so when I was in Israel and today I've been on it more than not......not a good day....NM...have a few ideas on the panic attack....or maybe more like an anxiety attack.....saw my therapist this morning and wondering if that had to do with it......still searching for answers!!!  I know when I do it will be a huge relief!!!! 

One more week of summer vacation!!!  Start back on the 10th....actually our start date is not supposed to be until the 11th, which would mean I wouldn't go back till the 15th as I don't work TH or F, but some schools have mandatory training on the 10th and that includes one of my schools....we are supposed to get paid extra for it, but I'm going to ask to trade the day when I need it for a religious holiday....its a tricky issue as actually this school is on a slightly different schedule and its start date is the 10th....so need to figure out how to approach the principal...and its a new principal and this school is not part  of the union....Okay....am I confusing you????

DS still hasn't heard on the job....He didn't get the job at Noodles (he thought he had it) and is still waiting to hear on Whole Foods....they were to do a back ground check and said they wouldn't get back to him till after MOnday....DS said he was going to call today.....sure hope it works out....He said he saw an ad for a warehouse truck driver that required a BA!!!  He starts classes on the 22nd.

DD#2 is hanging out with her friend who is visiting...not a big deal, except DD leaves tomorrow morning for her grandparents and she hasn't packed yet....We need to leave around 8am for the airport, so she needs to pack tonight...she has been enrolled in a skin study for several years and we have the skin appt tonight...its been on the calendar all summer.....the study is monitoring kids born in 1998 regarding sun exposure and moles etc....she gets paid for the skin study as well as an interview....so she doesn't mind....for me I think its important to participate for the information even though its not a direct benefit to us....guess its like being in a clinical trial but no meds involved!!!

DorK...don't remember seeing a post from Kathy....only posts I remember are yours, NM, Kymn and I think Stanzie...of course and me....

DD#1 just told me that her marriage license arrived....she didn't send away for it till the end of June...their second anniversary is on the 24th....I guess it makes it official.....

Lookoing forward to a nice glass of wine with dinner....what should I have....cabernet, shiraz, merlot?   DD#2 asked for hamburgers.....didn't take them out of the freezer early enough, so will have to defrost them in microwave before grilling.....cut up veggies and what to have for a side dish...baked beans?  homemade fries?  DH and DS don't like baked beans but DD and I do......but I'm trying to watch what I eat...oh yeah, I always watch what I eat, so I guess I should say, not shove so much food in my much!!!!!

Better go.....beginning to ramble....Hugs to all....Karen

wahine

Hi girls, Just got home. Ended up going to the ER by ambulance from the clinic (doc-in-a-box), I was still dizzy today then my b/p was real high, my eyes looked glassy and I felt awful. When we got to the clinic my b/p really skyrocketed and I had chest pains (pressure/squeezed feeling), so they called the ambulance and said I needed to be at the hospital. Ambulance guy was sweet and was so calming, my b/p started going down! LOL. And he also works with a guy I know from yrs ago who worked for my late DH when in high school, plus I dated his dad b4 meeting late DH, so told him to say hi to him. Small world. WHen the dr came in, I wanted to stay there forever, cause he asked my birthdate, did a double take, asked again, then asked my age. When I told him, he kept saying I looked too young and couldn't be more than 40. Said that a few times, which of course made me feel good since I had gone there with NO makeup, hair not fixed, etc. Later on a nurse came into my room and said she had to see me, since that dr was telling them all I was so attractive, and too attractive to be 60! Boy that made my day!!! And he was young, BTW, and not an old-foggie. Anyway, they did a CT scan of my head, chest x-ray, enzyme test twice, ekgs, etc. Couldn't find anything really wrong. SO got released, and will have to do the nuclear stress test at the Heart Clinic. He did give me a script for pills that might help with the dizziness, if it keeps happening. On the way home, I had to stop at the fabric store....lol. Felt sort tired and weak, but HAD to get that fabric I had my eye on before it sold out. They didn't have quite enough, so I am hoping to be able to make it work.

NM, No I don't take b/p med. I am hoping I won't have to, and that it will settle down. The nurses talked to me and when I told them how sad I was about losing a dear friend, and the stress of worrying about my mom, they thought that could definately have caused this. AND funny thing, someone here (forget who it was) just mentioned yesterday I think, how calm I have been throughout all of this. Guess I am keeping too much inside!!!! She said I need to let more of it out, and when she mentioned Junie, I teared up again.

I am sorta brain drained right now, and I forget who mentioned my mom and I taking the stained glass class, but it is just me that is taking it. I hated to worry her today, but we had to tell her where I was as I had just talked to her this morning saying we could do something this afternoon. And she REALLY was worried!

Gail, I am so glad your DH found that precious earring!! Sounds like a beautiful set. I have an antique ring made by my grandfather with 3 colors of gold, plus a large color-changing amethyst (I think that is what the jeweler said). It changes color depending on if it is in the dark or light. Really gorgeous. For years we thought it was an alexandrite!

DorK, So glad you are getting reimbursed for the rot!!! Yay!!! IF you do decide on stainless, there is a finish that looks like stainless, but does not show fingerprints, might be titanium(?). I think it is cheaper sometimes too. I wish we had gotten that here (we put it in the condo), as the S/S shows everything! Oh, and this is funny....magnets do not stick on the stainless finish!

Sorry not to comment to all. I am just tired and instead of pau hana, just having a coke. I kept looking for the foil in the ER and didn't see any. BUT such weird coincidences....Junie and I both had fires the same day (hers in kitchen, mine burned the deck, which is how the firemen got added to the HTL), and when she went into the ER in Jan,  I ended up there too, having my finger sewn up. So I guess it was only fitting that I ended up in the ER today, with all the hospital time she had lately. Sure do miss her.

Beans, are you ok? Lori? Hugs to all,

Kathy

karen1956

Kathy....what a compliments...and the cute doctor to be gushing over you to the nurses.....glad that you got checked out...was worried about you.....I know I've been keeping too much inside...if I could just figure out how to let go, I would be wonderful...just need to figure out how to do it!!!! 

Change in dinner menu.....salmon, rice and salad....burgers will have to wait for another night....DH mentioned going out tomorrow night since DD#2 will be gone....we haven't gone out in quite some time and we really need some alone time....

HUgs, Karen

wahine

Karen, I do hope you can let it out. I thought I HAD been doing that, but I guess there was a lot that I had to just keep inside, and keep going. I love salmon....esp with either lots of dill, or with  an asian sauce w/green onions. Sounds healthy too! Yummmm. Hope you have a nice "date night" tomorrow night!

Gail, I forgot to mention to you, a belated"HAPPY ANNIVERSARY"!!! And let us know when you want your birthday celebration here, and we can have a b'day partay for you and Kymn.

Hugs, Kathy

claire_in_seattle

Kathy.....how scary.  Do get to the bottom of this one.  These things are controllable, and we don't need any more angels here. Hear me!?!?!?!??

Talk about a doctor with bedside manners!  I bet his female patients will go to the end of the earth for him.  Flattery gets you everywhere.

Glad to hear the first line "doc in a box" people were on the case.  That speaks well of these clinics.  I have always wondered if they do the next tier effectively, and yours did exactly the right thing.

Reminder to all of us that heart/blood pressure are what we need to be worrying about at least as much as breast cancer.  Just so important to get everything else checked out.

Karen......sorry about the panic attacks but looks like you are on that one.  I also paid off a mortgage early, and was very glad I did that.  That made it clean when my ex and I split as he wanted the house and I didn't.

I just circled back to let my Amazon contact know that the position I initially identified as the best fit is still open.  I have a couple of too senior ones on the list.  I know that now, and I also know the more junior one (which I think this is) would meet my needs financially.

This one would really be a better fit career-wise, so once again hopeful.

Right now, I would like a dull end of the week. Too much excitement in too little time. - Claire

dara_diverse

Kathy, glad you are home and passed all the tests. I had a gut feeling that something was not right today in not seeing you here. Sorry you had to go through that today and will be thinking about ya and praying that this has passed. A suggestion, if you do not already have a home blood pressure monitor, buy one. You can get a reliable wrist cuff for $80 or less.  As Claire pointed out, unregulated blood pressure is the silent killer. I have been on BP meds for about five years and the first year was tough. I know the feeling of very low pressure which I think is worse that high. I have had some freightening numbers. I currently monitor my blood pressure and most of the time, it is near perfect. I would not have taken it so seriously had my younger brother not been widowed from this disease. His wife was only 47 when she died. Point is, please take care of that blood pressure.

I am glad that the "tenders" at the hospital were so good to you. And such awesome compliments, that youthful look must run in the family.  Try to relax some. Take it from the Queen of r&r, me. Really though, my suggestion is for you to take time for yourself now and then; not just for an hour but for a day or half day.  You are always on the go or painting and moving moving moving. I wish I had half your energy but think it might do you good to slow down and bit and breathe. Smell the flowers, ya know?  And also try to express yourself more. Feel free to cry as much as you need to here. We all know that you were very close to Junie and naturally feel great pain with her loss.  That's the lecture by Dr. DorK. I love you and do not want to lose you. I am here for you to cry on my shoulder as long as you need as are the rest of us lounge lizards (was LL a Junie term)? 

I will try to catch the rest of you girls later. I may have exceeded my number of words for the day. Hmm, wonder if bc.org has that for the over talker? I mean I could talk and type for an hour and fill a page. One would think they would not allow that lol. So okay, dorK is over and out. Cheers my sugar plum sweeties! 

wahine

Awwwww.....thanks for all the concern, girlfriends! So sweet of all of you. Yes, DorK, we have 2 wrist monitors, and I haven't felt the need to use them for awhile, but when I checked last night it was so high, and then higher this morning. My DH uses them all the time, and has checked them at his doctors. Not sure when the stress test will be; dr thought it would be tomorrow, but the heart center did not call us. Guess I will call in the am, and see when it will be. I end up sitting and relaxing toooo much at night though, with all the reality shows on! Gotta get up and MOVE more!!!!

Huggsssss (as Junie used to write),

Kathy

karen1956

Just poured a glass of  Carmenere (dry red wine) from Chile...

Claire...not so sure that I'm really on top of it.....I've been chasing this "demon" for too long...2 or 3 years....it is impacting too many areas of my life.....I'm just beginning to put the pieces of the puzzle together and realizing the cause, but don't know how to get a resolve....therapist says it will be a slow process...but I'm not patient....just wish there was a magic key......I know once I get this solved, I will have truly moved on from the events since Dx....Well...dinner is just about done.....

Beanius

Hi...out due 2 migraine...bed needs me...hoping you are all okay. Love & hugs, Jean

wahine

Oh Beannie,I am so sorry. Must feel so bad right now. Hope you can keep it dark and quiet and get some sleep, and feel better tomorra. Miss you! Hugs, Kathy

AStorm

DorK - Deciding when to go back to work is such a personal thing. I was just so bored and I usually enjoy work because I like my clients. After my dx every one of my clients sent me flowers, cards and gifts and assured me that I should take as much time as needed. They were all so supportive and caring it just made me want to be out there among them. Plus, I get 0% of my income when I don't work. When I had babies I returned to work quickly too but for all the wrong reasons - I worried about my job (employer made it pretty clear that it was not professional to have TWO children within 3 years)... and DD1 was colicky and I didn't feel competent as a mom. But even then, I realized it must be really difficult for moms to return to work that is not somehow fulfilling and leave a baby in someone else's care. I think if I didn't care about my clients so much and had something interesting to do I would have taken off more time after the surgeries.

Kathy - you sound like you were having a good time in a bad situation. LOL   I get dizzy whenever I stand up quickly but I've always had low blood pressure. DD used to tell DH that "Mom got busy" whenever I fell. What are you making with the fabric? I bought fabric when I was 9 months pregnant and proceeded to design and make a tailored slipcover for the couch. I was short of fabric for the cushions and the store couldn't sell me more of it because someone had it "on hold"... I was hugely pregnant and kind of upset so one of the employees pulled the tag off and sold me what I needed. Felt kind of bad but I had a sofa in my living room covered with this soft tan cotton that I could wash after bébé puked on it and one mauve cushion in the middle that the cat had shredded. Your ring sounds beautiful.

Oh, Beans, So sorry, I hate when that happens - especially to YOU! Hope you feel better soon.

katehudson25

Hi,

I am new to this forum. I have reason to celebrate tonight. I had re-excision surgery and a sentinel node biopsy Monday. I went to see my surgeon today and my lymph nodes are negative and my margins are clear. I am stage one, Thank God. So, I will drink to that!

wahine

Gail, I want to recover the seat and back cushions on my dark rattan/bamboo sofa. However there is some upholstery on the front edge, sides, and back that will be a bit tricky, since its behind the rattan. I love the bright floral fabric on it, but have a tropical floral wool rug that I like more, so need to find a good compliment.  Actually I have had them together for about 5 yrs and it looks okay, but a bit busy. don't think what I got today will work and I had been in love with it. Oh well, will search again. Wish I could just make a slipcover, but won't work with the style. I used to have low b/p too.....like usually 90/60, till maybe 10 yrs ago, then has kept rising!

Cheers,

Kathy

wahine

Hi katehudson! Can we call you kate, or kh? Glad you found us here, I enjoyed meeting you a bit on the other thread. Real glad for the clear margins and negative nodes.....yay!!! We are still sad over losing Junie, and are trying to get back to the fun group we have been. We all know Junie would want us to party hearty. So you can join us, and have the Tattie Tenders (Pants, Jock, Hunk) make you your drink of choice!!!

ChEARS,

Kathy

claire_in_seattle

Hi Kate,

Glad to see you here.  I have been drinking a toast to your successful surgery.  You will be just fine, especially with all the attention from the Tenders.

A sad, bumpy week for us, but the party goes on.  Major metaphor for life in general.

So glad you have decided to go down the road of life and celebration, as opposed to the one of fear and retreat.  Raising my glass again.  Welcome! - Claire

AStorm

I'll drink to that, Claire!

Welcome, Kate. I had similar diagnosis 2 years ago but didn't get clear margins. I had bmx and reconstruction. Are you going to do chemo?

karen1956

Welcome Kate....glad you found us, but sorry that you had too....congrats on the good news!!!  The lounge is a great place to come and relax....

DD is packed..she even had me double check her clothing to make sure that everything on the list was there...of course she is the one who made the list!!!  When we went to Toronto she forgot her dress shoes so on Shabbat she was in tears....my shoes are too big and sisters are too small, but she squeezed her feet into a pair of her sisters (and stretched them out)..of course the other problem with my shoes were that they didn't go!!!  Hope she doesn't stay up too late....we need to leave around 8am for the airport...she was up till after 3am last night at her sleepover....its 10:45 and she's checking her emails....I want to get into bed and read...

Sweet dreams to everyone.  Hope tomorrow is a good day for all....

Stanzie

Hi Katehudson and Welcome and Congratulations!

Kathy- I'm glad you are doing better! I know you are worried about your Mom but just remember you can only do what you can. She may be telling your Dad she wants to come home or how much she misses him to make him feel better all the while being quite happy to be here. And why not, she can be with you!

Karen- I'm so sorry to hear about your anxiety attacks - they must be awfully scary. I'm glad you have someone to talk to but I'm the same way patience is not one of my strong points. 

Gail - the earrings and necklace sound gorgeous! Amethests ( oh no clue on earth how to spell that) do come in green and they are lovely. Actually my SO gave me a beautiful pale green Am.... ring which I dearly loved but I think my friend/housekeeper stole it. One of the reasons I no longer have a housekeeper. I am so glad you /DH found it. How terribly upsetting. Remember lasagne can be made ahead of time and then warmed up.... just saying... seems like making it on the spot for special occasions have a bit of a jinx going on. Hey and Happy Anniversay! 20th! is a big one!!! That is very wonderful and special. What a dreadful day though - way too much going on. But sounds like me I try and do way too much, try and make everything perfect and about kill myself and then something happens and it doesn't turn out right.

Claire- I'm so sorry about your MS. I do hope it isn't as bad as you think it might be and you get some good news soon. 

Thanks to all about the concern over my sweet boy. He will be fine - still can't really eat as his jaw hurts terribly and can't hear out of the one ear. He is so cute about liking the hot water bottle. Ugh, can't remember if I already said this but at first he didn't want one but I went ahead and dug it out of a closet and hand it to him and later he confessed his ear wasn't throbbing so bad. Now remember he is 14 and this hot water bottle is one I bought when they were babies so it is shaped like a lamb and covered in a soft nubby material to look like lambs wool. And yes it has ears, little fabric legs and ears and shhh even a little bow! I think it really does help. 

Beanie----- oh my so very sorry about the migrane. Feel better soon!

Dork! Good advice from Claire to measure, I wouldn't have thought of that. I have one of those fancy refrid and it is fine but I wish now I had gotten one that is top and bottom rather than the side.side. There just isn't enough freezer space and it is so narrow can't fit in things I want to, plus things are always falling and afraid someone will have a broken foot or head ( as things have fallen on my head) or even a dented floor. I'm more worried now about replacing them when the time comes as everything was bought at the same time! Yikes wouldn't be able to replace them all at the same time! That does worry me. 

Good news! The friend whose daughter has stayed in the guest apt. said she would like to pay utilities! I'm so thrilled. I originally told her I didn't expect or want her to pay rent but the utilities would really be a help! Didn't want to ask though. So how on earth to figure it out? hmmm that will be more difficult. But any little bit will help.

Oh, I know there is more to say.... and more to address..... NM - I've got to get better like you do to organize my thoughts even though still don't understand the pictures posts very well...

Oh about FB - half of those pictures were taken by the Parents! Ummm No! I haven't let my kids have Fb and they are fine with that. They like to talk by Scype which is interesting. Best part of that is if I'm in my room or downstairs on my laptop I can tell when they are online so I can find a reason to go in and tell them to go to bed. I'm sure they'll figure that out soon but still kind of nice. 

Well, sort of hate to admit is as I'm not so big on birthdays but mine is this weekend.. My friend whose daughter has been staying here is going to take us out for Dim Sum. My kids adore it... I'm not too fond of it but I am not good taking them so it will be nice - shoot I think I've already said this. Anyway, she then wanted to make a cake or something... why so I feel like - oh please don't do that! I guess I'm not comfortable with the fuss... was thinking of seeing if my cousin who has been so lovely will want to come over and swim and then there would be another adult around... I guess I'm sort of nervous about the whole thing. 

My son with DS starts school on Monday! Guess what? We again got the Awful bus driver!!! Can not believe it! haven't heard what time yet but rats so was hoping we'd get someone else. All I can think is how my son told me he thought she was funny. I asked why and he said when he says goodby to me - she will say it back in a sing song voice. he didnt' understand the mean woman was mocking him. What to do with some people. Need to find a way to break her down. Was thinking since he doesn't understand she isn't nice and likes her, thought he might like to write her a sweet note and I could make cookies or something for her.... anyway, something to think about.

Kathy!!! you take care of yourself. Junie would not want you hurting yourself grieving. Her humor was so strong and wonderful - let it all out and mourn and cry then just take a deep breath and remember her kindness and all her funny stories and such so you can celebrate knowing her and your wonderful friendship. 

 OK, all - I'm hoping for sleep...... See you all in the morning! We are so so lucky to have each other!!!! Good night.

kittycat

kittycat

Did someone say Holy the Cow???  LOL!!!

Cheers girls! 

celia088

I got a PM today from Goldie asking for Junie's name to be put on the Angels List.  I was absolutely stunned and shocked about this sad news.  I spent some time tonight reading back on this thread to see if i could find out what had happened to her.  It was wonderful to see all the love that you all had for Junie.  Junie and I met in the chatroom in 2005 when we were both "regulars" there for several years.  After that I turned more to the discussion boards and Junie and I often PM'd each other about various topics that we had posted on.  She was a very special bco friend and sister to me.  She was always the most level-headed voice of reason in any discussion, and she was also the funniest woman.  I am so sorry that she is not with us anymore, but i feel sure that she's now our Guardian Angel.  It's very hard for me to wrap my brain around the loss of Junie.

celia088

sorry about all that formatting junk following my post---i wrote my post in Word first because i have router problems that knock me off the internet. 

nativemainer

Kymn-what a great surprise for your DD! Glad to hear your head is getting clearer and clearer.

 

DorK-you might want to talk to Stella about what she can and cannot say out loud! But tired does make for poor work, something to consider when deciding when to go back to work. As far as doing things around the house, when you are single you either DIY or wait for someone to do it for you. I'm not good at waiting for most things.

Karen-I hope you figure out the anxiety attack trigger soon. It will be such a relief when you do. Something you talked about with the therapist is a likely candidate for a trigger, but I'm sure you'll figure it out soon. Praying DS gets a job offer soon. Job hunting is such a frustrating, hurry-up-and-wait process. And ramble away, it's fun to ‘listen' to everyone's ramblings!

Wahine-YIKES! That must have been scary! Glad the ambulance guy was someone you "knew" who could relax you. I can understand stopping at the fabric store on the way home, I have to have my reward shopping on the way home from my routine dr appointments, I would need serious retail therapy after an ED visit! And blood pressure will settle back to normal when someone gets past a stressful time, but that person usually needs to let the feelings out somewhere, somehow. A good cry can be physically therapeutic, you know. And to think you look so good the entire staff had to check you out!

Claire-good point about us ladies needing to worry about blood pressure and heart disease as much as bc. It's very true that those kill more of us than bc does. I'm still praying that you get the perfect fit in a job!

Wahine-the stress test may not be for a little while, many places that do them require you to be off all caffeine products and heart medications for several days prior to the test. But do call and find out, the sooner you can get answers the better.

Beanie-I used to get migraines, I pray yours will go away quickly!

Astorm-good point about how personal the going back to work timing is. We all need to know ourselves and our needs.

Katehudson-welcome to the HTL! Sorry you have to join the club, but glad you found us. Hooray for Stage 1 status! What are you drinking to celebrate?

Stanzie-Happy upcoming Birthday! So nice the guest apartment utilities will be paid for. Not sure how you would figure out how much to charge, though. Hopefully someone else here will have experience with that and can help. And the pictures aren't really very complicated. I just type a key word from the section of the posting and scroll through the images that google gives me until I find one that makes me smile or giggle or LOL. No deep meanings there. Good idea about the note and cookies for the bus driver. Kill her with kindness! Even if she doesn't catch on everyone around her will.

KittyKat: ROTFLMAO!

Celia088-no probems about the formatting stuff, it happens from time to time. Sorry you found out about Junie's death without any prior notice, that must be hard. Thanks for coming over and sharing remembrances.

I was planning to take the kayak out for the first time today, and it's RAINING! Actually, it's not supposed to keep up and I'm going to go anyway. Wet is wet, after all. Might actually be more comfortable than hot sunshine, anyway!

DOTD: Blue Rain

1 dash Blue Curacao
1/2 oz Cointreau
1 1/2 oz Gin
1/4 oz (fresh) Lemon Juice

Directions
Shake well with ice and strain into a chilled martini glass. Garnish with flamed orange peel, and serve.

laurajane

First and formost I'm so, so sorry about your friend Junie. She indeed has some incredible, wonderful friends  with you all.

You gals are so busy. I realize I can not only not miss a day but to keep up with your posts I'm going to have to check in at least twice a day. What a fun caring group of gals so happy for the warm, inviting welcome.

Thank-you. Beanius- I'll be starting a clinical trial next tuesday. 

Goldie- Funny, my family has always called me L.J. I love it. i just started taking Oxy for the pain just at night for now. Loopy is right. I was scared to take it but it sure helps with the pain that vicaprofen didn't touch. I hope your DH feels better soon.

KittyKat- Thank-you for suggesting this thread I too feel right at home. I feel like you and I have a kinship also starting treatments at the same time and all.

Dorothy- Thankyou for the wristband. I will wear it with pride.

Wahine- I paint too. I started painting  when I first started chemo and it really kept me sane through it all. Well maybe not quite sane it depends on who you ask.LOL What do you paint? What medium?

I'll continue  to try and catch up on your posts I've only got I think 5 more recent pages to catch up on. I haven't even begun to go back yet. I'll look forward to getting to know all of you too. I hope everyone has a great day. Anyone want to meet around five for a cold one. I'll be drinking my Urkell (Pilsner Urquell)?

dara_diverse

LJ, I will be you at five o'clock for a cold one! Yippie, a new drinking fwend. And hey, don't worry if you miss somethings here. You are right in that it is NOT easy to always be caught up but we do not mind if you can't keep up.. Anyone will tell you to just come in, hop on a bar stool and drink. Or swim. Or whatever your pleasure. The more the merrier. And yes, Junie was quite special and is in all of our hearts.

NM, have fun out on the water today. It is also drizzling here but a welcome change. I hope you enjoy your day off, you deserve it!

Kathy, thinking of you and also your Mom. I hope you have a nice relaxing day. I hope I did not offend you by telling you to slow down. I just worry about ya chickie and want you around. Don't stress over the stress test either. As NM pointed out, they will get you in when all parties are ready. 

Darling Karen, I sure hope your panic attacks go the hell away and don't come back. I believe I suffer from those but not to the extent you do.  You are another with so much on your plate with the job, the kids and so on. 

Who said that their employer frowned on having two babies in three years, was that Gail? God, in today's world, if that was in writing, you would have a law suit there. I cannot believe that!

And who is having a birthday, Stanize?? Yippie, it is out, too late, let the party begin. Is it Saturday or Sunday?? The staff needs to know so we can give you a big party. 

Welcome to KateHudson, I love your name. I hope you join us.  I think I am going to work on getting active on other threads. I feel as if I talk too much hear and maybe I can channel some of my chat elsewhere lol. 

KittyKat, OMG, I am still laughing at Holy the Cow. May SHE be our official house mascott! I hope you are doing well.

Jeanie Beanie, so sawry about those migraines. If I could take it away from you for a day, I would as I love you that much. I used to have them BC (bc USED to mean before child until I got the other BC aka RB (rat bastard). I am praying to God that you wake up today headache free and can join us. I miss you berry much.

To the rest of you gals, I must remind you that I love each and ebbery one of you. And I am soo  happy to see new faces here. 

I am a bit sad today, I called my PS and my appointment to have the fn drain is now cancelled. I drained over 20 ml while sleeping last night. My appointment was in an hour. I am glad they allowed me to cancel with such short notice, I really do love the staff there, everyone is so very kind. It sucks though being stuck with this damn drain. They told me to just call when it goes under 30 ml in a 24 hour period. I plan on taking a shower this morning then wrapping it in ace bandage as Kathy suggested. This is the first time I have had the fn drain for more than two weeks. I have known gals here to have them longer. I am sure they serve a purpose other than annoying the hell outta me. 

Well enough about me, tell me what you girls think of me hehehehe! That is an old line my sister used to say and I find it funny. Of course I am kidding. Looking foward to another long and boring day.  I just may consider getting my arse back to work sooner rather than later, I just viewed my paycheck on line and gosh, it is enough to pay 1/4 of my mortgage. Sad that my company is no longer paying 100% disability but I can't blame them for the change. So many of my coworkers would take advantage and take mental health leaves and sit home slacking and getting paid.  I guess I should be happy to be making something. Oh shit, I am still talking about me.  I will shut up and toast all you lovely ladies!! 

Time to get back to surfing new fridges. They are more expensive than I thought. I think I will have to poo poo the idea of having a water dispenser on the outside, not in the budget!  Carry on my lovies. Have a great day!!! 

wahine

Hi everyone!

Had several severe thunderstorms starting around midnight last night....out of nowhere! Scary as the wind was sooooo strong I thought a tornado was coming! Things were banging against the house, furntiture was blown off the deck, hot tub heavy cover blown off, and saddest of all, our 35-40 ft flowering pear tree has split down the middle, and half of it is on our fence! This is the one that we lost about a 1/3 of it with the high winds b4 our tornadoes in April. My mom planted it 15 yrs ago and it looked so pretty. Luckily we have a heavy double fence and I don't think (hoping) it has not damaged it too. Our neighbors portable heavy basketball goal fell on his fancy sports car. I got several emerg msgs to my email and some phone calls, which we get when severe weather is right in our area. Strong lightning all night, kept lighting up our bedroom!

Heart Center called, and I have the stress test tomorrow am. The dr at the ER thought they would do it today, but we didn't get home till after 5, so maybe they had tried to call. So I'll be there about 3.5 hours!

DorK, OF course that didn't upset me when you said for me to slow down....I know you have my best interests at heart! I was just commenting that I slow down TOOO much at night when I sit and watch tv and use the computer for hours! I heard a study say that even if you exercize every day if you SIT for too long, that negates all the good that the exercize did. And I am very guilty of that!

Heather, Oh I love the Holy The Cow picture! GREAT!!! Now we have the purrfect mascot pic. Thanks!!

Karen, Panic attacks are horrid. My oldest DD started getting them shortly b4 her wedding, 11 yrs ago, and oh they were so horrible for yrs. When she went with me to Madeira b4 her wedding, we didn't know about them, and she had them really bad on the plane, which had probs and had to turn around half-way to NY, and land in Lisbon. She couldn't eat all that day, nor after we landed back in Portugal, then the long trip home the next day. We were sitting next to a dr who was trying to get the flt attendants to let her out the first class door, which is what we were closest to. But no, she had to wait till the entire coach section emptied till we could get off. Poor dear, she sees a therapist, plus the psych dr who prescribes. Has tried many diff meds, and it is "better", but still not good. She at least now can drive 20 min to my house, where for a few yrs that was too far for her to go. So I very much understand how debilitating it can be. That is why she home schools too (she has a teaching degree), easier to teach at home than to deal with teachers, etc.

DorK, when looking for fridges, remember to check reviews too. We are very happy with ours that we got a yr or so ago. I even taught the salesperson things about our fridge, that I learned from online forums! LOL. But like Claire said, measure!!! I did that, but didn't take into effect that the doors are deeper and curved, which makes it stick out further than our old one did, to be able to get the doors to open fully. And some stores will price match (PM) other stores prices. I got Sears to pm their website price, which was an amazing sale. IF you can wait long enough, when Black Friday comes (day after turkey day), there should be some good sale prices.

Celia, So glad Lori told you about Junie. I had no idea who else to contact, and she is certainly our angel! I hope you can go back and read posts b4 July 17, to see how funny her posts were here. OR go to her biog pg and read her last few posts. I am sorry you are missing her too, as we sure have all lost a great friend. BUT it is better to be missing her, than not to have gotten to know her. Maybe you will join in on some of our parties. We used to have the best lampshade parties at her house (cyberly). Oh, and toga parties too!

Stanzie, So funny about the cutesie hot water bottle! Glad your DS didnt mind using it, and it is helping. As far as utility bills, maybe 1/3 of the total amt? Since your house is bigger and has more people, but the apt had to be cooled separately and the other utilites she used, etc, that maybe that would be fair? OR look at last summers bills, and charge them the difference? IF you don't have that info, the util co can usually give it to you. Still might be a good idea IF you found a good tenant, to be able to rent the apt for extra income. But then again, you do lose some privacy. Maybe rent to a work-aholic who wouldn't be home much!

NM. Love the pics and commments! SO funny! And the Blue Rain drink is perfect, for us missing Junie, and for all the rain we got last night! I still feel a bit lightheaded this am, so just took one of the anti-dizzy pills (didn't even look at what they are called).

DorK, I thought of something else. Hate that you still have one of the Pratt boys, but I had one for FIVE WEEKS! That was horrid, so am hoping yours won't stay with you nearly as long as that!

Oh I know there was more to comment on, but my post is taking so long as it is, I surely will be bumping into someone!

Happy Thirst-Dey to all,

Kathy

Kymn

Good Morning my Breast friends wow it took me almost an hour to get through and I was just on yesterday afternoon lol. We certainly are a chatty group arent we.

First of all welcome KateHudson glad you could pull up a stool and join us we always enjoy new people areound here and adding to our fun crazy bunch. 7 months ago I pulled up a stool, pink leopard BTW and havenet left. Great news on your stats too .

 Kathy your post really had me scared...please please please do not push yourself too hard I do not want you landing yourself in the hospital, its a pretty far treck for me to make it there to visity you know so smarten up and put your legs up and enjoy the rest of summer!!! I may be the youngest on this thread missy but I can be the bossiest lol.

Dork I sure hope you get that drain out soon, what a royal pain in the butinski

Karen I so understand about not being patient and just wanting everything fixed right away I gues the prob with that is as I am learning that all we do is put a bandaid on things and not really heal our scares. I hope you are able to find the peace you need. some of the things in my life I have just had to accept at stopped trying to figure them out caause quite frankly I could spend a life time trying to figure out why someone did something and would never get an answer. Did DD get off ok to her grandparents?

Beanius sure hppe you are feeling better today. I have only had one migrane in my life when I was pregant with DS and OMG that is awful. Sending you a nice cold washcloth and soothing music

Gail I wish I could have taken more time off work during this process but for me too finances decided other wise but looking back now it prolly was for the better as I was slipping into depression for sure.

Stanzie I would flat out confront that bus driver. I dont let ANYONE walk over my kids or make fun of them EVER I am a total mama bear. I would make this bus drivers life a living HELL. hehe not always so sweet am I . lol. Oh and Happy early birthday.. another Leo yippeeeee.

Kittycat omg too funny loved the pic

NM LOL at the chicken cartoon, my son would love that blown up and on his door I think I have blown his ego out of proportion telling him how good looking he is lmao in fact I think I will copy and print that one and stick it on his door when he is out

Ok have wasted the first hour of workl...oops... and now have to go to radiation so for anyone I missed sending hugs and will catch up later

Kymn